There are ways to speak and speak skills

Chapter 21 How to Deal with Unconventional Things→The Law of Empathy (2)
Cleverly borrowing external force to break through the routine

When we encounter difficulties and are at a loss what to do, we can rely on external forces.For problems that cannot be solved by conventional methods alone, we can seek an external medium through which we can achieve our goals.Xunzi once said that "a gentleman is good at fakes more than things", which is what he was talking about.

Song Taizu Zhao Kuangyin relieved the military power of several generals by "drinking wine to release military power", and worried that they had accumulated too much property, so he rewarded each of these generals with a piece of land and asked them to build houses. As a result, each of them It cost tens of thousands of taels of silver.After the house was built, Song Taizu held a banquet and invited them to drink.When everyone was drinking and drinking, Song Taizu called the children of each general to help their father go home.Taizu personally sent them to the gate of the main hall, and said to their children: "Your father has promised to donate [-] yuan to the court."

After several generals went back and sobered up, they asked their family how they came back and whether they were rude in front of the emperor.Their children told their fathers about the money they had promised to give to the court.Although several generals doubted whether they really said such things when they were drunk, they all reported the next day and said that they would hand over [-] yuan in full.

Song Taizu knew strategy well. At that time, he released military power with a glass of wine at the wine table, and skillfully deprived several generals of military power, avoiding the situation of separatism in the Sui, Tang and Five Dynasties.Now, using wine as a medium, and through almost the same means, he collected a large sum of money for the court from these important officials.According to common sense, the ministers were paid by the court. If the ministers were not ransacked for crimes, their property belonged to individuals. Although the emperor was the supreme ruler, he had no right to obtain money from the ministers.Song Taizu knew this truth very well, so he did not openly violate this principle, but he was very clever and came up with a way to say that ministers voluntarily donated money to the country when they were drunk.Although this kind of method is not aboveboard, it is very effective. The ministers really handed over the money obediently.We don't necessarily have to learn the tactics adopted by Song Taizu. Of course, it means learning from his method of analyzing and dealing with problems.

Ding Wei of the Song Dynasty was also good at using this method.

Ding Wei was once the prime minister, but was demoted to Yazhou (now Hainan).Yazhou was a remote place at that time, and he only wanted to persuade the emperor to change his destiny.At that time, his family lived in Luoyang, so he wrote a letter from home and sent it to Liu Ye, the prefect of Luoyang, and asked Liu Ye to forward it on his behalf.He also specially instructed the servant: "Be sure to wait until Liu Ye meets all colleagues before delivering this letter."

After Liu Ye received the letter in public, he felt that the matter was so important that he dared not conceal it, so he immediately forwarded the letter to Song Renzong.Seeing Ding Wei's repeated self-reproach in the letter, Renzong recalled the great favors given to him by the court, and admonished his family not to harbor resentment towards the court, so he was moved with compassion and ordered Ding Wei to be transferred to Leizhou.

Ding Wei's reputation is very bad, but when it comes to strategy, he is indeed superior.When he wrote this family letter, he had already prepared the follow-up actions, so the content of the writing was premeditated, and it was written for Song Renzong.If you directly write to Renzong, the purpose is likely to be seen through, and you may be punished more severely.Therefore, the best way is to submit it to the emperor by means of twists and turns, which can naturally remove the suspicion of trickery, and the letter is more persuasive and will not arouse Renzong's suspicion.Since it was forwarded by a third party, it was very difficult for Song Renzong to discover the true purpose of this family letter, and Ding Wei's scheme really came to fruition immediately.

Psychological tips:

The story tells us: the use of external force sometimes detours things, sometimes blurs them, and sometimes beautifies them.

The method of breaking through the routine and cleverly borrowing external force is to achieve one's real purpose in the name of cleverly borrowing external force.In this process, although people's hearts are self-evident, due to external forces, others have no choice but to succumb to external forces, and thus achieve the purpose of the person doing things.

Responsive to the changing situation wisely
Many things in the world are unpredictable.To deal with this kind of thing well, you must learn to adapt to the situation. This is the way to protect yourself wisely.

Liu Bei was in a low period, so he could only temporarily turn to Cao Cao, who was in luck.And he secretly participated in the organization to destroy Cao, so he had no choice but to pretend to be crazy, hide his plan in the depths, and become a vegetable farmer.Otherwise, if any clues are revealed, you will be killed.Cao Cao defeated Lu Bu and captured Xuzhou. Liu Bei had no choice but to hide his long-cherished wish to make great achievements and temporarily attached himself to Cao Cao because of his own weakness.

Cao Cao was worried about Liu Bei at first, but after eliminating Lu Bu, he ordered Che Zhou to guard Xuzhou, and brought Liu, Guan, and Zhang back to Xudu together.Since he submitted to him, he had to give some sweets, so Cao Cao brought Liu Bei to see Emperor Xian. In terms of seniority, Liu Bei was still Emperor Xian's uncle, so later people called him "Uncle Liu Huang".

Once, Liu and Cao had a drink and chatted all over the world.Why did Cao Cao only invite Liu Bei to drink?It turned out that he was also taking advantage of the time when he was drinking and talking a lot, to detect Liu Bei's sincerity, to see if he was like himself, unwilling to be inferior to others, and had the ambition to become a king.

When the wine was in full swing, Cao Cao said: "Xuande, you have traveled all over the world for a long time, and you have seen a lot. May I ask, who can be called a hero today?",
Liu Bei was not wary of Cao Cao suddenly talking about this topic, and for a moment he didn't know what kind of medicine he was selling in his gourd, so he had to prevaricate: "How can I talk about heroes?"

But Cao Cao decided to tell the truth by himself, and Liu Bei had already guessed about Cao Cao's intentions.So he began to pretend to be confused, and he thought for a while and said, "Yuan Shu of Huainan has already proclaimed himself emperor, so he can be regarded as a hero!"

Cao Cao said with a smile: "He is just a dry bone in the grave, I will destroy him right now!"

Liu Bei also said: "Yuan Shao from Hebei was born noble, and his disciples and old officials are all over the world. Now he occupies four states. He has many advisers and brave generals. Can he be a hero?"

Cao Cao smiled again and said, "Yuan Shao has a strong appearance, but he has little courage. Although he is good at planning, he is hesitant at critical moments. This kind of person who is afraid of danger when he does big things and is willing to die for small gains is not a hero."

Liu Bei also said: "Liu Biao sits in Jingzhou and is listed as the head of the 'Eight Talents'. Can he be regarded as a hero?"

Cao Cao said disdainfully: "Liu Biao has only a false name, and he can't be regarded as a hero!"

Liu Bei went on to say: "Sun Ce is full of blood and has become the leader of Jiangdong. He is a hero, right?"

Cao Cao shook his head and said, "Sun Ce is not a hero because of his father Sun Jian's fame."

Liu Bei said again: "Then Liu Zhang from Yizhou can be considered a hero?"

Cao Cao waved his hand and said, "Liu Zhang is only relying on being a member of the Han family. He is just a watchdog. How can he be called a hero?"

Liu Bei saw that these big warlords on the separatist side were not in Cao Cao's eyes, so he could only say, "What about people like Zhang Lu in Hanzhong, Han Sui in Xiliang, and Ma Teng?"

Cao Cao couldn't help clapping his hands and laughing when he heard that Liu Bei had mentioned only second-rate names, and said, "These mediocre juniors are nothing to worry about!"

Liu Bei shook his head and said, "Besides these people, Liu Bei is ignorant, but I really don't know who else deserves to be called a hero."

Cao Cao stopped laughing, stared at Liu Bei and said, "A hero is one who has great ambitions and a good plan. The so-called great ambition is to swallow the world; the so-called good plan is to cover the universe." After that, he carefully observed Liu Bei's actions. reaction.

Liu Bei pretended not to know, and deliberately asked: "Then who can be called that?" Cao Cao pointed to Liu Bei, then nodded to himself, and said mysteriously: "Now the only ones who can be called heroes are you and me!"

Hearing this, Liu Bei couldn't help being shocked, and he let go of his hands in fright, and the chopsticks fell to the ground.At this time, it happened that the lightning flashed and triggered a series of deafening thunderbolts, which rumbled so loudly that the sky was about to crack.Liu Bei bent down to pick up the chopsticks, and said slowly: "Tianwei is so powerful, this thunder almost frightened me!"

Cao Cao observed that Liu Bei dropped his chopsticks when he heard the thunder through some discussions about the heroes in the world. He really thought that Liu Bei was not only a person who was not far-sighted enough, but also a coward who let Jinglei shake off his chopsticks, so he couldn't help laughing.

Psychological tips:

Since then, Cao Cao's wariness against Liu Bei has relaxed a lot, and finally Liu Bei found a chance to escape to Xuzhou.Liu Bei just pretended to be stupid, concealed the truth and showed falsehood, and acted accordingly, giving Cao Cao a hazy feeling, so that his interests and lives were preserved in the ingenious response.

Eliminating the other party's guard against ourselves is undoubtedly of great benefit to our work and business development in the real society. It is also a clever means of survival and development. Get new room for development.

Go along with the flow to confuse the other party
People have their own feelings, each with its own nature.Some people like to listen to flattery, put a few "high hats" on him, and he will do his best to help you; If you are vigilant, you think you have bad intentions; some people are self-willed, and you can use aggressive methods to make them do things well;

In any case, you must learn to do things with the flow.

During the Spring and Autumn Period when Lu Chenggong was the Duke, the Jin people detained Zheng Chenggong in an attempt to use Zheng Chenggong to threaten the State of Zheng.How to do it?Agree to Jin's unreasonable demands?That's impossible; refuse?But his own monarch is in the hands of Jin.At this time, Gongsun Shen, the doctor of Zheng Guo, said: "I have a way. We send troops to besiege Xu, and pretend to change the monarch to foreign countries. After the people of Jin see that our monarch is worthless, they will definitely let our monarch come back."

Therefore, the people of Zheng besieged Xu, expressing that they did not regard the detainment of the king as a matter of priority.Luan Shu, a senior officer of the state of Jin, said: "If the people of Zheng changed their status to a king, what good would it do us to detain Duke Cheng of Zheng? It is better to crusade against the state of Zheng, let their king go back, and take the opportunity to make peace." So the princes attacked the state of Zheng and let Duke Cheng of Zheng return home. .

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