How to deal with bosses and employees

Chapter 30 How to be a Competent and Good Employee - Career Development and Career (13)

[-]. Don’t try to befriend your boss
1. There is no real brotherhood at work, only work

Many of our working friends often talk about their bosses when they are together.I often hear some people say that the boss is a very good person, and he treats himself like a brother, and is very satisfied.There are also some people who get close to the boss with the hope of gaining the envy of their colleagues or getting more special benefits, and even break into the boss's life territory, trying to call the boss a brother.They all committed a big taboo because they didn't understand human nature, and because they were used to the role of being managed, they didn't understand the psychology of managers.It can be said that the psychology of being a boss is the same as that of the ancient emperors, only the field and the size of the business are different. By comparing this, everyone will understand how to get along with the boss.

2. The boss is always the boss, don't have any illusions beyond this relationship

In order to start a business of their own, the boss will adopt different management strategies at different times, but they all want to capture people's hearts and let employees work hard for themselves. Especially in the early stage of starting a business, the boss will be willing to use the unique Chinese way ——Take it as a brother's family and manage it.Therefore, the boss often confesses that he treats employees as brothers, which is a management method and a need, and it does not really talk about brotherhood with you.In addition, as long as your boss is still a sensible person, he will not regard an employee as a real brother, because your behavior and performance will inevitably affect the normal management of the company and even affect the personal prestige of the boss. Employees who call themselves brothers end up either ruining the boss's career, or being cut off by the boss from continuing to develop.

3. The best way to win the appreciation of the boss is performance

In the workplace, we often see some people trying to get close to the boss in order to get some benefits, and even use some inappropriate methods to get close to the boss, trying to be brothers and sisters with the boss.But we need to know that any boss will regard the work relationship as the first relationship, because only the work is the boss's most concerned, which affects the boss's fundamental interests.It is difficult to be called a brother if there is a relationship of interest at work. Don't expect the relationship like Liu Guanzhang to happen to you, not to mention that Liu Bei also made many mistakes because of this brotherly relationship.History cannot be changed, but how many such things are there?If you want to live well in a company, the most important thing is to rely on real work performance. Employees with good performance, the boss will keep him with various interests. And let him go too.

Case story:

I once met a girl named Yuanyuan, who joined an investment company in Beijing in 2005.Yuanyuan is usually a very well-behaved girl. At the beginning, she was very serious and responsible in her work. In addition to her oval face, she looked pleasing, so her colleagues and friends liked her very much.Because she often acts as a lubricant for interpersonal relationships at work, after two or three months of work, the boss also began to pay attention to her and entrusted her with some important things in the company.Her boss, surnamed Zhang, is a very easy-going person, and the boss treats the employees very well. From time to time, he will arrange a meal or organize some weekend activities for the employees.It can be seen that Boss Zhang is actually a boss who is good at using family management. This kind of humanized management is also generally accepted and recognized by employees, so everyone is very enthusiastic about work, and the company's development is also booming.With the development and growth of the company, Yuanyuan's performance was very good, so in the sixth month after Yuanyuan joined the company, she was promoted by Boss Zhang to be an assistant to the general manager, focusing on the company's administrative work and Boss Zhang's daily life. Regarding work arrangements and other matters, it can be said that Yuanyuan's career development is relatively smooth, which is also the envy of her peers.But it was soaked in the envious eyes of the people around her that Yuanyuan began to be proud.Because she spends too much time in contact with Boss Zhang, even in daily life, and the boss is very easy-going, Yuanyuan gradually lost the respect she used to have for the boss, so she took The relationship between myself and my boss and the relationship between work and life have become more and more blurred.

One afternoon, Yuanyuan received a faxed document to Boss Zhang. The content of the document was to inform Boss Zhang to go to Diaoyutai State Guesthouse to attend a national investment and financing conference the next day, and asked to arrive before 9:8 am and prepare accordingly. preparations.And Yuanyuan didn't pay much attention to it, just placed it on the boss's desk casually, without even looking at the contents of the document, let alone making any preparations for it.At 8 a.m. the next day, one hour before the meeting started, Yuanyuan’s mobile phone rang rapidly. At this time, she had just finished washing and was about to go to work. When she heard the ringtone, she saw that it was Boss Zhang’s call. She thought to herself, why are you calling? We had dinner together last night and didn't say anything. Can't we go to the company to talk about something?So she hung up the phone directly, and she still didn't answer the next two times. At [-]:[-], Yuanyuan strolled into the company's gate, but it was the last time she entered the company's gate, and it was also the last scene she saw in the company. Boss Zhang was holding the fax in his hand, and confronted Yuanyuan loudly. Why didn't Yuan answer his call, and then snatched the phone from Yuanyuan's hand and dropped it heavily on the ground. Yuanyuan's career development dream was also smashed to pieces just like her beloved phone.Immediately, Boss Zhang rushed to the venue with another employee, and Yuanyuan also left the company the next day, and hurriedly started the next dream-seeking journey.

On the road of life, everyone often encounters the problem of role switching. Because some people have a relationship with their boss at work and are friends in life, it is easy for them to fail to switch roles in time.If you bring the role of friends or buddies in your life to work, it will embarrass the boss and make it difficult to deal with work matters, because the gains and losses between friends can be tolerated and ignored, but at work Mistakes are unforgivable.If the affiliation relationship at work is brought into life, some bosses or migrant workers feel that it is unnecessary.However, it is easy for some migrant workers to switch roles between work and life in a timely manner.Therefore, a person with rich experience in the workplace will pay great attention to this problem, and will not easily enter the boss's life territory, not easily get too close to the boss, and do not call him brothers and sisters.

Comments: The boss will not treat any employee as a real brother. Good employees should also know not to treat the boss at work as a confidant. To handle the relationship with the boss well, you should keep in mind a few points: One day, treat the boss only as your own boss, and the relationship with the boss is a relationship of being hired and employed.Second, the boss's democratic style and affinity are just a management style and method of the boss, and we must have a clear understanding of this.Third, don't deal too much with your boss in your life, let alone take the initiative to enter the boss's world.I believe that those who can achieve these points can handle the relationship between the boss and themselves well, and can also improve their career development better.

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