greatest wisdom book

Chapter 42: You can know the depth 4
I'd rather be drunk with others than wake up alone

Better to be drunk with others than to be awake alone, say the politicians.If everyone is drunk, I will be drunk with them; if alone sober, it will be considered crazy, the important thing is to go with the flow.Sometimes the best thing to do is to not know or pretend not to know.Because we have to live with other people, and most people are ignorant.

It is not enough for a talented person to have a bright mind, but also to know when to be smart and when to be stupid.Life is like a play, performing various accidental situations that are infinitely changing, and a little slack will lead to a tragic ending, and there is no room for "mistakes".Therefore, sometimes it is better to be drunk with others than to be too sober, because those who are too sober are only a minority, and they will never be able to match the choice of the majority.

Especially when people are in an unfamiliar environment, it is particularly important to do as the Romans do and ask for bans at the door.If you can't go with the flow, you'll be considered a heretic, you won't be able to live with people, and you'll end up excluded and isolated.

A long time ago, there were two brothers who each purchased some goods and planned to travel far away to do business.They worked tirelessly to come to a country where people don't wear clothes, and the world calls it "the country of naked people".

The younger brother was thinking about how to do business and make a lot of money, but he also felt that the customs and habits of this country were very different from his own, so what should he do?He discussed with his brother based on the principle of being confused about small things and being smart about big things: "The customs here are completely different from those in our country. It is really not easy to do business here! But as the saying goes, 'When you go to the country, do as the Romans do,' as long as we are cautious and speak modestly, Doing things according to their customs must not be a big problem." After hearing this, the elder brother said: "No matter where we go, etiquette must be respected, and virtue must be pursued. Do we have to deal with them naked? This is too serious. You've become immoral." The younger brother continued to argue: "Many sages in ancient times, although their bodies have changed, behaved very upright. The so-called 'dead body does not perish' is also allowed by the precepts." The older brother refused to listen to the younger brother. Persuasion, stubbornness.

The custom of the Naked Man Country is that on the night of the first and fifteenth day of the first lunar month, people rub their heads with sesame oil, draw various patterns on their bodies with white clay, wear various decorations, knock on stones, and men and women hold hands and sing songs. Dance.The younger brother also followed their example and sang and danced with them.People in the Naked Man Kingdom, whether they are kings or ordinary people, love their younger brother very much, and they have a very harmonious relationship with each other.The king bought all the goods he brought and paid him ten times the price.

When the elder brother saw that his younger brother was acting according to the local customs, he said angrily, "Don't behave like a man, but behave like a beast. Is this what a gentleman should do? I must never behave like my younger brother." Not only that, but he also Talking about benevolence, righteousness and morality, accusing the people of the Naked Man Kingdom is neither right nor that, which arouses the anger of the king and the people.They caught him, beat him up, and robbed him of all his belongings, and it was only thanks to his younger brother's intercession that he was rescued.

Everyone understands the principle of doing as the Romans do, but not everyone can do it.People who can successfully integrate into an unfamiliar environment to survive are obviously more likely to survive than those who deviate from the environment.Being alone is lonely, because no one understands your difficulties, but being drunk together is happy, because you can get the recognition and trust of others, and at the same time, you can protect yourself well.Not only that, but if we realize early the mystery of "Better get drunk with others than wake up alone", it will also help us to develop together on the basis of symbiosis with others.

In the picturesque California, the young marine biologist Bram made a very important observation experiment.One day, after he dived into the deep water, he saw a strange scene: a big silver-gray fish left the fish school and swam quickly towards a small golden-colored fish.Bram thought the little fish was doomed.However, the big fish did not rush at the little fish viciously, but stopped in front of the little fish, spread its fins calmly, and remained motionless.When the little fish saw it, it went forward without hesitation, clinging to the body of the big fish, and pecking here and there with its sharp beak, as if it was sucking something.In the end, it got half of its body into the gill cover of the big fish.After a few minutes they parted and the smaller fish dived into the seaweed while the larger fish easily pursued his mate.

In the following months, Bram conducted a series of follow-up observation studies, and he saw this scene many times.It seems that this is not accidental.After some careful observation, Bram believes that the small fish is the "doctor" in the "Crystal Palace", and it can heal the big fish.The fish "Doctor" is only three to four centimeters long, brightly colored, and looks like a fluttering ribbon when swimming, so the locals call it "Colorful Girl Fish".

Fish "doctors" like to swim around coral reefs or places overgrown with seaweed, which are their "mobile hospitals".All kinds of fish that inhabit the coral reefs will swim over and surround the colorful female fish when they see it.Once, hundreds of fish surrounded a colorful female fish.This colorful female fish sometimes arches towards this one and sometimes towards the other, pecking at them with its sharp beak.And these big fish pose in various poses contentedly, some with their heads up, some with their heads down, and some lying on their sides, even with their bellies facing the sky.This looks like a big ward!
Bram caught the colorful fish, opened its stomach and found that it was full of various parasites, small fish and corrupted fish worms.Clean the necrotic tissue of the wound for the big fish, peck off the parasites on the scales, fins and gills of the fish, these dirty things have become the delicacy of the fish "doctor".This cooperation benefits both parties, a phenomenon known in biology as "symbiosis."

In the sea, there are 45 kinds of fish "doctors" like the colorful fish, all of which have pointed and long mouths and bright colors.

Humans, like these fish, are symbiotic animals, and they are inextricably linked to each other. If we use our emotions and offend many people, then the environment we live in will become "big fish eat small fish", instead of Maybe the big fish and the small fish will live together.Therefore, when we encounter some innocuous things, we don’t have to be too serious, live in harmony with others, respect other people’s lifestyles and tastes, and don’t always feel troublesome if we can help each other when getting along with others. I believe that doing so will make us Earn the love and affection of others.

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