greatest wisdom book

Chapter 44: You can know the depth 6
Charity is like savings with both capital and profit

Giving kindness to others is more noble than rewarding others, and timely help will make your reputation spread far and wide.Giving help in advance without waiting for a request will make the recipient feel a heavier obligation. This obligation is directly transformed into gratitude. It is like the reward you paid in advance. Sooner or later, you will get the benefit repay.Of course, these are only for educated people.

When others encounter difficulties, the purpose of helping others is not to ask for a return from the other party. If we give favors specifically to ask for a return, this person must be a thick and cunning person.Seeing people's difficulties, giving a helping hand is a kind of good karma, which can soothe people's hearts and give people a sense of self-satisfaction and comfort.And the additional items obtained from the favor are the other party's return.

Human beings are social groups that help each other and live together, so helping each other is inevitable. How to help others and how to help others is a brilliant skill.There is also a way to show kindness, don't need too much, otherwise it will increase the burden on the other party; and if you give too much kindness, the other party will become wary and even become your enemy.Remember the subtlety of giving favors: Only urgent and inexpensive gifts are liked by the recipient.

Therefore, if you don't feel arrogant when you give kindness, you can do good deeds naturally without traces, and at the same time, you can be appreciated by others. This kind of kindness is only brilliant.Sometimes when some people have to let others know when they are doing favors, then his favors are too purposeful and annoying.

There are many skills in giving favors to others. First, don’t make the other party feel that accepting your help is a burden; second, do it naturally; willing.The kindness beyond these three points is not called kindness, it is a kind of psychological burden to you, and it may not be able to get the gratitude and respect of others.

Interpersonal communication is mutual, and you must not say "what's the matter" or "you helped me, and I will definitely help you next time" like doing business.Neglecting the communication of feelings will make getting along with people uninteresting, and your friendship with people will not last long.Not only that, but you must not regard giving kindness as your own charity to others. Such a view will seriously hurt the feelings of others, and it is definitely not what a wise person does.

On a snowy day, a poor villager went to borrow money from the richest man in the village.It just so happened that the richest man was very happy that day, so he readily agreed to lend him two ocean dollars, and at the end he generously said: "Take it and spend it, you don't need to pay it back!" The poor man took the money, wrapped it carefully, and hurried home .The richest man yelled at his back again: "No need to pay back!"

Early the next morning, the richest man opened the courtyard door and found that the snow in his courtyard had been swept away, even the roof tiles were swept clean.After inquiring in the village, he learned that the villager did it.This is what the richest man understands: giving alms to others can only turn others into beggars.So he asked the villager to write a loan, and the villager shed tears of gratitude.

The villagers used snow removal actions to maintain their dignity, and the richest man established a letter with him to complete his maintenance of his dignity.In the eyes of the richest man, there are no beggars in the world; in the hearts of the villagers, he was never a beggar. There is only one word difference between "Shi En" and "Alms", but their meanings are quite different.

Giving favors to others is like opening a regular savings account, which can earn both capital and profit.Of course, it is necessary to exclude those who are ungrateful and return virtue with hatred.The so-called double income of capital and profit is not necessarily material. Getting fame and comforting the soul is also of great benefit to us.

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