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Chapter 75 Communication quotient: understanding the communication philosophy of people coming and going 2
Long live understanding, respect and common prosperity

The monarch should know and understand the people, and the people should understand the monarch.For the people, such a process is also a process of continuously deepening their understanding of the country.

—— "Prologue"

What kind of person should a monarch be in order to be respected, to be loved or feared?Of course, it's best to have both.But the prerequisite for having both is that the subjects and the monarch must understand and understand each other, otherwise the monarch will appear insensible.

In real life, if people want to make a few confidants sincerely, they must be calm and let each other understand.Only those who understand each other can maintain a relaxed and pleasant communication atmosphere, and because of mutual understanding, mutual-help behaviors are generated, and it is easier to accomplish things in mutual cooperation.

People always advocate mutual understanding in groups. In fact, mutual understanding is not only applicable in interpersonal, team and organization, but also applicable to family life.For a warm and beautiful family life, the most important thing is that family members understand and agree with each other. If you always care about each other and squeeze each other, the family is like a tomb.

The great Russian writer Tolstoy and his wife both came from prominent families. Originally, the superiority of the family should be something everyone is proud of, but this has just become the chief culprit for the insurmountable gap between Tolstoy and his wife.Tolstoy is one of the most famous novelists in history. He is so beloved that his admirers even follow him around all day long, and quickly record every word he utters.

In addition to a good reputation, Tolstoy and his wife had property, status, and children.Their union seemed to be very happy, so they knelt on the ground and prayed to God, hoping to continue to give them such happiness.However, Tolstoy gradually changed, he became another person, and he felt ashamed of his past works.From then on, he devoted the remainder of his life to writing pamphlets promoting peace, eliminating war, and alleviating poverty.He once confessed for himself that he had committed all kinds of unimaginable sins and mistakes when he was young.He is to be true to the teachings of Jesus Christ.He gave all his fields to others and lived a poor life himself.He went to work in the fields, chopped wood, stacked hay, made his own shoes, cleaned his own house, served his meals out of wooden bowls, and tried to love his enemies.

Tolstoy's life was a scene of tragedy, and it was his unfortunate marriage that kicked off this tragedy.His wife loves luxury and vanity, but he despises and despises them.She longed for prominence, fame, and social admiration, but Tolstoy dismissed these.She wants money and possessions, but he thinks wealth and private possessions are a sin.

The wife was often noisy, swearing, and crying, because Tolstoy insisted on giving up the publishing rights of all his works, and did not receive any royalties or royalties, but she hoped to get that kind of wealth.When Tolstoy objected to her, she would yell like mad and roll on the floor.With a bottle of opium in her hand, she was about to swallow herself, and at the same time threatened her husband that she would jump into a well.

Originally, Tolstoy's family was very happy, but from the moment his wife started making noise, his heart was never quiet for a moment.After 48 years of marriage, he couldn't bear to see his wife again.On a certain night, the old and sad wife longed for love.She knelt before her husband's knees and begged him to recite the beautiful love poems he wrote for her 50 years ago.They all wept bitterly as he read the words describing the beautiful, sweet days of old, and thought that all was now a lost memory.

When Tolstoy was 82 years old, he could no longer bear the pain of family torture. On a snowy night in October 1910, he left his wife, fled the house, walked into the cold, dark, and disappeared. Eleven days later, Tolstoy fell ill with pneumonia and collapsed in a station.His dying request was that his wife not be allowed to visit him.

Only then did Tolstoy's wife feel deep remorse for her original behavior.Before she died, she confessed to her daughter: "Your father's death is my fault." Her daughters did not answer, and burst into tears. They knew that their mother was telling the truth. Died amidst complaints, long criticisms.

If Tolstoy's wife could better understand her husband's painstaking efforts, then the great writer would not have such a tragic ending.People always feel that life is full of misfortunes, but they never realize that most of the misfortunes are caused by people's lack of openness.Understanding is the premise of mutual understanding, and understanding can increase the degree of understanding between people, and then make people get along more harmoniously and warmly.Let's open our hearts to know those who treat us with sincerity, and they will not be stingy with comforting us.

(End of this chapter)