Hypnosis: Psychological tricks in life

Chapter 30 Hypnotic Tricks in Life (17)
We often lie to strangers.For example, at the beginning of a new job, when the boss asked how we felt, most of us would smile and say, "It's not bad." At that time, we wouldn't tell him that he was under a lot of pressure, or "I'm really worried about learning forever." Not coming" or something like that.We take all the truth home and pour it out on our loved ones.

Why don't we give the insincere "lies" we tell those strangers to those we love?In fact, women sometimes need a little white "lie".For example, you could compliment her on something she does:
If she changes into a dress she just bought - tell her she looks stunning in this dress.If she's going to study -- tell her you love her eagerness to learn.If she's in any kind of volunteer group -- tell her it's nice to spend time on desirable goals.If she plays with the kids - tell her how lucky the kids are to have such a mother.

You can also compliment what she said:
If she's funny - tell her it's great to appreciate her sense of humor.If she's good at compliments -- tell her how blessed you are to have such a caring spouse.If she solves a problem - tell her that her logic has improved the family's quality of life.If she's talkative -- tell her that she's the life of the party, that she's the "life of the party," how much you love hearing her talk, that she makes you feel at ease.If she's not talkative - tell her what a wonderful listener that brings you immense peace and tranquility.

Many marriage experts believe that when dealing with husband and wife, if you really love each other, sometimes you have to keep certain thoughts and feelings secret or even lie. This sentence should be said especially to men, because most women are very emotional. , they are easily swayed by what their lover says.

There is an old couple who have been married for more than 50 years and their relationship has always been very good.The husband always praised his wife's cakes to outsiders.One day a neighbor's housewife came to ask the old lady the secret of baking cakes.The old lady told her the name of a cake shop and said: "Actually, I buy all my cakes from this shop, but my husband doesn't know about it. Remember, husband and wife sometimes need to keep some little secrets. From then on, the housewife's husband also praised her wife's skill in baking cakes whenever he met, and the relationship between the two naturally became more harmonious than before. As for the previous couple, the husband knew his wife's little tricks, but he knew , Compared with telling the truth, what my wife likes to hear is a beautiful "lie".

It can be seen from this that a little secret between husband and wife does not necessarily affect the love between the two.On the contrary, if you tell the truth that you should not tell, it may also lead to a breakdown in the relationship.So, how to grasp this scale?

A wife with short legs asked her husband, "Would you like me to be a tall girl with long legs?" Her husband would surely break her heart if he answered truthfully, because short stature is inherent and irreparable.The husband can thus embellish the facts to suit his wife's wishes.He can say, "If I really wanted to be tall, I'd be married to a woman like that. And it's not. I married you, and I want you to be like that."

This answer is sure to please the wife, because the husband emphasizes that he loves his wife more meaningfully than having long legs.

Women are like this, and sometimes the truth can be hard for her to accept, or at least offend, but if you tell a few white "lies" about such insignificant things, it will often get better results.

Actions and words work together to appease the opponent's grievances.

A person's hands, I don't know how many people's hands have been held.But when a life and another life solemnly walk the road of life hand in hand, their tacit understanding can surpass all words and actions.People say that getting married can increase people's sense of responsibility and accelerate maturity. When we get married, we are still children and don't understand the true meaning of marriage. When we face the trivial life, we are in the process of constant arguments and reconciliation. Touch the beating pulse of marriage.

Holding hands with another person is actually holding the attachment and ordinary life.Marriage is a lifetime event.In this life, two people will definitely encounter many difficulties.What cannot be solved by this person may also exist in the next person. Don't expect to use evasive methods to deal with marriage, but use patience to manage it together.

Holding hands is only the initial stage of marriage. When two people enter the castle of marriage because of love, they should use practical actions to express their love for their partners.However, the actual action mentioned here is "saying" or "doing", which is very different in the thinking of men and women.

From the moment they fell in love until they entered the marriage hall, her husband never made an oath of "I love you" to Lian, and she has always been worried about this.

At first, it was an enlightening and educational way, saying how a colleague's husband praised her, the purpose was to let him receive some love education and inspire him.But he didn't take it seriously, and said that he was sour and untrue, and that a smooth-talking man was unreliable.Lian saw that beating the side drums was not enough, so she used the aggressive method, complaining that she lived with him like an old couple for decades, a pool of stagnant water, without any waves.That's how life is, he said.If she is more angry than Zhener and ignores him, he will be very angry and say that she is finding fault and making trouble for no reason, let alone let him coax her with sweet words.

Lian really had no choice but to ask him straightforwardly: "Do you love me or not?" He smiled and didn't answer.She was very angry, and made a grand statement that "the mouth is not only used for eating", but he dismissed it and laughed at her for being too deeply poisoned by TV dramas.She was so angry that she swore: "If there is a man who expresses his heart to me and says he loves me, I will marry him!"

He was anxious: "It's such a hot day, I don't even have time to drink my saliva, and I hurriedly bought you back fried chicken legs, and you still say this! You go away! See if someone treats you so well? Those who say they love you every day may sell you someday."

Lian thought about it carefully, this is really the case, her husband is really good to her.Lian has a short lunch break at work, and her husband always rushes home to cook for her after get off work at noon every day, so that she can rest for a while; before each business trip, he always cooks ribs and chicken nuggets for her and puts them in the refrigerator Here, I can't wait to bake a big pancake and hang it around her neck, just like "a daughter-in-law who has finally married at home, I'm afraid she will starve to death"...

Thinking of all the good things he did to her, Lian also felt wronged, but she was still not reconciled: "It's so difficult to say those three words? Why can't you say it if you have love in your heart?" He plausibly said: "Love is reflected in actions, there is no need for rhetoric .”

Women always like to express it with words, but men like to hide their love in their hearts and express it with practical actions.It's not that she doesn't love him, and it's not that he doesn't love her, it's just that they think differently.Men and women in marriage must understand this, otherwise quarrels between two people will be inevitable.

Marriage is not simply holding hands, but requires two people to build a castle of love with sincerity, understanding, trust, respect and care, and hold hands for a lifetime.

Concede with humor and avoid a heated argument.

There's a joke about a young man who blows a tire on the road, and by chance his jack doesn't work either.When he saw a family on the side of the road, he hoped that he could borrow a jack from there to change the tires.As he walked towards that house, he thought while walking: "What if there is no one in his house?" "What if someone is there but doesn't open the door?" Thinking about it like this, the more he thought about it, the angrier he became. When he walked to that house and knocked on the door, the owner just came out, and he said to him, "Damn it, what's so rare about your jack." The owner, Monk Zhang Er, was puzzled, thinking that the person who came was a mental patient, and closed the door with a "bang".

You must think that the behavior of young people is ridiculous, but the fact is that in life, we often make similar mistakes.Ms. Joy, an American marriage expert, said: "In a self-harm situation, what is the most harmful thing to a woman? It is to presuppose everything."

There was a couple like this, when they were having dinner and chatting, the husband accidentally said something that was not pleasant to the ears on the spur of the moment.Unexpectedly, the wife analyzed it in detail, so she felt unhappy and quarreled with her husband, and the two parties broke up unhappy.

There may be twists and turns and challenges in the relationship between partners at any time. There are various reasons for this, such as unemployment, death, and illness.Faced with such a situation, it is important to be full of love, to be more understanding, to be more tolerant, and more importantly, not to presuppose anything.Everyone has to accept an irrefutable fact: neither you nor your partner will ever be perfect.In the right way, communicating and communicating at any time can eliminate bad thoughts and feelings.This way, you and your partner can resolve conflicts and resolve any even the toughest problems or issues.

When you're not angry with your partner, take some time, with peace of mind, to see which words are most acceptable to you and your partner.Familiarity with and mastering the proper expression of "pre-negotiation" can bring you unexpected surprises.Remember, both of you can "follow the example" and directly apply the expressions agreed by both parties.Once a conflict occurs, they can quickly ease the tension and avoid unnecessary disputes.

Always pay attention to the needs of your partner and give as much as possible to each other, and unnecessary quarrels will be greatly reduced.The following example reveals the fact that when a woman expresses her feelings appropriately and a man listens carefully, a potential argument can be avoided entirely.

Once, John and his wife left the house and went for a drive.When they go out in the car, they feel very refreshed, finally free from the hectic work of the week, and can relax.Unexpectedly, just when John's mood was fading, his wife sighed deeply and said, "I think my life is a long hard labor."

After hearing this, John didn't speak immediately, but took a deep breath first.Then he replied: "I understand what you mean. In my opinion, too much work and busyness can indeed 'wring out' our happiness and joy." , indicating to wring out the water from the rag.

The wife nodded, seeming to agree with John.At the same time, a smile suddenly appeared on her originally serious face.She then changed the subject to say how excited she was about the trip.A potential quarrel was thus avoided.

If husband and wife want to avoid quarrels, they also need to have a restrained and rational attitude, as well as a magnanimous and tolerant mind, a far-sighted vision, and the wisdom to gain insight into the world and understand life.With this perspective, you will not be limited to the minutiae of life, and you will be able to handle the relationship between husband and wife calmly and easily.With this kind of wisdom, danger can be saved and difficult problems can be solved in a light-hearted and humorous way.

(End of this chapter)