Do it and you can beat procrastination

Chapter 10 The Horrible Truth: How Deeply Procrastination Has Killed You (4)
As a short-term counselor in a school for the deaf, taking care of the daily life of the disabled, you will find that the difficulties you face are nothing but pediatrics.A female leader who fell into self-denial and started to quit said with emotion after participating in volunteer activities: "In this world, there are people who are doing more challenging work with one-twentieth of my salary. , Compared with teaching deaf children to speak and sing, what are the difficulties I face?" Go to the disadvantaged groups and see more of those who are extremely tenacious and brave, and you will find the beauty of life and the struggle. The meaning of struggle and the courage to overcome difficulties.

2. Sometimes you need to push yourself

Self-reflection is certainly a good thing, but if you look for shortcomings and deficiencies in yourself in everything, then over time, you will "label" yourself a loser.Once you identify yourself as a failure, it will be difficult to succeed throughout your life.

The more difficult times are, the more you feel that you can't hold on and are about to give up, the more you can't deny yourself, but encourage yourself boldly.When others don't take you seriously, you must take yourself seriously.After get off work every day, you might as well think about what you have gained in the day and what you are worthy of praise. Encouraging yourself in a realistic way is also an effective way to avoid falling into a vicious circle of self-denial.

3. Don't judge yourself by what you are not good at

If a fish is judged by its ability to climb a tree, it is undoubtedly a failure.In fact, everyone is good at different things. If you always measure your life value by things you are not good at, or even things that you can't do at all, then you will never succeed in your life, but you can only be successful in life. Spend a miserable life in self-denial.

Fighting and dragging skills: 15 methods of self-motivation

Studies by Western psychologists have shown that the quality of self-motivation is crucial to success, and strong self-motivation is a prerequisite for getting out of adversity and towards success.Losers are always discouraged and self-defeating, while winners see new challenges in every failure.Psychological experts warn everyone that there are many good ways to motivate yourself, the key is your own attitude.In the process of your continuous shaping of yourself, the attitude that has the greatest influence on you is your attitude, whether it is positive and optimistic or negative and pessimistic. This choice deep in your heart may inspire you or bring you happiness. obstacles to progress.People rely on dreams, visions and goals to move forward. Having a clear goal in life will bring people motivation; and with the strengthening of self-motivation, the process of self-shaping will also begin.Here are 15 ways to motivate yourself.

1. Build faith
Faith is the foundation of inspiration and the door to success.To get out of adversity, the most important thing is to build confidence, muster the courage to live, and have a strong desire and confidence to succeed.Confidence and the desire to succeed are unimaginably powerful forces that are the first step towards success.

2. Face up to adversity
When encountering adversity in life, we must first face up to the adversity and admit it.The so-called facing up to adversity is to analyze adversity, understand adversity, analyze the subjective and objective reasons of adversity, find out their internal connection, judge the possible harm caused by adversity, and then find out the strategies and methods to overcome adversity.If you ignore the adversity, adopt a stupid self-deception approach, turn a blind eye, go your own way, or even get depressed, then even greater tragedy may come.

3. Make fewer excuses
Whether a person holds a positive attitude or a negative attitude, the important difference is that a person with a positive attitude looks for internal causes and methods, while a person with a negative attitude looks for external causes and excuses.The law of the development of things is that internal causes determine external causes. If you look for external causes but not internal causes, the more you look for, the more you will deviate from the successful track, and the more you look for, the less promising you will be.

4. Change concept
Adversity is not entirely a bad thing, but also an opportunity in disguise. As long as we make good use of it, we will find a new path.Adversity can be a blessing or a curse, it all depends on how you react.Never be "led by the nose" by adversity, change your concept and open up a new situation in life.

5. See the strengths
In the face of adversity, the most important thing is to see your own strengths, recognize them, and make use of them. This is the only way out of adversity.

6. Break through barriers
In addition to the external environment, there are also internal psychological obstacles that affect your intelligence.To be successful in life, you must break through psychological barriers and give full play to your internal energy.As long as people see their internal energy clearly and exert their internal energy, they will eliminate their fear and move towards success.Recognize that lack of inner energy and self-confidence is the cause of all psychological disorders.

7. Set goals
Successful people will never only look at the present, not the long-term.The reason why many people don't work hard enough is mainly because they lack goals and lose motivation.People move forward by goals, and what can really motivate people is to set a lofty goal that is both grand and specific.Life must have a long-term goal.

8. Stay focused
To be successful, you must first find your focus.The science of success believes that only by focusing, focusing, and focusing again, you can use all your energy on one point can you make achievements that surprise you.

9. Make a plan
Goals in life are not enough, there must be a detailed plan to achieve the goals, the plan is divided into several stages, the small goals to be achieved in each stage, what are the requirements, and record them, so that you can supervise and check yourself.

10. Seek a mentor
The instructor's advice can save you many detours.A mentor can see your strengths and weaknesses and give you the right guidance, which will definitely benefit you a lot.

11. Set an example
The power of role models is infinite.In the process of growing up, people always have to find one or two role models for themselves, study and live like the role models, and you will gradually become a role model.

12. Pragmatism
If you want to get out of adversity and succeed, you must take one step at a time. There is a "gap" between the future ideal and the current status quo. It must not be daunting. We should "think big and start small" and make progress step by step. Victory is a big victory.

13. Reflect often

Think while moving forward, and always ask yourself: Is the direction of your efforts in the right direction?Do you have enthusiasm and passion, and in what areas can you do better?Don't let bad habits get in the way of your behavior.

14. Control Yourself
The failure of many people is due to laziness, procrastination, and inability to make up their minds, resulting in their status quo not being improved and being in a passive state.The only way to overcome it is to learn to control yourself, set hard goals for yourself, and you must complete them.In this way, as the career progresses, the confidence of success will be greatly increased.

15. Write motivational admonitions

Write motivational warnings in conspicuous places such as your residence and office to maintain a positive attitude.Such as:

"I am a unique person in the world, I want to be the master of my own life!" "Life is only once, my goal can only be achieved by me, and I have to take full responsibility for it!" "I will never give up!"

"I want to greet the new day with joy!" "I am a healthy, confident and happy person!" "I am a healthy and successful person!" "I am a successful and happy person!" "I am in At any time and under any circumstances, you must be full of confidence!" "I will overcome pressure with an optimistic spirit!"

Passion is no longer: content with the status quo, muddle through

As the saying goes, "shoot the bird that stands out." If you want to avoid becoming a "target", you must never go beyond your duties, never take the initiative to ask to host work, and you must do what you should do in a law-abiding manner; too good performance will inevitably attract people's envy , become the object of crowding out by colleagues, the performance is too poor and you will face the danger of being criticized and dismissed, so it is best to keep your performance at a moderate level.

The above is the workplace "survival experience" summed up by Xiaomeng, who has been in the workplace for more than ten years.In fact, Xiaomeng is the true epitome of many people in the workplace in real life: They keep preaching the way of being wise and safe, they are not proactive, they are indifferent to material rewards and spiritual rewards, and no matter how severe the criticism is, they will fall on deaf ears. No matter what the leaders asked, it still maintained this state.It is true that this is a workplace style, but does it really have a positive effect on your long-term career development?
"When I first graduated, I was full of ambition and eager to make a big career, but now I am less and less passionate, and I have no motivation at all in my get off work. I just look forward to leaving work early every day." An employee working in a home furnishing company confided his true feelings to the author.

·Where did your passion go

With the increase of working years, many people who were originally full of passion have gradually become "old fritters".At present, the popularity of the new concept of "rubber man" also shows from the side that the loss of passion has indeed plagued a large number of professionals.So, what is a "rubber man"?That is, there is no pain, no efficiency, no response, the whole person seems to be made of rubber; do not accept any new things and opinions; no matter whether it is criticism or praise; A sense of honor for doing a good job.Professionals with the above characteristics are collectively referred to as "rubber men".

"Anyway, no matter how good my performance is, I won't be able to get promoted and raise my salary. If that's the case, why bother to work so hard? It's better to make do with it." Many people in the workplace will have similar thoughts to this, which is actually the reason why A sign of progress.No matter what the workplace environment you are facing, as long as you persist in working hard day after day, there will always be a chance to change your destiny; on the contrary, once you lose your passion and fall into the quagmire of not thinking about making progress, then procrastination will "seek needles". ", over time, your job becomes a matter of coping, so how can you get promoted?
There is also a class of people who become unmotivated because of the endless repetition of monotonous work. "Looking at the piles of colorful design drawings every day, I'm so bored to death, how can I work hard! It's not bad if I can barely finish it." Bored attitude towards work is the majority of people in the workplace I have been confused before, why does it become like this after working for a long time?Where did that passionate young man go?Where did your passion for work go?
When the enthusiasm for work recedes, how many people rely on the inertia of work to continue to "boil"?How is it possible to work proactively in such a mental state?Therefore, it is logical to procrastinate and not make progress.However, the competition in the workplace is extremely fierce. If you allow yourself to "rubberize", the result can be imagined.After all, no company is willing to tolerate and accept a "rubber man" who procrastinates and does not respond to any stimulus.

·The "rubber man" who dawdles

Being in the workplace is like sailing against the current. If you don’t advance, you will retreat. If you are satisfied with the status quo and start to show a tendency not to make progress, then you must be vigilant.If at this point you think procrastination is irrelevant, you could be ruining your career because of it.Only by recognizing the dangers of not making progress as soon as possible can you avoid destroying yourself due to procrastination.

If counting length of service alone, Anxi can definitely be regarded as a "veteran" figure in this technology company, but at present her monthly salary is still at 2000 yuan, and her job position is still an ordinary employee.Why is Anxi, who has worked in a company for 10 years, in such an embarrassing situation?
When she joined this company after graduating from university, Anxi, like many of her classmates, was also a young man who pursued progress and was high-spirited.She is full of passion for work, and even volunteers to work overtime without pay and take the initiative to learn. However, this working state did not last long. Efficiency drops, and procrastination gets worse.

In fact, as an old employee, Anxi often has more promotion opportunities than newcomers.In order to mobilize the enthusiasm of grassroots employees, this company adopts a system of selecting management personnel from the grassroots, and every two years, a group of outstanding grassroots employees will be promoted.At first, Anxi cherished this promotion opportunity very much, and actively fought for it. Unfortunately, she failed three times in a row, which made her completely lose confidence in it.Seeing that people with less seniority than her were promoted to leaders, Anxi became more and more disheartened, and she simply fell into a state of not wanting to make progress.

Six years have passed in a blink of an eye, and Anxi's work performance is still not bad. Recently, the company has recruited a group of college graduates.Anxi learned from personnel affairs that the "entry" salary of these newcomers is close to 6 yuan, and that of an old employee who has worked for many years is no more than that.In stark contrast, the more Anxi thought about it, the more she felt that she was really at a loss.The work mentality and passion that used to be hard-working and hard-working are long gone. Today, Anxi's work is becoming more and more perfunctory.It is naturally difficult to make any achievements in such a working state, so it is reasonable that they cannot be promoted.

In fact, white-collar workers like Anxi often have more or less "rubberization". According to relevant data, more than 86.7% of white-collar workers will appear unwilling to make progress, A negative state of being satisfied with the status quo and muddling along.It is difficult for a person who is tired of coping with work to make any achievements. They are just dawdling for their wages, and every day they can dawdle is a day.Nowadays, with the accelerated pace of work and the increasing pressure of urban life, many people often experience "rubberization" in less than a year.From the perspective of workplace psychology, not thinking ahead, being content with the status quo, procrastinating and coping with work, etc., are all manifestations of lack of enthusiasm for work.

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