Do it and you can beat procrastination

Chapter 9 The Horrible Truth: How Deeply Procrastination Has Killed You (3)
This is not to tell a story. There are indeed many people around you who are bound by the shackles of prejudice and superstition. They are so blind that they don't know freedom, but they say that others are not free.Adventure and crisis are deeply related, and crisis is the opportunity hidden in danger.Opportunity and success often exist in danger.Do you want to have a good chance?

If you want to achieve success in your career, you must dare to take risks, plunge into dangerous situations, explore and create, and don't look forward and backward, and don't be afraid of failure.

Taking risks doesn't necessarily mean success.The mother of success is failure. Success is just the "numerator" of countless failures, not the "denominator" of countless failures.The normal rule is that countless failures are exchanged for one success, and countless failures are exchanged for one success.Afraid of failure, not taking risks, seeking stability and fearing chaos, and living a smooth and stable life. Although reliable and peaceful, life is "more than enough than the next", but it is mediocrity.

Risking failure is far better than comfortable mediocrity.Instead of living a mediocre life, it is better to take a risk with vigor.

The art of procrastination: seize the opportunity now

Zhou Xingchi has such a classic line in "A Chinese Journey to the West": "I once had a sincere love in front of me. I didn't cherish it. I didn't regret it until I lost it." In fact, it is not only love, but also opportunities. People in life often don't know how to cherish until they lose it, and then they start to regret it.

That being the case, why not seize the opportunity now?Compared with a real career, the day-to-day "grinding work" is tantamount to hell.

If you allow yourself to paralyze yourself in mediocrity and waste time in procrastination, how can you achieve results beyond ordinary people?
"Who wants to live like a 'dead' every day like this? I also want to make some achievements, but what else can I do besides the mediocrity in front of me?"

"When I first entered the workplace, I was also a person full of motivation, but in the blink of an eye, a few years have passed, and I have somehow become an 'old fritter' just like everyone else. Procrastination and 'grinding' are not my original intentions, but I don't know why It will become like this.”

"The work of the past few years has exhausted me physically and mentally. I also want to take the initiative to do a better job, but I am always unable to do what I want. As a result, I procrastinate a little today and procrastinate a little tomorrow. Over time, I become what I am today."

... Even though the group of doing nothing is huge, no one wants to be immersed in this state all the time. Unfortunately, most people are unable to get rid of this terrible status quo.This is because they lack certain countermeasures and methods. If you want to successfully "break out of the cocoon and become a butterfly" and make a career, you may wish to try the following methods. 1. It is better to take the initiative to attack than wait for the rabbit. When you laugh at the stupid hunter who waits for the rabbit, you don’t know that you are also playing such a stupid role.The opportunity that he could win, but in the end he just stayed where he was and waited for the pie to fall from the sky, and waited and waited for nothing.

It is better to take the initiative than to sit on the sidelines and wait for a rabbit. If you feel that you have no hope of promotion and salary increase, then there is no need to be discouraged and fall into the quagmire of mediocrity.

In fact, as long as you actively improve your abilities and consciously improve your potential value, then opportunities will definitely find you.

When you complain that you have no chance of success, you might as well think about how much you have done to fight for the opportunity; job.Opportunities are not brought by strong winds. Only those who work hard and take the initiative can have the opportunity to succeed.

2. Those who have dreams will have motivation
All mediocre people used to be people with dreams. The only difference between them and successful people is that they left their dreams behind "on the way".Dreams guide the direction of a person's progress. Once there is no dream, people will lose the motivation to move forward. Therefore, it is not surprising that people are muddled and muddled along.

If you want to get rid of the mediocre work and life, you must regain your dreams and re-establish your goals. Only in this way can you stimulate your fighting spirit and make yourself a "King Kong Warrior" who is vigorous and resolute without procrastination, negativity, or discouragement.However, dreams are beautiful, but reality is cruel. People who do nothing are not procrastinating because of lack of dreams, but because their dreams have lost to reality.So, how can you stick to your dreams in this cruel but realistic society?This requires you to have strong willpower and the ability to resist pressure. No matter how difficult or difficult it is, never give up on your dreams, because giving up your dreams is tantamount to giving up on yourself.

3. Resolutely not to be a dwarf in action
If you think that as long as you stick to your dreams and don't give up or give up, you can get rid of the muddled life and get the chance to get ahead, then you are very wrong.

In real life, there is such a group of people: they always talk about their great ideals. They really have not forgotten their dreams, nor have they lost their spiritual motivation, but unfortunately they have not put them into action.So everything is equal to zero, and they are still drifting with the tide in a daze, the only difference is that they are people with dreams and doing nothing.

Career is done, not boasted; success is made, not boasted.If you want to completely get rid of the life of the "living dead" and get away from the mediocre life, you must act quickly.

Vicious circle: self-denial, physical and mental exhaustion

According to relevant data, February and March at the beginning of each year is the hottest time for the talent market, and there will be a substantial increase in the number of people who leave or apply for a job. There are 1 days in a year, and you can resign any day, but why do so many people choose this time to resign?When the year-end bonus was finally issued, the motivation to "go through" disappeared all of a sudden.Coupled with the fact that the work indicators for the new year are down like Mount Tai, how can it not make people want to quit?
In the face of tremendous pressure, the vast majority of people in the workplace will carry out ideological "self-dissection". "New year, new weather, am I going to waste time this year on this position that is impossible to make a big progress?"

"I work endless overtime every day. I have lost my personal time and myself for work. Is it really worth it?"

"The work has encountered a bottleneck that is difficult to break through. Should we continue to 'cook the qualifications' like this, or move to other industries?"

"Consecutive years of overloaded work have exhausted me physically and mentally. Should there be a brief break and pause in my career?"

…Whether it is a young person who has just entered the workplace or an elite professional who has been working for many years, they often feel confused about their careers, and then fall into a vicious circle of self-denial.In the end, I was exhausted physically and mentally, and I was really unable to continue working, so I had no choice but to resign.

· Self-denial leads to a vicious circle

In real life, there are often such people who change jobs too frequently. It is common to change jobs in two or three months. What's more, the frequency of changing jobs can be measured in "days".Why change jobs so frequently?Because I feel that I am not qualified for the new job, I feel powerless and exhausted in the process of working, which is really unbearable.But are they really incompetent?

Although different positions have different requirements for practitioners, except for those highly specialized jobs, as long as they are willing to learn and adapt, there is no such thing as incompetence.The reason why they feel unable to undertake work is entirely because of lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem, which lead to psychological changes.A person's potential is unlimited, but if you deny yourself from the very beginning, you are doomed to become a mediocre person, and even give up on yourself in self-denial, and become a "discarded person in the workplace".

When you first enter the workplace, you are full of energy and high morale, but after working in the same job for a long time, you will often feel tired, sleepy, or even bored, and then start thinking wildly: "Am I not suitable for this job?" Work?" "Work is really getting more and more difficult, and I feel powerless for such a simple job. Is my ability really so poor?" Christian Masler, a famous Canadian psychologist, described the work of burnout patients It is called "company sleeping man". From a psychological point of view, the terrible thing about job burnout is not only that it will make you lose your work motivation, but more importantly, it will make you fall into a vicious circle of self-denial.

If you work for a long time, you will feel bored. Once you are bored, even simple and easy work will become extremely heavy. The exhausted workplace will greatly reduce your work efficiency. As a result, the work that can be completed in 10 minutes Work, often taking hours.Every time you work, when you think of the more and more tired body and mind, the more and more difficult tasks to complete, and the increasing mental pressure, you have to start to doubt your ability, and once you have doubts about yourself, you will become more and more Procrastination gets more exhausting.

·The abyss of burnout

Job burnout is a very normal psychological phenomenon. If you accidentally suffer from job burnout, don’t attribute it to your own lack of ability. Instead, you should properly adjust your mental state and strive to get rid of job burnout as soon as possible.Otherwise, once caught in the vicious circle of self-denial, it will be difficult to escape from the abyss of procrastination, burnout and despair.

Zhao Zhi is an ordinary security guard in a property company. When talking about his experience as a leader in a large listed company, many people think he is bragging, but he was indeed the middle-level leader of the company 5 years ago.The leader of the company has status and high income, why did Zhao Zhi resign to work as a security guard instead of doing such a job?
As the saying goes, "Find a job when you are in the position." In a leadership position, it is natural to bear more responsibilities and pressures than ordinary employees.Zhao Zhi is in charge of the company's sales department. Although the annual income is high, the hard work is unimaginable.Due to the nature of his work, Zhao Zhi is on business trips almost every day. In 1 days a year, he spends more than 365 days at work, and more than 350 days on business trips. There is no rest day at all.

The busy work made Zhao Zhi have no time to take care of his family. The moment his daughter was taken out of the delivery room, he was on a business trip abroad, and he could not accompany his wife who was about to give birth, nor could he witness the birth of a new life; , brother-in-law's family and his wife are taking turns to take care of him, and he can only greet him by phone when he is far away.Over time, his wife was full of complaints about him, and his parents and sister also complained about him. The disharmony in the family made him feel more and more mentally stressed.

Sales is a job full of pressure and challenges. Although he has been in the position of department head for 3 years, Zhao Zhi not only did not feel the ease of practice makes perfect, but became more and more depressed and tired.The good and bad performance, coupled with the complaints and criticisms from his family, made Zhao Zhi feel more and more difficult in his daily work.

"Can't I really balance my career and family?" "This year's performance is not as good as last year. Is it possible that I really should abdicate?" Traveling on errands is like breaking through the gate of hell."

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Unknowingly, Zhao Zhi attributed his job burnout to his age and lack of ability, but he didn't know that this would make him feel more guilty in the leadership position.Not long after, Zhao Zhi, who was physically and mentally exhausted, had fallen into a vicious circle of self-denial, so he applied for a salary cut and was approved by his superiors.But the problem has not been solved, on the contrary, it has become more and more serious.Zhao Zhi even felt that he had no ability to do sales anymore, as long as he thought of going to meet customers to discuss business, he would involuntarily feel guilty and guilty.What should we do?

During these years of work, Zhao Zhi has accumulated a lot of wealth. Even if he does not work for a few years, his family will have no worries about food and clothing. It is better to find an easy job and spend more time with his family.Although his wife and parents strongly opposed Zhao Zhi's resignation to become a security guard, he resolutely quit his high-paying job and became a security guard.

Sometimes, only by experiencing it first-hand can we find that the truth is very different from the imagination.Since Zhao Zhi started working as a security guard, the gossip around him has never stopped. Relatives, friends and former colleagues have said a lot of sarcasm openly and secretly. In addition, in order to maintain the original standard of living, Zhao Zhi has spent a lot of savings. Don't start thinking about finding another high-paying job again.Regrettably, self-denial has already made him a person who even looked down on him. He even felt that he was not qualified for any job other than security. The idea of ​​finding a job.

The stage is as big as your heart is. If you always confine your heart in a small corner, then you will not be able to get out of the ordinary and achieve a great cause throughout your life.

· Adjust mentality and regain self-confidence
American clinical psychologist Freude Berger believes that burnout is a symptom of emotional exhaustion at work.According to relevant survey data, among every 100 Chinese, 12 people have symptoms of severe emotional exhaustion, and 9 people have symptoms of severe cynicism. No matter what kind of symptoms, the root cause is self-denial.

Professor Xu Yan from the Department of Psychology of Beijing Normal University pointed out in her report: "People, especially young and middle-aged people, will gradually lose their creativity in their long-term occupations, and along with the decrease in their sense of value, they will feel more and more mentally and physically. You are exhausted." Burnout is not good news for most people in the workplace. What is even more frightening is that if you cannot adjust your status in time, you are likely to fall into a vicious circle of self-denial and become more and more unable to cope Work, stubborn procrastination will follow.

No one wants their career to end in endless delays, but how do you know exactly if you have self-denying burnout tendencies?Let's take a little mental test:

(1) Always worry about gains and losses when doing things, especially at critical moments, either hesitate or be at a loss.

(2) The work is getting more and more difficult, the pressure is getting bigger and bigger, the procrastination is getting worse, and I often feel that I am worthless.

(3) It is difficult to concentrate, work efficiency is getting lower and lower, lack of self-confidence and vitality.

(4) Often stay up late and work overtime, lack of sleep, and have no motivation to work.

(5) I have to bite the bullet every day when I go to work, and I can make do with it every day.

(6) I feel more and more frustrated and disappointed with myself, with a strong sense of guilt in my heart, and I can't even bear this kind of self.

(7) The contrast between the imagined self and the real self is too large, and I am very dissatisfied with myself, and often fall into anxiety because of this.

(8) Procrastination is getting worse day by day, and work is becoming more and more emboldened.For the above items, choose one of "Yes" or "No".The number of times you check "Yes" is directly proportional to the degree of self-denial.If the test results show that you have fallen into a vicious circle of self-denial, don’t worry, you may wish to adjust your mentality through the following methods, and regain your energetic and extremely confident self.

1. Acts of kindness "light up" the future

The more people are in an excellent group, the easier it is to have self-denial, because your reference is more capable than ordinary people.If you compare yourself with those elites all day long, you will inevitably feel that you are inferior in ability, communication, and in all aspects.As the saying goes, "Comparing people, you will die, and goods will be thrown away." If you are surrounded by professional elites, then if you want to get rid of self-denial, in addition to improving your business capabilities, you can also participate in some charity activities, or Volunteer on weekends and holidays.

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