Do it and you can beat procrastination

Chapter 3 The Psychology of Procrastination, 5 Psychological Effects of Procrastination (2)
·The over limit effect is too much
The so-called over-limit effect refers to the psychological phenomenon of extreme impatience or rebellion caused by too much stimulation, too strong or too long acting time.This kind of psychological phenomenon can be seen almost everywhere in your daily life: seeing the same advertisement every day will cause disgust and resistance; being nagged by mother every day, you can’t help but want to talk back; it’s obviously just a trivial matter, but if The teacher or leader repeatedly criticizes, but instead of trying to correct it, he will break the can and smash it... Appropriate stimulation is a good thing, but if the stimulation is too much, it will often go too far.

In essence, the core message conveyed by the over-limit effect is speed, that is, no matter what you do, you must master an appropriate speed.If you accidentally cross the line, you may run counter to your intended goal, or even do bad things with good intentions.The purpose of advertising on TV is to increase product popularity and leave a good impression on the audience, thereby prompting the audience to have a desire to buy.Within the appropriate tolerance range, advertisements can attract the audience's attention to the products they promote or the services they provide, but if they are too much, they will be annoying, and they will also disgust the products or services. As a result, they will not only fail to promote sales. , and instead lifted a rock and shot himself in the foot, the loss outweighed the gain.

In fact, most people understand the truth that too much is too much, but why do people still make such low-level mistakes?The over-limit effect is like the tip of an iceberg floating on the water surface, and the huge iceberg hidden under the water surface is the key to the problem.A self-centered person naturally lacks empathy in dealing with others, and does not pay much attention to methods and methods, so he will fall into the quagmire of over-limit effects and cannot extricate himself.

· Exceeding the limit is counterproductive
In real life, many people have this feeling: "I'm busy every day, but I don't know what I'm busy with, I can't see the results, and I can't achieve the goal. It’s all useless work.” Why did this happen?If you are not lazy, but you procrastinate a lot of work, this is because all you do is beyond the limit.From the perspective of work efficiency, the work beyond the limit and the sweat and effort put in are "thankless".If you can't avoid this stupid way of working and methods, you will only do more and more work, and the more diligent you are, the more you will be in the opposite direction.

Therefore, don't underestimate the over-limit effect. Only the efforts and dedication established within a certain range will be rewarded. If it exceeds a certain degree, it will be counterproductive.

Wang Bo is the store manager of a pharmaceutical chain store.In the eyes of superiors, he is a rigorous and serious manager; but in the eyes of employees, he is an out-and-out "black-faced Hades", whose seriousness and selflessness can be regarded as scary.

Medicines are different from other products, and if they make mistakes, they may cause death. Therefore, Wang Bo has formulated a very complete and strict new management system for the pharmacy, and repeatedly asked employees to improve their service awareness and satisfy customers as much as possible. need.

After the new management system was released, although the employees didn't say anything, they had a lot of complaints in their hearts.Employees have rebellious psychology and deliberate resistance, so naturally they cannot strictly abide by the new management system, so soon a female employee "bumped into the gun."When the employee sold prescription drugs, he did not follow the "double review system" stipulated by the pharmacy to recheck, but took it for granted and sold the drugs directly to customers.But no one thought that it was such a small mistake that had a very bad impact on the store.

After returning home, the customer found that the drug he bought did not match the name of the drug that he had reported when he bought it. Although the outer packaging looked very similar, it was indeed not the same drug, so he went to the pharmacy in a fit of anger and asked for a refund. The store manager complained to the female employee who took the wrong medicine.After learning about this, Wang Bo, the store manager, was very angry. After dealing with the customer complaints, he called the female employee who made the mistake to the office to criticize severely, and fined the employee 200 yuan according to the regulations of the pharmacy. element processing.

When employees make mistakes, it is understandable for the leaders to conduct necessary criticism and education, but unfortunately, Wang Bo does not understand what is meant by "click until the end", and instead intensifies it.For a long period of time, in every morning meeting, he would criticize the female employee as a "model of mistakes", and warn other employees to be a warning when selling prescription drugs.After the female employee made a mistake, she felt guilty and wanted to repent, but who knew that the store manager was always chattering to "expose people's scars".

People can not escape from doing wrong?As a leader, when criticizing and educating employees, you must master the appropriate scale, and you must not let the over-limit effect harm you. If Wang Bo can realize that his criticism is "over the top", it will not cause female employees to resign.

From a management point of view, personnel instability often brings greater instability to pharmacy management, which is a result that leaders do not want to see.Sometimes, not all faults can be resolved through criticism. Employees who are self-conscious and introspective can immediately make positive corrections even if they make mistakes, and there is no need for stimulation at all.If you don't realize this, but criticize as much as you want, it is very likely to cause irreparable psychological damage to the other party.

If you want to win people's hearts and attract talents, you must avoid exceeding your own behavior limits.Some people make mistakes only by accident, not knowingly; "One size fits all" type of crude criticism.

The fundamental reason why the female employee in the above case resigned was that Wang Bo, as the store manager, did not grasp the scale of criticism well, which led to the over-limit effect and played a counterproductive role.

The skill of fighting and dragging: just right, avoiding the over-limit effect
Are you still doing useless work?Are you still distressed and entangled because of doing thankless things?Procrastinating at work is certainly not a good thing, but working too hard is not a good sign either.Only diligence established within a moderate range is effective, otherwise we can only make more mistakes, which is completely different from the original expected goal.So, how can we avoid the fuss caused by the overrun effect?

1. Criticism should also emphasize art
For leaders, criticism is like a double-edged sword. If it is used well, it can cultivate a group of effective employees. If it is not used well, it may hurt others and oneself.

If you want to make good use of this double-edged sword, you must avoid the influence of the over-limit effect.So how can we not exceed the limit?

Relevant survey data show that after being criticized, more than 75% of employees will develop inferiority complex, and nearly 50% of them will experience poor performance such as decreased work efficiency or low work mood.However, employees always make mistakes in their daily work. If they are always left alone, it is easy to cause confusion in management.Since criticism is indispensable, leaders must learn and master the art of criticism.

Might as well "slap a slap and give a sweet date". Although this method is not new, it can effectively prevent employees from rebellious psychology due to the leader's criticism of exceeding the limit.If the leader can give some comfort or encouragement to the employees after criticism, then the proportion of employees who can improve their work in a timely and proactive manner can be as high as 90%. It is not difficult to see that the critical art of "giving sweet dates" can indeed avoid exceeding the limit effect.

2. The power of humor is beyond imagination

It is also criticism, which form is more acceptable to employees, whether it is a serious lecture with a straight face or a relaxed and humorous ridicule?The conclusion speaks for itself.Therefore, leaders may wish to learn to use humor to resolve the embarrassment in criticism, and use informal ridicule to reduce the invisible damage caused by criticism to employees' psychology.

Many times, hysterical criticism only produces a reaction of fear and resistance.Why beat the drum with a heavy hammer?If using a humorous and relaxed way can serve as a spur to the other party, why do you have to criticize endlessly and make the other party bored?No one wants to be a "public enemy", and no one wants to be a person who is bored and isolated by everyone.It is almost impossible to control everything in life. Facing the over-limit effect, learn to use the power of humor!Humor can melt the "ice" between people, can act as a lubricant for interpersonal relationships, and can make people smile when they meet each other... There is no doubt that the power of humor is sometimes beyond your imagination.

3. Do unto others what you do not want unto yourself

Most of the over-limit effect is because you are self-centered. As long as the other party's actions do not conform to your thoughts and ideas, you will criticize them.The ancient sage Confucius once warned people to "don't do to others what you don't want to do to yourself", that is to say, don't impose on others what you don't want to do, but in real life, there are not many people who can really empathize .

Many leaders don't understand the hard work of employees and various complicated situations. Even if employees make a slight mistake, they can't help but yell at them. In fact, think about it from another angle. Which employee is willing to be criticized by the leader?Especially in public places such as group meetings, who doesn't want the leader to save some face for himself?If you can't put yourself in another place when criticizing and reprimanding employees, and you can't take into account the psychological endurance of the other party, just scold them directly, and the result can be imagined.

Not only will employees not take the initiative to correct mistakes, but they will also have a rebellious mentality, specifically confronting the leader, and even take "beating" the leader as their work goal.So, don't let the over-limit effect destroy yourself.

After understanding the principle of translimit effect, you can use it to guide your daily work and life.If you want to use a speech to grab the audience, don't talk endlessly. It is the easiest and most effective way to attract the audience in the first 3 minutes.If you want to use conversation to sell your products or services, you must also grasp the time well. Too long foreshadowing will only make the other party keep looking at the watch, thus losing the best sales opportunity.If the company has the idea of ​​advertising, it must pay more attention to avoiding the over-limit effect. Otherwise, the result of a large amount of advertising expenses is often not the skyrocketing sales performance, but the ending of the image of its own products being destroyed.

"Haste makes waste", you want to overcome procrastination at work, it is a good thing to improve work efficiency as much as possible, but you can't eat hot tofu in a hurry, you must do things just right, and master the right "heat" to avoid the extremes of things. negative effects.

The Ostrich Effect: Escapism, Negativity and Pessimism

There is such a classic question in the company's recruitment interview: "What are your greatest strengths and weaknesses? What impact will these strengths and weaknesses have on your performance in the company?"

Of course, different young people will have different answers.The answers are varied and can be said to be messy.So, let’s take a look at a more standard answer: "My biggest advantage is that after 4 years of study in college, I have learned to use rational thinking to think about problems, and I can keep my head in the midst of messy work. Sober and methodical. My biggest weakness is my lack of patience for things that are out of order. I long for an organized and well-organized team. I believe my organizational sense and talent can help the company achieve various goals."

The reason why this answer is still being used today, and it is regarded as a classic case in the textbooks for applicants, is not because of its content, but its organizational logic.On the one hand, it answers the greatest strengths of the job seekers, on the other hand, it does not evade the question, and bravely faces up to its own weaknesses.

For some people, such an answer is too cheeky and embarrassing.However, it's really a technique of showing up and recommending yourself without delay.Psychological studies have found that most modern people adopt an evasive attitude in the face of pressure, knowing that a problem is about to happen and not thinking about countermeasures, which will only make the problem more complicated and difficult to deal with.

·An ostrich who dare not face reality
Just like when an ostrich encounters danger and thinks it cannot run away, it will burrow its head into the sand, thinking that it is safe if its eyes cannot see, and successfully throws off the pursuer, but instead falls into greater danger. .In fact, the two legs of an ostrich are very long, and its running speed is enough to escape the attack of the enemy. If it does not burrow its head into the sand and wait to die, it is possible to avoid the attack of the beast.Later, psychologists called this negative attitude the ostrich effect.

The ostrich effect is a behavior of escaping from reality, and it is also a cowardly behavior of not daring to face problems, that is, procrastination is caused by not daring to face problems.There is such a joke circulating on Weibo: "If you see a certain author, editor or screenwriter starting to scroll on Weibo early in the morning, and there is him wherever there is something, it means that this person is far away from submitting manuscripts, submitting papers, etc. The 'dead limit' for columns, submissions, and layouts is approaching again." In fact, this is a concrete manifestation of the ostrich effect.

You often hear words like, "I don't want to do this job, it's too difficult" "There are so many steps in this job, it's too annoying, let's start doing it tomorrow", these words clearly show the mood of fighting anxiety, At this time, you will be unwilling to start this work immediately, and you will not do it as long as you have time. When you know that you can no longer escape, you may have given up.Therefore, in order to combat anxiety at work, you often take some measures, such as avoiding, diverting attention, etc. to combat this anxiety, so as to make yourself feel more comfortable.

Therefore, when you encounter a problem, don't say "I can't do it", don't make excuses, and think about whether there is a solution.The result is a result of fighting. If you don’t fight yourself, no one can help you, and no one can solve the problem.

·What are you afraid of?

People's psychological activities are always changing, sometimes excited and happy, sometimes depressed and negative.Optimistic people also have misfortunes and troubles, as well as pessimistic thoughts, or lament and regret, discouraged, or full of complaints and blame.Today, when I get scolded by the boss, I feel that my ability to work is too poor; when I quarrel with my girlfriend tomorrow, I feel that no one in the world understands me; occasionally I have a bad fight with my friends, and I feel that my previous sincerity and friendliness are in vain. unhappy.

Sometimes, you feel inexplicable sadness, the world becomes so gray, and even your mouth has a kind of bitterness.Recalling the past can't arouse a little joy in my heart, life is so helpless.The sky is clear and clear, you walk on the street full of pedestrians and flowers, but you don't feel the vitality at all, and your heart is full of sadness.In the dead of night, you toss and turn and cannot sleep, the past is vivid in your mind, but your mood is very low.TV dramas or news reports can bring back your sad memories; while other people's self-satisfied chats will add to your troubles and frustrations.The songs and music programs played on the radio will form a picture in your mind and evoke your painful memories; ordering food at a banquet, a gathering of friends, a familiar scene, or strangers on the street, A model, a style of clothing, a hospital, a park, a theater or a school will all make you feel emotional.

Why do you always have some negative thoughts in your daily life and make you feel unhappy?This is because those pessimistic emotions completely distort your life.After three years of hard work in high school, Liu Yang was admitted to a highly competitive law school.After entering the university, he became an outstanding student again.But he has a very bad habit, that is, he often struggles with procrastination and often has to stay up all night in order to write case summaries or cope with exams.Fortunately, his performance has always been very good. After graduating from university, he entered a prestigious law firm with great pride, hoping that he could eventually become one of the partners of the firm.

(End of this chapter)