Do it and you can beat procrastination

Chapter 5 The Psychology of Procrastination, 5 Psychological Effects of Procrastination (4)
Although Gao Le has done a good job, the result is not satisfactory. The sales department has failed to complete the scheduled sales target for 3 consecutive months.This made Gao Le very anxious. Every day, he wondered what he didn't do well?Is the management not strict enough?Is the price authority not released?Or do you not know enough about your competitors' sales strategies? … At this time, he didn’t realize that his way of thinking of “only finding faults” was fundamentally wrong, and he didn’t even foresee the impact of such thinking traits.

If you have something in you, it will be easier than ordinary people to notice whether others also have this quality.Gao Le not only looked for problems from himself, but also began to notice the mistakes of his employees.In order to help employees reduce work mistakes, he specially called each salesperson to the office in turn for a "heart-to-heart talk".

In fact, it is almost a common problem of company leaders to always focus on "what is doing poorly" like Gao Le.In the process of running the company, they always pay attention to negative news.Wherever things are done poorly, they will go there to guide the work; where things are not done well, they will focus on which things to focus on.But always pay attention to the company's problems, pay attention to the shortcomings of employees, and always make up for the shortcomings and eliminate employees with problems. Can this really solve the problem?
There is such a famous saying in the study of success: "Success will not be achieved by changing the shortcomings, but success will be achieved by making use of the advantages." It is very simple for Gao Le to improve the sales performance of the department: in addition to focusing on his own advantages, he must also pay attention to the advantages of employees , and encourage and effectively support them, they will naturally be able to stimulate everyone's potential, so as to achieve maximum success.Unfortunately, Gao Le did not do this, but chose a completely opposite path.His pickiness and criticism quickly aroused the dissatisfaction of the employees, but everyone dared not speak up and had to resign one after another.As a result, Gao Le not only failed to solve the problem that the sales task could not be achieved smoothly, but also lost a large number of elite soldiers.From this, it is not difficult to see that the negative impact of the retinal effect cannot be underestimated.

Fighting and dragging: Overcoming the effects of the retinal effect

No one will take the initiative to make friends with people who are full of negative energy. Mr. Carnegie put forward this point very early on.In his view, everyone's characteristics are composed of positive and negative energies, of which about 80% are advantages and the remaining 20% ​​are disadvantages.That is to say, the advantages of most people outweigh the disadvantages, but why do many people only see the disadvantages and turn a blind eye to the advantages?

When a person only sees his own shortcomings but not his own advantages, the retinal effect will prompt you to find that many people have similar shortcomings, so interpersonal relationships cannot be improved, and work and career are not easy to improve .Carefully observe the people and things around you. Those who often scold others fiercely, do they have a bad temper themselves?This is the power of the retinal effect.Since the retinal effect will bring you such a negative impact, then you must consciously stay away from this negative impact.Specifically, what should you do about it?

1. To change yourself is to change the world
If a person wants to have good popularity and establish a network of contacts that "extend in all directions", he must cultivate the ability to appreciate and affirm himself.From a psychological point of view, the world is the external projection of people's true heart. If you stubbornly think that you can't change your bad interpersonal relationship and become an open-minded person, it can only mean that you don't realize the change at all. The importance of self.

It is also half a glass of water, the pessimist will only sigh regretfully: "Oh, why is there only half a glass of water left"; while the optimist will happily shout: "There is still half a glass of water here, which is really good." You are always complaining that others do not take the initiative to greet you, so you might as well reflect on whether you have ever taken the initiative to say hello to others; if you feel that your colleagues are against you everywhere, then you might as well reflect on whether you are always targeting others... Everyone's life is a mirror, how you treat the people around you, the people around you will treat you in the same way.If you can face others with a smile, others will naturally return you with a smile.If you want to overcome the negative effects brought by the retinal effect, you must change yourself, learn to tolerate your own shortcomings, affirm your own advantages, and learn to face everything around you with an appreciation. Only in this way can you live a better life hapiness!
2. Use imitation learning to open a door to success
Whether it is in life or at work, there will always be various positive role models, as well as negative role models.In fact, imitating positive role models and staying away from negative role models can often help you overcome the negative effects of the retinal effect, which cause greater procrastination in work and life.

The first task of imitation learning is to establish imitation objects.When choosing who to imitate, you must choose those excellent role models who are noticeable, commendable, prestigious, professional and capable.In addition, you must also consider your own needs. If you want to improve your eloquence, then choose those who have excellent eloquence as objects of imitation; people as objects of imitation.Generally speaking, two basic principles should be followed when choosing an imitator: one is to meet the needs of the society, which is a positive behavior; the other is to meet the needs of the imitator and help the imitator to improve.

The science of success always believes that "to a certain extent, success can be replicated." Imitating someone will prompt you to actively adjust your words and deeds in the direction of imitation.To overcome the negative effects of the retinal effect, one must imitate good role models and stay away from bad ones.If you blindly regard negative characters as objects of imitation, even if you are an excellent person with a sense of justice, you will gradually lose yourself in the wrong direction of imitation and fall into the bottomless abyss.Therefore, choosing the object of imitation is the key to the imitation learning method, and you must pay enough attention to it.

The retinal effect is highly subjective, so you must remind yourself repeatedly in your daily life that you must be tolerant of your own or other people's shortcomings, and you must not hold on to them.We must actively explore the advantages of ourselves and others, neither ignore the advantages of others, nor condone the shortcomings of others.Only in this way can you effectively limit the negative effects of the retinal effect, give full play to its positive effects, and help yourself build a good relationship.

The Ultimatum Effect: Catching the Last Train
In daily work, no matter what industry you are in, or whether you are an ordinary employee or a leader, almost everyone is afraid of difficulties.Because you are afraid of difficulties, you are always timid when you encounter problems, and you will procrastinate as long as conditions permit. But can procrastination really relieve your anxiety and uneasiness in your heart?

"I have to sort out the sales data in the past two days. I'm so annoying. Anyway, the manager hasn't asked for it yet. Let's talk about it when he wants it!"

"Isn't the report due next week? There is no need to worry now."

"There is pressure to be motivated. If you really can't procrastinate, you will naturally be able to complete work tasks efficiently."

"I've been exhausted for the past few days, let's take a rest."

...Procrastination in the workplace can be seen almost everywhere. Some people even directly regard leisure as work, preferring to "pretend to be an ostrich" rather than face the setbacks and difficulties in work, which leads to work being delayed again and again, until the deadline is reached , had to bite the bullet and go up to finish the work in a hurry.

Who is more likely to be appreciated by the leadership than the person who is proactive in completing the work and the person who is always procrastinating until the end?
The answer is self-evident.Although most of us understand this truth, there is still an unconscious tendency to procrastinate when it comes to tasks that don't need to be done right away.In their view, although procrastination is not a good habit, it is not to the point where it is necessary to go online.As everyone knows, it is this indifferent attitude that leads to more and more serious procrastination, which leads to self-psychological torture, and gradually plunges the originally beautiful life into the abyss of fear, irritability and hopelessness.

· Understand the ultimatum effect
It is clear that the work can be completed ahead of time, but it is always used to finishing it when the deadline arrives. This behavior pattern is called the ultimatum effect in psychology.From a psychological point of view, procrastination is not only a bad habit, but also a hidden danger to the health of psychological diseases such as anxiety and depression. It often increases people's psychological burden and makes people stay in a state of fear or anxiety for a long time. state, and even directly cause mental disorders or diseases.

If anyone thinks this is alarmist talk, then it is a big mistake.Dr. Tim Bezier, a professor of psychology at Carton University in Ottawa, Canada, once conducted a workplace survey on procrastination. He randomly selected 100 company employees who thought they had a tendency to procrastinate as a sample, and asked them to A follow-up survey was conducted during the last week of the term.

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