The world's greatest get rich bible

Chapter 153 Words are the measure of character 3
Volume 6 Chapter 3 Words are the measure of character [-]
Think like an elite, follow the crowd

It is difficult to correct mistakes in a boat against the current, and it is full of dangers. Only Socrates dares to take this risk.To think otherwise is to insult someone else, because it means that you are doubting his judgment.When you criticize a certain opinion, you indirectly criticize those who agree with it, so you will make many people feel unhappy.Truth is held by only a few, and vulgar deceit is common.It's hard to judge people's wisdom by what they say in public, because they don't mean what they say, perhaps just to please the public, but they hate it in their hearts.A prudent wise man avoids both being contradicted and contradicting others.Although he has made judgments long ago, he does not easily publish them in the public.People's thoughts are free and should not be violated.They hide and wait silently, and will never reveal themselves easily until they meet a worthy person.

——"The Book of Wisdom"

The ancient Greek philosopher Pythagoras once said: "Live like this: so that your friends will not become enemies, but your enemies will become your friends." Wherever you find a friend, you will be reborn there, and Where you set up an enemy, you will fall; a thousand friends are too few, and one enemy is too many, a gentle look from a friend, a sincere word, can make you endure the hardships that life gives you Suffering, and the resentment from the enemy can make you feel like sitting on pins and needles, and the original gorgeous life is eclipsed.

Human feelings are cold and warm, the world is impermanent, as many people as you intersect with, there are more paths, and as many people as your enemies, there are as many walls as possible. Human beings seek comfort, value and protection in mutual interactions. Relationships keep people from fighting the world alone.In other words, people can survive only by helping each other. Even Robinson Robinson living on a deserted island has a partner named "Friday", not to mention people in a social circle full of fierce competition, noise and disputes. us.Therefore, offending people easily is an act of depriving oneself of living space.And those who are easy to adapt to others, their understanding is obvious.

People often like to be close to people with similar interests and tempers, and likewise avoid those who they don't like and are unwilling to deal with.But more often than not, I always work with people I don't like very much.And adjusting yourself, being able to get along with people you don't like is a strong person.Everyone has their own strengths. People who can't get your favor don't mean they don't have a point, and their personality doesn't necessarily have problems. Maybe we can learn skills from them to enrich ourselves.Therefore, we must learn to put aside our prejudices, open our hearts, and treat others with sincerity.Being able to get along with people you don't like is a kind of skill in life, and even more a kind of wisdom.

Harmon was once known as the greatest mining engineer in the world. After graduating from the famous Yale University, he studied in Freiburg, Germany for three years.After graduating and returning to China, he went to find Hasto, a mine owner in the western United States.Hastor is a stubborn and practical person, and he does not trust those gentle and theoretical mining engineering technicians.

When Harmon applied for a job with Hasto, Hasto said: "The reason I don't like you is because you did research in Freiburg. I think your mind must be full of a lot of stupid theories. .Therefore, I am not going to hire you."

So Harmon pretended to be timid and said to Hastor, "If you don't tell my father, I will tell you the truth." Hastor said he could keep the promise.Harmon then said: "Actually, when I was in Freiburg, I didn't learn any knowledge. I just focused on working on the ground, earning more money, and accumulating more practical experience."

Hastor immediately laughed out loud, and quickly said, "Okay! That's great! I just need someone like you, so come to work tomorrow!"

Smart people tend to make some "small concessions" when getting along with people they don't like, or when facing different opinions.Whenever a dispute arises, they always think: can some concessions be made on this point without compromising the overall situation?Therefore, no matter when you get along with someone you don't like, the only way to deal with the resentment of others is to make concessions in small areas to ensure victory in big areas.

Adjusting yourself to suit others does not mean that you are an unprincipled person, but it proves your generosity and prudence.Concession does not mean compromise, but to win a bigger victory.People who know how to be human will also get along peacefully with people who don't like or agree with them under various circumstances. This is wisdom.The world is so big, yet so closely connected, who can guarantee contact with those who are not speculators.Once you need the help of these people for something at this moment, it will undoubtedly be of great help to you to establish a good relationship with them in advance.

Some of those people we should not offend can be used by us, while others are selfish.In front of the latter, if we express too much disgust, it is easy to cause unnecessary trouble for ourselves.

A sensible person avoids being contradicted, and avoids contradicting others.He may have been quick to criticize, but he did not do so easily in public.After all, everyone's emotions and speech are free and should not be unreasonably violated.

Smart people can flexibly use refutation and non-refutation, refutation and non-refutation.We might as well try to get in touch with different types of people around us, and we will always gain something from them. Whether it is good or bad, this gain is an accumulation of life experience for us.

(End of this chapter)