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Chapter 65 Win-Win Thinking: The World Is a Win-Win Stage, Not an Arena 2
Volume 4 Chapter 2 Win-Win Thinking: The world is a win-win stage, not an arena [-]
Don't be too "maverick"

We all know that by opening an account in a bank, you can save for a rainy day.The so-called emotional account stores the indispensable "trust" to enhance interpersonal relationships, that is, a "sense of security" when others get along with you.

-- "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People"

If you want to achieve a win-win result, you must carefully manage interpersonal relationships.Mr. Covey said: "Interpersonal relationships based on the concept of benefiting others and self are based on a solid emotional account, and mutual trust and mutual dependence. Therefore, individual ingenuity can be invested in solving problems, rather than being wasted on suspicion and defense." Therefore, when getting along with others, you need to continuously increase the savings in your emotional account, including personal cultivation such as politeness, honesty, kindness, and credit, all of which can increase others' trust in yourself.

On the contrary, if a person is too "unique" and highlights his edge too much, it may cause alienation between the two parties.Personality should be maintained, but if a person flaunts some anti-traditional concepts or weird behaviors in order to show his courage to go against the trend, it will only leave the impression of grandstanding. attention, but may arouse contempt and resentment from others.Excessive "maverick" is a dangerous signal. If a person cannot form a harmonious interpersonal relationship with others, how can he talk about mutual cooperation, sharing results, and achieving a win-win situation?

A society is a crowd composed of countless individuals. In fact, everyone's living space is limited.So when you want to stretch your limbs for comfort, you must be careful not to bump into others; when you flaunt your individuality, you must consider whether what you are flaunting is individuality or willfulness, and you must pay attention to the acceptance of others.

Don't let flamboyant personality be a pretty excuse for indulging in your own shortcomings.Society needs people to create value. Others first pay attention to whether a person's work quality is conducive to creating value, rather than how much freshness a person's personality can bring to the group.What the society needs is a productive personality. If your personality can be integrated into your creative talents and abilities and can create value, you can be accepted by the society. If your personality does not appear as a talent, but only as a temper, It can often only bring you bad results.

Some people think that a person without personality is like a glass of plain water, unable to attract the attention of others.But it ignores that a person with too strong personality is like a sharp hedgehog. This kind of sharpness often damages the self-esteem of others, and even destroys the unity of the team, and in the end it hurts others and oneself.Therefore, instead of focusing on the shaping of personality, it is better to do things in a down-to-earth manner, properly handle interpersonal relationships with others, and constantly increase deposits in your interpersonal relationship accounts, because these deposits will play a considerable role when necessary , can be used to make up for mistakes even after they have been made.

Mr. Covey believes that in order to obtain a more harmonious interpersonal relationship, there are mainly six types of deposits that can be deposited into emotional accounts:
1. Understand others
Understanding is the foundation of all emotions. Only by taking the initiative to understand and be considerate of others, instead of always putting yourself in others' shoes, can you get others' understanding and response. This is to achieve harmonious interpersonal relationships A must.

2. Pay attention to the subsections
Mr. Covey once took his two sons to the movies.The youngest son fell asleep in the car on the way home, so Covey took off his jacket and covered him.After returning home, Covey felt that the eldest son was a little depressed, so he asked why.Under his father's questioning, the eldest son actually asked in tears: "Father, if I feel cold too, will you take off your coat and put it on for me?"

The son's question made Covey realize that everyone's heart is extremely fragile.So, anyone should pay attention to those seemingly insignificant details, perhaps the most important factors affecting relationships are the little things.

3. Keep promises
Don't break your promise. Keeping your promise can bring you huge income, but breaking your promise is like a huge expense.If you don't want to make ends meet, you must pay attention to any promise you make to others.If you find it difficult to achieve before you agree, don't make promises lightly.

4. Clarify expectations
Honesty is also very important in interpersonal communication.We can't expect others to understand all our thoughts, because not all people have a natural tacit understanding.

5. Sincerity and integrity
The quality of sincerity and integrity can win the trust of others, thus expanding a person's network of relationships.Maintaining a heart of respect before and after others is the demeanor that an upright person should have.

6. Apologize
Apologizing is the last thing that many mavericks don't want to do, but if a person doesn't even have the courage to bear his own mistakes, how can others believe that he has the heart and ability to take on heavy responsibilities?

The more you want to maintain a long-term relationship with others, the more you need to keep saving, so restrain yourself, those thorny personalities cannot open the way for your future, but these gentle qualities accumulated over time can. Remove obstacles on the road to success.

(End of this chapter)