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Chapter 66 Win-Win Thinking: The World Is a Win-Win Stage, Not an Arena 3
Volume 4 Chapter 3 Win-Win Thinking: The world is a win-win stage, not an arena [-]
Others' gains are not necessarily their own losses
The altruistic person sees life as an arena for cooperation, not an arena.

-- "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People"

Mr. Covey said: "Most people use dichotomy when looking at problems: strong or weak, victory or defeat. In fact, the world is so big that everyone has enough room to stand. What others gain or don't need is regarded as their own loss."

There is a classic game in game theory that is very similar to this dichotomous point of view, that is, a zero-sum game, also called a zero-sum game.In a game, participants win and lose, the winner gets exactly what the loser loses, and the total score is always zero. This is called "zero-sum".However, with the development of the times, the "zero-sum" concept is gradually being replaced by the "win-win" concept.People began to realize that "self-interest" should not be based on "harming others". Through effective cooperation, a happy ending is possible.

A Dutch businessman introduced a rare flower from faraway Africa and cultivated it in his garden, hoping to sell it for a good price.The merchant loves this precious flower very much. Many relatives and friends ask him for it, but he refuses to give even a single seed.He plans to cultivate it for three years, and then sell it to relatives and friends after he has tens of thousands of flower seedlings.

In the spring of the first year, all the precious flowers in the flower garden were in full bloom, and the businessman was so happy that he could not close his mouth from ear to ear.

By the spring of the second year, the businessman already had five or six thousand of these precious flowers.But what puzzled him was that this year's flowers seemed to be smaller and had some variegated colors.

In the spring of the third year, he finally cultivated tens of thousands of flower seedlings, but to the dismay of the businessman, the flowers had become smaller and the color of the flowers was much worse, completely without its grace and beauty in Africa. noble.

Have these flowers degenerated?But Africans plant this kind of flower every year, and plant it in a large area year after year, and there has never been a similar situation.The businessman was puzzled, so he asked a botanist for advice.The botanist came to his flower garden with a cane and asked him, "What's next to your flower garden?"

"Next door is someone else's flower garden," he said.

The botanist asked him again: "Do they also grow this kind of flower?"

He shook his head and said, "I am the only one who has this kind of flower in the whole of Holland, and even in the whole of Europe. Their gardens are full of ordinary flowers like tulips, roses, and calendula."

"I know the deadly secret that your precious flower is no longer precious." The botanist said after pondering for a long time, "Although your flowerbed is full of this precious flower, the flowerbed adjacent to your flowerbed is planted With other flowers, your flowers are pollinated by the wind, and then pollinated by other species in the adjacent garden, so the flowers are not as good every year."

"Then what to do?" the businessman asked the botanist for help.

The botanist said: "Who can stop the wind from pollinating? There is only one way to keep your precious flowers from losing their true colors, and that is to let your neighbors' flower gardens also grow your flowers."

So the businessman had to distribute the flower seeds to his neighbors.In the spring of the following year, the flower gardens of the businessman and neighbors were full of this precious flower - the flowers are large and full, elegant in color, radiant and elegant.As soon as these flowers came into the market, they were sold out, and the merchant and his neighbors made a fortune.

The Dutch businessman initially wanted to keep his wealth alone, thinking that if he shared it with others, his wealth would be lost.Unexpectedly, the exclusive wealth is so short-lived.Later, he distributed the seeds to everyone, not only gaining wealth himself, but also helping others gain wealth.

People are generally selfish, but giving is always mutual.No one exists in society in isolation. There are various close connections between people, which require direct or indirect giving and receiving. No matter which link is missing, it will definitely affect the inseparable The whole, and oneself will also be affected to a certain extent.Only when you can share with others can you turn a zero-sum situation into a win-win situation.

Sharing can win-win.Knowing that sharing is a smart way to survive.Self-realization and helping others are two sides of the same coin, and they are dialectically interdependent. Only by understanding the meaning can one realize the supreme wisdom of survival.

When we abandon selfish behavior and give to others, we are helping ourselves to some extent.Because in this society that advocates cooperation, no one person can take on everything, and the embodiment of a person's value is often maintained on the basis of mutual assistance with others.Many times, only by sharing what you have with others can you find your own position and direction.

(End of this chapter)