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Chapter 70: Know Your Enemy, Understand Yourself: Be an Intentional, Highly Skilled Communicator 3
Volume 5 Chapter 3 Know Your Enemy and Understand Yourself: Be a Highly Skilled Communicator with Heart [-]
Use the magic of language skillfully

Some people directly appeal to the rationality of the left-brain supervisor when expressing their opinions, but it may not be convincing.

-- "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People"

Someone said: "The eyes can contain a beautiful world, but the mouth can describe a wonderful world." From this we can see that exquisite and superb language often has extraordinary charm.Some developed countries in Europe and the United States even list "tongue, money, and computer" as the three magic weapons. Good eloquence is recognized as one of the essential qualities of modern professionals.

Good eloquence is often the icing on the cake for a person's work, which requires the skillful use of language arts.If you want to become a highly effective person, you should pay attention to cultivating your ability to use language.A talker with profound attainments in language arts has various qualities, such as high theoretical level, extensive knowledge and solid language skills. Therefore, a person can improve himself in these aspects, and at the same time there are some rules to follow. expression skills.

1. Humor
Humor is a unique disposition that is both received from the sky and sought from the heart. It is an indispensable condiment and lubricant in life.Appropriate use of humorous language can clear up misunderstandings, dilute responsibilities, ease the atmosphere, relieve anxiety, and buffer tension; humorous language can also make strangers get acquainted, make lonely people get along with each other, and turn opponents into friends.Psychologist Wellers once said: "If you can make one person have a good impression of you, then it is possible to make everyone around you or even the whole world have a good impression of you. As long as you don't go around with Instead of shaking hands with people, spread your message with your friendliness, wit, and humor, and the distance in time and space will disappear.”

Former British Prime Minister Winston Churchill had a habit of pacing back and forth in the bathroom naked after taking a bath to rest.During World War II, once, Churchill came to the White House and asked the United States for military assistance.While he was pacing naked in the White House bathroom, someone knocked on the bathroom door.

"Come in, come in," Churchill yelled.As soon as the door opened, it was President Roosevelt who appeared at the door.Seeing that Churchill was naked, he turned and wanted to exit. "Come in, Mr. President." Churchill stretched out his arms and said loudly, "The Prime Minister of Great Britain has nothing to hide from the President of the United States." Seeing this scene, Roosevelt smiled knowingly and was moved by Churchill's witty humor. Admire.

It was through such a straightforward and humorous way that Churchill finally won the trust of the President of the United States and laid the foundation for the alliance between the United States and Britain.

2. Implicit method
The implicit method is a method of implicitly expressing the original intention by using roundabout language.Speakers often deliberately say something related or similar to the original intention, in order to euphemistically express what they intended to say directly.This is the "buffering method" in language communication. It can make the communication that has many difficulties smooth, and allow the other party to understand the meaning to be expressed in a more comfortable atmosphere.

3. Fuzzy method

Many languages ​​are often ambiguous.Sometimes when we use uncertain or imprecise language for communication and public relations, we can often achieve effects that are difficult to achieve with precise language.Of course, vague language needs to be used with caution.Because people with different backgrounds and different standpoints have different understandings of the meaning of vague words.

4. Decoration method
Voice, speech rate, and intonation also play an important role in conversation. A pleasant voice, appropriate speech rate, and beautiful intonation can enhance the charm of a person's conversation.When some people speak, their voices are weak and deep, vague, hesitating, and they tend to give people the feeling of cowardice, which not only damages the image, but also is not conducive to the normal expression of content.Therefore, if you want to achieve better communication effects, you might as well spend some thought on "decorating" your voice, mastering the rhythm and melody of your voice, and giving full play to the magic of language.

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