Your waywardness must be worthy of your ability

Chapter 2 Your willfulness must be worthy of your ability (1)
Only those who are capable and self-willed can be comfortable in life and move forward and retreat freely.Instead of taking willfulness as a kind of frankness and willful behavior.

Do you want to have a high salary of more than tens of thousands every month, more than 30 months of salary a year, more than [-] days of paid holidays every year, weekends and weekends, in addition, not only five insurances and one housing fund, but also various kind of welfare.Then one day when you feel in a bad mood, you can just throw away a note and go on a trip with your bag on your back?
Because you want to eat authentic Japanese sushi, you can buy a plane ticket and fly to Japan to watch the cherry blossoms and eat sushi on the same day...

Do you think this kind of life is comfortable?

But back to reality, most people live at two o'clock and one line every day, running around for three meals a day, not to mention traveling, even on weekends, they don't have much time to spend with their families.

why?Why can't I live the life I want?Because your ability is not enough for you to have so much, not enough for you to do these things willfully.

Only those who have the ability can do a job with ease in life, advance and retreat freely.Instead of taking willfulness as a kind of frankness and willful behavior.

I remember that the company I worked for once had an accountant, Li, who was very respected by the leaders. There were two leaders before and after, and each of them was very kind to her.

She can ask the company to set a precedent for her alone, allowing her to leave work two hours earlier every day to pick up the children.She even asked the company to pay for an extra bed in the lounge because she was going to take a nap there.And all these seemingly unreasonable requests were accepted by the company one by one, and they were properly implemented - the small bed in the lounge was specially equipped with a memory-type lumbar pillow, because this sister Li's waist is not good enough. great.

Behind the seemingly considerate, there is no other reason, just because she is a certified public accountant with rich work experience, and she is a talent that many big companies want to poach around with high salaries.And her salary of [-] a month in this small company is obviously inferior.Sister Li will lower her salary requirements to stay, and a large reason is because the company agrees with her shift request and supports her at work.And the company has only one requirement, which is for her to do a good job in her duties.

Ms. Chen, another accountant of the same company, did not have such favorable treatment.She is an elder sister in her 40s. Although she has an accounting certificate, she has not been able to gain a firm foothold in the accounting position because of sloppy work.Before coming to our company, she even had to work as a cashier in a mall for a long time.When she first got her accounting certificate, Ms. Chen also worked in financial work in several companies, but she was forced to resign because of the messy accounts.

After being introduced by someone, Sister Chen came to our company as a bank accountant.In fact, this position is only added because Sister Li leaves work early every day, so she has no time to wait for the cashier to come and reconcile the accounts.Some jobs are similar to ordinary cashiers, mainly to go to the bank to handle some deposit and remittance business, and to reconcile accounts with bank cashiers.The accounts in charge are relatively small, so the salary is not high. At the beginning, it was 1800 yuan a month. In addition, because she had to wait for the cashier to go to the bank to make deposits before reconciling the accounts, Ms. Chen got off work half an hour later than others every day.But she still cherishes this job very much, never asks for leave, never leaves early, and is the first person to arrive in the financial office every day.Because of her free work, she was sometimes called to the front desk to help answer the phone during the lunch break at noon.

It can be seen that compared with the treatment of Sister Li and Sister Chen in the company, it can be said that the treatment in the company is one above the other.Sometimes when chatting, Sister Chen would smile lightly, saying that she is not good at basic skills, and if she is really left alone, as an accountant to do detailed accounts, she will definitely make a fool of herself.Although the salary of working here is not high, it is much easier than being a cashier, and there is no need to shift shifts.

Accountants in the same company will be treated differently, so how others treat you really has little to do with others, the key lies in your own ability.Your ability determines whether people will tolerate your little willfulness and respect your requirements for life.This is the choice and acquisition of life. When you make demands on life, life will also make demands on you. You want to live better, you want others to give you privileges, you want the world to be tolerant to you and let you Live willfully, then you must first prove to the world that you are worth it!You have to let the world know that you can be so self-willed, because you are worthy of this kind of life!

Don't take willfulness as a kind of frankness

A person who truly loves you will never let your willfulness go unchecked.Let you go on like this willful and reckless, until God hates ghosts.

Today, relatives came to our house for dinner. In the dining table culture where parents are used to comparing their children with other children, they inevitably compared the children in the family with each other, and made a comparison based on income, education, and even A comprehensive "leaderboard" that spouses score together.

At times like this, Guangzai, the only son of the aunt's family, would inevitably be mentioned, and then all the parents sighed at the cousin's incompetence at the same time.The expression of secretly rejoicing that her child was not at the bottom of the "kids ranking list" was mostly shown at this time.I can't blame the relatives at home for taking pleasure in other people's misfortunes. I can only say that my cousin Guangzai is really unpleasant at home.

When Guangzai was in school, his grades were mediocre.Fortunately, when I was taking the college entrance examination, I finally got the chance to expand my enrollment. With a score of more than 270, I was admitted to a third-rate school, and finally graduated from college.

It has been nearly two years since he graduated, and he can't find a job. Even if his family has the cheek to find a job for him, he can't stay there for long.Since graduation, I have changed thirteen jobs.In order to solve his employment problem, the aunt begged all the seven aunts and eight aunts in the family, and all relatives who were not related.

I remember that when I used to gather relatives at home, I often saw such a scene: my aunt rubbed her eyes and said to relatives worriedly: "Look, there is no suitable job. He is so old. After all, it’s not good to sit at home, and I don’t point at how much money he makes, but there must be a job.” Whenever this happens, someone will come out to comfort her: “Don’t worry, Guangzai is still young. , After a few more years, you will be sensible."

But one year, two years, three years... After that, Guangzai is still not "sensible".There are more than a dozen jobs introduced to him by relatives and friends at home, but none of them he can do for a long time.Among them, there are many positions that many people think are not bad, such as: administrative positions of a well-known communication company, property personnel of a large local real estate company, etc.The longest time he worked was in the communication company. He worked for nearly three months. Later, he resigned in a fit of anger because of a disagreement with his boss.The shortest was the property manager of the real estate company. On the third day of work, he had a quarrel with the tenants and almost got into a fight.The property manager was so frightened that he hurriedly sent Guangzai back, and apologized to the introducer: "Young master, we really can't afford it here."

Things like this always happened again and again. At the beginning, Guangzai was still somewhat enthusiastic about finding a job. Every time a job was introduced, he would go to the interview dressed neatly and in high spirits.However, time and time again, he had conflicts with others at work, either because he was unwilling to do it, or because the company let him go.Soon Guangzai's lack of ambition was wiped out.Now, he simply stays at home and plays online games, no longer looking for a job or going to an interview.I don't sleep until the early morning every day, and I don't get up until twelve noon the next day, living by gnawing on the old.The aunt wanted to find a wife for him.However, the guys in their twenties only care about playing games every day.Such a man with nothing to do and a bad temper, of course no girl would marry him.

Every time I mention this, my aunt always wipes her tears, but we really can't think of any way except to comfort her a few words "don't be too hasty".

Although we saw my aunt like this, we also sympathized.However, Guangzai's success today is of course closely related to his aunt's education.

It started when he was a child. The Guangzai in his memory was not likable since he was a child.When he was seven years old, because his aunt was sick and hospitalized, he stayed at my house for a few days.

I remember those few days, when Guangzai was eating at my house, he never considered others. Every day when there was any dish he liked on the table, he would pull the plate and bring it in front of him.Then, like a little wolf protecting food, he ate all the dishes in the CD by himself, and no one was allowed to move a chopstick, otherwise he would definitely cry endlessly.

One day, he fell in love with the two dishes on the table, and he couldn't finish them all, but he wanted to pour them all into his own bowl.I really couldn't bear his behavior, so I said a few words to him in a bad tone.Guangzai burst into tears immediately, and in order to appease him, my mother immediately gave me a scolding, to the effect that Guangzai was still young, so I should let him go.After hearing what his mother said, Guangzai immediately felt that he was justified.Instead of crying, he rushed into the room angrily, and put all the unfinished bowl of vegetables on my bed.Because my parents stopped me, I didn't get angry on the spot.Then he actually took off his pants and ran to my bed to pee.

This kind of nonsense, in the end, the parents just said: "He is still young." Perhaps in their eyes, "small" can be the reason for all willfulness.Back then, I was very resentful, even after Guangzai left, my parents explained to me: Guangzai is not our child after all, and we don’t care about it. If he is so self-willed, he will suffer in the future, so don’t bother with him. up.

When I was young, I didn't understand the reason why I left him alone because he was not the child of his parents.Later, when I saw the phrase "deep love, deep responsibility", I suddenly understood that it was because they didn't love deeply, so they didn't care, and that's why they let his willfulness go unchecked.

With everyone's laissez-faire, Guangzai became more willful and self-willed, and thought that what he did was right.When he was nine years old, he followed his aunt to visit our house again.At that time, my younger sister was only about one year old and was learning to speak.The aunt would inevitably tease the younger sister, and Guangzai immediately became jealous, so he rolled on the ground, banged his head against the wall, and cried, not letting the auntie tease the younger sister again.

The aunt had no choice but to coax him.He immediately made a request: to hug the little sister.

Because he was already nine years old at that time, he must be able to hold such a small child.The aunt couldn't get his way, so she handed over the one-year-old little girl to him.Guangzai deliberately refused to answer, causing the younger sister to fall to the ground.The one-year-old child was startled and cried loudly.The mother saw it in her eyes and felt pain in her heart.But Guangzai didn't know his fault, but complained indignantly that the younger sister occupied the aunt before, and even wanted to go over and beat the younger sister a few more times, so scared that the auntie could only go and hug Guangzai, and then explained: "He Still young."

Perhaps in the eyes of the aunt who is a mother, such willful and unreasonable behavior is just a child's innocence and straightforwardness, which is taken away by the sentence "still young".

After politely sending the aunt and Guangzai out, the mother carefully checked whether the little sister was injured by the fall.When she saw the redness and swelling on the little girl's arm, she felt distressed, so she told me: If Guangzai was her child, she would definitely beat him until he was sensible, he is too willful.

This is what being a parent should do.

A person who truly loves you will never let your willfulness go without restraint like this, and let you continue to behave like this until God hates ghosts.Just like Guangzai, when he was young, his family members would find reasons for his willfulness "he is still young".These three words seem to cover up all his willful and reckless behavior, and everyone seems to regard these behaviors as a kind of frankness of a child.But capriciousness is not frankness!Frankness refers to acting according to one's nature, with a childlike innocence and no affectation.On the other hand, the self-willed side is the obstinacy of indulging in one's own behavior in order to satisfy one's own desires or achieve one's improper goals in a frank cloak, unscrupulously hoping that everyone will act according to one's own wishes or ideas act.Perhaps Guangzai didn't know that his parents let him in at home, but how many people would let him in society?

Don't always think that you are "still young", because everything grows quickly.

It's a pity that he used to be the little sun at home, with aunts, uncles and others revolving around him like asteroids.But after work, if he doesn't have the ability and ability to be the sun of others, naturally no one will be willing to tolerate and tolerate his willfulness.

My aunt now regrets her connivance to him at the beginning, which makes it difficult for Guangzai to get along with others and hit a wall everywhere.But it's too late to regret it now.I hope that Guangzai, who is gnawing on the old man, can understand that his willfulness requires skill to complete.He was ignorant when he was a child and still like this when he grows up. What will he do after his parents have lived for a hundred years?

After all, we humans are social animals. People who cannot get along with others will have some difficulties in life, let alone achievements.So don't take willfulness as a kind of frankness, because no one will say to you except your parents: "It's okay, you are still young!"

Whose youth is not self-willed: dreams are here, youth is here
Children in adolescence are full of longing for growth, curiosity about the strange world, expectations for themselves and longing for the future. In the waywardness at that time, there are our dreams of letting go.

It was cloudy and rainy a few days ago, and the tick-tick knocked on the window, making a lot of noise. It was rare that the rain stopped today, and there was no noise from the rain. I lay on the bed, blowing on the air conditioner, so comfortable that I didn’t want to get out of bed.

Suddenly the alarm clock rang, and I jumped up from the bed reflexively, screaming in my heart, what a pity, I need to go over and cook for my sister.The younger sister is the daughter of her parents in their later years, and they regard her as a treasure.If I go late, my parents will definitely scold me.

Because my parents have to work overtime recently, the task of cooking for her is given to me, who is at home on annual leave recently.After getting dressed and picking up the key, I suddenly realized that I don't have to go.

Because today is the first day for my younger sister to go to the sports school for training. From this day on, she will spend a long forty days there for swimming training.

Strange to say, the training center implements militarized management. There are a series of staggering strict requirements such as waking up at 05:30 in the morning for morning exercises, no mobile phones, no electronic products, no snacks, etc.I can't imagine how my sister, who never leaves her mobile phone and snacks every day, is willing to endure these regulations?
Before signing up, her parents asked her again and again, should I forget it?How comfortable it is to be at home during the summer vacation. The sports school has no air conditioner, no internet, and it is hot and unbearable. Why bother?There are [-] days of training, and only half a day off on weekends. Usually, family members are not allowed to visit, and they are not allowed to participate in any leisure and entertainment.He was not even allowed to bring his mobile phone, because he was wronged, and there was no place for him to call home and cry.What's more, you are already in the second year of high school this year, and you will soon face the overload of study in the third year of high school. Why waste time and energy in this kind of place?
The younger sister didn't even think about it, she twisted her neck and said, "I'm going, I'm going."

When I took her to sign up a few days ago, I took a look at the living environment of the training center: it was an old-fashioned dormitory building built in the late 20s, six floors high, and there was no elevator.

In seasons like the beginning of July, I had only climbed to the third floor, and I was already sweating profusely. The room I left for them was not well oriented, and all faced west. The scorching sun in the afternoon scorched the room, as hot as the walls Almost burnt.

There is no air-conditioning in the room, only a ceiling fan, and there are three canopy beds in each room, tightly packed together, and there is only room for turning around in the gap between the beds.There is no toilet in the house, and the laundry room and toilet are at the end of the corridor on each floor.There is no washing machine in the laundry room.Because the toilet is too old, the door can no longer be closed tightly.To take a bath, you can only go to the bathroom outside the swimming pool on the first floor.

Seeing such a poor environment, I felt a little heartbroken, and coaxed her to say: "It's so hot, and the dormitory doesn't even have an air conditioner. What should I do if I suffer from heatstroke? There's no washing machine here, so how do you wash your clothes? You'd better go home and forget it." "

As soon as the younger sister heard it, she yelled: "I'm going to participate in the training camp, sign up for me."

(End of this chapter)