Your waywardness must be worthy of your ability

Chapter 3 Your willfulness must be worthy of your ability (2)
Thinking about sending her to the training camp today, the parents will definitely feel all kinds of feelings in their hearts. Seeing the "little princess" who grew up in their hands, suffer such a crime, how much regret they must have!

Besides, my younger sister is a student in an ordinary college. In my opinion, her swimming speed level is impossible to meet the standards for the competition, and it is impossible to become a special student in sports, and she will not get rewards such as extra points in the college entrance examination.As for future employment and swimming skills, there is very little room to develop them.

But my sister kept crying and acting like a baby at home, and finally my parents and I chose to give in.

Now, seeing her like this, I can't help but think of when I was young. At that time, I liked painting.

It's a pity that my parents said that learning painting is a waste of money, and it is impossible to have positive help in my life, because too few famous painters are famous, and more people are silent.I wasted time learning to paint. If I can't be famous, what can I do in the end?
In the words of my father at the time: "Sitting on the street and helping people draw portraits, ten yuan or 15 yuan a piece, this income is not enough to buy paper and pencils, let alone support yourself."

At that time, I didn't listen to any advice, and saved money from my pocket money bit by bit to buy paper and pens, and took a little spare time to practice anytime, anywhere.Sometimes I even miss my homework because of painting.

My parents persuaded, scolded, and beat me, but they couldn't resist me.Maybe when I was young, everyone had a rebellious and self-willed little devil in their bones, so I still insist on painting as I am.

Gradually the lines drawn gradually become smoother. Sometimes, three strokes, two strokes and one tick can form the images of various small objects, which are very vivid to look at.My mother began to feel that my painting was decent, and reluctantly agreed to let me apply for the local art academy.

Unfortunately, I did not pass the art examination of the Academy of Fine Arts.Fortunately, my usual studies did not fall behind. Through adjustments, I became a student majoring in computer information application in a university.

Although I did not become a student of the Academy of Fine Arts, my dream was still going on at that time. After learning computers, I was not interested in programming and other applications at all. I was very keen on learning and studying the application of computers in drawing.

This kind of willful temperament made me hang up the red light in many subjects when I was in school, and almost failed to graduate.

After graduation, for this dream, I have been wandering abroad for many years, and I have not been able to have a stable income and job.In many cases, I can only get a meager salary by drawing and coloring for some studios.

The income of this kind of work is unstable. When you are free, you may not be able to do anything. When you are busy, you have to work overtime and stay up late to catch up. Sometimes when you need to rush to work, you have to stare at the screen to modify the drawing for more than [-] hours. .Over the years, myopia became worse and worse, and my body collapsed.In the end, I gave up my dream, followed my parents' advice, and went back to my hometown to take the civil service exam...

Sometimes, when talking about this matter, my mother would also say that if she hadn’t indulged me in drawing a few strokes from time to time, and let me concentrate on studying, with my grades at the time, I would work harder, and I might have been admitted to a certain school by now. Some better colleges and universities will definitely do better than they do now.

I hear this kind of words a lot, and I can’t help but remember a passage I read in a book: If I were the father of Steve Jobs and knew that his son would drop out of Reed College after six months in college, Going to work for a game console company and earning money to go to India for spiritual practice, will I support him, even if he utters such a famous sentence:
Your time in life is limited, so don't live it for others.Don't be limited by dogma, don't live in other people's ideas.Don't let other people's opinions dictate your own inner voice.Most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. Only your heart and intuition know what you really think. Everything else is secondary.

I think I definitely won't, just like I don't want my sister to participate in swimming training now, because this matter will not be of great help to her future life.

It's a pity that my sister is as willful as I am, and has not compromised.Recalling my deeds back then, the only thing my parents are thankful for now is that they didn’t let me use my spare time to enroll in a sketching class, but forced me to study English.That's why I was able to at least get into a good university after I failed in the Academy of Fine Arts.

However, there is another possibility. If they supported my hobbies and let me learn basic skills such as sketching, I worked hard to be admitted to the Academy of Fine Arts... Maybe I can get better development in this way.

It is impossible for anyone to know these, because it is a pity that there are no ifs in the world. When we were young, we all had an ignorant heart and were full of expectations for the future.Many times, our choices carry our own longing, with a bit of persistence, and a bit of willful pursuit of our dreams.

There are some people who are beaten to death first, and finally have to accept the reality and live a relatively comfortable life...

But some people have achieved their own brilliance and greatness by virtue of their persistence and willfulness.Don't talk about others, just talk about my brother Xiao Han who was obsessed with painting with me back then.The two of us were rejected from the Academy of Fine Arts, and he failed to enter other colleges and universities, and dropped out of school early to continue painting.He has always insisted on his dream. He just established his own studio the year before last, and applied for independent copyrights for some of the small designs he drew. Last year, he earned more than [-] yuan in royalties from the design drawings printed on POLO shirts. Not to mention the income from other various comic download traffic, the annual income has already crossed the million mark.Now he is a small boss with a proper and successful career.

I remember that I worked with Xiao Han at that time, he drew the basic map, I did the coloring, and we worked in a small and humid room every day.Because of the lack of funds, we rented a semi-basement, and the lights could not be turned off in the room, or we would lose our hands and fingers.I can bear the cold and humidity, but what I can't bear is that the customer picks us up again and again for poor painting, changing and changing, changing and changing, but the customer is often still dissatisfied.We face the computer for more than ten hours every day, and our eyes are often bloodshot, but we still can't get a word of satisfaction or appreciation from customers. That kind of frustration overwhelms my belief and dream.

Sometimes when I call home and hear my parents' concern, I just want to cry.After persisting for more than three years, I still feel that there is no hope of success in sight.I had no choice but to give up my dream of painting. After all, I am not young, and I have to think about my future life.

When I was about to go back to my hometown, I persuaded Xiao Han, who was in a similar situation to me, to come back together, but he shook his head and said that he was not reconciled.Then Xiaohan handed over his remaining 5000 yuan deposit to me, asked me to pass it on to his parents, and told them that everything was fine with him.

After returning to my hometown, I immediately devoted myself to reviewing nervously to prepare for the civil service provincial election exam that year, so I lost contact with Xiao Han.In fact, at that time, to a certain extent, I felt that Xiao Han was a little too capricious, and a little too paranoid. He was living in such an embarrassment, and he was still unwilling to accept his failure. When he returned to his hometown, at least his parents and relatives would take care of him. After all, it's better than a few points.

Until the Chinese New Year this year, I heard my mother suddenly boast that Xiao Han was promising, and bought a duplex in my hometown, which was just renovated and let Xiao Han's parents move in.I realized in a trance that his persistence seemed to have succeeded.Now I open Baidu to search his studio, and I can find a lot of information and various honors.

A week later, my parents and I went to pick up my younger sister in the training center. When we went, they were doing their final training on the playground, practicing squats and standing up.

There were many parents standing outside the gate who came to pick up their children like us. Today’s temperature is almost over 40 degrees Celsius. Parents said that they still let their children toss on the playground like this. They paid the money for their children to practice swimming. , not here to suffer...

Seeing my sister from a distance, my parents' eyes turned red.In just a few days, my sister was already tanned a lot, and they didn't stop training until the whistle sounded, and then they ran around the playground again under the leadership of the coach, and then they dispersed.

Seeing her sister running out bouncing around, her father asked her distressedly: "Wouldn't you come back when you go back? Why bother to suffer this."

The younger sister immediately turned cold with a smile, twisted her neck angrily, and was about to run back, yelling willfully: "If you don't let me come, I won't go back."

Seeing my sister's back, I gave a wry smile, as if I saw the shadow of me and Xiao Han in her back then, and the father on one side looked at my sister with a lonely face, as if he had gradually understood that his old hands had already protected my sister. Can't help this young eagle that wants to spread its wings and fly.

Yes, we all grow up, and we all had our youth once.

When we were young, we were full of desire for growth, curiosity about the strange world, expectations for ourselves and longing for the future. At that time, there were our dreams of letting go in our willfulness.

Youth is also the only way for us to mature.I believe that as long as we treat our youth well and strive to have no regrets, there will be a day when our youth will fly with our dreams!
Just do it, don't let down another possibility in life

No matter at any time, as long as you are dissatisfied with your current life, as long as you want to change, then just do it, and don't let down another possibility of life.

One day, I saw my friend Tangtang updated her photos in Moments, all of which were all the exaggerated makeup looks she put on in the makeup competition recently, and finally attached a selfie of her, the gorgeous stage makeup looks bright and confident , compared with the depressed and haggard Tangtang a few years ago, he is almost a completely different person.

Tangtang is a good friend of mine. In the past, she was also a "good luck girl" envied by a bunch of leftover men and women among our college classmates. She married her first love after graduating from university, and then became a full-time wife at home, responsible for her beauty. flowery.And the first love, Datangtang, was five years old. He was already a section chief of a state-owned enterprise at the time, with a stable income and a car.When marrying Tangtang, they even put on a big feast, making them an enviable couple.

Not long after marriage, Tangtang was pregnant with a child. She was not very old at the time, so it can be said that she was not very mature, and she could not fully integrate into the role of a mother who stayed at home as a expectant mother. In addition, the pregnancy reaction was very severe, and Tangtang began to change. very sensitive.It can be said that weeping in the wind and breaking our hearts.No matter how big or small, she needs her husband's comfort everywhere, and if she is a little negligent, Tangtang will start to think wildly.

After a few months like this, the two of them no longer had the joy of becoming parents, and their relationship became indifferent.Tangtang began to call his friends to complain: he ignored me, he didn’t reply to my text messages, he didn’t call me when he was on a business trip today, etc.All this could be a reason for her to cry.

Finally, when Tangtang was more than six months pregnant, she found traces of another woman on her husband.After that, Tangtang's negative emotions exploded even more, and she was in hysteria every day.She is often panicking about her own life, and what is even more frightening is that after her husband leaves, she will not be able to take care of the child who is about to be born.

Many of our old classmates persuaded her to have a good communication with her husband and consider whether to live together in the future.If you don't want to continue living together, you should think about the future before the child is born.

But Tangtang didn't dare to change at all, even if the current life made her extremely painful.

She once expressed to me sadly that she would never marry this man if she knew that he would neglect her so much.

After hearing such words, we all persuaded her that it is not too late to know now, and she can change.But she shook her head in panic and rejected our advice.Just pessimistically telling everyone again and again: she regrets, regrets marrying too early, regrets being a full-time wife, etc.

Seeing her so depressed, as a friend, I had no choice but to persuade her to study some courses, and listed the benefits of doing so: first, it can pass the time; second, it can improve her own value.Maybe it will make the relationship between husband and wife get better day by day. Even if it takes a step back, if it really can't get better, at least she can learn some survival skills and have her own things to do in the future.After all, since she knows what her problem is, she should work hard to change her life.Does she want to be like this forever?

But Tangtang rejected my proposal. She was afraid of change and thought that she was not suitable for studying because she was pregnant. More importantly, she had been away from school for too long, and she didn't know where to start.She used her own method time and time again to live up to another possibility in life.

Not long after that conversation, I ran into Tangtang on the street who was going to the hospital for a prenatal checkup. She was wearing loose pajamas, and because the trouser legs were too long, the hems of the trousers were a little worn out when they dragged on her feet.

Her originally pretty face was severely swollen due to pregnancy edema, and her hair was disheveled behind her head. She looked very haggard, as if she had aged ten years and entered middle age. Is this kind of life what she wanted?
When I heard about Tangtang again, it was that she gave birth to a daughter, and her husband used this as an excuse to ask for a divorce.Of course she refused, and began to cry frantically. All the classmates who were acquainted with her would receive her crying calls continuously, generally complaining about how heartless that man was and how shameless that mistress was.

When she heard her crying and complaining that her husband had secretly transferred the ownership of the family house to Xiaosan, and even fought hard to drive her and her daughter back to her natal home, everyone advised her to get a divorce.But she is still unwilling to face reality.Because she is afraid, she is afraid that if she gets divorced, she will not be able to support her daughter in the future, and she is also afraid that after the divorce, she will not have a better home as a woman. After all, she always uses an old saying-the husband and wife are the first spouse after all. Withstood everyone who cared about her.

No matter how unwilling Tangtang was to change, her husband didn't look back. She could only live alone in her mother's house with her children, and her husband and mistress had already started dating and living together openly.

Just when Tangtang was about to face a desperate situation in her life, Guoguo's return to China changed her future life.

Guoguo was Tangtang's best best friend in college, and their candy combination used to be the most beautiful scenery at the college party.Guoguo wants to be strong and enterprising. After graduating from university, she went abroad to study for a master's degree.Tangtang is gentle and pleasant, and married into a woman after graduation.Two completely different girls, but perfectly in tune.So this time when Guoguo came back to China and found out about Tangtang by accident, she immediately dropped everything and came to visit from Shanghai.

I picked up Guoguo at the airport, and went with her to visit Tangtang, who was in a downturn at the time.

As soon as we entered the room, we heard Tangtang's daughter crying. Tangtang was sitting on the sofa in a daze. It was Tangtang's mother who opened the door for us. The old man was holding a newly replaced diaper.Everything seemed so chaotic and decadent.

Guoguo helped the old man prepare the children together, then pulled Tangtang to the mirror, pointed to the woman in the mirror and said, "Look for yourself, do you still look like a woman?"

Tangtang ignored it, just screamed and cried, it was nothing more than that the man had no conscience, she was about to get divorced now, and the man even transferred all the property for Xiaosan and so on.

Guoguo and I didn't talk, and waited for her to finish crying alone.Guoguo pulled her into the room, combed her hair, changed her clothes, and finally put on light makeup.When she walked out of the room again, Tangtang felt much more energetic.Then Guoguo pulled her to the mirror again, pointed into it and asked her, if you were a man, would you like the previous you, or the current woman?
Seeing Tangtang, she would cry and complain that men are superficial, heartless, and only focus on women's appearance.Guoguo interrupted her and told her that it's not that men only look at appearances so superficially, but that a person's mental outlook will give people a different feeling, even if you are not beautiful, at least you have to make people look very sunny ,positive.Instead of only bringing negative energy to men, no one will be able to stand it.

In the end, Guoguo asked Tangtang: Are there fewer and fewer people who are willing to answer her calls?

Tangtang hesitated for a moment, then finally nodded.

(End of this chapter)