Your waywardness must be worthy of your ability

Chapter 4 Your willfulness must be worthy of your ability (3)
In fact, I was also among the friends who were unwilling to answer her phone calls. I had mentioned this matter to Guoguo cryptically, hoping she would persuade Tangtang.Because since Tangtang started to get divorced, she has gone completely crazy, waiting for her husband to apologize to her every day to redeem her, but all she waited for was the news that her husband and mistress were married.Under such stimulation, she may call someone to cry 24 hours a day.I once called me at two o'clock in the morning, but no matter how I persuaded her, she couldn't listen.After all, she is afraid of change, and she has various reasons to tell me that all this is not because of her incompetence, it is all other people's problems, and there is nothing she can do about it.When it comes to letting her continue her studies and let her change her life with her own hands, she will feel that there are many difficulties. Any age, daughter or poor spirit have all become her reasons.In fact, it makes people feel pitiful and hateful, angry and mournful.

In the end, Guoguo stayed with Tangtang for a while, and under her persuasion, Tangtang enrolled in a make-up training class.

At first, Guoguo and Tangtang's family asked her to learn make-up, just to find a sustenance for her.Let Tangtang have a chance to get in touch with the society, instead of being bored at home every day and thinking about it.But I didn't expect Tangtang to learn interest after reading it, and soon passed the qualification certification of senior makeup artist, and obtained the certificate issued by the state in one fell swoop.

With this technology, the local photo studios rushed to hire her to work. In the end, in order to take care of her daughter, she chose to set up her own studio. In addition to undertaking some publicity or photo studio makeup work, she also undertakes part-time makeup for brides.Now her salary has risen to 800 to 1800 yuan a day, and her monthly income has gradually stabilized at more than [-] yuan, which is more than enough to support her daughter.After the financial prosperity, she hired a part-time worker to help with housework, giving herself more time to study and even travel.There are more and more beautiful topics in her life, and more and more friends.She also became beautiful and confident. She accepted the reality of divorce. Although she sometimes felt hurt because of this incident, most of the time, Tangtang lived a full and happy life.

If Tangtang hadn't changed back then, and she was still feeling sorry for herself, would she still be able to develop as she is now?

Seeing that Tangtang is now on the stage of the National Makeup Competition, I am very happy for her.In fact, we didn't expect Tangtang to have such good achievements at the beginning, but we just hoped that she could change such a depressed lifestyle.But her little change has brought about the brilliant life she has today.So, at any time, as long as you are dissatisfied with your current life, as long as you are willing to change and want to change, then go ahead and do it, and don't disappoint another possibility in life.Maybe just like Tangtang, because of a different choice, there is another different life.And this different new life may just happen to be the happy life we ​​all yearn for.

Dare to act and take responsibility,
To live a wonderful life in a complex world
What makes people most helpless is not poverty, but despair of the world and of their own incompetence.

The most famous line in "Infernal Affairs" is the sentence that Ah Xiao played by Wu Zhenyu said slowly, "Dad said, come out to mess around, and you will have to pay it back sooner or later."There is a bit of helplessness hidden in this sentence, but it also shows that people must be responsible for their own actions. Whether you are willing or not, you have to bear the consequences for everything you do. This is what Buddhism calls cause and effect not empty.

So before people are self-willed, they need to think more about whether they can afford it?After all, the path you choose has to be completed by crawling.This is a quality that a person must have in the process of growing up. If you don't even have such a responsibility, how can you make people believe that you can make a difference?

I remembered that not long ago, a girl I knew chatted with me and said that a few days ago, she went to have a fortune-telling. "Master" said that her failure experience last year was all predestined.Then the girl expressed that she regretted that she didn't get to know the so-called "master" earlier.It seems that if I can know him, I can avoid these mistakes earlier.After listening, I was very speechless "hehe".

Having said that, I have to mention this girl's experience last year.Originally, she worked as a teaching assistant in a certain university, and her job was stable, and she could also translate books for others to earn some manuscript fees. The annual income of 10,000+ is appropriate.I dare not say Bai Fumei, but I also live a very petty bourgeoisie.

But she was young and energetic, and decided to co-found a wedding company with her friends. At that time, everyone advised her not to do it if she was not familiar with it, but she insisted on believing in her ability and connections.Everyone advised her not to quit her job, but to watch while she was doing it, but she didn't listen. She resigned her job willfully, and took all her savings to start a small-scale wedding company with two other friends who hadn't known each other for a long time.

As a result, there was no business in the first month, and all the expenses paid off the company’s spare working capital. At the end of the month, when it was time to pay the employees’ salaries, her partner asked her to use her credit card to cash out more than 7 in disguise to pay the employees’ salaries. .In a few months, she cashed out the funds on the two credit cards one after another, accumulating 21 yuan.

I personally feel that her thinking is not normal anymore, and her actions are even suspected of credit card fraud, and I have gradually lost communication with her.

Then suddenly one day, I saw her message: "I'm not alive anymore, I can choose to die, it's not that I haven't done it before, I think it feels so good to fall asleep, my whole body is light, if I can never wake up Enough."

I was frightened and called her quickly, but the phone was always turned off.A week later, I learned about her situation from other friends. She committed suicide by cutting her pulse and was rescued. Later, when her mother found out the reason, she mortgaged her real estate and borrowed 21 yuan to pay off her credit card debt.

Afterwards, this girl fell into a strange circle. Instead of learning from the pain and thinking about how to stand up again, she kept asking everyone why she kindly helped the company solve the difficulties, but in the end the two partners refused to pay her back .Is it true that good people are not rewarded?
I want to say, it’s not that good people don’t get rewarded, but that when you do something, you must consider the consequences. If you only care about your own willfulness, and even get involved in credit card fraud for your own obsession, then you What he did is no longer a good person's behavior, and naturally it will only lead him into a catastrophe.

If she had listened to the advice of our friends before cashing out the credit card, and had withdrawn earlier, maybe the previous investment may not be recovered, but at least the loss could be stopped, but she did not, she was afraid of losing, afraid My own investment was in vain, so I can only be like a gambler, betting on my own small bets again and again, will the final result be a win?So you must do things according to your ability, and think about whether you can afford such consequences.

Of course, it is impossible for a person to live a lifetime without suffering losses or doing wrong things.Taking the matter of this girl as an example, if she takes 21 steps back, she will only bear a debt of [-] yuan. As for ending her own life?

I really don't understand, if a person is not even afraid of death, what else is he afraid to bear or face.The wedding industry is not without development potential. If she manages it well, she may not be able to turn around in the future, but she wants to end her life just because of a temporary setback. Is it really worth it?Is this the only way to escape everything?

For a person who has no courage to face her own failures, and is unwilling to work hard and stand up again, how can luck and success favor her.

In any case, we don't want her to continue to be depressed, and we don't want to lose her.So this weekend I made an appointment with another friend to visit her, and when we met again, I was surprised that this girl looked much better, and she was no longer as decadent as before.

Seeing us coming, the girl came out to greet us warmly, and even cut a few oranges to entertain the guests.You know, since the incident last year, she has only locked herself in the room for a long time, lying on the bed and pretending to be sick.

Seeing that her spirit suddenly became better, I couldn't help asking: "Have you figured it out?" The friend on the side kicked me, but the girl smiled calmly, and said while sharing the oranges with us. Let's talk about the origin of this orange.

It turned out that this seemingly inconspicuous orange was brought back from Yunnan by the girl a few days ago.

Because she was depressed all day long, her family signed up a tour group for her some time ago, and asked her to go to Yunnan to relax.

During the trip, look at other people in the tour group traveling with family or friends.The group members with fellow travelers always divide themselves into small groups, talking and laughing together, but she is alone, walking alone.

Others are playing with new mobile phones, and taking pictures with various brand-name cameras and camcorders.And she only has an old-fashioned Nokia mobile phone in her hand. The shell has been worn out and worn out, not to mention the functions, which are useless except for making and receiving calls.To be precise, it should be useless except to check the time, because all the friends have cut off contact with her after two years of tossing.

The money for this trip was also thousands of dollars that my mother squeezed out of the small family expenses.For this reason, mother and father may have to live on pickles during her trip.The washing machine at home has been broken for a long time. If it wasn't for letting her out to relax, she could have used the money to buy a new washing machine, but now...

Thinking of her parents' eyes, she wanted to cry, but she knew, she knew, she didn't want to come out.In fact, all she wants is for everyone to ignore her, ignore her, and let her hide quietly in her own world, instead of watching other people's laughter like now.

It seems that everyone's laughter and the beautiful scenery along the way are mocking her incompetence and failure.Along the way, the happier others were, the more disappointed she felt in her heart. This sharp contrast almost drove her crazy!
Thinking of her petty bourgeois life, when did travel need to be so shabby?If it wasn't for the fact that she still knew a little bit about her parents' good intentions, she would have almost stayed behind the team silently, and then in this strange place, she would have found an opportunity where no one was paying attention to her, and ended up on her own.Because she has completely lost sight of any hope for her future.What makes people most helpless is not poverty, but despair of the world and of their own incompetence.

Fortunately, the responsible guide sister, seeing that she is always alone, waits for her to catch up before continuing the journey, and even pays attention to her every move. If there is something wrong, she will let her sit. Come by your side.In order not to disappoint and drag down this kind-hearted elder sister of the guide, she gradually gave up her intention to end it.He also told the guide not to worry about her, and started to cooperate with the guide's work and keep up with the itinerary carefully. Along the way, the guide pried off his mouth intermittently, talking about some unpleasant things he experienced last year.

After the guide knew about her experience, he deliberately changed the route and took everyone on a tour of picking.And they went to the well-known Orange Park in the local area.When she saw some white-haired old people still working hard under the fruit trees, she saw that pairs of wrinkled hands were still cleaning up the harvested oranges one by one and putting them into fruit boxes.Thinking of her fate, she couldn't help feeling a little bit impatient.Out of sympathy, although she didn't have a lot of money, she couldn't help but bought a box of oranges grown by the old people.

Later, on the way back, after listening to the guide, the girl knew that these oranges were of great origin, and they were planted under the leadership of Chu Shijian.The old man used to be the director of a small factory. He made a small tobacco factory in a small place into the No. 71 brand in Asia and the No. 1999 brand in the world - Hongtashan.Unfortunately, when he was 17 years old, he went the wrong way.So in [-], he was sentenced to life imprisonment for corruption.According to conventional thinking, the old man should spend his whole life in prison. To put it bluntly, being sentenced to life at such an old age is actually tantamount to announcing the sad end of the rest of his life, and he is very likely to die of old age in prison!The old man's daughter committed suicide in prison because she couldn't stand the blow. This is even worse for an old man who is dying!However, he did not admit defeat.Two years later, he received a commutation of his sentence to [-] years because of his good behavior, and soon he was released on medical parole due to "severe diabetes".

In the eyes of ordinary people, it should be the happiest ending for him to spend his life at home.

However, the old man cherishes his future very much.After some investigation, he quickly planted fruit trees on the barren hills to re-develop his own business.He brought his wife to the barren hills and began to reclaim wasteland. This year, the old man was 75 years old. After 6 years, he will be an 81-year-old man. Because orange fruit trees will bear fruit after 6 years, many people say that he is a dream come true.Over the years, no one mentioned the old man's past, but more about the success of this orchard, the old man's perseverance, responsibility and hard work.And Chu Cheng has become an inspirational legend, famous at home and abroad, praised by many celebrities, and admired by countless people.

Only then did she suddenly understand the guide's painstaking efforts—the route was deliberately changed to enlighten her with the old man's story.Speaking of this, the girl became excited and said: "So I thought to myself, if a 75-year-old man starts a business again, he can become a multi-millionaire within a few years. Why should I continue to escape and continue to be depressed? Last year's At that time, I was only 25 years old, that is to say, I can work hard for at least 50 years more than him. How will I know if I can do it if I don’t try? I think those hard-working old people deserve sympathy. In fact, I was so afraid to face my own failure before. It is the most pitiful thing to escape the life you have gone through."

I couldn't help but smile happily when I saw the way she said these things in high spirits. It seems that the girl who was depressed a year ago has disappeared without a trace.In fact, no matter what life is like, everyone must dare to take responsibility and face it.Even if you make a mistake, you can change and correct it through hard work!

A 25-year-old girl in the Mood for Love chose to commit suicide in the fear of being imprisoned just because she was afraid that she might not be able to pay for her credit card. She used death to avoid problems and evade responsibility.But the old man who came out of the prison refused to admit defeat. He proved with his actions that it doesn't matter if he made a mistake. As long as he dares to face his failure and take on his own life, success and honor will come again.

The girl smiled wryly and summed up her previous absurdity: last year, she committed suicide and let the matter be handed over to her parents, and then she has been living in depression. The last "master" thought that she had found a reason to be relieved - it turned out that all of this was not her fault, it was destined, even her mother was destined to help her pay off the debt, because her mother owed her in the previous life Kindness, this life is to repay the kindness.

In fact, what mother owes us?What kindness is greater than giving birth to us, if there is no mother, where would we come from.All of this is just her unwillingness to face her own mistakes, which caused such an embarrassing and unfavorable situation for her family. If it wasn't for the trip to Yunnan, if it wasn't for the kind guide, she would probably use this excuse to escape her life Negligence, no achievements since then.

Seeing her awaken like this makes me really happy for her.This girl is well-educated, and she was admitted to a well-known national college with the top [-] college entrance examination results in the province. Her life in the first two decades can be said to be smooth.If it was only because of such a small setback, he would live in the world he constructed for himself and use various reasons to escape.Maybe what she should review is that she really shouldn't be so capricious.

(End of this chapter)