Your waywardness must be worthy of your ability

Chapter 7 Your Conceit and Pride Should Be Worthy of Your Hard Work and Dedication (1)
Conceit and pride must be worthy of your efforts and intentions. Conceit and pride cannot be blind, otherwise you will inevitably cover your eyes and fall because you lose your way.

Many people sometimes become proud and conceited because of temporary success, regard temporary victory as permanent victory, think that the world is invincible, blindly complacent, only see their own strengths, not their own shortcomings, and exaggerate too much your own power.

Such people usually cause dissatisfaction from those around them, just like a young man among our colleagues, Xiao Chen, who was a famous talent when he was studying. He graduated from a prestigious university with a master's degree, and he thinks that staying in a small unit like ours is an inferior talent.Of course, he does have his own skills. He has passed CET-[-] and is a certified public accountant.

Because of his excellent academic qualifications and a series of certificates, Xiao Chen often shows a sense of superiority in his work unit.But because he is a newcomer, his job is just to do some simple statistics on the reports.But because of his conceit, he looked down on such small jobs, so he worked very carelessly, often procrastinating until the last day and not rushing to work.Moreover, he believed that such a small matter would never go wrong, and he never checked the reports submitted.Because of this attitude, he didn't do very well in these small tasks in Xiao Chen's eyes, and he often made some mistakes.

Xiao Chen is so conceited, but he doesn't have the extraordinary work performance to match him.Gradually, everyone felt that he had high eyesight and low hands, and he was not easy to get along with.And Xiao Chen is more proud and unwilling to lower his figure to accommodate everyone, so he doesn't get along well with his colleagues at work.Soon there was an opportunity in the unit to study at a higher unit.Everyone understands that this kind of learning usually means more opportunities for improvement in the future, and young people in the unit want to compete.And Xiao Chen is even more conceited that with his academic qualifications and excellent skills, this opportunity must be in his pocket.But to everyone's surprise, the leader let a newly arrived intern to participate in the study.

Xiao Chen was originally a very conceited and proud person, and he felt that what the leader did was slap him in the face.Immediately, his mentality became even more unbalanced, and he became very sloppy at work. The report he handed in on the [-]th was delayed until the [-]th. Soon, everyone in the unit became more and more dissatisfied with his behavior.

When such a thing happened, Xiao Chen didn't think about reflecting on the reasons from himself, let alone let everyone see his real talent through his own efforts and intentions.He will only play his temper out of his own ego and self-will.In the end, the leader seriously criticized Xiao Chen in public, and told him that in fact, he had always been a good seed that the unit wanted to focus on training, but now he disappointed everyone.

After hearing the leader's reprimand, Xiao Chen fell silent. He felt a little wronged and wanted to refute.But looking at the leader's serious expression, Xiao Chen didn't dare to say anything in the end, and just asked for a few days off with a bit of anger.

The moment he got the leave slip, in Xiao Chen's heart, he thought maliciously: Seeing that I'm gone, who of you can complete those forms.

Even Xiao Chen didn't hand over the materials he had sorted out to his colleagues.He hoped that the leader would find that without him, those forms would not be filled out by themselves, and those materials would not be sorted out so quickly.He even held illusions, and waited until everyone found out how important he was, before he took out the materials.

However, all of this was just Xiao Chen's own fantasy. After taking a few days off, no one from the unit called to ask Xiao Chen about his professional knowledge at work.On the contrary, it was Xiao Chen's parents who quickly discovered that the child's mentality was inappropriate.Through some insinuations, the two old people quickly understood Xiao Chen's knot.

Taking advantage of the holiday, Xiao Chen's father, Uncle Chen, took Xiao Chen to his vegetable field and asked Xiao Chen to help him.

After graduating from university, it was the first time for Xiao Chen to farm vegetables with his father.Walking along the path among the farmland, living in patches of greenery, breathing the fresh air, Xiao Chen's mood gradually calmed down.

On the way, Xiao Chen found out that Uncle Chen had rented out most of the good land for him to go to college.Now their family's vegetable field is only one on the edge of the bamboo forest behind the village.The two walked for a long time before arriving at their destination.

Looking at the few green vegetables in the field, they turned yellow.Uncle Chen looked at it, took out his hoe and plowed the field, and said to Xiao Chen, "Come and help me too, and hoe all the bamboo roots in the ground, or the vegetables will not grow well."

The ground looked flat, but Uncle Chen dug out a pile of bamboo roots with mixed roots when he went down with three hoes and two hoes.Xiao Chen recalled that he had read it in a book before—the moso bamboo hardly grows outside the ground five years before the planting period, but it will develop roots into a large area around it, quietly "occupying" other surrounding plants The root development space of the plant makes them unable to obtain the water and nutrients necessary for growth.The vegetables in my field are not growing well, it is all because of the moso bamboo's tricks.

Uncle Chen looked at Xiao Chen who was in a daze, and continued: "This bamboo is too domineering and too proud. I always think that it will be great if I can grow taller and stronger in the future, and it has seized the nutrients of a large area of ​​land."Although, after growing up, this bamboo can do a lot of things, it can be used as furniture and flooring, which is more valuable than this vegetable.But now it hasn't grown up yet, no green stems have emerged, it can't create any benefits, and it can't coexist peacefully with everyone, so that other vegetables can't grow well, so I can only hoe it.You said, if it is always hoed and hoed like this, will the bamboo have a chance to grow and grow taller in the future?
Hearing this, Xiao Chen had a taste. This trip to the field was a lesson specially taught by his father.

It is to warn him: You are like this bamboo. Before you have the ability to prove to others that you can become a useful person, if you only have self-esteem and pride, like bamboo grabbing the nutrients in the vegetable field, what you get in return can only be The vegetable farmer plowed cleanly with a hoe.So, you have to make yourself stronger and more useful before you become conceited.

Maybe when you are really strong, you will find that the original conceited mentality has disappeared, and those proud behaviors are a little vulgar at all.

Everyone has their moments, and everyone has the opportunity to achieve some kind of success.But this does not mean that you are really good, maybe it is just a chance, maybe you have not discovered your own shortcomings.Face your own success calmly, and don't regard temporary success as a permanent monument!Because temporary success can't explain anything, the road in life is very long, and maybe you will encounter problems that you can't solve in the next moment.

Xiao Chen looked at his father's meaningful eyes, nodded silently, and went back to work the next day.

From then on, he seemed to be a different person, respectful and polite to everyone.I can learn from the experience of my predecessors with an open mind, and I will carefully review the "little work" to be done within the job duties, even the simplest flow reports, before handing them in.Everyone has witnessed his changes. Seeing Xiao Chen's progress, colleagues in the unit also began to exchange views and discuss issues with Xiao Chen.The experience of old colleagues and Xiao Chen’s professional knowledge verified each other, and the two sides made progress together. Soon Xiao Chen’s department was dubbed by other colleagues in the unit: "The class of top technology." Unit technical backbone.

Now Xiao Chen has been in the unit for the sixth year, and has been officially promoted to the deputy section chief of his department, becoming the youngest grassroots leading cadre in the unit.At this time, if someone mentions Xiao Chen's pride and conceit when he first came, the person next to him will immediately interrupt with a smile: "Proud and conceited?That's natural, who makes people capable.

This is not everyone's snobbery, but if you can't prove your talent, what right do you have to be conceited or proud in front of others?
A person can be conceited or arrogant, but you have to work hard to let others see your excellence, otherwise you will become the laughing stock of everyone, and you will feel that the society is full of malice.

This is really not alarmist talk.Just like Xiao Chen in the story, the same person, before he did not work hard to prove his strength, he only felt that there was unfairness to him everywhere in his life, and it should belong to him. Let the new intern students snatched away.No one spoke for him, and the leaders only scolded him.But after he proves himself, if someone still brings up his conceit or pride, he doesn't need to defend himself, and there will naturally be people who admire his ability to defend him.These are the respects he earned in the past for his hard work and dedication to prove his talent.

Train yourself today so you can achieve yourself in the future

After all, happiness doesn’t fall from the sky. If you didn’t study hard at the age of seven, didn’t study hard at the age of 17, and didn’t work hard or start a business at the age of 27, can you expect yourself to be well-fed and have a worry-free life at the age of 37? !

When it comes to tempering yourself, everyone will think of this passage: "Shun was raised among the farmers, Fu Yue was raised among the boards, Jiao Ge was raised among the fish and salt, Guan Yiwu was raised among the scholars, and Sun Shuao was raised among the seas. , Baili Xi held it in the market. Therefore, when the heavens will send a great mission to human beings, they must first suffer from their hearts and minds, toil their muscles and bones, starve their bodies and skins, empty their bodies, and mess up their actions. It can't."

This passage is very motivating, and it has a positive fatalistic view, making people feel that they are put through various tests because God intends to train them and will be "downloaded" in the future.In fact, is this what God meant?We don't know.However, no matter what, to be successful, you must first experience some tempering.Even how to marry someone you like requires hard work and tempering.

If you want to marry someone you like, you have to work hard to make yourself like yourself first.

I just knew a girl named Chichi who married a very good man and was very happy after marriage.Chi Chi's husband was originally an executive of a Fortune [-] company, and graduated from the world-renowned University of Waterloo. He is tall and handsome, and he loves Chi Chi very much.During the holidays, commemorate the surprises that can be seen in daily life.

Do you feel envious?I think I have heard the story of Cinderella, but in fact there are very few real Cinderella in the world.Being able to match such a husband is because Chi Chi himself is also very good.Before he was thirty, he already had his own company.Her husband resigned after marriage to manage the company for her, and the two of them worked together to develop Chichi's small company with only a dozen employees into a medium-sized enterprise with nearly 200 employees, and the small life is even more prosperous.

I once chatted with Chi Chi, she didn't have any particularly lofty aspirations in her life, she just hoped to marry a man who treats her well and have a happy family.

Speaking of this, Chi Chi looked at me with bright eyes and said: If I want to find a good man, then I must first be worthy of him, right?If I am too bad myself, how can I have a chance to meet a good man?Even if there is, why would people like me?
So she has been working hard to achieve this so-called small goal.For this reason, she started her own business before she graduated with a master's degree at the age of 26. Although it is a small business, it can also make her live an elegant and refined life.In her words: Women must be able to afford their own expenses, because when you have money, men will spend money for you, and if you are willing to use it, it is to give men face.If you want to spend a man's money when you have no money, it becomes taking advantage of it, and the psychological feeling is completely different.

Out of this mentality, Chichi has been working hard to live. In addition to getting a degree from a prestigious school and starting a small company, he also took time to apply for a certified public accountant and an assistant engineer.So when she met her excellent husband who returned from studying abroad at the University of Waterloo, Chi Chi's brilliance was not at all inferior.On the contrary, Chi Chi's husband often lamented that he was lucky to meet Chi Chi, how dare he not cherish her like his life?Chichi spent 26 years honing himself to shine, just to become the person he likes and achieve the life he yearns for.And such a woman will never lack excellent suitors.

On the contrary, I have seen many girls who have not married in their late thirties, and I have been lamenting that they are not very demanding, so why have they never married.What I want to say is that the requirements are indeed not high, but if you are asked to switch roles, you are a man, would you still want to marry a woman like you?
If so, why do you think you would marry someone like this? !Of course, be gentle and beautiful...

If you are willing, it means that you are successful as a woman, at least you will not dislike it.

Moreover, when women usually look for a man, they want to find someone with better conditions than themselves in all aspects.If you want to be a man, it means that you have worked hard and polished yourself well, at least better than the current you, and even the way you want to marry in your heart.

If you don't work hard and don't like yourself as a man, it is conceivable that the man you can marry is someone with worse conditions than you are now.Therefore, it is not advisable to say that you are not willing to change everything by self-discipline, but hope to change your destiny in marriage.

In my opinion, the delayed happiness is not accidental, not good luck, not luck, everything about her stems from her own training and unremitting efforts.He has been diligent and conscientious when he was studying late.But her study has not always been smooth, and English has always been her weakness before.When she was in high school, she often failed in English. In order to allow herself to be admitted to a good university, she calculated that the English test paper for the college entrance examination involved 3500 words.So, when she was in the third grade of high school, she copied these 3500 words back and forth no less than a hundred times.In the college entrance examination, I got a high score in English.

When I entered the fourth level of the college entrance examination, the number of words rose to 4500.Under normal circumstances, the sophomore will take the fourth level test, which means that you will have to memorize 1000 more words in two years.In my junior year, I took the CET-6600 test. The vocabulary of CET-2100 was 5500, and I had to memorize [-] more words.There are only [-] words in the current postgraduate admissions examination in our country. Unfortunately, many of the words do not overlap with the sixth-level words.In other words, taking the postgraduate entrance examination at the end of the first semester of senior year means that you have to memorize words again.In our family, everyone relaxes and plays, and when she falls in love, Chi Chi studies as hard as an ascetic monk. She memorizes vocabulary and does questions every day like a high school student.As a result, she was admitted to a prestigious university for a master's degree, where she came into contact with the personal connections and knowledge reserves she needed when starting a business.Since then, she has been on her way to success step by step.

If Chi Chi had relaxed a bit, she might not have been able to successfully enter the university, and her life would have been rewritten because of this. It is precisely because Chi Chi has been working so hard to hone herself that now she can live a life that everyone envies.

After all, happiness doesn’t fall from the sky. If you didn’t study hard at the age of seven, didn’t study hard at the age of 17, and didn’t work hard or start a business at the age of 27, can you expect yourself to be well-fed and have a worry-free life at the age of 37? !

So only by starting today and working hard to temper yourself can you achieve a happy life in the future!
If you are not brave, who will be strong for you

People who face challenges bravely and work tirelessly, although they are a little hard at first, end up living an enviable life.

Everyone may be similar, but in the end there is a big gap in life.The main reason is not grasping the opportunity well.When the opportunity comes, many people are timid, guilty, confused, and dare not bravely meet the challenge. In the end, they can only sigh and regret for the rest of their lives.

It is up to you to be brave for your own life.

I believe that there are many people around us who ended up living unsatisfactory lives because they were not brave at the beginning.

Among my friends, there have been such examples.

A few years ago, half of the college students in our class took part in the postgraduate entrance examination, but there were only two students who could finally be admitted to the ideal key universities for graduate students. One was classmate Xiao Li and the other was Xiao Wang. Because the undergraduate majors were the same, The two were admitted to the same university by coincidence, and finally studied with the same tutor by chance.

(End of this chapter)