Super top students: the most efficient learning method for top students

Chapter 60

Mental illness holds children back from learning

Mental illness is like an aphid on a budding bud to a growing child.Only by getting rid of this aphid can the flower buds bloom into beautiful flowers.

I don’t know if you have noticed, but some students check their schoolbags endlessly. They always feel that there are few things, and they can’t study with peace of mind until they have been checked.

Some students like to wash their hands constantly and feel unclean...

In fact, these behaviors may indicate a tendency towards obsessive-compulsive disorder.

There is such a case:
Recently, Xiaogang's mother found that Xiaogang, who just entered the second grade of junior high school, was a little abnormal.

Xiaogang always likes to check his schoolbag. He repeats it more than 10 times a day, and it takes an hour.If checking the schoolbag cannot be finished, Xiao Gang will not be able to do his homework with peace of mind. "He checks the wallet in his bag many times every day, always worrying about losing the wallet, and checks it again every once in a while as if he forgot it. In the past two months, this repeated behavior has affected his sleep and study. .”

In psychological medicine, Xiaogang's behavior is called obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder is a neurological disorder characterized by obsessive thoughts and compulsive actions.It generally manifests as the repeated occurrence of some same concepts and ideas in the patient's mind, and they repeat them constantly. Although the patient knows it is wrong, he cannot control it, resulting in pain.Such as inspection, cleaning, counting, etc.

The medical profession believes that obsessive-compulsive personality is closely related to the occurrence of obsessive-compulsive disorder. If we receive too strict education during the growth period, it is very likely to form obsessive-compulsive personality.

For example, some students were severely educated by their parents in childhood, thus losing themselves, doing everything according to the opinions of parents and teachers, forming a compulsive personality, mechanical, rigid, and pursuing perfection.When the pressure of study is slightly higher, they can't bear this pressure, and they will induce obsessive-compulsive disorder.

With the increasing pressure of study, we should be alert to ourselves suffering from OCD. Here are several ways to prevent OCD:

(1) Don't demand too much from yourself, give yourself a certain space to develop your personality.

(2) Cultivate a good character foundation in life, and don't worry about it.

(3) Do not pursue perfection too much, and realize that nothing is perfect.

Obsessive-compulsive psychological test, by doing this test, you can know whether you have obsessive-compulsive disorder tendency:

“没有”为0分；“很轻”为1分；“中等”为2分；“偏重”为3分；“严重”为4分。

(1) Unnecessary thoughts or words are circling in the mind.

(2) Great forgetfulness.

(3) Worried about untidy clothes and improper manners.

(4) Finding it difficult to complete tasks.

(5) Things must be done slowly to be done correctly.

(6) Things must be checked repeatedly.

(7) Difficulty making decisions.

(8) Repeatedly thinking about meaningless things.

(9) Inability to concentrate.

(10) Wash hands and count points must be repeated.

(11) Repeatedly doing a meaningless action.

(12) Often suspected of being polluted.

(13) Always worrying about relatives and making meaningless associations.

(14) Uncontrollable opposing thinking and concepts appear.

Add up the scores of each item, and those with a total score of more than 20 points should consider the possibility of obsessive-compulsive disorder.

I am loved so I rely on
Too much love from parents can deprive children of opportunities to think independently, act independently, grow abilities, and grow experience, hinder the development of children's independence, and easily make them develop a dependent psychology.

Li Cheng is in the fifth grade of elementary school. He lived with his grandparents and parents since he was a child. He was more active before kindergarten.Since being rescued by mistakenly drinking clean water in a small class in kindergarten, she has been favored by her family. Under the pampering of her grandparents and parents, she has become more timid and self-willed, and gradually developed a bad habit of reaching out for clothes and opening her mouth for food Habit.

After entering elementary school, Li Cheng did not adapt to the independent, disciplined and rhythmic life of the school. Because of his slow movements and poor coordination, he was often the last to hand in his homework, so he was often reprimanded by his teachers and criticized by his classmates. The ridicule made him have no confidence in himself, and he gradually developed the habit of procrastinating homework.

Later, the parents discovered that Li Cheng's study habits were very poor. He had the habit of procrastinating on homework since the first grade of elementary school, especially when encountering some difficult homework. He was reluctant to write for a long time and his academic performance in various subjects was relatively poor ; Lazy labor, not hygienic; rarely participate in class activities, seem out of gregarious; lack of self-confidence, do not take the initiative to say hello to the teacher.

He himself often said to his parents, "My classmates will laugh at me for not doing well, and I feel uncomfortable"; "The knowledge I am learning now is difficult, and I can't"; Learn".

In life, there are many examples like Li Cheng.When a mother consulted with a psychologist, she said: "My daughter is 13 years old this year, but it seems that she will never grow up. She depends on others for everything and has no independent ability at all.

"For example, when her dad and I went out to do some errands after dinner, she didn't dare to stay at home; when she encountered difficulties in her studies, she didn't like to think independently, she just waited for the adults to tell her, or Just wait for the students to finish and copy others; I don’t have my own opinions on some things, and adults say what they say.”

It is not difficult to see that Li Cheng and that girl developed a dependent mentality due to their over-reliance on others.Psychological dependence can be material or spiritual; it can be one-way or two-way.Whether it is material dependence or spiritual dependence, if this dependence is too strong, or if it stays at a certain young age, this dependence will affect a person's growth and maturity, and hinder a person's development. mental health.

The emergence of dependence is related to excessive care or authoritarianism of parents.Parents who overprotect their children do everything for their children, and what they give their children are ready-made things. As a result, children have no problems, no conflicts, and no solutions to problems in their minds, so they naturally rely on their parents all the time.

Parents who are overly authoritarian to their children always blindly deny their children's thoughts. After a long time, children tend to form a thinking mode of "parents are right and they are wrong".Both of these methods of education deprive us of the opportunity to think independently, act independently, grow in capacity, and grow in experience.

We should be soberly aware of this hazard and overcome the weakness of excessive dependence.You must cultivate your own independence and don't let your parents do everything.

If we are more dependent on our parents, we may lack sufficient self-confidence, have a low evaluation of our own abilities, and always think that we are not good at this or that.

We must learn to evaluate ourselves correctly, and give ourselves praise and encouragement in time when we have achieved a little achievement through hard work, so as to cultivate our self-confidence and enhance our courage to be independent.

Anxiety makes people worry

Anxiety is unavoidable in everyone's life.Some students are under too much study pressure. If they cannot release themselves, it will easily lead to emotional instability, anxiety, palpitation, and even insomnia after a long time, which will seriously affect the normal study life and delay the improvement of academic performance.

Anxiety disorder is anxiety neurosis, which is a common neurosis. The patient's main symptom is anxiety emotional reaction, accompanied by obvious autonomic nervous system dysfunction.Anxiety can also occur in normal people, which is a state when people react to a special thing or situation that may cause psychological conflict or frustration, and at the same time have some unpleasant emotional experience.

Anxiety disorders will seriously endanger our physical and mental health. If we are in a state of anxiety for a long time, we will also suffer from neurasthenia, so we must give timely and reasonable treatment.Generally, it is based on psychotherapy, combined with drug psychotherapy.

Here are some psychotherapies:
1. Suggestion therapy
Self-confidence is a necessary prerequisite for treating anxiety disorders.Once a child is found to be suffering from anxiety disorders, he should be encouraged to establish self-confidence, to know himself correctly, to believe that he has the ability to deal with social events and complete various tasks, and to firmly believe that anxiety disorders can be completely eliminated through treatment.Through suggestion, every time the patient has more self-confidence, the level of anxiety will be reduced, and at the same time, he will become more confident. This virtuous circle will help the patient get rid of the entanglement of anxiety.

2. Deep relaxation therapy
If the patient can learn to relax deeply, the opposite reaction to what is seen in anxiety occurs, when the body is autonomous rather than controlled by some vague consciousness.Self-deep relaxation has a significant effect on anxiety disorders.

3. Analytical therapy
Some anxiety disorders result from the repression of experienced emotional experiences and desires into the subconscious mind.The patient is worried and anxious all day long, as if a catastrophe is approaching, suffering and anxious, not knowing why.At this time, the patient should analyze the cause of anxiety, or through the assistance of a psychologist, dig out the "root" hidden in the subconscious.

4. Stimulation therapy
Anxiety patients are always thinking wildly, restless, and in pain when they are onset. At this time, patients can use self-stimulation to divert their attention.

sentimental

The image of Lin Daiyu in Dream of the Red Chamber is sentimental and depressed every day... In fact, according to current standards, it is a manifestation of depression.

Similarly, in learning, there are also places that are easy to make people depressed.For example, some students feel uncertain about their future, have no confidence in themselves, are in negative emotions every day, and their academic performance plummets.

Yiyi is a 16-year-old middle school student.At the age of a flower, she should be carefree, full of joy and dreams, but Yiyi's face is always covered by dark clouds.

Her homework is mediocre, and she doesn't pay much attention to her studies.At school, she didn't like to be in contact with teachers and classmates. She always walked alone. She neither wanted to participate in group activities nor had any hobbies. She locked herself in a small room after school; Feeling bad about everything.

Psychiatrists call this psychological symptom of Yiyi depression.Depression is a negative emotional experience, which is frustration and disappointment after suffering setbacks and great pressure.

Psychology believes that depression is related to genetic factors. Studies have shown that if one of the parents suffers from depression, the probability of the child getting the disease is 25%; if both parents are depressed, the child's prevalence rate increases to 50% to 75%. .

More or some acquired reasons.Some students are under too much psychological pressure due to the burden of study, and some parents hope that their children will become dragons and daughters will become phoenixes. They buy materials for their children's studies, hire tutors, and do their best. They are caring and considerate in life. It is to hope that the child will be admitted to middle school or university.

The "care" in life and the "importance" in study did not generate positive motivation. On the contrary, many students have more energy than energy. They want to learn, but they can't keep up.In the face of tremendous pressure, they began to tire of studying and play truant, feeling that neither school nor family was a safe place to live.

To overcome this mentality, do the following:
1. Cultivate an optimistic attitude towards life
Depression is a negative emotion, it may be temporary, and this negative emotion is the result of the negative cognition of the depressed person.

For example, some students become depressed because they failed the exams. They often attribute their failures to their lack of talent and intelligence, and thus lose confidence in their future.

In the face of setbacks, let yourself learn to comfort yourself and adjust yourself.When you encounter unpleasant things, you should think more about the good and positive aspects, and maintain an open-minded attitude.

Or you can look for more objective reasons, such as failing to pass the exam, it may be because of physical discomfort or poor review, and through hard work in the future, you can definitely catch up.

2. Pay attention to exercise your will

People often say: "Life is like the ocean, and only those with a strong will can reach the other shore." Once a person has a strong will, he will create a miracle of life.

3. A wide range of hobbies and colorful leisure activities are also effective ways to overcome depression

If you can regularly participate in various cultural and sports activities and adjust your spiritual life, you can effectively eliminate psychological tension, cultivate your sentiments, and broaden your mind.

(End of this chapter)