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Chapter 11 With such scheming, you can plunder his heart (11)

11. Selling for a price does not mean unsalable
The causes of Chinese-style leftover women are more complex, and their manifestations are more diverse.

The leftover women are divided into A type that refuses to grow up, B type that is commercially operated, C type that is a tomboy, D type that is romantically addicted, and E type that is space-tight.

Type A leftover women are young at heart and cannot adapt to the increase in age, that is, their heart lags behind their age and they have an evasive mentality to the outside world.

Most of the Type B leftover girls are highly educated, have good careers, and are capable.Not reconciled to marrying low, so repeatedly weighed on the balance, fluctuating, and must sell a full house at the best time to ship.

C-type leftover women focus on their careers, and assimilate with male animals, they can be called brothers and sisters, and the men around them ignore their gender for the time being.

D-type leftover women are full of flowers, singing and dancing.Many "male fans" have collectively raised their love points, comparing and comparing, none of them can concentrate all the advantages.

E-type leftover women are house girls, born with claustrophobia.One word, lazy.The second word is fear.So there is no opportunity to meet the opposite sex.

People's misunderstanding of the leftover women is to pick the remaining women, not necessarily, these are often proud and arrogant women, and they have a certain ability to restrain themselves.They threw naked married men, flirtatious men, men who bowed their heads and planed rice, elusive men, mentally young men, domineering men, snobbish men, and white-eyed wolf men all into the trash can, and they were honorably left.

In fact, choosing carefully is not the worst choice. The worst choice is to plunge headlong into a marriage that follows others' opinions with a proud heart, and it is too late to find out that you have made a mistake in judgment.

If you want to retreat again, you will inevitably bear greater social pressure and pay a greater price.

Rather lack than excess is the view of love of the strong.But how to pick the best market to sell?Relying not on age, but on wisdom and basic capital.

Many emotional experts mistakenly believe that a woman's youth is her capital.In fact, if you don't have something to back it up, you may not be able to stand up to the scene.

The 30-year-old Chen Wan is almost left to the point where people and gods are indignant.In fact, Chen Wan has a delicate appearance, which is quite the gentle beauty of Jiangnan women.When she was young, there were also boys who wanted to live and die for her.It stands to reason that it is easy for such a woman to find a man to live in peace.

The mystery of her inability to get married is that Chen Wan had a traumatic first love, and the boy finally chose another girl, which shocked her so much that she couldn't get out of this shadow for a long time.

As Chen Wan gradually matured, with the advancement of her career and the expansion of contacts, she met many men because of the increase in eating and drinking.So as to have a more thorough understanding of this group.The expansion of this kind of network, on the contrary, brought her a deeper sense of insecurity.

People are always afraid of certain things, and they are easy to focus on. Once they fixate on a certain point, this point will be continuously magnified.What Chen Wan focused on was the man's "insecurity".This belongs to the wolf category of men.It has been mentioned all the time, but no one has ever seen improvement. It can be said to be a "dead knot".

After Chen Wan's sense of distrust deepened, in order to protect herself, she automatically retreated to the safety line, and she chose a brand new way to fill the emotional gap - pretending to be strong, assimilating men, and blurring gender consciousness.

Because she feels that this kind of communication can satisfy her needs for feelings, and at the same time, because she does not focus on investment, she can reduce the sense of lack caused by the gap and reduce the risk of being hurt.

This belongs to the more cheerful personality among the leftover women.This kind of woman has the ability to "pass through thousands of flowers without touching her body".Before the crisis came, she resolved the crisis completely.

This kind of leftover women can still live a relatively free and easy life.Because they discovered the true meaning of happiness - I come to please myself.

After work, drink tea, sing, chat with handsome guys, and marginalize the relationship.

People have a misunderstanding that they must deal with themselves in a rush, just like Chinese cabbage is on the market.This seems to be prosperous on the surface, but it actually hides unknown dangers.A typical example is that the divorce rate is now ridiculously high.

Toss a circle, but also become second-hand.Now there should be a term called "second-hand leftover women".What do you think is a good deal?

Chen Wan is indeed capable, ambitious, talented, and smart and quick-witted.No matter what you do, you can quickly find the trick.

At this time, a multi-millionaire who was ten years older than her pursued her.But she also has a rival, a girl in her 20s.The girl has a graduate degree and is infatuated with Z.But Z treats her with a sister mentality.

A man's "sister" is equivalent to a kind of "emotional withdrawal".It is to let her stay in such an appropriate and safe position that cannot affect his final choice of a mate. "Sister" is one step lower than ambiguous, which is the position of the third and fourth spare tires.Ambiguity is often the secondary spare tire.

For men, apart from the formal relationship between men and women, or marriage, the clearer the relationship, the lower the possibility of superiority.Because he wants to push you beyond the safety line, which means that he doesn't leave any chance for you.

Z began to have an affair with Chen Wan. From Chen Wan's point of view, this man was elusive and inseparable.The scheming Chen Wan knew that the key now was to stay still.

Many women think that women should remain passive in their relationship, but it is not always true, it depends on the situation, for example, for this kind of successful man, you can dispel his vigilance by holding back.But for ordinary men, if they are too reserved, they will miss the good match.Because they all have a little inferiority complex in their hearts, and they need your encouragement.

It is time-consuming and laborious to win Z, and it may not be fruitful.Because this kind of man is very assertive, he doesn't want to, and it won't work if you kidnap him and force him.

So Chen Wan turned around and worked hard to develop her career and expand her network.She has a good business talent, she asked Z to become a shareholder of her cultural company, and borrowed a sum of money from him.Chen Wan's contract is clearly organized, and the advantages and disadvantages are clear at a glance.Unexpectedly, this dangerous move of recruiting troops did not scare Z away, but made him feel that this woman had courage and assertiveness.

For a courageous and successful man, if you can't compete with him in your career, you must show your inner self-confidence.Again, if you lack confidence in your abilities, don't expect a man to value you more highly.

After going back and forth, Chen Wan's professionalism and confident attitude, as well as her femininity in every gesture, moved Z's true feelings.At this time, Jing gradually eliminated the women around him, and paid close attention to Chen Wan's whereabouts.Like a cunning hunter, he doesn't startle the enemy, but the connection is closer than ever.

At this time, many women are a little bit impatient, thinking that they can enter a period of passionate love with men after they have achieved a positive result.

In a woman's love, prudence is far better than aggressiveness. If you make a wrong step, the city may be lost.As long as the man does not take a passionate step, the words of the heart cannot pour out.

The charm of a man is the enthusiasm of a strong attack.

The charm of a woman is vaguely indifferent.

Men have a more adventurous spirit and a desire to conquer than women, and they need the "master consciousness" brought about by this uncertainty.

What's the meaning?That is, men have a dominant position in love.This is a wonderful plot. If you take the lead and play the man's role, what else will the man do?
This sense of accomplishment is the ultimate pursuit of a man in love.

Don't be afraid of losing a man because of this, a truly outstanding man will never let his prey go easily.

Z can pretend to be stupid, Chen Wan is even better at it, she will make Z feel happy, but she never makes a promise, after a long time, Chen Wan's calm and breezy behavior finally drives Z crazy.

Of course, Chen Wan's friends of the opposite sex also helped her a lot.That kind of scene where the stars are holding the moon, in Z's eyes, is "the market".This "crowd gathering effect" made her attract the attention of more outstanding men. Gradually, the quantity and quality of the pursuit team around her was even better than when she was young.

The result is self-evident, Z finally "caught" this high-quality prey.Many people who are left behind in the secular world are secretly wondering, it turns out that leftover women can also have spring.

A woman has an overly eager heart in marriage.Being impatient is almost the weakness of all women.In fact, it is not that many women lack wisdom, but that they lack the courage not to be afraid of losing, and a calm mind.

Waiting for the price to sell is by no means unsalable.Not rushing, just smiling, is enough to defeat vulgar fans.Ingenuity, restrain love.

(End of this chapter)