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Chapter 17 Self-worth depends on oneself, noble people depend on wisdom to give their lives (6)

6. The Wisdom of "Leaving Blank" in Love

A woman always needs a few suitors, but it is often a minority who get what they want.

What is she better than me?Why are there so many suitors?And no one cares about me?

Those who are too hungry are starved to death—the unreasonable distribution mechanism of peach blossoms has made many women secretly hate them.

Hu Meizi, who hooks up with men, has a lot of scheming!so they cursed.

But in their hearts, they really want to know how to attract more peach blossoms?
In the past, Emperor Yang of the Sui Dynasty had a concubine who wrote a poem "It's not as good as the idle flowers and plants, but it has more rain and dew." It is a metaphor for this phenomenon of uneven favor.Although love is free now, many women seem to have no more opportunities than in ancient times!

why?

Love is like weaving cloth with a shuttle, it needs sharp eyesight and quick hands, just right.Love is like fishing with a net, you have to catch it for a while and let it dry.The former allows us to maintain a "peach blossom mentality", and all the good men around are alert to "include in the love plan", don't be emotionally dull and think that there is an extra male girlfriend.The latter reminds us to pay attention to the "blank space" of love, don't chase too hard, let love take a breath and take a rest.

Miss, you are going to get married.As long as you are within the range of your eyes and in the atmosphere of magnetic field interaction, you should use your love consciousness to wash your brain, don't pretend to be innocent and emotional, and miss the person who cherishes you.

A girl told me that a year ago, a male best friend expressed affection for me, and I only used him as an emotional trash can without giving it much thought.A year later, I was in the ups and downs in the sea of ​​love, thinking of the slightest kindness he treated me, and felt that he was really a rare good man.In addition, he recently read a book written by an emotional expert, which summed up the good men, and he hit all of them.pity. . .If only I could understand at the time what exactly I want, I wouldn't have missed it. . .

It really left me speechless.It's okay to be "exiled" in the relationship, you can only blame yourself for not being good at learning, and not being able to handle men well.But throwing away the gold at hand and grabbing a handful of sand, this kind of woman is really sad and indisputable.

A numb and dull perception can cool down the audience, while being too restless will quickly make a man lose his passion for plundering.

People don't like things that are too clear.Men need to be aired in love, and women need to be airborne in love.

Whether it is drying or airborne, it is a warm buffer.

For men, too frequent contact can cause their hormones to freeze due to lack of oxygen.

For women, too many clicks can suffocate their love emotions due to blockage.

Everyone has a defense mechanism. When a lover rushes in with rampant love, we can't help protecting our bodies.

But when the lover leaves a string of ellipses, even the slightest good in the past can come out of my mind.

Emotionally, it needs to be one beat faster and two beats slower, in order to achieve the effect of ups and downs.

The blank space of love is the effect of empty shooting, so it often makes people speculate for a long time, and quietly sink in the left and right thoughts.

Yu Fei is a typical representative of peach blossoms in love.Wherever she went, it began to rain peach blossoms, and men often chased and intercepted her. Those who chased her covered all age groups and different professions, but without exception, they were all very good men.

I often laugh at her, you have absorbed all the resources of the leftover women, and the leftover women must hate you to death, because of a black apple like you, the leftover women's granary is empty!She smiled sweetly.That calm little appearance makes one's heart itch.

She is a smart woman who can walk in the gap between love, knows how to bend over to attract love, and also knows how to leave room for love.

She has the appearance of innocence and simplicity, but without losing the tenderness of a woman.Her thick lines are not manifested in insensitivity, but in indifference.When it comes to men, don't delve too deeply into it, don't care about it, and keep a low profile.So it attracts men who are willing to associate with such innocent girls.Moreover, her confusion and asking for help from time to time made the man suddenly grow taller in front of her, always wanting to protect her, worried that she would not be able to take care of herself.This is the wisdom of bending over to attract.

So what is the effect of love "blank"?That is, the "cooling" effect of women in love.In the rationality of her bones.

She knows how to restrain emotions.If you can express it implicitly, never say it explicitly.There are three points for talking, and three points for showing affection.Where are the three points?

These three points are not for men to know, I like you, and you are the person I like.Instead, it implies that I am interested in you, and you can come and chase me.

A woman's sense of proportion is a big question.A girl who is overwhelmed by emotions can hardly restrain the dark tide in her heart.They believe that love is to speak out.

This kind of view is also between two things. It is right to say that there is some truth in it. Once you get cold to the end, even the hottest charcoal will go out.But if you act like you are determined by him and make him feel too secure, then you will be a disaster.When he thinks of you, he takes a sip of water from you.On the other hand, it's frivolous.A girl who is too sloppy will lose her charm easily.

How to do it?

When the time is right, show appreciation and admiration for him.It is a man who longs for a woman to admire.For a man, admiration fascinates him more than love itself, which will make him feel grateful for "the kindness of knowing you".Because men are born to be admired and admired, this is also the deep motivation for men to long for non-stop love - to be worshiped aimlessly by many women.

You can also praise him for his ability to match clothes and his good temperament, and you appreciate his taste and vision.You can also praise him for his outstanding talent, his arrogance, and not being driven by the world. You appreciate his character.

Try to pick some qualities that set him apart from others and praise him.Let him understand that he has a uniqueness in your eyes.Both men and women like this uniqueness.

why?

We know that love is not for nothing.Humans are insecure.So when you love someone, simply say, I love you.He will suspect that this sentence is a fake or a copy, doubt your sincerity, and even think you are frivolous.This is a big misunderstanding!
But if you can tell him in advance, in your mind, what makes him different from other people, it is to find a fulcrum and evidence for "love" in advance.

After that, whether it is maintaining friendship or transitioning to love, it seems logical.He also has the feeling of "death as a confidant" towards you in his heart.

This is the "side effect" of "love".A man dare not be clear about your love, and he is reluctant to let you go.

The "blank" wisdom of love lies in walking the "marginal" area.There are things to say, but say them subtly.Girls who are eager to hunt will often return home in defeat, because you murdered his "retreat space".

Men are greedy animals, unless it is absolutely necessary, he will not know who he really loves.But with a woman who knows how to "leave blank", he has enough rest, and he has the energy to think about what kind of feelings he has for this woman.

When you give love a step back, it is equivalent to giving yourself a step up.The point is, a woman who can remain indifferent in lust has an unforgettable charm.

Girls often hope to have more peach blossoms, especially more high-quality men who admire them.Then cast the net slowly and close it gracefully.If the posture is too shaky, love is not beautiful.

(End of this chapter)