Women must read: Love depends on robbing, marriage depends on support

Chapter 16 Self-worth depends on oneself, noble people depend on wisdom to give their lives (5)

5. There is no need to treat "love scars" without trace
Women in love are prone to stage fright.

I kept complaining that there were no new clothes to change, and that the hairdresser was not skilled enough, and my hair was damaged.

I repeatedly used blotting paper to absorb oil before a date, only to feel that my pores were extra large.

Going to the beauty parlor in a hurry to clean up the dirt on the skin, you have to be praised by the "killer" before your heart can be considered to be crumbling.

The previous casualness could not stand up to the serious scrutiny now.It was all because he was afraid that he would think he was not good enough.

A girlfriend came to me nervously and asked me, do I have dark circles or bags under my eyes?It's right here, can you see it?
I took a closer look and said, no.

She repeatedly took out the makeup mirror to study it for a long time, and finally said: "It's not there at this angle, but it's a little bit off, so I can see it."

I was speechless immediately.

Accurate to this extent, it must be in love, and the other party is a person who makes her short of breath.

Because I have timidity in my heart, I will pay special attention to my own minutiae.

Another suitor of this girlfriend, I have seen her without makeup, even when her skin condition was poor, when she was fat, and when she was extremely thin.Without exception, he said sincerely, you are so beautiful.

I asked her, why don't you find him as your boyfriend, at least you will become more and more confident.

She said, but I don't love him!

No, it's not that human nature is cheap, it's because people always have to love the object that makes them short of breath, and only then has they truly loved.

After being hurt, picked on, abused, and a heart rubbed, I feel that "love" has a sense of existence.

People have a bit of "Quasimodo" syndrome in their relationships. It seems that only by infinitely lowering their posture can they drive up their worth.Look, only I deserve to love such a good person.Only I am worthy of such high-end love.

When a man falls in love, it shows that his lust is out of control.

When a woman falls in love, she is prone to emotional confusion and IQ imbalance.

Several women asked me in a fuss: Look, I have a scar on my forehead, what should I do?Where can this kind of scar removal surgery be done?

That kind of thing that the naked eye can't see clearly has become an obstacle that women can't overcome in their love relationship!
In fact, the more a woman loves you, the more terrified she is, the more joyously a man tramples you.

True love is not the separation and dismemberment of conditions, but the natural aura exuded by self-confidence.

When you misunderstand love as the meanness of the world, love will definitely return you with a more mean and critical face.

Because, it was you who didn't love yourself first, and you were the first to be critical of yourself.

"Grace is not based on appearance".Maybe your "scar" is not the end of love, but the beginning of love.

Because, your self-confidence allows him to see through the nobility in your bones.

The nobility that is not driven by any flaws is the most precious sense of power in love.

The 26-year-old Keying can be regarded as a beauty, with a pair of red phoenix eyes, a height of 1 meters, petite and exquisite, and works as an editor for a fashion magazine.She talked about a boyfriend with an annual salary of 60 yuan and a promising career.They have been talking for three years, and they have a certain emotional foundation.At this time, Keying's family urged the marriage.I feel that girls are too big, which is not good for childbearing or anything, and their family is also afraid of long nights and dreams.In the editing industry, women gather together, and there are few opportunities to meet men.Men in the same industry, girls still don't think much of them.This is "peer lightness".The editor is more or less a literati, and it is easy for literati to despise each other.

Keying felt that the family members were not unreasonable to worry about. For example, the little grandson in the office is 33 and has not yet married.There is also Xiao Ji, who is 31 years old, has good looks and body, but has no way to meet better men.Fortunately, the university caught one quickly, otherwise there would be a "famine"!

She shared this idea with her boyfriend.What did your boyfriend say?He said, yes.Then we will get married.Now Keying is at ease, going to work and waiting with peace of mind.After waiting for a while, I saw that my boyfriend didn't move. Not only did he not mention when we will get married, but he even became suspicious.Why did you go?His explanation was that he was on a business trip recently and the unit was really busy.

Keying started to worry, I didn't mention that before you got married, why weren't you busy?But Keying asked insincerely.In this love affair, except for the beginning, Keying was basically not at home.Little B has his advantages, and his thoughts are more delicate.The disadvantage is that it is not very reliable, there is a bit of sloppy meaning in the relationship, the mouth is very bad, and it can be picky at every turn. "You see, you don't know how to match your clothes, you don't know how to dye your hair, and you're not fashionable at all. You're still working in a fashion magazine!" Close her.Also, a little fat, let her lose weight.

But Yingzheng was terrified, and everything that could be changed was changed.Losing weight is easy, as long as you are hungry.Once this woman falls in love, there are no conditions, she is very heroic.Before, I didn’t do anything without eating a cone, but now I can just eat apples without eating for a few days.But what if the height is not enough?Can it backfire?
Ke Ying hurriedly looked for a good way to increase height.I can't laugh or cry.

At the same time, Little B is still dating for three days fishing and two days posting on the net.Little B, this man, is a man of the "slutty" brand in a bad way. What he needs is a woman who is confident enough to suppress his cynical temper.Ke Ying obviously couldn't do it, she was too sincere and fearful, and it could only fuel Little B's arrogance.But from Keying's point of view, her man is more arrogant, and he really has two brushes, at least he is capable in his career.Such a man has strong self-esteem, and it might be over after one stabbing.For example, Keying resisted once last time, but he punished her with a cold war for half a month.She was going crazy waiting for his call.Fortunately, Keying was able to HOLD herself and not take the initiative to make such a call, otherwise the end would be even more miserable.

I said that he dared to fight you, not because he had strong self-esteem, but because he held your seven inches.From your numerous "obedience" actions, he has been shrewd enough to understand that you cannot do without him at all.

Women have a misunderstanding in this place. They think that as long as love is not expressed frequently, then it is reserved and can hold a man.If you don't call a man, you are passive, and you can win over a man.

We know that men are pragmatic animals, generally able to do what they don't like to talk about.

Here I am talking about the paradox of a man in love: when a man loves you 10 points, he may only show three to five points, or even less.When a guy likes you by just a point or two, he has the potential to show 10 points of enthusiasm.People always care about their image in front of the person they really like, try to show the good side and hide the bad side.I don't dare to perform hard, for fear of self-defeating.He didn't care at all, instead he let go of the performance, acting as he was thick-skinned, and acting as exaggerated.The purpose is nothing more than three, first, to be fun, exciting, and to prove one's charm among the opposite sex.Second, prove your IQ and pick up girls IQ.Third, go to bed.

Therefore, it is a joke for many girls to judge the depth of a man's love for you by his enthusiasm, frequency of confession, and number of phone calls and text messages.

When he really loves you, he is unwilling to show timidity in front of you. On the one hand, it is a means, and on the other hand, he is afraid that you will use his feelings to manipulate him.The third possibility is that the man thinks that is too nasty.A real man is too lazy to confess his love repeatedly, but he will show it to you so that you can feel that he has you in his heart.

Conversely, men see women in the same way.He looks at what you do, not what you say.You usually resist [-] sentences, but you have carried out every sentence he said.You said you didn't take the initiative to call, but when he called, you immediately became excited like a bird or couldn't speak a complete sentence, he must understand the extent of your feelings for him.

That is to say, as long as you care about him nervously, a smart man can see it.

Some girls are lucky enough to come up with this trick and break up. If you do this again, we will break up. I will do what I say.Alright, let's divide and see who can't handle it.Because he is sure of you, and he is sure that you will not let him go.Every kind of performance you usually make makes him feel that he is already an unbearable weight in your life.

How to resolve this situation?

First of all, you should not strengthen your flaws and be driven by his evaluation.If you really love yourself and accept any flaws in yourself, others will really respect you.

Secondly, the most important thing for girls in love is not self-esteem, but self-confidence.Excessive self-esteem is a kind of inferiority complex.And self-confidence is self-confidence in any situation, and you will not lose control of your mentality or emotional disturbance because of a few comments from others.

When you are no longer driven by a man's words, and no longer staring at your "love scar", you will be completely relaxed.Then the aura you form is different.

I told Keying that there is no need to lose weight or increase height, and the clothes should match your original ones.He likes you and doesn't like it, you have to have your own taste and your own opinion.You tell yourself in your heart: a man, if he doesn't really appreciate you, he is not worthy of your liking!Women must have this kind of domineering.

From the analysis of B's ​​personality from a young age, he is a very assertive man, and he is also considered popular. The reason why he is picky about Ke Ying is because Ke Ying is used to him on the one hand, and he is praised by women on the other hand.Therefore, it is not that the more obedient Ke Ying is, the more he can win his heart, but the more arrogant she is, the more she can arouse his admiration.

Later, Keying told me that when she relaxed, everything got better. Although Xiao B doesn't talk about her marriage now, she has a much more enthusiastic attitude towards her.

Keying's method is that when Xiao B said it, he vaguely agreed, but he did everything according to his own.This kind of weak and confrontational tactic can be regarded as a leap forward for a girl like Keying.

Women often think that when my career is excellent, when I am perfect, he will definitely love me with all his heart.

Girls, when you are not perfect, you should have a perfect aura, confident momentum, and independent courage.Because men don't necessarily love the "excellent and perfect woman" that is a fait accompli, but the woman who always feels that she is impeccable.

When you live in "scar emotions", even the best love will abandon you.Because of your demanding attitude, it makes you tired and makes men worry.If you're persistent about your "flaws," men will stare at them forever.

When you are stronger than a man's aura and more attractive than a man, the man will re-examine your value with confusion.

Love needs to create some "illusions" instead of repeatedly modifying "facts".Love often has nothing to do with appearance, fat or thin, love is a "psychological warfare".

(End of this chapter)