Women must read: Love depends on robbing, marriage depends on support

Chapter 15 Self-worth depends on oneself, noble people depend on wisdom to give their lives (4)

4. Love a good man and be happy for a while, marry a high-quality man and be lucky for a lifetime
A woman's merits and virtues are considered complete only if she meets at least two men in her lifetime.

One is a good man with a heart as wide as a valley and a clear mind, and the other is a high-quality man who is towering into Songshan and colorful.

Often, every woman is a master of shielding, infinitely ignoring the good man beside her, but looking at the high-quality man in the distance from time to time.

I was heartbroken by the high-quality man, and plunged headlong into the gentle hometown of the good man to heal my wounds.Then cynically said: "All good men are dead!"

Women, you must be a little bit rational and decisive in love, ask yourself, which kind of life should you choose?Should you release yourself in the passion of the roller coaster, or rest in the stable palm of this world?

I have always loved Yang Buhui in "Yi Tian Tu Long Ji", instead of obsessing about Zhang Wuji, she chased Yin Liting instead.She lives clearly and transparently, and never consumes herself in ambiguous entanglements, but only seeks to fulfill herself in the love she loves.

Women are more likely to indulge in love, and hand over their minds to men for kneading.Don't you know that most of the girls around you who are able to marry well are living a transparent life.And the women who are struggling to explore in the "leftover sea" are always less determined to themselves.

The 27-year-old Nora married the high-quality boy K, which shocked all the girlfriends.Little K is a graduate student and works in a bank after graduation.The annual salary is 30, and the family background is good. There are more than three houses in the family.He was handsome, and he was good at pleasing her, and he was good at saying some witty words to relax the atmosphere.Nora's condition is not good, her appearance and figure are of average, and she is relatively silent, not likable, and she doesn't smile all day long.Compared with her conditions, she is simply considered a beautiful marriage.

Before I met Nora, I was puzzled when I heard such a story told by my friend.After I chatted with Nora for a few words, I found that although this girl was silent, she was calm and not impetuous.She has a sharp sense of things and a lot of brains, but she rarely shows herself.

Therefore, some girls said that this girl is quite scheming, and girls in deep cities will win over men.Is that right?
Nora's brilliance lies not in winning over, but in not winning over.We have been studying how to "catch" a man's heart, but rarely study how to "let go" a man's heart.

For a high-quality man, there are a large number of women who are eyeing him, eager to fight.So, no matter how hard you try, you may not be the one who comes out on top.Don't overestimate your emotional intelligence, because you will never know how deep the other side is.

Nora just improved her aura. For example, as Xiao K's academic qualifications increased, she also went to graduate school.Although she is of average appearance, she is clean and tidy, and there is a kind of casual elegance in her clothes, which makes people feel very comfortable.In addition, she is also studying jewelry design. Although she has not yet achieved obvious results, she has done it very hard.

Nora has her own spiritual world and does not depend on Little K to fertilize and water her spirit.She is pretty good to Little K, but she is not overdrawn or oversubscribed, and it is better to control it within a certain range.I believe that she will set up a defense line for herself in her heart, and will not let her love for Xiao K overflow.She will not indulge her feelings.

Nora's surface is indifferent because she doesn't have much desire to ask for life.Without the desire to get something urgently, naturally he would not resort to militaristic tactics, and would not make men feel pressured.Men feel that they have not been "blackmailed", so they will naturally have time to savor this kind of love carefully.

Once a woman can control her emotions within the rational range, she will release a man's love.

Once a man understands that he does not have to love, but can slowly think clearly, he will find it harder to let go of you.

Therefore, a woman's posture in love must be elegant and calm, so as to win room for herself.

We think that love is to be fully devoted, and love is to be delivered to the body and mind.right?The reason is right, the key is that we ignore the hidden meaning.

The heart you gave him will be returned in excess.There are not many infatuated women who do not enter into a relationship with the mood of usury.She gives you 10 points of goodness in order to get your 20 points of pain.All your scheming and forbearance are for earning his obsession and special liking.

All of this is pressure on him, no matter how innocent you pretend to be!

In love, is it not how much you pay to be at ease?How much he pays, you are willing to throw away all the masks of "Sony Ericsson" and restore the essence of life.

So how do we do it?

In a woman's love, one needs to be more calm and stay out of the way, with one foot in the door and one foot outside the door.Only by maintaining the indifference of watching the fire from the other side, can the exquisite and exquisite mind be restored.

Women believe that love requires full devotion.Wrong, the most taboo thing in love is indulgence.

A woman immersed in love is like a wheat ear soaked in water, more moldy and bulky, and less joyful lightness.

A passionate woman will make a man tired, because he has to respond to your affection.If you do less, you will feel resentful.You seem to be an emotional victim, but you are actually an "emotional coach", stalking and insisting on letting a man join your "emotional evaluation".

It's not that a man doesn't love you enough, but he's afraid to die of this test of chasing and intercepting.It doesn't matter what form or means this "love test" appears in.Small and fresh, sexy goddess, playing hard to get, gentle and considerate, understanding. . .In short, no matter how Monkey King changes, men will always only see the golden cudgel in your hand.Fighting infatuation, men have never been top students in the school of love.And you just want to test the man's infatuation, isn't that the same as killing him?

Therefore, infatuated women are the easiest to get dumped, no matter what scheming you use to arm them.

Why not enter the men's classroom, let the men play the home game, and learn how to be scheming from men?

In terms of shrewdness, men have a natural advantage over women, not because women are not smart enough, but because men are rational enough - they would rather indulge than indulge.

A man's feelings are like an hourglass, infiltrating bit by bit in the common life.And I often watch people order the dishes and compare the quantities repeatedly.When this woman is not worthy enough, they are always cautious and leave a ruthless retreat.

Women's feelings are like pouring water on hot land, it is refreshing to pour it, but it is often difficult to recover.Women would rather indulge in lust than indulging in lust.

Indulgence is more terrifying than indulgence.If you can, please don't put "love" on the sacred altar. What is fulfilled is the splendor of the audience, but it is your physical and mental suffering.

If you want to marry a high-quality man, please take back the heart you put in his palm and redeem your power from him.You can be responsible for your love.

Before throwing yourself into the sea of ​​high-quality men's love, give yourself a fulcrum and ask yourself if your strength can leverage the powerful fan base behind high-quality men?

If you can't bear it, please leave early.Activate the good man you shielded, after all, that is the solid harbor for the weak woman.

Talk to your future self and ask yourself, if he really leaves, can your heart be as perfect as before?If you have no regrets, then please take this cruel heart and rational devotion that you can leave him at any time.

Learn to be ruthless to the devoted self, keep your emotions from breaking the bank, and let rational love control the overall situation.The cruel little girl naturally has a country behind her.

High-quality men are not as strong as you imagine, they have their fragility, so when you don't have to ask him for it, he will rely on you to store his love in your palm.

Because everyone likes a partner with strength in their hearts.

(End of this chapter)