Women must read: Love depends on robbing, marriage depends on support

Chapter 14 Self-worth depends on oneself, noble people depend on wisdom to give their lives (3)

3. You are begging with a "golden bowl"

Women are the animals that are most prone to panic. No matter how beautiful they are, no matter how good their conditions are, they can't catch a man's every move.

Women are most likely to be "dark under the lights" about their own conditions. Even a beautiful woman has an inferiority complex in front of the man she likes.

Feng Lu, 26, has long legs and thin waist, a bit like Lin Chiling.Walking on the street, the rate of turning heads is super high.Her suitors can't be called Yunji, but they are enough for her to work hard.This kind of girl is often arrogant and arrogant, and she comes and goes, and the pursuer is used to having her eyes above her head.I can't make any more choices.

But this kind of "peach blossom in love" also sometimes stumbles.It was a man who was acquainted with each other.Feng Lu is a more flexible person. Simply put, she never refuses any opportunity, nor misses any opportunity.

This kind of girls are generally communicative, hedonists, and advocate "flowers blooming can be folded".In fact, they still have a bottom line, and they may not be really romantic.But it is to enjoy the feeling of being sought after and surrounded.In addition, her job is a tour guide, and she is responsible for foreign travel, so the ratio of contact with men is relatively high.

The 35-year-old blind date man introduced to her by her family is an actuary of a certain company.The family is well off.There are two houses and the car is an Audi.But he was not the best of her suitors.There are some big bosses chasing her too.But for some reason, he made Feng Lu feel worried.

This man is not as impatient as other men, and his interactions are tepid.In other words, he's not eager.After dating for a week, they went to see a movie together, and then he sent her upstairs without offering to sit there.This made Feng Lu, who was used to seeing Fengyue, have a good impression of him.

After that, Feng Lu couldn't feel at ease at work, and kept taking out her phone to see if there was any information about him.After he hadn't contacted Feng Lu for more than three days, she was very anxious and ran over to me and asked me, what exactly did he mean?Is it because of introversion and excessive self-esteem?If this is the case, should she take the initiative to attack, lay some bait, and encourage him to continue chasing?

I told her, try not to take the initiative, but to wait and see what happens.If you really want to take the initiative, sending one message a day is enough, and never send more than two.It's best to be a joke message, and you should pay attention to the selection, and don't be ambiguous, so as not to make him think you are frivolous.

A 35-year-old man, no matter how conservative and introverted he is, has seen many women, so it is impossible for him to be "original in emotion".His silence may be a wait-and-see, because there is a better object, but this object may not be something he can grasp.This is a possibility.

The second possibility is that he has a city government.He felt that since this girl was so beautiful, she must be pursued by people, and she had been spoiled by her suitors long ago.If he did the same routine again, he would die a heroic death.

So what is she missing?

What she lacks is not much chasing.Be on the verge of leaving.Doesn't care much about her.

A little care, but not urgent, is the scheming of a master in love.Smart hunters often know how to control the heat.

In fact, the hunting scheming that makes women fall most easily is a kind of uncertain information, which is what we usually call ambiguous.

The most alluring thing about love is not how beautiful, handsome, good-looking you are, or even how rich you are, but how much you want to be explored and figured out.You can see it, but you can't touch it. It's not only the Achilles' heel of outstanding girls, but also the Achilles' heel of many rich men and diamond men.Let him always be one step away, and he will be as impatient for you as a donkey is for a carrot hanging in front of his eyes.And in this kind of torment, carrots are regarded as a full feast.

You have to learn to be like a gust of wind, which can be felt but not touched.In all likelihood, they will fall into your gentle trap.

She said she had never cared so much about a man.

I've seen a picture of that man, a very ordinary man who was thrown in the crowd and couldn't be found.But she seems to think that his looks are comparable to Korean stars.

A woman's love often comes from an emotional temptation.A man's love comes from the temptation of desire.A woman is sexy enough, and a man is mysterious enough, which can easily arouse the desire that the other party can't wait to have.Once a person is held hostage by an illusion, he is not far from having his IQ cleared.

At this time, it is basically saying more and making more mistakes, and doing more and making more mistakes.Your scheming and temptation are very naive and ridiculous in the eyes of the other party.

Feng Lu was still anxious, that man couldn't grasp her true intentions just by joking and texting!
Girls, when you're smitten with a guy, don't think you haven't hinted enough.In fact, there are already too many!They know your intentions like the back of your hand.Especially, if you're the only one stuck in it.

Judging from the information Feng Lu fed back, the man replied to the text messages in a timely manner, not talking much, and sometimes with a smiling face.Went out for a meal on the weekend, in the coffee shop, the man told her about his first love, the story was very emotional, which made her feel sympathetic.She felt that such a loving man was rare.

Girls, stop it, don't fall any further.This is the most common trick among men, and it can be said that it is not new at all.After you get used to various emotional cases, you will find that there is nothing new under the sun.

In this way, Feng Lu, who was once shrewd and assertive, seemed to have lost all his tricks, and passively followed the man's every move.Every day, like a little girl in first love, longing for a man's date.

This man is sometimes elated, sometimes gloomy, and sometimes calm, making her heart flutter. The man's emotions are her "weather forecast" for the day. She is now completely out of her body.

How can I make him pay more attention to me?Treat me better?I really wanted something to happen with him.

The beautiful woman who used to be high above her was now crawling on the ground, holding a "golden bowl", begging for a little love from a man who was not as good as her.

Girl, what are you drawing?
She said anxiously, is it because of my work that I have a lot of contact with the opposite sex, and he thinks I am not suitable to be a wife, so he hesitates?
This point of view, I think, many people feel right.However, it is downright wrong.

We often see a lot of emotional cases, where a woman cheats on her legs and makes everyone angry, and a man still loves her so much that he can't extricate himself from it.

why?
Because sinking love will lower a person's bottom line.

For those who are addicted to love, no condition is a condition.Regardless of whether you are a yellow-faced woman, a widow, a mother with several children, and more than N years older than him, if he falls into it, he will be like a treasure.Any blemishes on your part have antique value in his eyes.

If he doesn't love you enough, no matter how good or perfect you are, he can find faults and make trouble and make you "moral reflection".

Is there a problem with having more friends of the opposite sex?He saw them having an affair with his own eyes?Pulled out the evil from the bed?no?That can only be an imagination, a concern.If he loves you deeply, he will try his best to beautify the details and think of you in a good direction.

A man who loves you deeply will think that you are sociable and flexible.

Therefore, don't just use the bottom line as a label and stick it on the forehead of love, so that you will become timid and unable to support the scene.

A man with self-esteem can just put his self-esteem to the lowest level for love.

A woman with pride in her heart can just put her pride on the shelf for love.

There is no single trait that can be called a fixed trait in love.Really fall in love, even the most cold-blooded person can be crazy.

Don't care about him so much, don't care about yourself so much, don't care so much about principles and bottom lines.Only when you are not afraid of losing, can you have a clear mind to grasp this relationship.

Often, a woman who is in love will infinitely beautify the details of a man, and repeatedly extend the association with just one sentence.Even though there was a cliff in front of her, she didn't care about it, she just wanted to enjoy the moment when she fell.

Don't think that women really like to seek abuse. What they like is the "entangled emotions" that they fall in love and feel pain and happiness. The joy and pain of falling make them obsessed.

In a relationship, if a woman wants to cultivate a positive result, she should let herself fall slowly. Only in this way can she clearly weigh the pros and cons, so as not to infinitely beautify his details, but shield her outstanding and bright places, and let her advantages "It's dark under the lights".

Because, once you surrender too quickly and hand over your EQ and emotions to a man, then he will have a frivolous feeling towards you.You have to know that people's love has a high level. Both men and women like to chase the opposite sex that they can look up to.

At the moment you indulge your feelings, think about it, maybe he also hopes to be a "masochistic" person, looking up at your height, and let you slowly ravage his EQ and emotions.He also loves the tangle.

You are all alone, what should he do?

Don't hold the "golden bowl" to beg. If you are too uncertain and cautious, he will not believe that it is a "golden bowl", and he will suspect that it is just a layer of "gilding".

You know, you're not that bad, and he's not that good at you.Let's step on a few gold bricks to stand tall and accept his congratulations.

Maybe if you are addicted to drama, he will hold you in the palm of his hand.

(End of this chapter)