Women must read: Love depends on robbing, marriage depends on support

Chapter 19 Self-worth depends on oneself, noble people depend on wisdom to give their lives (8)

8. If you want to marry into a wealthy family, please decorate your facade
The society often thinks that women who are vain have a dream of being rich.But from time to time, a rich girl falls in love with a poor boy, and a rich man pursues a certain woman, but is firmly rejected.

Indeed, there is a strong man in every woman's heart.It's just that the interpretation of the strong is different.

Being rich and powerful is just a footnote for the strong.Some women with good conditions in all aspects often reject rich men and choose poor boyfriends.

why?They are obsessed with the struggle of poor men in adversity.I think that is the demeanor of a strong man.

Some smart and beautiful women are easy to fall into the wrong path of "domestic violence men", and they will not go astray. They often cannot escape the strange circle of being "abused" first, watching him act in "sad scenes", and then forgiving him.

They said: Every time after beating me, he hugged me and cried, saying he loved me.So, I relented.

Are they cheap?no.

It's just that in their hearts, a man who is prone to rage and fights is a strong man.Because, that symbolizes "power".

It's their lack of IQ, can't you see that it's just a man's trick?

Nor is it.It's because they don't want to "see clearly" and "see through" at all.For love, women often would rather sink than face it soberly.Because the feeling of "being loved fiercely" is really fascinating!
To be deeply loved by a powerful man.It's what this type of woman dreams of.A little pain in the flesh is nothing!
Falling in love with tall, rich and handsome does not mean true vanity.Outright vanity is only one branch of women who value wealth.

The first category is the "umbrella effect" woman.When they were children, they were often materially deprived and were fed up with the scare of having no money.This type of woman can be extended into two categories. One category thinks that self-power is not enough, so it is urgent to "rely on a big tree to enjoy the shade".The other type has a certain career foundation through hard work.But she was still panicking inside.She felt that she was "prepared for danger", not really greedy for money.

The second category: is the "halo effect" woman.They generally grow up in well-off families and have never experienced the pain of starvation. Some of them may be better since childhood. When they evaluate and position the excellence of a man by "wealth", they often expect such a man to fall in love with them. to prove their worth.This mentality is like awarding the three-good student certificate, which is a recognition of their ability and value.

The third category: women with strong vanity or shopaholics.No matter what the cause of this type of woman is, it is relatively easy to identify.The most frightening one in the crowd, the one who opens her mouth and keeps her mouth shut and the rich give her something, that's it.This kind of woman is despised by the collective.

The fourth category: fantasy little princess category.There is a girl in this woman's heart.Maybe I watched too many Korean dramas and Taiwanese dramas, and "Gao Fu Shuai myasthenia gravis" appeared. When I saw a man who was very stylish and able to hold, I felt weak all over, lost my mind immediately, and quickly devoted myself to the plot.They strengthen their love infinitely, but they are actually falling in love with their "illusion".

Yahui is a very good girl.Graduated from a prestigious university.financial analyst.The appearance belongs to that kind of intellectual woman, a bit like Yang Lan.What impresses me is that she is very intelligent and her words are powerful.

At that time, there were three suitors in three cities, all of whom were rich and powerful.This girl's mother left her when she was young, but she is very strong and independent, working to earn money while supporting her father.When it comes to financial analysis, her point of view is very sharp.Then three years later, I met her again, who do you think she chose?
She didn't choose any of them, but chose a boy who was not good-looking, had a master's degree like her, but was from a poor family.

I laughed and teased her, why did she give up all the "golden masters" and choose a "phoenix man"?There was a power in this man, she said.

This man's family was in a difficult situation, and he studied part-time and part-time. When it was the most difficult time, he went to the vegetable market to pick up the kind of vegetable leaves that were about to go out of the market, and they cost one yuan per bundle.

She said: "This man is down-to-earth, he is not impetuous, which is hard to find in today's people."

Although her choice is more puzzling to us, or such an outstanding girl, the understanding of the "strong" is this position, which is commendable, and it is not in line with the general trend.

But we can see that in the hearts of women, there are actually differences in interpretation between the "strong" and the power of men.

For example, a famous writer, her comment on the man she loves is: he is a man with strong emotions.

This man is not impetuous, able to settle down in life, and has the patience to make a bookshelf by hand, cook a meal with a touch of joy, trim the flower stand and cut the lawn, which is a kind of strength in her heart.A kind of life is stable and quiet, a kind of precipitating power.

Of course, there are also the power of tolerance, the power of indifference, the power of knowledge, and the power of domineering. . .In women's minds, there are really different opinions about "power"!

In another case, a talented woman in her 30s named Xiao Qin was a screenwriter.She meets a suitor who is very rich.With billions of assets, his appearance does not meet the "handsome" standard, but his skin is fair.This woman had a difficult relationship before, and suffered a lot of blows, but she persevered through her dedication to her career.Now the career is emerging, and new feelings are coming.But this "heavyweight relationship" almost knocked her out.

Although she had dreamed of being "tall, rich and handsome" before, she still fell into "shadow phobia" when she met such a rich and powerful suitor.What does that mean?

When people meet a love partner who is higher than their expected value, they tend to be particularly sensitive to their "shadow" and "flaws", infinitely magnifying the imperfection.For example, I am not tall, my skin is not good, my calves are a bit thick, and I have a scar on my forehead.In short, if they are willing to dig hard, they can even look at the family tree with a magnifying glass to see the "shadow" part of the family inheritance.They will desperately find evidence that makes them feel inferior.

She kept asking me, should she continue her career and stay put, or should she show her affection appropriately?
From her anxiety, I can see the tangled and ambivalence of women who want to marry "tall, rich and handsome" women.On the one hand, these women are somewhat qualified, or beautiful, or talented, or successful in their careers.On the other hand, no apple is perfect.However, under high expectations, it is easy to magnify the "worm's eye" infinitely, and ignore the beauty of the whole apple.

How to do it?

First of all, you have to see what "tall, rich and handsome" likes you.It is the way you speak and the way you act when he first contacts you.Because this type of man is very clear about his preferences.And well-informed, if he can like you, you must have something "bright".This place is like "if life is just like seeing it for the first time".For example, you were lively and innocent at the time, please keep it.You were indifferent and alienated at that time, please keep it.

Secondly, "tall, rich and handsome" is quite realistic, you have to see if there is anything on your body that can "hold" him.For example, the man Xiao Qin met might be very interested in her screenwriting industry.Proof that he likes women in this type of career, and likes one who can do it well.So, instead of paying more attention to him, you should pay more attention to your career.

Third, be confident.Believe that he likes you because you are good enough.For appearance or other flaws, remember a saying: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".He loves you, and you are more and more beautiful in his eyes, perfect.Because a well-informed rich man will not pay more attention to a woman who has no "sexual interest".

A strange logic is that, often, a woman's "sexy charm" does not necessarily match her original beauty!
The most important thing is to keep a calm mind and let go of yourself, so that you can stretch freely and gracefully.Only with the indifference of staying out of the way can we awaken wisdom and take control of the overall situation.

A good attitude is the best appearance for marrying into a wealthy family.

Because, for a woman who values ​​herself, no one dares to underestimate her casually.

(End of this chapter)