Women must read: Love depends on robbing, marriage depends on support

Chapter 22

1. "Latent" at the critical point of love
There is that kind of man or woman who seems to be always looking for his "true love".

Even if there is already a golden apple in front of him or her, he (she) still looks forward to the next gift from God.

They seem to have been in love, and they seem to have been lurking at the "critical point" of love.

This kind of "love appointment obsessive-compulsive disorder" is really annoying!They seem to always make an appointment for the next love.

In love, they always have a casual attitude of "opening their mouths and leaving".

It's just because human nature is too greedy, and it's impossible to live in one choice.Their thoughts: or next.

In marriage and love, if you want to be a winner forever, you must know yourself and your enemy.First ask yourself what do you want?See if the other person's traits meet your needs.

For example, you admit that you are not a woman who can afford it, and you need a sense of belonging.Then a man who can satisfy your traits must be a man who is not very refreshing.

For example, what you want is the unswerving love that has been mythical, and the man who can satisfy you must not be willing to live in marriage.

Because what you need is the "turmoil" of love, not a sense of stability.A man who can give you an unforgettable experience often has the same "turbulent" heart.

Not long after Xiao Min registered information on the Internet, she met a very nice man. A 33-year-old man is in his prime.And open a company, have two cars.The appearance is very youthful and energetic.His age did not show any dew on his face, just like a college boy, sunny and handsome.Xiao Min was immediately fascinated.

What fascinated Xiao Min even more was that this man's opening remarks were different.After they simply exchanged terms, the man asked her, what are her hobbies?She said reading, surfing the Internet, and listening to music.After finishing speaking, I feel that my life is quite poor, and I am a little embarrassed.

So, what is this man's hobby?travel.This is a very attractive hobby for girls.Because all housewives have a little heartless "desire for adventure".I lie on my stomach in the "safety cave", playing the role of a good girl. In fact, I wish a man would hold their hands and lead them to see the "risk" of the outside world.

Let's call the man Little G. Little G showed her the photos in the camera, and showed her some travel magazines.Pointing to a few texts and pictures, he said that these were all written by him. In addition to running the company, he often contributes to travel magazines and provides photography pictures.When mentioning the company he is currently running, he sighed again and again. This company was opened for him by using his relationship with his parents. His parents are also relatively prominent figures in the society. Therefore, as the eldest son in the family, it is difficult for him to shirk this responsibility.Therefore, he hopes to find a kind and capable girl to help him run the company together, so that he will have more time to do what he wants to do.He revealed that a publishing house is currently asking him for a manuscript, and he is writing a book about travel.

Xiao Min was very excited, she felt that she had met the right one. Xiao Min, 28, likes to read, occasionally writes some poems, and often discusses with poetry friends on Weibo.Worked as an assistant in a private company.Currently studying design and preparing to change careers in the future.In general, her conditions are not superior.Her job is to eat youth food.He is not young and looks above average.And also with a bit of "self-proclaimed talented woman" type of aloofness.Such a girl's "love point" is often quite high.When she met little G, she was naturally overjoyed, and felt that the waiting between her was meaningful.

Let's look at the information this man provided.

His conversation showed: First, he is not vulgar, very interesting, and he is an "adventurer", so there must be something called "love caffeine" in him.What is "love caffeine"?This kind of person is often very refreshing and will not let you enter the "love burnout period" in advance.This is the very tangled, painful and happy love that many girls want.

Second, he mentioned responsibility.Then girls like Xiao Min will naively think, oh, this is a "life style" man who knows how to live a down-to-earth life.

Third, he is not only a blue chip stock, but also a potential stock.He continues to expand his career scope, which also includes writing books.

This kind of man is often eloquent and has a brilliant tongue.In love, I like to set off smoke bombs the most, so I set up doubts.

In reality, people are complex and rarely have a single level of quality.The key is to look at the trait that is most central to you.

For example, a stable man who lives according to the "pendulum frequency" may have a little desire deep in his heart, and he will look at beautiful women on the street for a while.When I go home, I might secretly watch some AV to worship Mr. Xiajing.But it only takes up a small slice of his life.Most of the time, he goes to get off work, leaves work, does grocery shopping, cooks, and sits on the sofa watching football games.As secure as a wintering raccoon.

An "adventurer" man with a turbulent heart will also yearn for a stable life in his heart.For example, he will mention your responsibilities, your vision for the future, and how many children you will have.

Is it true?it is true.But only the moment he spoke was true.Most of the time, he will still use it to find excitement.Even if you are married to such a man, you will never see him.He's also suspenseful.

Next, Xiao Min plunged headlong into the love fantasy of Xiao G.Soon Xiaomin found himself miserable.

She couldn't find her place in Xiao G's love.Let's say it's a girlfriend. It seems that he is not very sure, and he is inseparable.Call it a confidante, he is still so ambiguous, he often teases her, and sometimes mentions his longing for marriage to her.Sometimes he would send her roses out of the blue.But rarely confessed.Let Xiaomin have a sense of insecurity.

What made Xiao Min even more heartbroken was that she found that on the dating website, Xiao G's information has always been public, and the status has always been "in progress".When dating together, Xiao G often ran out to answer mysterious calls, and then said lightly that it was a matter of work.Xiao Min also cried and quarreled, but Xiao G said, you are really annoying, I thought you were suitable to be a wife, but now I am disappointed.

Little G is the kind of man who is "lurking" at the "critical point" of love, and falling in love with him is like a "field spy".Full of unknowns and excitement.This type of man knows how to create "love caffeine", but it is difficult for people to maintain stability under stimulating hormones.

Xiao Min was very flustered, and came to me and asked me, what exactly does he want to do?How can I make him fall in love with me?
I said, you have to grasp the important things and ignore those smoke bombs.First look at what you want, and then look at his characteristics, what percentage of those things account for.

So what do we think Xiao Min wants?For a house girl, just like for a "raccoon man", she longs for romance and excitement in her heart, but the main axis is a sense of security.Does this little G have a sense of security?Yes, one out of ten.Xiao Min accounts for 10 out of 10.So the two of them are not suitable at all.

To take a step back, if Xiao Min is not a young woman in literature and art, I don't know if I don't know it, and the emotional reflex arc can grow to Spain.Then she will be spared the pain, won't be too fussy, and won't find fault with nothing.There is still a chance of winning, at least he will regard you as a retreat.

Men like Little G are most afraid of psychological pressure.Just like a naughty boy who is afraid of his mother chasing him and beating him.His purpose in life is to play, and his further purpose is to let go of playing and play without any psychological burden.Whether it is playing around the world or playing with women, for him, it is an allusion to his "principal traits".

In addition, the "soft spot" mentioned by Xiao Min is still a branch of "love caffeine", which is the kind of more refreshing love.

Let me ask Xiao Min again, do you want to die of passion, or a real marriage?
She said, of course it was marriage.I want a sense of security.

Therefore, what she needs to look for is not little G, but a man who is not very "refreshing".

I said, as for intense love, it's just your little desire.But for Little G, that is almost his whole life.

Let's assume that Xiao G is deeply in love with Xiao Min and has a soft spot.How long can this "caffeine effect" last?How long can it last?Special liking is not without, but time-sensitive.The more ferocious the coming, the more hurried the going.

See how to choose, girls?

When you are sure that you have a strong heart and can accept any turmoil in love, you can choose a "refreshing" man, but don't demand results.

If you can't stand the toss and need a sense of security, then please choose the "raccoon man" who is not very refreshing and even a little clumsy. Although he can't satisfy your little fantasies about love and vanity, he can. Really, let you realize that the years are quiet and good, and the world is stable.

(End of this chapter)