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Chapter 33 What Men Don't Want You to Know (2)

2. Vertigo from the halo of the Virgin, let your love die slowly

What is the ideal wife in a man's mind?
Every girl makes a quick list of them.Gentle, virtuous, understanding, tolerant, hardworking.In short, it is right to imitate his mother's appearance.

In fact, many girls who fulfilled the above terms were the first to be eliminated.

Has the standard of wives men like changed?

of course not.You go to ask a young man with a good heart, he will immediately say the above words, gentle, virtuous, understanding, don't restrict me too much.

Minghui and her boyfriend Xu Meng have been dating for a year, and their relationship is stable.But one day, when they were having dinner together in a restaurant, Xu Liang answered a phone call, evasively speaking, and finally avoided her altogether.

Although she was full of doubts, she, who had always been forbearing, did not raise any doubts, and was still kind to him as always.

After a while, the boyfriend went to take a shower and forgot his mobile phone outside.Just got a text message.Originally, Minghui never read text messages from men.She thinks men don't like suspicious women.

But because of the last phone call incident, a shadow formed in her heart.The mysteries superimposed, allowing her to return to the painful experience again.In order to dispel this painful doubt, she couldn't help but read the message.

In the short message, the girl's name is Xu Liang Baobao, and she also said why she didn't receive his flowers, and had a few explicit ambiguous sentences.

Minghui felt his heart was hit so hard that he could hardly stand still.

After taking a shower, Xu Liang was a little angry when faced with her doubts, but he still explained.

He said impatiently: "They are all business women, and I really hate it. She wants to make orders, so she deliberately teases me. I will not have an affair with a female client. If it is spread in the industry, it will damage my reputation." It's also an influence. Besides, how can you look at my privacy casually? The most important thing in a lover is trust. If you are like this, if I marry you, I will not be restricted to death. "

Minghui was a little nervous when she heard this, and regretted her mistake.In addition, my boyfriend did explain everything well.It stands to reason that if a man has a guilty conscience, he will be confused.But Xu Liang's open and honest expression of a gentleman seems to be a villain of Minghui.

Minghui stayed on the sidelines for a while, but since then she has paid more attention.Since she and Xu Liang live in the east city and the west city, the distance is relatively far, and they are both busy, so they can only get together on Sundays.For the remaining six days of life, for Minghui, it was a love blind spot.

What is exasperating is that Xu Liang is as vain and full as Tai Chi, and he can retract and release freely.The doubts that Minghui threw in the past were like throwing on cotton, which was fluffy and bounced back lightly.

"Baby, you're thinking too much. Look, I'm so busy with my career, how can I have time for others?"

Xu Liang is a programmer, so he is really busy.However, the hunting nature of male animals determines that they are quite good at picking needles.What's more, Xu Liang, who is in good condition, is not a law-abiding person.

Should he turn a blind eye and let him toss, or dig three feet to find evidence?
Minghui was cautious, she was afraid that if she really misunderstood, it would bring a shadow to this relationship.Moreover, she loves Xu Liang, and Xu Liang is obviously a potential stock. If she marries him, her material life is still guaranteed.

Therefore, Minghui is in a dilemma.

I pointed out that this was a difficult love affair, obviously, because of the huge imbalance of payments.

On the surface, Minghui is Xu Liang's real girlfriend, and she will transition to marriage as a matter of course, but in fact?

Every weekend except when she stayed in bed, she drove to Xu Liang's house by car, and it was already mid-afternoon.At this time, she was tidying up Xu Liang's room while nagging, washing the clothes he had been holding on for almost a week.Xu Liang just played the game without raising his head and eyes.

Finally, a hand-cooked dinner and a body feast are included.After the day ended successfully, Minghui had to drag his exhausted body back from the west of the city to the east of the city.Because the west of the city is too far away from her unit, she never stays overnight.

What can we see from here?

In this relationship, Minghui devoted herself wholeheartedly.Xu Liang, on the other hand, had reservations.

First of all, Minghui went over, not Xu Liang.And Minghui never thought of letting Xu Liang come over.From the "order execution speed" of a relationship, we can see who is more important.

The current model is that Xu Liang doesn't even need to give any order, Minghui will carry out the order in his heart.

Minghui is the vertigo syndrome of the "Halo of the Virgin Mary" of love.This symptom is the gradual diffusion of the patient's self-rainbow consciousness, causing self-movement.Since I think that I am a martyr and victim of love, then my consciousness dominates my behavior, and I give men motherly care in action.

She felt that Xu Liang allowed her to clean the house and accepted her motherly care, which was his love and affirmation for her.

This is her subconscious "empathy" function.After people fall in love, some people, especially women, have the function of psychological "projection".She is used to projecting her devotion onto men, and under the stimulation of this halo, she tends to feel that every move of a man is an expression of love for her.

Praise means loving her, being silent means loving her, even hugging her and crying to say sorry after a quarrel is also loving her.The point is, why doesn't he love her?She is so good, so perfect.

Because she paid, and paid so much, she moved herself.

She fell in love with herself, fell in love with herself who gave.

I saw such an interesting sentence from a certain horoscope book, I fell in love with him, not because I love him, but because I love him so much, and I am obedient by his side.

Seemingly selfless love, if it is too perfect, too focused on others and infinitely disregarding oneself, it is actually a kind of narcissism.

She has been communicating with herself and falling in love with herself.She has no sense of "interaction" at all.Love is a matter between the two of us.So, hey, can you please do something for me too?Please, if you are like this, forget about not being together, it's boring!

Girls like Minghui would never dare to say these words, she was afraid of affecting the halo of the Virgin that she had finally created.

The direct result of this model is that men don't pay attention to you and don't care.He also mistakenly believed that this was a unilateral act and that he didn't need to do anything.

A loving mother loses many children.Because the son needs to bear the responsibilities, the mother has fully borne it. He has nothing to do. What he can be responsible for is how bad it is and how messy it is.

Pampering and unrestrained tolerance are breeding grounds for "love bacteria".

Sure enough, Minghui came to me crying and said that now he didn't have to renege on his debt.Originally, every Saturday, Minghui would go to recharge her batteries.That day, I suddenly thought that he was thinking a lot, and planned to surprise him.

As a result, the door opened, but saw an unsightly scene.He ended up having sex with a female client.

"I don't know how many I haven't seen. He is a shameless liar!"

I was not very polite, I said: "His shamelessness is caused by you, you are used to it. It is you who acquiesced in his shamelessness."

Minghui's big eyes are full of confusion and pain: "You know, I'm a traditional girl, and I hope to have a single-minded love. How is it that I'm used to it?"

I told her about the above-mentioned "Halo of the Virgin Mary" vertigo.Seeing her thoughtful look, I said, "It's because of your unconditional tolerance that he can push forward. In fact, at the beginning, he tested your bottom line of love."

Going back to the above, at the beginning, Xu Liang's text messages were deleted quickly.

In the second step, he began to answer the phone evasively, and blatantly avoided you.And how do you do it?Didn't even ask.

The third step is to discover the text message accidentally.Although you questioned it, he secretly changed the concept.You didn't argue for it.Instead, let him educate you morally.

After that, he must test your bottom line step by step.He can answer calls and text messages at will.He thought the time was ripe for a smooth flow.

So, he felt that he could enjoy the blessings of Qiren.

What many girls can't tolerate is men's deception. In fact, this is a wrong idea.

A man's non-deception is the most shameless.Because it shows that he doesn't care about you at all and doesn't value you.

A man who is somewhat trembling towards you will not leave some "tails" for you to catch.Look at those men who have mistresses, while calling their wives a tigress, not gentle and understanding, but when he comes home, he refuses to have any contact with mistresses.Even if Xiaosan calls the past, it is likely to hear a similar dialogue: "I am busy now, I will call you later." Or "Mr. Zhang, I know about that matter, and I will take care of it tomorrow." All right."

In short, his tone was low, as if he was holding a memorial service.Words must be short and urgent.He was desperate to end the conversation.

Why?He is afraid of that woman.Fear is actually a kind of love.

Many women think that gentle and considerate women are the most pleasing, and men will inevitably flock to them, and they will not marry unless they are kings. In fact, this is precisely the group with the highest elimination rate.

It's not that men's standards have changed, but that women's bottom line has changed.

Gentleness should be a high-profile gentleness.Being empathetic is being empathetic with principles and standards.

A woman who is picky and principled may be more lovely in the eyes of men.Because she can draw [-] lines.

Tell the man that this place must not be surpassed, otherwise you will not have good fruit to eat.

Men have the characteristics of urchins, they are very bullying.He will constantly test your "[-]th line" during the relationship.A woman who has no bottom line, no matter how gentle she is, men are not interested.Because men are born with bestiality and like to challenge difficulties.

For example, in a heavily guarded castle, men want to rush in and occupy the commanding heights.In an empty city, it is estimated that few people would like to visit for free.

What made Minghui even more heartbroken was that her boyfriend actually publicly stated that he liked that girl, but he also liked her and hated her, hoping that she would make a choice, whether to leave or stay.

She came to ask me, and I said, I can't give you the answer to this question.Because you have already answered in your heart, you want to stay and use your great love to save love.

How did you know?She was amazed.

Obviously, Xu Liang has grasped Minghui's weakness in the gradual process.Xu Liang doesn't need to put too much thought into it, as long as her "Halo of the Virgin Mary" shines and hypnotizes her love, that's enough.

She would interpret this accident as an accident in which a man's body couldn't stop the car.Another hug, coaxing, buying a gift and fooling around is almost enough.

In love, men often have a strong sense of expansion and aggression.Many men do not hesitate to beat their own women, the purpose is to facilitate the expansion of their rights and interests in the future.Therefore, don't think that you can let his conscience find out just by giving in.When the two countries are at war, the comparison is never which country has the softest conscience, but whose fist is the hardest.

The reason why he wants to keep Minghui by his side is nothing more than a man's greed, he just wants to get more care.For benefits and benefits, men are much more pragmatic than women.

I suggested that Minghui should give him a slap in the face instead of going back to suffer the torture.

If he cares about you, he will naturally come to your door to apologize.If that doesn't wake him up, believe me, tolerance can only make things worse.

A bottomless and gentle woman with the halo of the "Virgin Mary", hypnotizes herself, and indulges men!If you don't want to make love a medal in the cemetery, then show some courage and determination!

(End of this chapter)