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Chapter 32 What Men Don't Want You to Know (1)

1. Men are best at "stealing concepts"

Does he love me?Many girls ask this question.

He is indifferent, does he not love me?Or is it for the scheming to succeed?

Is he always busy, pursuing his career, or avoiding love?
Many women will check the horoscope, do tests, and check the numbers of Ziwei to confirm their love.Yes, a woman's love is a big thing, and it needs to be determined and affirmed.How to clarify his mind?Is he not loving you enough, or are you thinking too much?Many women ask similar questions.

Qin Lanlan has a boyfriend who has been with him for a year, and he suddenly became busy recently, saying that he was going on a business trip and working overtime.At the beginning, he was indifferent, and his whereabouts were uncertain.Although Qin Lanlan was very worried, she still felt that her boyfriend might be working hard for their future.

Qin Lanlan asked little K, did he change his mind?Little K said that women love to think wildly.Men need to be motivated and focus on their careers, and they can't always think about the love of their children.

Although Qin Lanlan was a little wronged, she was still very happy. She liked Xiao K even more.It's not easy to meet a motivated man nowadays.The society is so impetuous, it is rare for a man to work so hard.In Qin Lanlan's view, a man's greatest sincerity to a woman is not to love each other, but to be willing to fight for their future.

I said to the tangled Qin Lanlan, are you sure he is fighting for you, or for himself?

Men are escape animals, and when they're ambiguous, they're actually easy to spot.If they really love you, they will give you enough confidence and give this love enough confidence.He clearly told you that I am fighting for our future, not career-oriented.

Men are best at being ambiguous and changing concepts secretly in love.

You have to know that when he talks about career, it is his career, not your joint career.He designed his future, not yours.His future may not have you.What's more, in the eyes of men, a successful career is a woman who has a lot.

Being successful and famous, with wives and concubines in groups, is always a man's latent dream.It's just that some men are too ordinary and have no power.

Like Qin Lanlan's boyfriend, 28 years old, working in a foreign bank, the year-end bonus is only 20 yuan, and his parents are senior engineers.This is almost the object that women of marriageable age in the city are vying for.How could he get such a sweet pastry.

So I conclude that little K may hesitate and compare among several women.

Qin Lanlan was very frustrated, she said no, maybe he was really motivated?

Yes, he may be motivated.But since Qin Lanlan came to ask me, what does that mean?It shows that she doesn't have enough confidence in this love.In other words, Little K did not give him enough confidence.

I asked Qin Lanlan, was Little K very hot towards her before?Qin Lanlan frowned and thought for a while, the connection is fixed, but stable.Make a call at a fixed time every night, and make a call every other day.Rarely send text messages, because he said that men don't like chatting, wasting time.Just send a message when something happens.

In other words, they have already entered the marriage mode in advance.But it is different from the marriage model.They were not engaged, and neither had ever lived together.

Qin Lanlan explained that her boyfriend is a workaholic, afraid that the relationship will waste time, so he does not agree to cohabitation.She felt that there were too few such men, so she always treated them like treasures.

Sure enough, as I expected, this man is not dating with full sincerity.You know, a determined man, no matter how introverted he is and how much he values ​​his career, will show a great degree of enthusiasm.

This passion even includes regulation.For example, he will suddenly call at a certain time, it may be in the middle of the night, check the post to see if you are harboring other men.He will find a way to chat with you when he is free.Don't think he can't find you if you are invisible, he will break through your invisible firewall and click on your whereabouts at any time.He needs to be sure and needs to know your whereabouts.And Qin Lanlan's relationship lacked a fiery link from the very beginning, isn't this very suspicious?

If the other party really came from a small family, that's all.With her boyfriend Xiao K's background, he is a man who has seen the world, so it is impossible to be so pedantic.

In this world, there are only women who don't understand style, and there are no men who are not beasts.

A man is passionate, but there must be a woman who arouses his passion.

There are two kinds of women that can stimulate a man's animal instinct.

One is extremely beautiful, so beautiful that men desperately want to have it.

The second is good family background or social status. Men weigh the reality and are willing to marry into the family. In order to prevent this piece of meat from flying away like a swan, a man must spend a lot of money and do everything he can.

The former is an instinctive beast, while the latter is a utilitarian beast.

But Qin Lanlan doesn't own either of these.Of course, many girls do not have these two.Then the capital in their hands, except for being so young and beautiful, is really nothing to show for it.But this society has the most snobbish people, every girl longs for the sparrow to turn into a phoenix, and when they see a golden branch, they will climb up desperately.They are not reconciled to grasping the ordinary fireworks life, they would rather stand on the golden branch and dangle.

Therefore, many women's feelings last in a lukewarm manner.

During the year when Little K and Qin Lanlan dated, the two had a lot of ambiguous conversations, and their husband and wife also called out nastyly.A lot of girls fall for this.They regard sleazy as fun and ambiguous as promises.

In many cases, a man's nonchalant detachment is actually to find a space for himself to withdraw.Not too close, not too far, lest you fall into too deep and break up trouble.He uses this space to choose a better woman.So Qin Lanlan's concept of love was stolen by this man.

He used the "ambiguous concept" to secretly replace the "commitment concept", and used the "career concept" to secretly replace the "love concept".

Of course, Little K will also remain indifferent to the other "alternative" girls until he is completely sure of one of them.Then when he excludes the previous options, he will be much more free and easy, and he can "pass through thousands of flowers without a single leaf sticking to his body".

In other words, Qin Lanlan is not in love with Little K, but rather with his own hallucinations.The reason why Little K does not live together is by no means a gentleman's style, but to give every "alternative" girl the illusion of being single.In this way, he can advance and retreat.

You have to remember and believe that when a man loves you for sure, you don’t need to check any information, check any fortune, or consult any experts, master, you are very sure that he loves you and wants to be with you seriously There is a result.Even if anyone leaves you, he will not leave you.

At that time, you can't beat this man, you can't drive him away, he is like a magnet firmly attracted to you.He will be haunted.

Although a man is a beast and utilitarian in love, once confirmed, he must be unswerving and will regard death as home.

(End of this chapter)