Women must read: Love depends on robbing, marriage depends on support

Chapter 45 The "curve" principle of love, let you win with a high profile (5)

5. The "paradox" of mate selection - flawed women are more able to keep men's hearts
Why are many excellent women often in the dry season of peach blossoms and the empty window of love?
Housewives often say that it's not that they can't meet, but that this girl is arrogant.

When I said this, I felt angrily in my heart: all the men are blind and can't see the gold and jade!
Why is it that the same proud woman didn't particularly win over men, but attracted a group of men to put on a lowly posture and constantly want to attack the city?
In a relationship, is it better to be arrogant, or to let go of your body?
Is it better to be indifferent or cater to?

To figure this out, you must learn the psychological retrograde method in love, and manipulate love according to the business model.

For example, what is there in you that men should chase after?
beautiful?Family background?education?Ability to work?career potential?Appreciation space? (This is suitable for a career that can bring you social status) Prospects for wealth?

A man chasing a woman is doing business with a purse, so he must understand his investment limit and profit margin.After careful consideration in all aspects, he was willing to start "grabbing goods".They not only like the business of making a profit without losing money, but they may also climb high, take risks, and pursue higher goals in order to maximize future profits.

For goods with good quality, especially those with many people participating in the competition, they will spare no effort to pursue them.

At the beginning of love, men are controlled by lust. This stage is called the animal stage, and it is not brainless at this time.

In the middle stage, men return rationally and start thinking about whether to stay or not with marriage as the leading factor, then they are absolutely utilitarian.At this time, I don't care about it.

When will you be distracted?

First, women who can "abuse their hearts" make love ups and downs, just to prevent men from having a good life.

Second, a woman who can "shift the universe" will turn love into family affection little by little.When he finds out that you are his mother's second generation, and he can't get used to without you, you will win.

He Qing is a girl with good conditions, charming appearance, graduated from a prestigious university, talented, independent personality, and works in a Fortune 500 company.But the strange thing is that she has very few peach blossoms, and many men are indifferent, as if they are in a wait-and-see state.She was very puzzled. She said that she could not care about the man's financial situation, and she could also provide housing with the man. She was not afraid of hardship, and she was willing to wash her hands and make soup.In short, it can be used on the countertop, and it can be used in the kitchen.Why are those men blind and unable to see?

Men are not wizards, they don't know spiritism, they are not roundworms in your stomach, they can fully understand that your ice heart is in the jade pot.For expensive goods that are out of reach, those with poor psychological quality will directly bypass them, so as not to show their shabbiness.

Her external aura gives people the impression that she is as noble as a swan, and ordinary men dare not touch the wall at all.

Of course, there is one exception, which can also be understood as a paradox in a man's mate selection.Sometimes, a man's mate selection criteria may overturn all rationality and make women stunned!

He Qing's best friend, Jiani, is a girl with a sweet appearance and a gentle attitude, but she is very rational in her heart.There are many suitors around her, more than half of them are very passionate men that women envy.They invited Jiani to dinner, and she only reluctantly agreed once out of three times.And after the meal, he resolutely went home by himself and refused to be sent by the man.The man didn't think it was disobedient, but was moved by her cleanliness.

In fact, Jiani has a bit of a young lady's temper and self-willedness. She also remembers that her personality is more out of character and less calm.She often goes to He Qing's house to grab a meal, or just buy it, but she doesn't cook by herself.She also has the romance of a Russian girl.I often buy a bouquet of flowers to reward myself.In He Qing's view, buying flowers with the money she bought for bread is a crime worthy of death.

Generally speaking, Jiani looks like a young lady, delicate and untouched by her fingers.At first glance, it looks like Mrs. Kuo.He Qing didn't understand.If it is said that she is suitable to be a wife, she is better than Jiani in almost everything.Those men kept saying that Jiani was the most suitable wife.Are they all blind?Still have brain disease?

What makes He Qing especially incomprehensible is that Jiani clearly rejected those men, and more than once.Judging from the information she fed back, what she said was also on point, without ambiguity.Why are those men so cheap and refuse to let go?
We often see some cases where women have divisive traits and are extremely extreme during quarrels, and even commit suicide.He has a bad temper and doesn't do housework, but he still wins a man's marriage.Although the man complained a lot, he still couldn't bear to leave her.

Often, women who act as "little three" to others will hear complaints from these men:
She never does housework, and she doesn't give my mother a good face!
She is frigid and refuses to have sex!

She can't do anything, makes me wait on her, and has a bad temper that is unbearable!
She is promiscuous, has ambiguous relationships with other men, and was not innocent before marriage.

The "little three" will be secretly happy in their hearts, and finally found the loophole in his marriage.Such an unlovable woman, I can easily defeat her.

But in the next year, two years, three years, he had no intention of divorce.

Silly girl, the complaint he told you is just a complaint, it is the tip of the iceberg of his emotions, and there are still many merits, which he has never told you.

For example, although she has a grumpy temper, she is beautiful, kind, and occasionally a little gentle, making him sweet to the bone.

Although she is sexually frigid, the occasional love makes him feel the pleasure of conquering, and this sense of accomplishment is doubled.

Although she is skittish, that just shows that she is attractive.

We analyzed before that men have animal traits in love and utilitarian traits in marriage.So why do men often define the wrong standard for their wives?Why would a man be willing to stay in a marriage with loopholes?

A smart woman will not let herself be too indifferent. Although she closes a door to men, she will always open a window quietly.

Jiani is the kind of little woman who, when buying a drink on the street, would softly beg a man to open the bottle cap.Although he is firm in rejecting others, his eyes are soft.This kind of rejection will not only not hurt the self-esteem of men, but will arouse their pity.

And what about He Qing?When a man tried to get close to her, her sharp eyes immediately made him impotent.And she's full of a strong woman's aura (although she is weak in her bones, she never shows this side).On the contrary, Jiani is cruel and assertive in her bones, but her appearance is gentle and weak, and she has no assertiveness.

This is where many excellent women suffer.He refuses to show his weakness to others, and refuses others thousands of miles away in his eyes, making himself more difficult.

Men actually know how to suggest signals, and they are especially easy to be sentimental.Although your gentleness is not aimed at him, nor is your weakness for him to show, but he just feels that everything is directed at him!
Men are not afraid of real difficulties, as long as you are willing to give them a weak fulcrum, a signal that they can overcome.They will be like fearless fighters, indomitable!

A smart woman not only abuses her heart, but also abuses her heart in a proper way. She will not abuse her heart all the time, nor will she abuse her in one way.There is always something good that outsiders can't see.But the person concerned felt that he was extremely happy!Because that bit of "goodness" can only be obtained by going over mountains and mountains!

Therefore, it is not because men define the wrong standard of wives that they are irrational, but because smart women can create "love illusions" for men, so that they can get into this situation and don't want to come out.I don't care about the secular world and reality, this feeling of pain and happiness surpasses everything else!
The only way to defeat reality is to create a kind of "heart addiction", just like drug addiction, no matter how rational a person is, he will become unreasonable because of his obsession!
So, in marriage, how does a man achieve infinite tolerance?

First, their women will "torture" their hearts.Their badness can be said to be bad, but their goodness can't be said.
Came out well.

Second, their women will "shift the universe", turning love little by little into family affection.

A truth that few people know is.A woman is not as perfect as possible, but knows how to reveal her own flaws a little bit, so that men have room for transformation.

When men were young, they liked to play dismantling games.When I grow up, many will be interested in installation, machinery, and creativity.

A woman who is too perfect hinders men's creative space and makes them unable to transform.If things haven't been modified, they feel that they don't belong to them.

With flawed women, men have room to develop.When he watched her being sculpted bit by bit, he felt a sense of accomplishment spontaneously.

A good marriage is not necessarily a fairy couple, but a mutual transformation and mutual perfection.

(End of this chapter)