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Chapter 44 The "curve" principle of love, let you win with a high profile (4)

4. The "paradox of love" of beautiful and talented women

There is a paradox in love: the more beautiful or talented a woman is, the more prone to emotional ups and downs.And many ordinary girls "stupid people have stupid blessings" are more likely to marry rich men.

When there is a deficit in its own resources and the popularity of the audience, what is left to people is a kind of sigh of "fate of beauty" and "fate of talented woman".

This "paradox" makes many people can't let go.

In fact, advantages and disadvantages are all illusions of mentality, labels that are randomly pasted by the world.Often it is not the essence of the problem.

Advantages and disadvantages can be transformed into each other, depending on the environment faced.

In terms of career, talented women are naturally popular.In the public domain such as film and television circles, beauties are often surrounded by people.But in marriage and love, there may be a "deficit", and the advantages turn into disadvantages.

A woman with a sense of superiority often makes people see through her meanness or poverty at a glance.

And a woman who is content with an ordinary life and surrenders to her own imperfections often makes people understand the confidence and abundance in her bones.

Sometimes, the disadvantage is often the pyramid leading to perfection.

For example, some girls are stupid and seem to understand nothing.For beautiful and talented women, this kind of girl is simply too stupid, not shrewd, and not eloquent enough.But men see a precious innocence from her.

Cinderella's two older sisters only saw that she was from a bad background, that she was submissive, weak and deceitful, and had no merit at all.But in the eyes of the prince, all of these are her advantages—beautiful but not self-aware, gentle but reserved, tolerant and kind, and sticking to the bottom line, not being tempted by wealth.

And many beautiful and talented women often have the characteristics of "self-proclaimed queen". The domineering momentum alone is enough to make men shy away.

Surprisingly, the arrogance of most beautiful and talented women comes from the inferiority complex in their bones.

The more perfect a woman is, the more she cares about her imperfections.Because she wants to maintain those secular "advantage labels", she always has the fear of being beaten back to her original shape.

In marriage and love, those who enter into marriage based on their beauty or talent often have a restless heart.Because they trust and rely too much on their "capital" for fear of losing it.Or because they value it so much, they are afraid of soiling their feathers and refuse to give others a little care.

If it is a "low marriage", they will look at themselves and feel sorry for themselves, especially unwilling, so they become shrews or bitter wives.Just because the value of the "goddess" in my heart has not been fulfilled.

If it is a "high marriage", they will think that their fulcrum is in beauty or talent, and they will be very panic about the disappearance of this characteristic.Therefore, life is more tiring than ordinary women.

This alternation of inferiority complex and conceit will affect the aura of love.Make people close to them feel anxious and uneasy.

Ordinary women know that there is nothing remarkable about themselves, so they would rather believe in love and learn to be grateful.Because you have nothing to worry about, you can do whatever you want.

This sense of peace and reality is exactly what the rich man lacks.

Therefore, in love, there are no absolute advantages or disadvantages, only mental obstacles.The so-called external conditions are actually the biggest deception!It will make a woman pay too much attention and care, and lose her elegant posture in love—tenderness, care, and calmness.

In fact, a perfect marriage requires reducing your own betting.No matter how perfect a thing is, over time, others will give up the novelty of it and the original passion.How to do it?

It's better to set aside some sights and bet on your lover.Ask him if he can keep warm by wearing clothes, and his body can be tired.

A truly intelligent woman will pay more attention to life.Just the posture of elegant life makes men fascinated!
A woman who can calmly deal with life and find an emotional balance—neither arrogant nor inferior, often has a kind of spiritual strength that is dependable.It was a precipitating aura.

Nan Ya is a friend of the author and the chief editor of a certain fashion magazine. She looks very talented.But recently encountered "Waterloo of love".At the beginning, her boyfriend alienated her for no reason. Nan Ya tried hard to ask for a reason, and he said flatly, I think your hairstyle is too rustic, and your clothes are not trendy. I don’t like it and I don’t know how to dress myself carefully girl.In fact, clothes in South Asia are not cheap, they are all high-end goods in shopping malls.

She asked me, at the beginning he praised me for being good-looking, able to wear clothes, and very face-saving when I took it out, why did he dislike me now?And the exact opposite of what you said at the beginning?
Nan Ya's boyfriend is a rich second generation, and he likes drag racing, skiing, in short, exciting activities, he likes them all.At the beginning, the mystery of Nan Ya's profession, coupled with her talent and temperament, made him feel very interesting, and it was also a face to bring to the circle of friends.But the rich second generation faces many temptations.

In addition, Nanya is actually a little bit arrogant.From time to time, I have a little "princess disease".At the beginning, the rich second generation was still coaxing patiently.Like coaxing a rag doll.But soon he got bored.

There is still a difference between rich second-generation men and successful men. They have been pampered since childhood and have never suffered any grievances.He still wants to be the second uncle himself, why should he serve you?
Thus, a disagreement between the two emerged.

After the rich second generation finished picking on her, they went to play without any psychological burden.Nanya was terrified.This kind of opportunity to make friends with the rich second generation does not come every year, not to mention that she loves this boyfriend very much.

So she desperately reads fashion magazines for inspiration, but no matter how she fiddles, the rich second generation is always critical of her.Later, he became more and more indifferent to her.Soon, Nan Ya found the ambiguous messages between him and several other women through his space.

She was furious, quarreled with him violently, and then threatened him with suicide.The rich second generation didn't even have any interest in arguing with her. As soon as the phone number was changed, QQ was blocked, and the world disappeared immediately.

Nanya is in a hurry.Dressed up every day to show off, standing under the rich second generation company and waiting infatuatedly.It happened to be raining heavily in those few days, and she cried and shouted below, attracting many people to watch.

As a result, the rich second generation finally showed up with a girl in his arms.She is not as good-looking as her, but she looks more calm between her brows and eyes.

Nan Ya rushed forward and was about to tear the mouth of the "little fairy". She was really not reconciled to being defeated by such an ordinary woman.

The rich second generation gave her a hard push and said, I really regret not leaving you sooner!
In this love affair, Nan Ya first admired herself with arrogance, then "simulated broken love", and finally lowered her self-worth, which can be said to have ravaged herself ups and downs.

You should fall in love with the mentality of watching a drama, not with the mentality of "acting a drama".Because the more you get into the show, the farther his heart is from you.This is the rebellion of human nature.

So where did the other girl win?
Nan Ya is quite brave. She wants to know where she failed, so she makes an appointment with Xiao Yin.And ask her out to talk.The girl is not as beautiful as Nanya, but she is full of natural confidence and optimism in her gestures.Through chatting, Nan Ya learned that the girl had applied for IELTS and planned to study abroad.Nan Ya asked suspiciously, what about him?What should he do?The girl laughed softly, I will never stop my progress for a man.

South Asia is like a thunderbolt.She finally understood where her failure was.She has a natural self-confidence, which will not be disturbed by any external conditions.Has a force to follow.

That is to say, Nan Ya looks confident, even conceited on the surface, but actually she has low self-esteem in her heart, worrying about gains and losses.In a word, she made men very tired.

Every woman wants to turn her rich "capital" into a gorgeous wedding dress.However, if you are trembling with the "golden bowl", how can delicious food stay in the middle of the day?
Even if your hook is pure gold and the bait is extremely sweet, but your mind is not calm enough, which big fish will bite the hook?

For women, talent and beauty are the "bait" given by God. You must know how to match high-end wisdom, cold and arrogant temperament, and decisive attitude.When you are no longer holding your magnificence in your hands tremblingly, you will face life with a relaxed attitude.Only men can examine your inner beauty with relaxed eyes.

When you are indifferent enough, your love is truly persuasive.Because of your "not taking", he can't wait to "want to give".

People are a bit delusional to please, you have to exit modestly and give him a stage to perform.

Sometimes, letting go means getting.

(End of this chapter)