Be good like water: life management lessons from Park Geun-hye to women

Chapter 28 Facing the Future: Recognize Your Direction (4)
Thoughts on "People-oriented"

In Park Geun-hye's view, a truly developed country is one that allows its citizens to live a happy life, not just economic prosperity.All citizens should be proud of this country, young people no longer have to worry about work, parents don't have to worry about raising their children, and the elderly can get good support.Everyone can reap their own success with their own efforts.

Since Park Geun-hye became president, she has always adhered to the "people-oriented" governance philosophy. As a president, she should lead by example, abide by discipline and law, make everyone equal before the law, eradicate the root and soil of corruption, and devote herself to building a clean political and political environment. government.Regarding people's livelihood issues, she is most concerned about the reform of women's welfare policies.She has always been very worried about the social status of Korean women and the low birth rate. For this reason, she has also devoted a lot of effort to social conservation policies, and put forward a proposal to set up kindergartens within the party.Her proposal was opposed by many people, but she insisted: "How can a political party that does not even want to establish a kindergarten discuss the country's women and children policy? How can it win the hearts of the people?" With Park Geun-hye's insistence, the big country The "Happy Kindergarten" in the party headquarters was formally established and began to accept the children of employees.

In order to let the people better understand her ruling philosophy, she also proposed "common happiness education": education is the most basic and important policy and welfare of the country, and "people" should be the most important investment object of the country, and excellent talents should be cultivated It is fundamental to enhance national competitiveness.It is necessary to transform the deeply rooted exam-oriented education that is currently highly competitive into "education for the common happiness of the nation."Avoid the lifelong inequality caused by the inequality starting from early childhood education, fundamentally strengthen the national support system for infant care and education, and transform the rigid exam-oriented education in middle and high schools into one that can realize students' dreams and unleash their creativity. educational model.Strengthen the university responsibility system for employment promotion, support universities to reflect their own individuality, improve the global competitiveness of universities, and realize education and A system of lifelong education for training.

"People-oriented" first came from the book "Guanzi" in the Spring and Autumn Period of China: "The beginning of the overlord is people-oriented. The principle of the country is solid, and the chaos of the country is the country's danger." It means that the cause of the overlord is good. The beginning of the country is also based on the people; this foundation can only be consolidated if the country is straightened out, otherwise, the country will be in danger of extinction.

The Third Plenary Session of the Sixteenth Central Committee of the Communist Party of China clearly put forward the new requirement of "adhering to people-oriented" in the "Decision".As a national political party, it must take people-oriented as the highest value orientation of development, respect, understand and care for people, continuously meet people's comprehensive needs and promote people's all-round development as the fundamental starting point of development, and seek the harmony between people and nature. , The overall harmonious development between people and society, and between people.

The people-oriented concept is related to the future and destiny of a country, and it will also have a profound impact on the harmony and common prosperity of the world. So what enlightenment does it have for our personal life?
Since the 20s, China's economy has maintained a high-speed development trend, and the people's material living standards have been significantly improved.However, the most common complaint we hear from people around us is "unhappiness".From a material perspective, the rapid development of the social economy has reduced many people to slaves of money and material goods. They have been busy with various exams since they were young, and they are busy looking for jobs after graduation.Some girls are urged by their families to get married, have children, and then force their children to continue to take exams before they understand it... They are like a machine for making a living and earning money, running all the time, where is happiness at all?

From a spiritual perspective, the great pressure of survival has caused many people to forget their own interests and expertise.There was a girl who liked history since she was a child. She also majored in history in college, but after graduation, she found that it was difficult to find a suitable job for this major.Although the salary she got in the company was slightly more substantial than the historical research work, the girl still felt extremely lost and empty in her heart.She obviously has her own dreams and pursuits, but she has to choose to compromise in the face of reality. Such frustration afflicts most people in today's society.

From the emotional aspect, many women do not pay attention to their inner emotional needs, but first pay attention to the other party's "hardware facilities".For money, for vanity, for the education of the next generation, they can even completely ignore each other's emotional communication and their respective responsibilities in family life.Under the influence of such a utilitarian mentality, it is impossible to get spiritual comfort from family emotions, let alone the dreamed happiness.

Plato believed: "Our pursuit of the most beautiful is nothing but the pursuit of the most primitive form of things." In the era of materialistic desires, "luxurious houses, luxury cars, and high income" have become the goals of people's lifelong struggle. Material desires have kidnapped our lives, and we choose Running fast in the wrong direction.Therefore, we must let ourselves stop, seriously understand the profound connotation of "people-oriented", and return to the true nature of life.The real life is what Zhou Guoping said is "simple, rich, and peaceful", which is to go to Walden Pond with an ax and a bench to find the pure land of the soul.

We need to maintain a sense of tranquility in a noisy environment, and often empty our minds to enjoy the true nature of life.You must persist in doing what you like, and consciously keep a certain distance from the world.Don't care about other people's eyes and comments, live the life you want to live, and let your emotions no longer be controlled by material things.The simplicity of life can bring us wonderful enjoyment, which is happiness.

The core of success is to play to your strengths

Park Geun-hye is a representative of flexible leadership.She never forces others to do anything, but uses her character, bearing or style to influence others and make them follow her actively. She leads others by her gentle and warm personal image.As a leader, she never brings oppression or fear to the masses.On the contrary, that style full of warmth and love has become her biggest advantage.

With the significant improvement of women's social status, people are increasingly aware that tenderness, delicacy and friendly communication skills have become a huge advantage for women in today's society.Although Park Geun-hye's 16-year political career has demonstrated outstanding leadership and perseverance, her leadership style is fundamentally different from that of male leaders.

When she deals with state affairs or gets along with others, she always makes people experience the feeling of "love", just like the kindness and tolerance of a mother's love.Some people say that in Park Geun-hye's political concept, she is more inclined to communication and exchange than separation and confrontation; she prefers coordination and collaboration to contradiction and competition; she pays more attention to equality and persuasion than authority and command; She is more inclined to peace and stability than coercion and creating crises; she cares more about affection and morality than money and interests.

Although Park Geun-hye is known as the "Ice Princess", she does not have the slightest feeling of rejecting others thousands of miles away. She will stoop to wash the feet of ordinary people, dress up cutely, have fun with the people, and even imitate Uncle Bird's big jump Gangnan style.Even the staff around her often feel her warmth.Because she usually works very hard, Park Geun-hye knows that the staff around her are under a lot of pressure, so she often asks them about their work conditions, expresses understanding and apology for their hard work, and sometimes takes the initiative to ask everyone to have dinner together.It is conceivable that facing such a leader, people have no reason not to support her. It is impossible for people not to work hard, and it is impossible not to follow her wholeheartedly.

Former U.S. President Lincoln can be said to be a model who is good at making use of his own advantages.Lincoln was ugly, a disadvantage in the campaign, but every time he was attacked on this subject, he took advantage of his wit and humor.Once, when he was in a debate with an opponent, the opponent accused Lincoln of being a double-faced man with two faces.After hearing this, Lincoln replied calmly: "If I had two faces, would I still be willing to wear this pair?" His humor and wit immediately won unanimous applause from the audience.

Although his poor background put Lincoln at a disadvantage in the election, he was able to turn his disadvantage into an advantage, thereby narrowing the distance with the middle and lower class voters.He didn't have a special car, so he had to take public transportation wherever he went, and then he took an ordinary carriage borrowed by friends to reach the campaign site.When he delivered a campaign speech, he said: "People wrote to ask me how much property I have. I have a wife and three sons, all of which are priceless. In addition, I also rented an office with a table and three chairs in the room. There is a large bookshelf in the corner. Every book on the shelf is worth reading carefully. I am poor and thin and have a long face. I really have nothing to rely on. The only thing I can rely on is you.” Lincoln can give full play to his With his own advantages, he finally made himself a president with outstanding achievements in American history.

We don't have to compare our shortcomings with the strengths of others.Each has its own characteristics, but also has its own advantages.Don't force yourself to be proficient in everything and be almost perfect, as long as you give full play to your strengths, it is enough.Just like leopards on the grassland, although they lack endurance, they are the sprint kings in the animal kingdom. They only need to burst out their full strength in a few dozen seconds, which is enough for them to survive and reproduce on the grassland forever.

Women don't have to underestimate themselves, women have unique specialties and advantages that men don't have.Perhaps in terms of absolute strength and intelligence, women are indeed slightly inferior due to innate factors, but women also have their own advantages, which are beyond the reach of men.As long as these advantages are fully utilized like Park Geun-hye, women can reap the same achievements and honors as men.

Appearance is the most direct advantage of women.A woman who is naturally beautiful and alluring will be the object of people's attention wherever she goes. As the saying goes, "everyone has a love for beauty." The beauty of a woman can bring a touch of color to a boring environment, and naturally You can add a lot of points to yourself.Of course, a woman's appearance is important, but what is more important is the cultivation of a woman's inner temperament. Even if you don't have a beautiful appearance, as long as you are well-dressed, elegant, and have a good conversation, you can still leave a very good impression on others.

Delicacy is a woman's trump card.Men are more suitable for charging because of their roughness, but they often pay less attention to the details of life than women.Women are born with delicate intuitive instincts, they can detect subtle changes in the environment, and their observation skills are also very keen.When doing things, they are often more rigorous, more focused on details, and consider issues quite carefully and safely, so it is more reassuring to entrust women with some delicate work.

Affinity makes women invincible.Due to biological factors, women are born with maternal qualities, such as tenderness, enthusiasm, understanding, and compassion, and these are especially valuable in the current cruel social competition.In some relatively tense situations, a sweet smile or warm care from a woman can often turn the situation around and solve the problem properly.Affinity not only makes people feel warm, but also makes women play an indispensable role in many aspects of life.

Toughness is the most proud capital of a woman.Men's strength often enables them to be fearless and dare to challenge difficulties.But once they encounter setbacks and blows, they tend to feel lost and hopeless. Men are often inferior to women in terms of resilience and indomitable qualities.Women's patience, perseverance, and hard-working spirit are the greatest advantages, which are rarely possessed by men.So we often see that when a heavy blow knocks down all the members of the family one by one, it is often the woman who can finally hold up all the hope of the family in despair.

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