Dong Qing: Be a woman who can talk

Chapter 2 Ingenuity and ingenuity make your words more stylish
There are poems and books in the belly

There is a saying in "Spring and Autumn": "What makes a man a man is his words."

There is no end to speech, and elegance and vulgarity follow one's heart. Speaking is a broad knowledge. To learn it well, it is not a one-day effort, nor a skill or a tool.Words are like sand and gravel. Only by polishing them thousands of times can they transform into brilliant pearls.

Different people have different ways of polishing language. However, there is no doubt that reading is always the most convenient, most effective, and most persevering one.

There are poems and books in the belly from China, both ancient and modern.Do not believe?Look at Dong Qing!

It is well known that Dong Qing loves to read and is obsessed with reading.

Once, Dong Qing was interviewed, and the host asked her: "If you could only bring three items to a desert island to survive, what would you bring?" The first answer Dong Qing blurted out was "book".For her, loving books and reading has long been the instinct of life.

When did Dong Qing fall in love with books?She probably couldn't tell herself.Perhaps it was when her father told her with a straight face, "A potato is still a potato no matter how dressed it is, and the time spent looking in the mirror every day is better than reading more books"; her time.

Even though she was somewhat reluctant at the beginning, after she really immersed herself in the sea of ​​books, she became fascinated. Since then, she has been fascinated for decades, and it is out of control.No matter how busy she is now, she has to spare time to read books every day, otherwise, she will feel a little uneasy.

She said: "Not reading is like not having enough food. You are mentally hungry."

In order to satisfy her gluttonous "spirit", Dong Qing read many, many books, covering a wide range of subjects.When she was reading, there was always a serious temperament between her eyebrows and eyes. Even in a hurry, she never glanced at ten lines. When she saw the wonderful things, she would make some excerpts and write some reading notes.In her social accounts, Weibo spaces, and forums, we can often see excerpts shared by her, not many, but classic sentences.

Is it difficult to read a book?It's easy!The hard part is actually persistence.How many people can really persist in reading for decades?Very few!And Dong Qing is one of them.

"I always firmly believe that the books I have read will not be read in vain. It will always help me perform better on some occasion in the future." Dong Qing said.In fact, the world is indeed fair, and all efforts and dedication will be rewarded, and the book also gave Dong Qing a generous return.

In the second season of "Chinese Poetry Conference", Dong Qing was deeply moved by a father who loves poetry and has been reading tirelessly for many years. On the scene of the show, she impromptuly presented a poem by the famous Argentine blind master Borges: "God gave I lost my vast sea of ​​books and a pair of invisible eyes, even so, I still secretly imagined that heaven should look like a library."

When hosting the "Long Reader" program, she also frequently burst out golden sentences, such as: "In a sense, everything in the world is encounter. Just like, when cold meets warm, there will be rain; when spring meets winter, there will be rain. When the sky meets the earth, there is eternity; when man meets man, there is life."

A person who can really speak is always a person with a big picture, a large capacity, a great knowledge, and a big heart.

If the mountain is not high, it will be famous if there are immortals; if the water is not deep, it will be spirited if there are dragons.The same is true for speaking, good eloquence and good expression never lie in the gorgeousness, but in its depth and breadth.

When the Wright brothers, the inventors of the airplane, were traveling through Europe, they were invited to a celebrity dinner.

At the banquet, the crowd was full of guests and friends. Many people smiled and complimented the two brothers, and some encouraged the two brothers to give a speech.

At that time, the airplane invented by the Wright brothers had just successfully tested in the United States.

Surrounded by the crowd, Da Wright picked up the microphone. However, he did not give a long speech, nor did he describe the hardships of the invention process. Instead, he only said one sentence: "As far as I know, there will be Only parrots talk, and parrots can't fly high."

As soon as this remark came out, it immediately won applause from all over the house.

Da Wright's concise and philosophic words are derived from his rich and full life experience and the height of life that ordinary people can't match.

In other words, with more experience, standing taller, and seeing farther, people's perspectives, patterns, and understandings will naturally be different.

Patterns come from vision, and vision comes from cognition. Life experience cannot be copied, and time cannot be accelerated suddenly, but the volumes of books hidden in the corners of time can make up for these shortcomings and defects for us.

Traveling thousands of miles may not be possible for everyone, but reading thousands of books is something everyone can do. There is only one premise, and that is persistence.Moreover, read more books, broaden your horizons, improve your structure, broaden your knowledge, see all kinds of life, experience the turmoil of the world, understand the unpredictable of people, and see too much "stupid and stubborn", and your emotional intelligence will naturally improve. When you improve, you will naturally be orderly and loud when doing things and speaking.

The so-called "language from China" never refers to the magnificence of the language, but the depth, breadth, height and brightness of the language.

Some places, we have never been to, perhaps, it is impossible to go in this life, but we can enjoy its charm and magnificence from books; But we can meet and talk to him from the book; some things, some emotions, we may never experience and have no conditions in our life, but we can experience thousands of times in depth from the book...

All in all, there are poems and books in the belly.Read books, read more books, read good books, as long as we persist, no matter who we meet, no matter what occasion, we can have something to say, and we can also have something to say.

Ordinary words can also be very elegant

In the writing of a thousand people, there are a thousand colors; in a population of 1, there are [-] lives.The triviality and ordinaryness of firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar and tea can be fixed by the poetry of the distance, and the gentleness and elegance of hops in music, chess, calligraphy, painting, poetry and hops can be swayed by the smoke from the fields.People who are used to poeticizing life pursue gorgeous, brilliant, and lofty expressions, while those who are accustomed to poetic life are more willing to integrate elegance into "cheesy" ordinary words.

When talking about "money" and "filial piety" in a talk show, Dong Qing didn't quote the classics to discuss the culture of filial piety, but only said: "No matter how rich you are, if you don't know how to be filial to your parents, others will still look down on you."

If it is very straightforward and very life-like, even in the eyes of some critical "cultural people", this statement is "somewhat unlevel" and "too simple".

Dong Qing has actually said many times that she is "unqualified".For example, she said: "No matter how bad your parents are, they will give birth to you and support you, and they will always open the door to wait for your return. You must be filial." She said: "No matter how strong the relationship is, if there is a lot of tossing, cracks will easily appear." She also said: "No matter how stupid you are, the world is so big, it's not your turn to be the stupidest, don't take it to heart, just don't do it next time."

We can see people with words. To a certain extent, what we say reflects our cultivation, attitude, personality, life, books we have read, the path we have traveled, and our deep soul.Therefore, when many people communicate with others, they subconsciously want to speak better, more pleasantly, with style, and with a higher level of class, so as not to be underestimated.

However, the so-called "fan'er" is never a pile of gorgeous rhetoric, let alone some "professional terms" and "philosopher's philosophy" to pretend to be "tall".What can show a chef's culinary skills is not the complicated process of Buddha jumping over the wall, but the simplest boiled cabbage; what can show a person's speaking level is not the quotations from "Zhihu Zheye" and "astronomy and geography", but spoken language, which is what we use every day. They are all talking ordinary words, common words.

King Qian Miao of Wuyue sent a family letter to his wife who was returning home. He never expressed his affection or love, but talked about the daily life.These words were colloquial and vernacular at the time, but as the years passed, this "vernacular" became the most beautiful "love words".

The purpose of speaking is to express thoughts and feelings, to communicate, not to show off literary talents.

Ordinary words are sometimes "very earthy" and "very vulgar", but they are full of human touch. You and I are ordinary people, why can't we say "common sayings"?What's more, ordinary Chinese does not mean "vulgar", ordinary Chinese can also be spoken very elegantly.

The love song "Two Butterflies" that was once popular on the Internet, the lyrics are actually very common: "My dear, you fly slowly, be careful of the roses with thorns in front of you. My dear, you open your mouth, the fragrance of flowers in the wind will make you intoxicated. My dear You fly with me, through the jungle to see the stream..."

This song, at first listen, is very plain and simple, but after careful consideration, the simple and ordinary words have a special charm.

The so-called elegance and vulgarity, the so-called superiority and inferiority, are just an external perception. Yangchun Baixue is certainly good, but sometimes, Xialiba people represent the most authentic appearance of life.Read two more books and imitate more, anyone can do it well, but it is a test of people's language skills to speak ordinary words in place, in a homely manner, and in an elegant and flavorful way.

Whether it is hosting "Long Reader" and "Chinese Poetry Conference", or hosting the "Youth Song Competition", Spring Festival Gala, and "Happy China Tour", Dong Qing speaks, most of the time, he speaks in simple terms.She didn't talk about any great truths, and she was more willing to use chatting, household chores, and storytelling when communicating with guests and contestants.When she is moved, she will cry, and she will say: "A brave person is not one who does not cry, but one who continues to run with tears in his eyes." When it comes to voice, she naturally sighs: "Sound, although It’s for listening, but once it’s filled with emotion, it becomes important.” Facing the man whose sideburns were whitened by hard work, she said warmly, “You’re older than me, so I’ll call you ‘Big Brother’. "

Some words, in fact, do not need to be processed, the original taste is the best; some words, a little adjustment and transformation, can be vivid and fragrant.

As clumsy as clever, as clumsy as clumsy, with poems and books hidden in the stomach and treasures in the chest, accumulated and experienced, the most ordinary language can also have its own fragrance.

The so-called being able to speak and being able to speak is not about how good it sounds, but the interaction between you and me, the resonance between you and me, the speculation inside and outside the words, and the simplicity of complex words. Speaking, homely words are spoken warmly, words convey the heart, and words move with emotion. In this way, even the most common, common, "earthy" and "vulgar" words can ferment a style of elegance and calmness.

Creative expressions are better than punchlines

What is new?It is not a negation of the old, not a resistance to the ancient, but a re-narration and expression of thoughts, emotions, stories, characters, etc. in a distinctive and unique language.

Everyone says, "It's as white as clouds, as blue as the sky, and as green as a meadow." If you say the same thing, won't others find it boring to hear too much?On the contrary, if you break the routine and say, "As white as the moon in front of the bed, as blue as your eyes, as green as the clothes of youth", or, "As white as the corner of a Yiren's skirt, as blue as the The shimmering light of the Danube is as green as a thriving yearning", isn't it more memorable and attractive?

CCTV has a large-scale outdoor variety show called "Happy China Tour", co-hosted by Dong Qing and Zhang Lei.

In April 2009, Dong Qing walked into the lake city of Poyang with "Happy China Tour". When talking about the "lake" culture in Poyang, she didn't talk about it in a cliché, and she didn't follow the steps. Instead, she said something special. She said: " The word "hu" is composed of three characters: water, ancient, and moon. I think this sums up the spiritual characteristics of our Poyang well: "water" represents the lake culture of Poyang, and "ancient" It means that Poyang has a long history, and the 'moon' symbolizes purity and beauty."

When the words fell, the audience burst into applause.

Dong Qing's ability to "innovate" and "innovate" stems from her continuous self-renewal.Read poetry and books, experience the world, keep pace with the times, have keen insight, understand life and understand life.The encyclopedia of society has taught her a lot.

Rich experience, profound accumulation, grand layout, good upbringing, unique and profound understanding of people, things, and the world are all her "innovative" capitals.

Knowing life, understanding life, and being able to integrate life will naturally make it easier to find inspiration from life.

The so-called witty words and good words, sometimes, may be really accidental, but behind this "accidental" there is always a kind of inevitability that is deep and natural.

Mr. Qian Zhongshu's lover, Yang Jiang, a famous translator, once had a very life-like and novel discussion when talking about reading:
"Reading is like visiting the door—'invisible' visiting. When you want to see a teacher you admire or pay a visit to a famous scholar, you don't need to say hello in advance, and you don't have to worry about disturbing the host. Open the book and break into the door, turn a few pages and go to the hall Entering the house. And you can go there often, all the time, and if you don’t know what to do, you can leave without saying goodbye, or simply find another Gao Ming and confront him.”

The unique insights and distinctive expressions have attracted the attention of countless people. Even today, many people are still amazed and amazed by it.

Every experience, every accumulation is a piece of clothing.A woman with deep heritage and talent can always tailor different clothes for different occasions, and even the most blunt and oldest topics can be said in a new and fashionable way.Zhang Ailing concretized love as "cinnabar mole" and "white moonlight"; Lin Huiyin playfully described the cross-stitched homespun as "Miao girl's trouser legs"; Lu Xiaoman used "blue is the disease of the sky" to express sadness.

However, in real life, there are too many young faces who haven't had time to use the vicissitudes of life to melodiously. They or us, for various reasons, have not accumulated enough.Under such circumstances, it is actually quite good to change the angle of thinking, find another way, and seek innovation in a novel and novel way that is unique and eye-catching.

At the job application site of a well-known domestic advertising company, Guo Tiantian was introducing herself with a smile on her face:

"Hello, interviewer. Today, I am very honored to recommend a new product for your company. This product is made in China. It is 165 cm long and weighs 48 kg. It was manufactured in 1995 and has been used for 24 years. It uses advanced artificial intelligence. , Just completed in-depth processing at the London College of Communication 3 months ago, quality and quantity are guaranteed, and you can accept a trial, and you can return it unconditionally if you fail the trial. Now, this product needs a chance to show itself." She stood up and handed the I uploaded my resume information, "This is the product instruction manual, please read it."

Hearing such a self-introduction, the interviewer couldn't help laughing, read Guo Tiantian's resume carefully, and decided to hire her on the spot.The reason is that her sense of innovation and ability is exactly what the company needs.

There is only one Rome, but there are thousands of roads leading to Rome.In interpersonal communication, smooth and effective communication is the only "Rome", and innovative expression is the ultimate shortcut to Rome.After all, being different means getting more attention.

Verbal innovation, in the final analysis, is a more unique and novel understanding of life, the world, and everything around it. It is rooted in life and relies most on strength and accumulation, rather than blind innovation.Therefore, if hard power is not enough, please accumulate slowly, and don’t rush to seek innovation; if you already have some insights, some accumulation, and some cognition, then you might as well export it as "new" a few times, maybe you can gain a share Full of surprises.After all, it is the nature of history and human beings to like the "new" and dislike the "old", and there is nothing wrong with it.

Ingenious metaphors make the language more vivid

There has never been a kind of beauty in the world that does not require makeup, and there is no period of time that does not require beauty. An exquisite life needs countless foils, and exquisite language also needs many embroidered flowers, such as allusions, famous sayings, such as Philosophy, and metaphors.

Dong Qing, who has been awarded the "Top Ten Hosts of CCTV" for eight consecutive years, has always had a soft spot for metaphors.

When it comes to reading, she said: "Not reading is like not having enough food, and the spirit is hungry."

Talking about the ups and downs of career and life before and after studying in the United States, she said: "Everything is like a parabola, slowly rising to the top and then slowly falling back."

Talking about courage, she said: "Courage is the light that blooms in the face of adversity."

Speaking of the soul, she said: "A person's soul should be like a vast ocean. Only rivers of hope, courage, and strength can survive forever."

Talking about the birth, growth, bittersweetness and sweetness of "Long Reader", she said: "I used to think that "Long Reader" might be a very lonely child who would walk in the dark, but I didn't expect , As soon as we left the house, we saw a sky full of stars, illuminating our way."

The ingenious metaphor is to move the oars of Lianlian Qingbo, which not only shakes the rigidity and makes the language vivid, but also endows the language with a kind of interest and spirituality, making it easier for people to understand and accept.

Xia Min is a science student, majoring in mathematics. After graduating from university, he became a junior high school mathematics teacher.

Unlike other teachers who follow the steps step by step, explaining formulas and theories one by one, Xia Min skillfully uses metaphors to connect boring mathematical knowledge with common and vivid things in life, and makes the lectures very exciting.

When talking about fractions, she told the students: "The denominator is like a father, and the numerator is like a daughter. The fraction is the father carrying the daughter."

When talking about the operation of equations, she said: "To write an equation is to put shoes on 'x', and to solve an equation is to take off shoes to 'x'."

When talking about co-prime numbers, she vividly compared: "Two numbers that are co-prime are like two completely strangers. The greatest common factor is one, and the greatest common multiple is the product of two numbers."

In daily life, there are tens of thousands of people and thousands of topics to talk about. Some topics will always be very boring, very profound, very abstract, very lengthy, very cumbersome, and very messy. If you speak boring words and talk about profound topics, then, within 5 minutes, the other party will either be drowsy or listless, and even the topic between you will no longer be able to continue.At this time, using metaphors skillfully and putting make-up on words will definitely have a very different effect.

Sanmao is in love, in love, day by day, year by year, all the time.When Jose left, she wrote her thoughts like this: "Every time I miss you, a grain of sand falls from the sky, forming the Sahara. Every time I think of you, a drop of water falls from the sky, thus forming the Pacific Ocean." Invisible thoughts are instantly quantified and visualized.This kind of expression is not only clear, but also vivid. Compared with the straightforward "I miss you", "I miss you very much" and "I miss you very much", it is natural to make a judgment.

Metaphors are like a bridge, connecting abstraction and imagery, profundity and superficiality, complexity and simplicity, dullness and vividness. Using metaphors skillfully when speaking can make words more vivid and vivid. At the same time, it can effectively enhance the effect of expression. Sometimes, it is not impossible to turn decay into magic.

However, at the end of the day, a metaphor is an adornment of speech, like a bow in your hair, a brooch on your collar, or a jewel on your ring. , and cannot be abused without choice and without scruples, otherwise, it will be self-defeating and nondescript, causing embarrassment at the slightest, and offending others at the worst.

Li Yue and Shui Xin are colleagues and get along very well.In September, Li Yue got married and invited Shui Xin to attend.

In the interactive part of the wedding, everyone laughed and booed, asking the bride and groom to talk about their love history. Li Yue recalled a few episodes of their relationship with sweetness, and said: "Our meeting was a coincidence. Thank you for this chance, maybe, everything is already destined, I met him, he met me, at that moment, it was like..."

Having said that, Li Yue paused for a moment, as if he was stuck, not knowing how to continue.At this time, Shui Xin, who was standing beside Li Yue, reminded in a low voice, "It's like a blind cat meeting a dead mouse, or a mouse meeting its favorite rice."

Shui Xin didn't have any evil intentions, she just wanted to help Li Yue out of the siege, but this metaphor was really inappropriate, the scene was awkward, and finally, the master of ceremonies came forward to ease the atmosphere.

Afterwards, Shui Xin also realized that she had said something wrong, and wanted to make amends full of regret. Therefore, when the bride and groom came to toast, she sincerely apologized and used Li Yu to "ask you how much you can be sad." , Just like a river of spring water flowing eastward" sent his own blessing: "Sister Li, I wish the love between you and your brother-in-law is like a river of spring, flowing eastward..."

Before Shui Xin finished speaking, Li Yue's face turned blue.

It is not terrible to say bad things, the most terrible thing is to say bad things and talk nonsense; if you are not good at using metaphors, you don't have to, otherwise, it will make you laugh.

Women who can talk are good at using metaphors to brighten up their language, gain images and vividness, and this kind of "goodness" is not a talent, it can be transplanted, it can be copied, and there are many ways to copy it.The most effective is to accumulate more, extract more, learn more, and at the same time, be sensitive to observation and pay attention to fit.When using metaphors, it must be in line with the characteristics of people and things, the situation, and the relationship between them.For example, to describe a mountain, you can use "Ru Mei Dai", and to describe a red hut on the ridge of continuous mountains, you can use "a little cinnabar mole on the tip of the eyebrow", which is appropriate and vivid.

The more you accumulate, the more your language shines
Dong Qing is a well-known program host and a sister of CCTV. She has hosted many entertainment programs such as "Long Reader", "Chinese Poetry Conference" and "Charm 12". She is the strength and value of CCTV. She is intellectual, elegant, graceful and shining.

At the "'Belt and Road' International Cooperation Summit Forum", Dong Qing referred to Zhang Qian as an envoy by learning scriptures from the west, saying that "cultural communication can always make a distance of thousands of miles into a zero distance in spirit", which won a lot of praise on and off the field;
On the TV interview program, she talked about all the things "The Reader" has been along the way, and she sent an affectionate message: "I will never grow up, but I will never stop growing up." expresses hope and talks about the future;
In the first episode of "Long Reader", she was infected by the beautiful love of the guests. She couldn't help but blurted out: "We love each other for a lifetime, it's still too short."

At the "Chinese Poetry Conference", she impromptuly recited Yesenin's "I Remember" to encourage the players on the field.

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Such eye-catching clips can be found everywhere in Dong Qing's hosting career.Her excellent language expression ability also makes people can't help but admire and envy her sincerely.It seems that, for her, it is just a trivial matter to properly use famous sayings, poems, anecdotes and allusions, just like eating and drinking water, which is natural and effortless.

Many people wonder how she did it.

Teleprompter?Crouching temporarily?Video clips?Such a calm and elegant response, such a fluent and intellectual conversation, obviously cannot be achieved overnight.

In fact, when asked this question, Dong Qing also said frankly: "The more you accumulate, the more your language will shine." The so-called ease at hand is just the natural reward of accumulating over time.

Dong Qing was born in a scholarly family, her parents both graduated from Fudan University, and they both became bookworms. Under the influence of their ears and eyes, Dong Qing also became a little bookworm when she was a child.

Since elementary school, she liked to copy idioms and ancient poems. When she was free, she always took her own poem cards and recited silently; This masterpiece, "La Traviata", "The Count of Monte Cristo" and other books, she had already mastered by heart when she was in junior high school; after she went to college and took part in the work, she still couldn't put down the book every day, and reading the book for an hour before going to bed has become her. Instinct deep into the bone marrow.

From the works of love, she learned how to know each other and not to abandon each other; from the works of Chinese studies, she learned classics and intellectuality; from the works of inspiration, she learned to write calmly in the hijacked life; from works of philosophy, she learned Learned to think and feel;  …

The book has its own golden house, the book has its own Yan Ruyu, one book is one world, one piece of paper is one prosperity, different books are like different people, telling all kinds of life in whispers.

I have read more books and seen more "world", and I will not be speechless because I don't know, don't know, or don't understand. , Naturally, he can speak eloquently and eloquently, even eloquently without annoying people.

Joined Zhejiang TV Station in 1994, transferred to CCTV in 2002, and then hosted the Spring Festival Gala, hosted

"Long Reader" and became the first sister of CCTV. During the more than [-] years, Dong Qing has experienced too many big waves. The reason why she can stand up to this day is due to no other reason, but a lot of accumulation.

Ten years of perseverance, daily reading and accumulation, have made her "word value" and her eternal brilliance.

Time will never disappoint a person's forbearance and hard work, even if it can't promise us a "dream come true", it will also give us a "unintentional willow will make a shade", the difference is only sooner or later.When she first debuted, Dong Qing was also unknown, and there were not many hosts with higher education and better looks than her, but in the end, she stood out.Why?Because, her face is dotted with erudition, her words are full of self-cultivation, and her brows and eyes are full of books she has read, the road she has traveled, things she has seen, people she has loved, and experiences she has experienced. of all kinds.

The so-called "workers must first sharpen their tools if they want to be good at their work", is probably just the same.

If you don't have any ink in your chest, you naturally have nothing to say. How can you write like a master if you have no idea.Reading, accumulating, and absorbing knowledge day after day are Dong Qing's greatest confidence in "explosive words"!Similarly, reading and accumulation are also the greatest confidence for many promising people to achieve a lifetime.

The famous ancient Greek orator Demosthenes, in order to make his speech more fluent, copied the historical works of Thucides as many as eight times; the famous orator Fox, in order to make his speech more perfect, recited Shakespeare aloud every day The British Poet Laureate Denison studied the Bible every day; the great writer Tolstoy read the "New Testament Gospel" over and over again, and finally he could recite it at length...

No one can succeed casually, every successful person has his own ups and downs behind every successful person; behind every bit of brilliance lies years of hard work.The ancients said: "If you don't accumulate small steps, you can't reach thousands of miles; if you don't accumulate small streams, you can't form rivers and seas." Good words are like jade.

The more you accumulate, the more you shine, not only in language, but also in temperament, capacity, self-cultivation, and dealing with others.

Rich body language shows charming charm
The past in the world is unknown, trivial life, trivial songs, along the way, there are always some lights and shadows cut from the years, graceful and graceful, giving people the purest and deepest touch in the silent place.

On September 2017, 9, "The First Lesson of School" started on time, and Mr. Xu Yuanchong, a famous translator who is already 1 years old, was invited to the show.

The old man is very talkative. Decades of ups and downs, a long life, and rich life experiences make him speak earnestly and wittily.As the host of the show, Dong Qing half-kneeled beside the old man, looked up at the old man slightly, with reverence on her face, occasionally asked a few questions, and said very little, most of the time, she listened quietly.However, no one can ignore her brilliance, both on and off the field. She who was "half kneeling" there had already uttered the most beautiful sound invisible.

Elephants have no shape, great ingenuity but no work, and great voices. All women who can speak, such as Fu Ying, Yang Lan, and Zhu Dan, are masters of seeing voices from silent places and expressing emotions with body language. Among them, Dong Qing especially.

In fact, this is not the first time Dong Qing has interviewed in a "half-kneeling" form. In 2013, during the Spring Festival Gala of the Ministry of Public Security, Dong Qing interviewed Li Boya, the "most beautiful policeman" in a wheelchair, in a kneeling position; at the "Reader" program, she half-kneeled and chatted with disabled guests.

The low water is the sea, and the low man is the king. Kneeling does not make her look humble. On the contrary, the body language of kneeling conveys her kindness, her kindness, and her love in the most common, ordinary and profound way. Self-cultivation, her intelligence, and also her unique elegance.

Anyone who is familiar with Dong Qing knows that she has a habit that can't be changed no matter what: no matter at work or in life, as long as she talks with people, Dong Qing's eyes will always inadvertently meet people's eyes and listen to people's words Sometimes, the body will involuntarily lean forward slightly.

This kind of movement is a natural development over the years, not deliberate or artificial, so it is the most eye-catching.

A CCTV employee who did not want to be named recalled that once, when Dong Qing was recording a program on the spot, she subconsciously leaned forward again. Back to the original position.Because there is only that position, the lighting effect is the best, and the people in the photos are the most beautiful.

Dong Qing did not follow suit. Afterwards, the photographer complained to her a little, but she smiled and said, "It's nothing, you don't need to take such good-looking photos."

The real beauty is not photographed, and the most beautiful thing about a woman is never her face, but her temperament, demeanor, and the beautiful character reflected in her words and deeds.

Psychological research shows that: the transmission of information = 7% speech + 38% voice + 55% expression.

There are always some things that can only be understood, but cannot be expressed in words. There are always some things that we don’t know how to say, or it is inconvenient to say. At that time, expressing with body language is not only relatively intuitive, but also simple, convenient, flexible and free .

Eyes, hands, legs, elbows, eyebrows, head, etc. can all act as the medium of body language in communication. Body language can always achieve unexpected results when used well. Among them, the most effective, common and most The magic of body language is smiling.

A woman's smile is a half-bloomed flower, filled with poems and paintings; behind all the sweet smiles and gentleness, there is always an indescribable fragrance of eyebrows and eyes hidden.

"Star Satellite TV" under Murdoch News Corporation has a sports star interview program called "Sang Lan 2008". The host Sang Lan was originally a national vault champion, but due to an accidental fall and paraplegia during training, she bid farewell to the sports world .

In the first 17 years of her life, there was only one fulcrum in Sang Lan's world, and that was gymnastics.Suddenly became a host, if you say how professional she is, you must be deceiving yourself. In fact, when she was doing a talk show for the first time, she was even more nervous than the invited guest Liu Xiang. What, I don't know how to ask, so I have no choice but to "smirk".

And it was precisely this pure smile that infected Liu Xiang, the audience, and the whole world.

A sweet smile, an elegant smile, a naughty smile, a relaxed smile, a hearty smile, different smiles are filled with different emotions and strengths.Similarly, all kinds of strange body language also inadvertently convey too many emotions and information for us, such as: leaning forward means attention or interest, raising head and chest means self-confidence, flickering eyes means guilty conscience, insincerity, shaking head means dissatisfaction. Agree, bite your lip for nervousness, frown for dissatisfaction, pat your shoulder for friendliness and encouragement, scratch your head for doubt, etc.

Understand the beauty of body language, read it, draw inferences from one instance, use it skillfully at the right time, and communicate with you and me, naturally it is no longer a problem.

Of course, it must be explained that body language such as eyes, gestures, and movements may really bring amazing effects at certain times, but it is by no means a panacea, nor is it all-purpose.If you use your body language indiscriminately, or too often, then, sorry, you're likely to look as funny as a clown in a burlesque.

Speaking of this, many people will probably ask, after all that has been said, how should we use body language?
To be honest, different personalities, different occasions, and different situations, the same body language expresses thoughts and emotions, and the effect is actually different. Body language itself is a kind of behavioral psychology, so there is really no panacea , However, there are still some tips that can be used in general, such as:

1. When talking with people, stare into other people's eyes, but don't stare for too long, it will make people feel uncomfortable.

2. Constantly rubbing your hands, subconsciously touching your face frequently, and constantly shaking your legs are all signs of emotional tension. Faced with this situation, it is meaningless to talk endlessly. First of all, what you have to do is to relieve the other party’s anxiety. nervous.

3. When you are confused, helpless, and don't know how to express it, you might as well spread your hands and shrug your shoulders.

4. If the other party imitates your body movements and tends to synchronize with your movements, it means that he/she is very happy and agrees with you. This is definitely a good sign of communication, please keep working hard.

5. Don't put your hands in your pockets all the time. In fact, it's not cool at all, but it will make you look more anxious.

Body language is the most decent and dazzling dress for a woman in interpersonal communication besides words. It is not gorgeous or ostentatious, but it has its own fragrance.Every woman should have such a fashion.

small title, university question

In the first step of communication, if you get the address wrong, it will be useless to say it later, no matter how wonderful it is.

A small title, a big question, if the title is correct, even if you are clumsy, you can get twice the result with half the effort;

In the second season of "Long Reader", Dong Qing met Huang Yongyu, a master of the painting garden, in the ancient city of Fenghuang, which is full of strong Hunan feelings.

Huang is an octogenarian. He is a real "post-90s". He has gone through ups and downs for nearly a hundred years, but he refuses to accept the old in his bones.He is like the old urchin in "The Legend of the Condor Heroes", although he is gray-haired, he is not old-fashioned.Therefore, when meeting Huang Laochu, Dong Qing didn't call him "Huang Lao", "Master Huang" and "Mr. Huang" in a proper manner, nor did he call him "Mr. Huang" bluntly. Instead, he called him with a smile. "That old man who is older than me".

Mr. Huang is not only a master of painting, but also good at seal cutting, poetry and prose. Many years ago, he published a book called "Old Man Older than Me". Dong Qing smiled and called him "Old Man", not only did he not touch him On the contrary, it shows his respect and recognition in a disguised form. Moreover, this address is playful and intimate. Many times, it will unconsciously narrow the relationship between people.

Sure enough, Mr. Huang was amused by Dong Qing's title of "an old man older than me". Afterwards, the two talked happily throughout the interview.

"Book of Rites Yili" has a saying: "The beauty of words is the emperor of Mu Mu".Those who are mumu respect peace; those who are emperors are beautiful.From ancient times to the present, Chinese people have always paid attention to courtesy, elegance and dignity in speaking and dealing with things. The so-called address is one of the external manifestations of this kind of courtesy and elegance.

If you call it properly, you will speak appropriately; if you call it inappropriate, you will speak inappropriately.Women who can talk, without exception, will work hard on addressing them.If so, not only can gain the favor of others, make communication smooth, but also avoid some unnecessary embarrassment.

In November 2017, actor Pan Youcheng participated in the outdoor architectural creative challenge variety show "Beautiful House".

In the program, Feng Delun said that a mysterious guest was invited to let everyone guess.Pan Youcheng asked, "Is that Hua Tsai?"

In a word, it caused public outrage.

Feng Delun replied angrily on the spot: "You call Brother Hua to be Andy, how old are you?"

"Hua Zai" is the nickname given to him by Andy Lau's fans. It is more intimate to call him. As an outsider, it's fine to call him. However, Pan Youcheng is an insider, newcomer, and junior in the entertainment industry, and he opens his mouth openly Calling him "Hua Zai" would appear frivolous, arrogant, and inappropriate.

During the recording of the program, many viewers sent bullet screens to criticize Pan Youcheng, saying that he was not polite.Since then, Pan Youcheng's popularity has also dropped a lot.

Only by respecting people first can we be respected by others.Perhaps, in the eyes of many people, it is just a title, a trivial matter, and there is no need to make a fuss about it and put it on the line.But to be honest, titles are really important in interpersonal communication.From the perspective of socioeconomics, titles reflect a person's status and degree of respect; from the perspective of public relations, titles show mutual affiliation and connection; from a psychological perspective, Addresses reflect the distance and intimacy between each other.

From this small name, we can sort out many complicated relationships, and we can also swim in a crowded social circle like a fish in water, and walk calmly.

So, what should be the proper address when interacting with people?Of course it depends on the person.

For example: in communication between colleagues, between colleagues who are familiar with each other, calling each other Lao Wang, Xiao Zhang, Sister Li, Brother Chen, etc., it is neither impolite nor intimate; but, if a new employee, just arrived The company, just like everyone else, calls the older colleagues Lao Zhang, Lao Wang, and Lao Li, and the younger colleagues Xiao Chen, Xiao Liu, and Xiao Jiang, which seems extremely inappropriate and respectful.

In addition, in addition to age, closeness, and mutual relationship, when addressing others, talking women will also comprehensively refer to other factors such as occupation, identity, education level, nature of work, and position. Different people call them differently.Otherwise, calling an uncle who sells pancakes "Old Mister" and a salesperson in a supermarket "Comrade" is not wrong, but it is still a bit inappropriate.

In addition, many people think that it is not surprising that people are more polite, more polite, often complimenting others, and there is nothing wrong with giving others a little bit.actually not.To give the most realistic example, many women, especially older women, are relatively sensitive to age. They don't like being called auntie, and they don't want others to say that she is old, so they prefer "sister" and "big sister" this title.However, everything is too much, if you meet a 80-[-]-year-old old man and call him "big sister", then I'm sorry, this is not a compliment, it is pure disrespect.

Finally, I have to add one more thing. Although titles are stateless and borderless, people have them.Therefore, when addressing others, we must pay attention to "do as the Romans do".

No one can be loved by everyone, and flowers bloom when they see each other. There will always be closeness, likes and dislikes, and distances between people. Some people like you, and some people hate you. This is understandable.If we only need to pay attention to the address and make it "proprietary" and appropriate, we can easily add three points of color and seven points of smoothness to our life, why not do it?
(End of this chapter)