Life is but a thought: Nan Huaijin's 15 Life Wisdom Lessons

Chapter 14 Big people have big realms, little people have small realms (1)
Open-minded people are more likely to be happy

Pushkin once said: "You need to be calm in gloomy days." Then when facing setbacks or difficulties, we should say: "Be open-minded in the narrow places of life." The true state of open-mindedness means that you can surpass others, but you can also forgive other people.The state of open-mindedness means that you can partly get rid of human weaknesses.

"Heart Sutra" has: "There is no suffering to destroy the way, no wisdom and no gain, because there is no gain, Bodhisattva, according to Prajna Paramita, there is no hindrance to the heart, no hindrance, no terror, away from upside down Dreams, ultimate Nirvana."

The general idea is that a person who practiced practice according to the law, and when the merits and virtues are perfect, the opportunity is mature, and the mentality is stable, then naturally there will be no false thoughts, no worries about mundane things and mental obstacles.As long as there are no worries and obstacles in your heart, you will not be troubled by mundane affairs, stay away from illusory dreams, and reach a state of detachment.

In this regard, Mr. Nan Huaijin expressed his opinion: "Heart Sutra", from seeing that the five aggregates are empty, to the end of suffering without suffering, is aimed at people's misunderstanding and attachment to "existence", and its purpose is to make people give up. Wrong understanding, and at the same time give up the attachment to it, that is to live like the "Diamond Sutra" said, "If you don't stop looking, your mind will grow, and if you don't stop hearing, smelling, and touching the Dharma, you will live your life."

However, people living in the mortal world will always be troubled by various trivial matters, "immerse" in it, and even lose themselves, with a sad face all day long.For example, if you finally have wealth, you will be afraid of losing it, so you will try your best to preserve it; after decades of hard study, you will be admitted to a higher education institution, and you will try your best to make it worse for fear of being inferior to others. I become better; as I grow older, my physical condition deteriorates day by day, and I gradually fear death; when I buy a rare item, I worry about damage; when I encounter difficulties at work, I am afraid that others will say that I am not capable enough, and even start Doubt your own abilities... As time goes by, the mood will be worse than before, frowning every day, serious.In this way, more and more people are far away from themselves.Sometimes, I would think "I don't want to be like this...", but I still couldn't control myself.As a result, this attachment has brought countless troubles and troubles to my life and work.

Lincoln once said: "People's happiness is nothing more than their decisions." Plato also said: "It is not the environment that determines a person's mood, but the state of mind." You can be unhappy if you want to be unhappy .You can tell yourself that everything is not going your way, that nothing is going to be satisfying, and you will be unhappy.But if you want to be happy, just tell yourself, "Everything is going well, life is going well, I choose to be happy." Then you can be sure that your choice will become reality.

In the book "Robinson Crusoe", it tells that the protagonist Robinson lives alone on a deserted island, with no one to accompany him, no clothes, and even no place to rest, but Robinson still chooses to be optimistic.If there is no place to rest, then build a hut; if there is no food, learn to sow seeds; if there is no utensil, create... Relying on his optimism and positivity towards life, Robinson survived on this deserted island, and has been living on this deserted island for many years. Afterwards, he returned to his home country.

Just imagine, if Robinson was exiled on this deserted island and lamented the ups and downs of his fate, he would die of starvation or thirst on the deserted island.On the contrary, he is very aware of the importance of mentality. Facing the harsh environment, he chooses to face life with an open-minded attitude, and finally rekindles hope in his life.

Pushkin once said: "You need to be calm in gloomy days." Then when facing setbacks or difficulties, we should say: "Be open-minded in the narrow places of life." The true state of open-mindedness means that you can surpass others, but you can also forgive other people.The state of open-mindedness means that you can partly get rid of human weaknesses.A broad-minded person will not be fussy about such a trivial matter and lose his temper.This is the difference between a person with an open mind and a person who is never willing to let himself suffer.

One day, the TV station invited an old man to be a special guest on the show.The old man speaks slowly and logically. From his words, it can be seen that he is an optimistic and positive person who loves life.His positive energy infected everyone present.

Finally, the host could not help but ask the old man: "You live such a happy life, there must be some special secret of happiness!"

"No," the old man replied, "I don't have any great secret. The reason why I am happy is very simple, that is, to choose happiness. Whether I am happy or not, I am willing to keep the best things. Happy is a day, unhappy It's also a day, why should we choose to be unhappy?"

After listening to the old man's words, the host and everyone present nodded in agreement.

The old man's answer is very simple, but it contains profound truth.As long as a person is alive, there will inevitably be some things that occupy his heart and cannot get rid of them. He cannot eat or sleep.However, these things may be the burden you have added to yourself. Since you can't throw it away, then carry it happily.

All in all, we should learn to be broad-minded, lenient to others, and tolerant to others, and don't "take things to heart" in every detail.If we can have a broad and open-minded state of mind, and be able to think about, afford, and let go of things, we can dispel the dark clouds of worry, fear, annoyance, depression, etc., and make the spirit relaxed and happy.

look forward, look good

No matter what kind of things we encounter, we need to look forward and look on the bright side.Controlling your reactions to problems is equating to controlling their impact on you.

Mr. Nan Huaijin mentioned a special kind of luck in "Zhuangzi Lecture Notes", which can be described as "you can lose your horse without knowing it is not a blessing".

In this regard, Mr. Nan Huaijin said that this is a piece of Zhuangzi's funny humor.Zhuangzi quoted the superstitions of the ancients to explain what ordinary people consider unlucky, but the "spiritual man" believes that "unlucky" is beneficial and harmless.For example, no one dares to ride a horse with white hair on its head, but it saves the fatigue of being ridden often; a pig with a raised nose will not be killed as a sacrifice, so it will be lucky to live more day.Therefore, what the ancients considered unlucky is considered auspicious in the eyes of heaven.Mr. Nan Huaijin also said that everything has its two sides, the key is how to see the positive side from the negative side.

Lao Tzu said: "What is the difference between Wei Zhi and Ah? What is the difference between good and evil?" How big is the difference between praise and criticism?What is the difference between good and bad things?This means to tell us not to be too obsessed with ordinary evaluations of good and bad, right and wrong, and think about the good in everything.

After graduating from university, Yu Hao successfully entered a private company and became a senior executive in a short period of time, which shows his ability.Not long ago, Yu Hao's boss was transferred away, and another older person came to be his boss.

Maybe it's the difference in concept between the two, maybe it's the difference in age, the two don't always cooperate very well.Thus, Yu Hao was faced with a dilemma: he liked his job very much, and he also liked the generous salary that this job brought him; Howe can't go any higher...

After careful consideration, Yu Hao decided to go to a headhunting company to seek a new senior executive position one weekend.The headhunting company told him that with his conditions, it would not be difficult to find another similar position.So Yu Hao went home to wait for the news.

After eating, Yu Hao told his wife all this.His wife is a teacher, and just the other day she was teaching her students how to redefine a problem, which is to think about the problem you are facing from another angle, to look at the problem you are facing completely upside down-not just look at it the same way you used to The point of view is different, and the point of view of this issue is also different from that of other people.

After hearing Yu Hao's troubles, his wife told Yu Hao the content of the class.Yu Hao was greatly inspired by what his wife said, and a bold idea emerged in his mind.

The next day, he came to the headhunting company again. This time, instead of asking about his own job, he asked the headhunting company to find a job for his boss.Soon, the boss received a call from a headhunting company, asking him to go to another company for a job.Although the boss was completely unaware that this was the result of a "trap", he was still shaken by the treatment and development of the new company.

Soon, the boss submitted his resignation and chose to go to another company.As soon as the supervisor's position was vacant, Yu Hao immediately applied to the head office for the position.

After the research and decision of the head office, Yu Hao was promoted.This time, Yu Hao was very excited. Fortunately, he didn't make a wrong decision because of the momentary pain.When encountering difficulties in the future, we must look at the bright side.In addition, under the pressure of this boss, Yu Hao's ability to resist pressure has become stronger.

Yu Hao originally wanted to find a new job for himself, so as to avoid his annoying boss.The accidental conversation with his wife yielded unexpected gains.It turns out that things can always be viewed from another angle, not to say that what we see is what it really is.In the end, Yu Hao not only did not leave, but was promoted and got rid of his hated boss.A success expert said: "You can't change something that has gone bad, but you can choose to treat it happily, so that no matter what happens to you, you can find joy in it."

When a reporter asked Dr. Norman Peel: "Dr. Peale, what range of things do you maintain positive thinking or attitude?"

Here's Dr. Peale's answer: "I only have positive thoughts about the things I can control. If one of the planes I buy unfortunately crashes, well, it's not something I can control. I don't have a problem with that." Positive or not, because, no matter what I think, I can't keep the plane from crashing or in good condition."

Therefore, no matter what kind of things we encounter, we need to look forward and look on the bright side.Controlling your reactions to problems is equating to controlling their impact on you.

have a grateful heart
The greatest tragedy and misfortune in the world is when a person brazenly says "No one gave me anything." But in fact, as long as you observe life with your heart, you will suddenly find that you have so many things.

Mr. Nan Huaijin once said: "Buddha wants to teach all sentient beings, love all sentient beings, be merciful to the good, and even more merciful to the bad." In his view, everything has a causal relationship. When you face the world with gratitude When you are alive, the world will be grateful to you.

"Good people get rewarded" is a saying that most people agree with.No matter where you live or how special your life experience is, as long as you have a grateful heart, you will be able to experience the happiness of life and feel the warmth of the world.

In 1620, more than 100 Puritans went to America on the ship "Mayflower" to seek freedom of religion.In that winter, they suffered a lot, cold, hunger, and sickness tormented them.By the time winter is over and spring is approaching, death has taken almost half of the people away.

Later, they met kind Indians.The Indians sent them the necessities of life and taught them how to hunt, fish and plant.

The Puritans who learned these skills are very grateful to them, because they saved themselves, taught them how to live, and let them taste the food they sowed.

In order to commemorate the Indians' help to them and God's care, the Puritans decided to choose a day to thank everything. In 1789, President Washington declared Thanksgiving an official American holiday in his inaugural statement.

In 1863, President Lincoln declared the last Thursday in November to be Thanksgiving Day. In 11, the U.S. Congress passed the fourth Thursday of November as Thanksgiving Day.In this way, Thanksgiving is fixed in the form of law in the United States.

Every year, there is only one day of Thanksgiving. Does that mean you only need to be grateful on that day?of course not!Gratitude or not is a person's attitude towards life.There is a very good song called "Grateful Heart", which sings: "Grateful heart, thank you for being with me all my life, and giving me the courage to be myself; grateful heart, thank fate, flowers bloom and fall I will cherish the same." If you are grateful every day and face everything with a grateful attitude, then everything will also repay you.

A paralyzed disabled person who has lived in a wheelchair for more than 30 years once said an open-minded and wonderful sentence-"My hands can still move; my brain can still think; Love me and the relatives and friends I love; by the way, I still have a grateful heart..."

That's right, this person is Hawking, the world's science giant!In the eyes of ordinary people, fate is cruel to him. It gave him a mouth, but made him unable to speak; gave him a pair of legs, but made him unable to stand... But in the eyes of Hawking, he is lucky. Because he still has a finger that can move, a brain that can think... All these make him feel satisfied and full of gratitude for life.

The greatest tragedy and misfortune in the world is when a person brazenly says: "No one gave me anything." But in fact, as long as you observe life with your heart, you will suddenly find that you have so many things.

After World War II ended in Germany, a Nazi war criminal has been executed.His wife hanged herself outside the window of her house because she couldn't bear the humiliation and abuse from everyone. Her two-year-old child was reaching out and crawling towards the mother hanging on the window frame.Another tragedy was about to happen.

At this time, a woman named Aina rushed upstairs desperately, rescued the child who was in danger, and adopted him.You know, her husband was executed in the street by the child's father for helping the Jews.The neighbors in the neighborhood didn't understand her, and didn't even agree to let the child stay on the block.

All day and all night, people threw filth and insults at her windows.Her children also held grudges against her and even threatened to run away from home.

Gradually, the child grew up, and the actions of the neighbors were no longer extreme, but some people still called him a little "Nazi", and children of the same age did not play with him.He became eccentric and often took pleasure in playing pranks.Until one day, he broke a child's ribs, and the neighbors sent him to a reformatory more than ten miles away without telling Aina.

Half a month later, Aina, who was almost insane, finally found the child after all the hard work.When they reappeared in front of angry neighbors, Ina clung to the baby, begging neighbors: "Give him some love, he'll be a lovely angel too."

At that time, the child knew his life experience, he cried bitterly, and regret filled his young heart.Aina told him: "The best compensation is love, love everyone around you."

From then on, he changed his past mistakes and became a serious person-an irrelevant woman gave him a mother's love, so I have no reason not to love others.

When he was about to graduate from middle school, "Jacques—" he heard the principal calling his name, and he walked to the stage in frustration, "Jacques, congratulations on your official graduation." When the principal read his name, he was so Surprised, so proud!As the son of a "Nazi", it is not easy for him to get to where he is today step by step.

The audience applauded, he turned his head and saw his mother Aina and the neighbors were already in the audience, smiling at him.It turned out that each of the neighbors sent representatives to watch his graduation ceremony, which was unprecedented in the school.

"I have received the best gift in my life..." Jacques excitedly said this graduation speech on the stage.

A child is the purest and purest. He should not bear the mistakes of his father, nor should he bear the darkness that does not belong to him in this world.In this way, she took him in and treated him as her own child, and even treated him better than her own child.

When he was young, he didn't understand her heart, he was mischievous, and loved to play pranks... Until one day, he listened to his mother's words: "The best compensation is love, love everyone around you."

(End of this chapter)