Life is but a thought: Nan Huaijin's 15 Life Wisdom Lessons

Chapter 30 The game between one person and a group of people (3)
If it continues like this, not only will his health be damaged, but his work efficiency will also be reduced.At this time, Yang Yong, the governor of the Shu Kingdom, "discussed the country based on the family", and sincerely advised Zhuge Liang that there should be a certain system for handling government affairs, and the upper and lower levels could not exceed their authority and invade each other.

He said to Zhuge Liang: "The master of the family is responsible for running the house and managing the people in the house. For example, the male servant is responsible for farming, the maidservant is responsible for cooking, the cattle are responsible for carrying goods, the chickens are responsible for heralding the dawn, the dogs are dedicated to barking against theft, and the horses are dedicated to Use it when you are away. As long as they perform their duties, the owner does not need to do it personally. If one day, the owner wants to take care of all the housework and no longer assign tasks to others, it will make him lose his role as the head of the family It consumes time and energy, makes you exhausted, and makes people who should be busy idle... why bother? The reason is that he has lost the rule of being the master."

After hearing this, Zhuge Liang felt that it was very reasonable, so he began to delegate power to others.

The so-called "if you are not in your position, you will not seek your own government."Only when everyone performs their own duties can we achieve efficiency and achieve results!When you are in your position, you must make good use of your power, and you must do what you should do, not only do it, but also do it well.Otherwise, it will be harmful but not beneficial to others, oneself, family and country.

The ancients said: "Sitting and discussing the Tao, you are called a prince; doing it and doing it, you are called a scholar-official." To be an official, you need to "be in the position and plan the government", each perform his duties and do his best.Whether it is a Mingjun, an upright official, or a leader in an enterprise, since you have your own position, you should make good use of your position, make suggestions, and do your best work.

If a person is in his position and makes good use of his power, in the complex competition, he can delegate power in a timely manner, restrain his edge, and combine his own duties with timely breakthroughs, then he will be able to do a job well in his own circle of existence, and will not Will become a mediocre, wasted life.For bystanders, although they can put forward opinions and suggestions based on their own understanding, they should not talk about their shortcomings in private, so that the incumbents cannot carry out their work.When you don't know the responsibilities and rights of a position so well, you shouldn't make accusations at will.

In short, everyone should do their job well.If you want to play your own role well, you should first figure out your script and play path clearly.If you want to understand other people's roles, you have to understand them deeply before expressing your own opinions. Don't just speculate and speculate based on what you see with your eyes and what you hear with your ears.

Have the right to speak only after investigation

As a leader, you can't just listen to the words of one family. Only by in-depth investigation can you understand the truth of the matter.In real life, how many things you see or experience with your own eyes are just a kind of "reality" of illusion. If you make an intuitive judgment based on what you see for a while, it may lead to disaster.

As the saying goes: "Seeing is believing, hearing is believing."

In real life, people generally follow this sentence, only trust their ears and eyes in everything.However, what the ears hear may be false news, and what the eyes see may not necessarily be the real result.In other words, when we see with our eyes and hear with our ears, we also need to analyze with our hearts and think with our brains, so that we can see the essence through the superficial phenomena.

Once, Confucius and his disciples were besieged by two small countries and had not eaten for seven days.The richer Zigong exchanged his own money for a small amount of rice, and then asked Yan Hui to cook some porridge for everyone.

When Zigong accidentally passed the kitchen, he saw Yan Hui drinking a spoonful of porridge, immediately turned his face down, and went to the teacher.

"Will the benevolent and the poor change their morals?"

Confucius replied: "Zhilan was born in the deep forest, and it is not because there are no people that it is not fragrant; a gentleman cultivates morality and does not lose integrity because of poverty."

Zi Gong asked again, "What would happen if Yan Hui?"

Confucius replied: "Yan Hui will never change." Seeing the teacher's insistence, Zi Gong then told the facts he had seen.

In order to prove the truth to everyone, Confucius brought all his disciples to the porridge room and said to Yan Hui, "Yan Hui, I want to use this hard-won porridge to worship ancestors first, so you can do it."

Yan Hui quickly shook his head and said: "No, teacher. When the porridge was cooking, a piece of mud fell into it from the roof. It's a pity to throw it away, so I have already eaten the dirty porridge, so I can save a piece of cake." People's food. Therefore, such porridge cannot be used as a sacrifice to ancestors."

After hearing this, Confucius nodded in satisfaction, then glanced at Zi Gong again, and left.

Zigong lowered his head in embarrassment.

From this story, we can know: It turns out that what the eyes see is not necessarily true, there may be other secrets, and what we hear with our own ears may not be the truth.If you jump to conclusions about things without thinking through your brain, the result can be imagined.

Mr. Nan Huaijin once said that when a leader doesn't know much about a matter and cannot make a judgment, don't judge or criticize casually.As a leader, you can't just listen to the words of one family. Only by in-depth investigation can you understand the truth of the matter.In real life, how many things you see or experience with your own eyes are just a kind of "reality" of illusion. If you make an intuitive judgment based on what you see for a while, it may lead to disaster.

There was a young couple whose wife died of dystocia, leaving behind a newborn child.The husband has to work and take care of the children at the same time. He is a bit overwhelmed, but he can't find a suitable nanny to take care of the children.

So he trained a dog, which was obedient and smart, and could help him take care of his children.

One day, the husband had to go out for business, so he let the dog look after the children as usual.He went to a place far away from home and did not rush home that night.Early the next morning, he hurried home.When he was about to get home, the dog came out to greet him wagging his tail when he heard his master's voice.

After seeing the dog, the husband was stunned!Seeing that the dog's body was covered with blood, he hurried to the child's room, no!Where are the children?He ran around, but there was no sign of the child.Now, he is in a hurry!It must be the dog's beastly behavior that ate the child!In a rage, he took a knife and killed the dog.

Just when he was filled with grief and anger, there was a burst of crying from a child. Seeing that the dog was dead, the child burst into tears.He hurriedly picked up the child to see if there was anything wrong, and then he saw that a large piece of meat on the dog's hind legs was gone.

At this time, the child led him to the backyard, where the dead body of a wolf lay.It turned out that it was the dog who saved the little master, but was killed by the master by mistake...

In an instant, the man's tears flowed down. It was all the result of his impulsiveness and lack of investigation!
The German poet Goethe once said: "Truth is like God. We cannot see its true colors, and we must guess its existence through its many manifestations."

Think more about everything, don't trust or follow blindly, and draw conclusions after in-depth understanding, so that you can see everything around you clearly and sit firmly on the Diaoyutai.Coupled with the rapid development of the times, various problems emerge one after another, which means that we must calm down, consider problems, investigate problems, and then draw conclusions.Otherwise, it is really possible to be like the hero in the story, who will be hated forever if he stumbles!
know the rules, follow the rules

As the saying goes: "No rules, no circle." This is a very practical truth from ancient times to the present.It tells us: we must have rules in everything we do, understand the rules, and abide by the rules.

As the saying goes: "No rules, no circle." This is a very practical truth from ancient times to the present.It tells us: we must have rules in everything we do, understand the rules, and abide by the rules.

Only by having rules and obeying the rules can the society be harmonious and orderly.For example, for the sake of traffic safety, people formulate traffic rules; for the fairness and justice of competition, people formulate competitive rules; for the mutual benefit of buying and selling, people formulate business rules; Official rules.

If there are no rules, the society will be a mess, and people will do some selfish things for themselves, and even do dangerous things that harm others.The importance of visible rules.There are many legendary stories about Liu Chuanzhi, who created the legend of Lenovo, one of which is that he was strict with himself and was fined to stand for being late.

Liu Chuanzhi once said: "Punishment to stand is a very serious and embarrassing thing. When you have a small meeting, you have to stand alone. In a larger meeting, if you are late, the meeting will be suspended, and all the staff will be silent and watch. You stand for a minute."

The first person to be fined to stand was an old leader of Liu Chuanzhi.It didn't take long for the regulations to say that the old leader made a mistake and hit the gun.Liu Chuanzhi was deeply impressed by this: "I said, I'll stand for you at your house for a minute when it's over! He was sweating all over standing, and I was sweating all over sitting. It was really embarrassing at the time, but the system must be strictly enforced."

For leaders, being punished to stand is an embarrassing thing.For Liu Chuanzhi, it is even more embarrassing for the old leader to punish him.But, there is no way.Now that the company has rules, follow them, no matter who they are.And letting the old leader stand as a punishment just happened to set an example.I believe that in the future, everyone will strictly demand themselves to abide by the rules of a team.

Under the current social conditions, especially in China's current environment, no one would regard "punishing standing" as a rule that an enterprise can insist on implementing, but Liu Chuanzhi strictly enforced it, which has become a kind of association. Style is also the root of Lenovo's success.

In fact, whether in a group or an enterprise, rules are particularly important.

There is a Chinese toon tree in one yard, and there are more than a dozen families in the front and back yards.Whoever picks them will not leave them alone, but will send some from door to door.

This year, it is the season of picking Chinese toon again.The boss of the Wang family picked the stubble and distributed it as usual.The Chinese toon that has been picked for the first time should be raised for a few days, and then picked after the new crop is ready. It cannot be picked all at once, otherwise it will not grow in the future.

After the boss of the Wang family picked it, there were still Chinese toon on the tree.Unexpectedly, the second child saw that there were still some, so he climbed up the tree and prepared to pick them.

When someone saw it, he advised him: "Second brother, your brother just picked it yesterday. You pick it too often and be careful that it doesn't grow long."

"It's okay, there are still more, what a pity to be an elder!" The second child joked, and then continued to pick.

The boss who heard the noise ran out and said, "Our family hasn't finished eating yet, come down and get it."

"That's not enough for me! I'll pick some more." Hearing what his brother said, the boss didn't say anything;

The second child picked a lot of Chinese toon, put it in a school bag, and ate it by himself.In this way, some people in the courtyard did not get a single leaf.

People couldn't stop the second child, so they poured a wave of resentment on the tree.The new leaves are just blooming, and before they grow, some people can't wait to pick them from the tree.You go up and I go up too, and you don't abide by the rules that were made at the beginning.

In this way, the good atmosphere that has maintained harmony among neighbors for many years has collapsed!Although there was no open conflict between them, behind closed doors, they were all talking about who was too greedy, who was too treacherous...

The story is that because one person does not follow the rules, he does not follow the rules.The neighbors who used to be harmonious have now become indifferent, talking about others behind their backs.Since there are rules, everyone should abide by them, just like obeying traffic rules, and convey the message of "safety" to others and themselves.

Mr. Nan Huaijin also said the importance of rules.In his eyes, rules are like working during the day and sleeping at night. This is the rule of heaven and earth and cannot be violated.

Yes, heaven and earth have their rules, groups have their rules, and society has its rules, all of which need to be followed.What happens if you don't comply?You will lose energy during the day and can't sleep at night; you will be unpopular in the team; you will be condemned by the society... Therefore, everyone should be a person who talks about rules.

Only when there is a struggle can there be peace

Maybe you just want to be a "hermit" in the company, a person who does not compete with the world, but competition is cruel, and the law of the jungle is one of the criteria for measuring individual ability, whether in the animal world or in life.

In "The Analects of Confucius Bayi", there is: "The Master said: 'If a gentleman does not fight, he must also shoot. If he rises up and drinks down, he will be a gentleman when he fights.'" In this regard, Mr. Nan Huaijin said this: " The gentleman in Chinese culture talks about courtesy. Concerning the issue of whether we should fight, Confucius advocated that no matter whether it is about people or things, we should fight, but the fight should be reasonable."

In the tenth year of Lu Dinggong, Confucius served as Lu Jun's minister (equivalent to today's master of ceremonies).At that time, the kings of Qi and Lu were meeting each other, and Qi wanted to use the pretext of playing the music of the four directions, and came here with swords, guns, swords and halberds, so as to seize the opportunity to hijack King Lu.

Knowing the opponent's psychology, Confucius immediately climbed up the earth steps of the alliance altar, looked directly at Qi Jinggong, and angrily reprimanded him with courtesy.Qi Jinggong felt guilty, and in desperation, had no choice but to repel this group of people and expressed his apology.

In this way, Confucius successfully rescued the king of Lu.Unexpectedly, when the two parties finally signed the covenant, Qi State announced that it would add a stipulation: If Lu State did not send 300 military vehicles to accompany Qi State when Qi State went on an expedition, it would be a breach of the covenant.

Obviously, this is for the State of Lu to unconditionally admit that it is a vassal state of the State of Qi!At that time, Qi State was strong and Lu State was weak, so it was really difficult for Lu State to refuse this provision, but Confucius did not want to accept this provision unconditionally.Soon, Confucius also put forward a new clause: If you do not return Hanyang, which Qi State invaded and occupied Lu State, to Lu State, but ask Lu State to send troops, it is also a breach of the covenant.

Hearing this, Qi Jinggong felt very embarrassed, so he had to return the occupied Hanyang area Yun, Guan and Guiyin to Lu State.In this way, Confucius won another victory for Lu and preserved Lu's position.

For such "bullying", Confucius was able to treat each other with courtesy, so that he could "compete and be a gentleman", and he was a real gentleman.Only when there is contention can there be real peace, which is the thought of Confucius.This thought of Confucius also plays a very important role in the modern workplace.In the workplace, we pay more attention to interests, and interests will inevitably bring conflicts and struggles.Therefore, workplace politics is not only a competition, but also a struggle.

Li Min is a technical manager of a multinational company and has worked in the company for 15 years.He has a very straightforward personality and is serious in his work. He can be regarded as the top expert in the company in terms of technology.Although he has performed very well, the colleagues who came in at the same time as him climbed much higher than him.Some executives who hold important positions in the company are now the vice presidents of the company's business departments and are preparing to take up positions abroad.

Looking at the colleagues who came in together, Li Min felt very uncomfortable. He is almost 40 years old, and he is still the technical manager of the department. He is really ashamed.

At the farewell party for a colleague who went abroad to serve as the vice president, he couldn't bear to see Li Min continue like this, so he talked to Li Minshen: "Li Min, we still had a competitive relationship before, and there are some things that I haven't told you. I'm going abroad tomorrow, and there are some things I have to tell you today. Logically speaking, according to your ability and qualifications, you should have been promoted to director long ago, and vice president is also possible, but why is it always not your turn? To be honest, the biggest problem is that you don't always fight for yourself, you don't offer yourself, so you always miss opportunities."

After listening to his colleagues, Li Min suddenly realized!
It turns out that not to fight is also a kind of fault.Because of Li Min's "non-dispute", he kept standing still and created room for others to improve.But in the workplace, everyone has their own priorities and interests.

When you have any room for promotion, you must take action and actively ask for progress through the right channels.It's not just ambition, it's what drives the company forward.

(End of this chapter)