Life is but a thought: Nan Huaijin's 15 Life Wisdom Lessons

Chapter 5
In the long river of life, if you always care about other choices, then you will feel that there are more and more troubles in your life, and the relaxed and happy mood is farther and farther away from you. The reason for this is very simple, because you always To worry about God's arrangements and other people's choices, but turn a blind eye to the most important life of your own and often neglect to take care of it. This will only lead to a mess of your life, and you will have nowhere to start to solve it.Therefore, it is actually very simple to change this status quo and become happy: don't worry about "other people's business", don't worry about "God's business", and take care of your "own business".

Looking back at Mr. Nan Huaijin’s life as a friend now, you can appreciate the fun and wisdom of being a human being. He is neither worried about God’s arrangement, nor is he troubled by other people’s choices. He chooses not to care about it. Have fun every day.In fact, this itself is a kind of extraordinary state, which is beyond the reach of ordinary people.Life is like a long essay. Everyone spends their whole life trying to write this work well. Everyone has his or her own favorite strokes. Of course, there will also be failures. The key is how you look at it.

life will never be perfect
Since people are born and face this unknown world, they are doomed to be imperfect in every life.But since God endows human beings with life, each person's existence has its own meaning.

Have you ever felt that there are too many shortcomings in life?Most of the time, you always complain about "unrecognized talents", "not met Bole", "life is rough", and always think that the ideal life should be perfect, but in real life, there are only frustration and dissatisfaction. "Perfection is an ideal, and you are allowed to revise it 10 times without regret." This sentence comes from Chekhov, a world-class Russian short story master.If you think about it carefully, it is true. Even if life is placed in front of you and restarted 10 times, you will never feel perfect and have no regrets in this life.

Mr. Nan Huaijin once wrote in "A Life with Disadvantages": "Life is always lacking in regrets. In Buddhism, this world is called the 'Saha World'. When translated into Chinese, it is a world that can endure many regrets. The world is inherently deficient. And if there are no shortcomings, it is not called the human world. The human world already has shortcomings, and if it is perfect, it will be over. Like between men and women, everyone seeks perfection, but there is an old saying in China that a noisy couple can grow old together; Between two people, if the relationship is good and everything is fine, there will be other shortcomings, either there are no children, or one of them died early."

However, the shortcomings in life are not limited to feelings, ranging from life and death, to schooling and work, there will be some shortcomings almost every moment.But if the matter is settled, then don't think too much, be natural, don't ask for much.Even if everything in the world is as perfect as you think it is, there will be other unexpected problems that will follow.The reason why we are always unhappy is because we are not living purely enough; sometimes we don’t deliberately pursue anything, don’t ask for anything from life, don’t set up obstacles for ourselves, and live simply, and it’s easier to get the favor of the God of Happiness .

There was a flood in a certain village, and the farmer's wife and children fell into the water. He jumped into the flood and rescued his wife from the waves, but he didn't have time to save the child, so the child was submerged in the torrential flood.Afterwards, people talked about it.Some say he did the right thing, because the child can have another child, but the wife cannot be resurrected from the dead.But some people say that he did wrong, because the wife can marry another, but the child cannot be resurrected from the dead.

When the philosopher heard the story, he felt that both sides were right and felt puzzled, so he asked the farmer to answer his questions.The farmer replied that he didn't think about anything when saving people. When the flood hit, his wife was by his side, so he grabbed her and went to the hillside to swim.When they returned, the child had been washed away by the flood.

In fact, I have to say that the choice of the farmer was wise, and the situation at the time did not allow him to think and choose too much.As long as he hesitates for a moment, what will happen in the end?When the flood hit, his wife and children were sucked into the vortex, and they would lose their lives in a moment. At this time, the farmer was still thinking on the hillside, who should he save?Of course, the final outcome will be that no one can be saved.

With the growth of age, experience and worry, people will think more and more comprehensively.But sometimes life is very simple, as long as you put aside complicated thoughts, look at it with the simplest heart, maintain a natural lifestyle, and not make painful choices due to external influences, you will understand the simple happiness of life.In life, many times, we are like farmers who encountered floods. Life does not give us the opportunity to compare and make choices with time. At this time, you only need to follow the natural way of life and live casually.Of course, casualness here does not refer to casualness, but to go with the flow, not aggressive, excessive, or forceful; it is to seize opportunities, not to be pessimistic, not to panic, and not to forget one's form.

Life is like a ball game, even the best team loses points, and even the worst team has moments of glory.The shortcomings in life are just like the lost points. What we have to do is not to care about the lost points, but to try to get as high a score as possible.And looking back, those lost points are just a temper and growth. If we have not experienced the pain of struggle and sad tears, then we will not know how to encourage and comfort others; if we have not experienced the ups and downs of life , Then you will not understand and consider others more deeply.Without empathy for others, our life becomes dark, like a dark room without windows.

The ancients had prophets on this matter long ago. In addition to Mr. Su Dongpo's "people have joys and sorrows, and the moon has cloudy and sunny waxes and wanes, this matter is difficult to complete in ancient times", there are also "you can't have both fish and bear's paws" and "every family has its own roots." The Sutra" and so on.It can be seen from this that since human beings are born and face this unknown world, every life is doomed to be imperfect.But since God endows human beings with life, each person's existence has its own meaning.While God bestows body and life on human beings, he also bestows on human beings the right to live freely.But don't forget that nature is always more tolerant than people, and it is people themselves who cannot tolerate people.Therefore, it is not because of nature, but because of people that there are shortcomings and imperfections.

Trying to look at it from another angle, it is because of these shortcomings that people's endless yearning and nostalgia for life are formed.Regret is a kind of happiness, but also a kind of beauty.It is precisely because of the shortcomings that life can present a shocking sadness and a different kind of beauty.After all, if there is no baptism of pain, then the seemingly perfect life is also pale and powerless.In a sense, imperfection is actually a kind of perfection. In fact, it is the shortcomings that make life richer and more meaningful.Accepting imperfection is the wisdom of survival and the skill of creating a happy life.Those who are good at accepting imperfections will surely have fate everywhere and have a happy life.

Life is not about length, it's about breadth

The point of life is not how long you can stay in this world, but what you want, what you can get, and what you have to give up.

"Zhuangzi Nei Pian Qi Wu Lun No. [-]" writes: "Serving for life without seeing success, being exhausted and not knowing where to go, being poor, unable to find solutions, having no business, no support Dear, it’s really sad! People call it immortal, Xi Yi!” That is to say, people are busy all their lives, but they have no achievements in their careers. They work exhaustingly every day, but they can’t find the direction of their efforts; they hope to get rid of poverty. You can't find a way to make money when you are in a difficult situation; you want to seek fame and fame, but you can't do it... Isn't this a sad thing?People say that this kind of person doesn't die, so what's the use of living in this world?

In fact, although the length of each person's life is about the same, there are thousands of ways to live. Some people are still alive, but their spirit has been exhausted.The death of life is not terrible, what is terrible is living in ignorance and ignorance for a lifetime, and spending a lifetime in a daze.This is also just as Zhuangzi said: "People call it immortal, Xi Yi! Its form and heart are like it, which is not a great sorrow." Mr. Nan Huaijin also used a line of Kun hexagram in "Book of Changes" to conclude: " There is no success, there is an end", this kind of person's life has not seen the results, and his life has ended.

In the summer of 1948, on a hot street in a small town, a little boy nicknamed "Squid" looked at passers-by and yelled, "Sir, come and shine your shoes."At that time, he was only 3 years old, and his biggest dream was to prevent himself and his family from going hungry. He called this "Zero Hunger" dream.

At the age of 18, Squid lost his little finger due to a work-related injury, but he received only meager compensation. This made him realize that the lives of workers were not guaranteed, and he wanted to fight for the interests of workers.His dream of "zero hunger" has been sublimated, which is to feed all workers.So he joined the local union and began to actively participate in the labor movement.

At the age of 45, Squid founded the "Labour Party", and with the support of many workers, he became a worker leader.During this process, he was arrested and imprisoned and tortured, but this did not wear down his will. Every pain made him firmer in his dream and clearer in his direction.In the same year, he was elected to the Federal House of Representatives by a large number of votes.Next, he resolutely participated in the presidential election, but unfortunately all three elections ended in failure.The failure did not defeat him. Instead, he calmed down in the failure and had a deep reflection. He realized that only considering the working class was still too limited, and he should broaden his horizons.So he adjusted his "Zero Hunger" dream again, this time he wanted to make people in the whole country no longer hungry and cold.

In 2002, the squid finally ran for the fourth time.Squid has promoted the "Zero Hunger" plan for the people, so that 93% of children and 83% of adults have three meals a day to satisfy their hunger.The successful implementation of the four-year "Zero Hunger" plan won him a second term as president.Under his leadership, Brazil has also successfully transformed from a "herbivorous dinosaur" to an "American lion", and its economy has become the tenth largest economy in the world. On May 2010, 5, he was awarded the title of "Global Champion Against Hunger" by the United Nations Food Program for his dedication to eradicating poverty.

He is former Brazilian President Lula. "Lula" is just a nickname, which means "squid" in Portuguese. He was nicknamed because of his fair skin. Eight years of brilliant achievements, Lula has won people's trust, until he left office, his support rate is still as high as 8%.

Lula's life can be described as unfortunate. He suffered from hunger and poverty when he was a child, and lived by shining shoes. He worked hard when he was young, but his life as a worker was not guaranteed. tormented.And when he was middle-aged, he even lost consecutive battles in the presidential election.But he was not defeated by these. For him, although he cannot control the length of life, he can control the width of life.In fact, in life, the vast majority of people will not encounter so many difficulties and difficulties like Lula. As long as you think about it, you are not suffering from hunger and poverty, nor are you in prison. Self-help, let alone encountering repeated misfortunes in life, then, you already have great luck, what else do you need to complain about?Take advantage of the opportunities in your life every day, and don't wait until the hours are running out to realize the importance of ordinary happiness.

However, most of the kings of the past dynasties are committed to immortality. Even we have imagined longevity, right?But if you do get it, what's the use?Assuming that you can live for 1 years, the difference from your current lifespan of only a few decades is that you have to wait another 1 years to die. Although your physical life still exists, you are already old and weak after all." Its heart is the same as it is", the "heart" has changed with the shape of the body, and the physical energy has long since been depleted. "Isn't it a great sorrow?" This kind of life has only length, no width, and no meaning. This is the real sadness.Therefore, the point of life is not how long you can stay in this world, but what you want, what you can get, and what you have to give up.

You can choose to be your own master and master your own life, or you can choose to be enslaved by life.When you choose what kind of life path, you will enjoy the kind of life.But no matter how you choose, whether you give up or not, you have to think about whether it is worthwhile and whether it is what you really want.

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