Stimulate positive energy

Chapter 13 The power of happiness is everywhere
Happiness is the joy of body and mind, the joy of emotion, and the best enjoyment in life.Happiness is also a magical and wonderful positive force in life.The power of happiness can make people see spring in the cold winter; the power of happiness can make people see health in the midst of illness; the power of happiness can infect others and make others as happy as themselves.Healthy, positive, and optimistic people have positive energy. Being such a person and interacting with such a person will make you feel that "living is a very worthwhile, comfortable and happy thing", and the future is full of light and hope of.

you can decide whether you are happy
Columnist Harris and his friend bought newspapers at the newsstand. The friend politely said "thank you" to the newsstand owner, but the newsstand owner kept his face cold and didn't say a word.

Harris complained, "This guy has a bad attitude!" The friend said, "He does that every night." "So why are you still being so polite to him?" Harris asked.Friend said: "Why should I let him dictate my actions?"

Each of us is the master of our own actions, and you have the right and the ability to decide whether you are happy or not.Everyone has a "key to happiness" in their hearts, but we often give it to others without knowing it.

A woman complained: "I live a very unhappy life! Because my husband is often away on business trips!" She put her "key to happiness" in the hands of her husband.

A mother said: "My child is very disobedient, which makes me very angry!" She put her "key to happiness" in the hands of her child.

The student may say: "The teacher doesn't appreciate me, so I'm depressed." He puts his own "key to happiness" in the teacher's hands.

These people have all made the same decision to let others control their emotions.When we allow others to control our emotions, we feel like victims, and complaining and anger become our only options. We start blaming others and sending a message: You caused me to suffer like this. Take responsibility for my pain!
Such a person makes others dislike approaching, even daunting!A person with positive energy can not only hold his own happiness, but also bring his own happiness and happiness to those around him.

The environment, people, events, and things around us can easily affect our emotions, but we must not forget that the key to determining whether we are happy is only in our own hands.So, how do we use this "key to happiness" to unlock the lock of happiness?The answer is to create a good attitude for yourself, because the key to determining whether you are happy is your attitude, not your experience.

A father and his son are walking home together.The son was carrying the burden, and seeing that it was still a long way home, he sighed.

The father said: "Son, look at the scenery on both sides of the road, and enjoy it while walking." The son did this, and sure enough, he felt that the burden on his shoulders was not so heavy, and he arrived home without knowing it.

At this time, my father said: "Life is like walking with a heavy burden. Although you have responsibilities and pressures in life along the way, the scenery along the way will make you feel relaxed and comfortable, and you will not feel so uncomfortable. .”

"Why am I unhappy?" I believe many people have asked themselves this question, so what is your answer?Is it because I have suffered too much in the past?Is it because I am not as good as others?Is it because you can't get the boss's common sense?Is it because my child is not admitted to a prestigious university like a colleague's child?Is it worrying about losing your job tomorrow?None of this should be a reason for your unhappiness.The real reason is that your heart is not happy.The father in the story has a good attitude, because he can still appreciate the scenery on the roadside when facing difficulties.

Everyone has troubles, but facing the same thing, some people think it is unlucky, and some people pass it with a smile.I also found that there was a problem with the newly purchased computer. I called the dealer and said that this kind of thing rarely happens. Some people think that they are so unlucky and let me meet; I have encountered all the incidents. If I am lucky, I can just take it and replace it with another one.Now that the problem has been encountered by you, try to deal with it. It is useless to complain all the time.Great people also encounter troubles of one kind or another, but unlike us, they don’t care about it, and they naturally feel comfortable, and have the energy and good mood to do great things, so they become great people.

Everyone has happiness and troubles, the key is to see your attitude towards life, whether you have a happy heart.In this world, there are no unhappy people, only unhappy hearts.You can decide to make your day happy!

live in the moment, seize happiness

We live in a highly competitive society. When we wake up in the morning, the first thing that comes to mind is the mortgage and car loan that we owe the bank today. Such a high-pressure environment always requires people to sacrifice the present for the future. .To adopt such an attitude, logically, would mean giving up not only present enjoyments, but happiness forever.Is not it?When that moment in the future comes, it becomes the present, and then we must use that present to prepare for the future.In this way, happiness is always tomorrow and tomorrow, always elusive.

When we think about it, all we can get is the present time, and the future is just another "now" when it comes.So we can never live in any other moment except "now": the past is past, we can't turn back time; we can't live in the future before the future comes.However, we always tell ourselves habitually, "save for the future", "consider the consequences of doing things", "don't pay too much attention to pleasure", "think about the future", "prepare for retirement", and so on.According to this kind of thinking, we can't grasp the present and enjoy happiness at all, so that the good times of the present can easily slip through our fingers.

Once upon a time there was a young king, powerful and rich, who was troubled by two questions: When was the most important time of my life?Who is the most important person in my life?

He announced to philosophers all over the world that anyone who can answer these two questions satisfactorily will share his wealth.Philosophers came from all corners of the world, but none of their answers satisfied the king.

Someone told the king that there lived a very wise old man in a distant mountain.The king set off immediately.

The king dressed up as a farmer and came to the hut where the wise old man lived, and found the old man sitting cross-legged on the ground, digging something.

"I heard that you are a very wise man who can answer all questions," the king asked. "Can you tell me who is the most important person in my life? When was the most important time in my life?"

"Help me dig some potatoes," said the old man, "take them to the river and wash them. I'll boil some water, and you can have some soup with me." The king thought this was a test for him, so he did as he said did.He stayed with the old man for a few days, hoping his question would be answered, but the old man didn't answer.

In the end, the king was very angry with himself for wasting days with this man.He took out his king's seal to show his identity.

The old man said, "I answered your question the first day we met, but you didn't understand my answer."

The king wondered. "When you came, I welcomed you and let you live in my home." The old man continued, "Know that the past has passed and the future has not yet come—the most important moment in your life is now, and you The most important person in life is the person you are with right now, because it is he who is sharing and experiencing life with you."

Seeing this, you should also have some insights.The wise old man tells us that only by living in the present can you truly experience life and enjoy all kinds of happiness in life.

In life, there are always some people who are willing to live in the past.For example, indulging in past mistakes, pain, regret, and guilt, unable to extricate oneself, will make the mood worse and accumulate more and more negative energy.Just think, is there any use in doing this?Useless, does not help.If you really want to make up for your mistakes, then seize every moment of the present moment and do something useful to make yourself happy and make others happy.Another example is that if he has achieved a little in the past, he will lie on the credit book of the past, be complacent, not enterprising, and waste the time that can allow him to achieve more brilliant achievements in vain.Of course, some people will turn past achievements into motivation, but remember not to be happy for too long, otherwise it will delay time.

There are also some people who are always eager to "run to the future" and often worry about things that have not yet come, so they worry all day long, cannot calm their hearts, and cannot feel happiness.Because they are always used to paying for tomorrow's troubles in advance, this is equivalent to putting a shackle on themselves, making them physically and mentally exhausted, and exhausted to the point of being worthless.

These people have never lived in the here, now, here, and of course they cannot enjoy all that life itself brings, including happiness.Take action, cherish and make the most of the present moment, don't let go of a second.If you squander the present moment in self-defeating ways, you lose the moment forever.

The following is a passage from "The Town" by the American playwright Wilder - she is young, beautiful, and loved, and yet she is dead.She is not reconciled, this point, the angel can also see.Therefore, the angel specially allowed her to escape back to the world, and choose one day out of nearly ten thousand days in her life to recollect it.She picked the day of her 12th birthday.

At the age of 12, the difficult steps have not yet begun, and the complicated life calculations are just beginning to be revealed. It should be a prime time worth reviewing.However, she was disappointed. On the morning of her 12th birthday, my mother was still as busy as a "hen" spinning around, and no one had time to look at her more.

The girl who came back through time looked at her family in astonishment, and could not help lamenting: "These people live in such a hurry and carelessly, as if they could live for a million years. They spoil every 'now'."

Now, you should know how to choose!In this moment, calm, happy, sweet.Looking back on the past, in addition to proud achievements, there are also self-blame, sadness, and pain; imagining the future often triggers fear.There is only the present moment, and there is no room for existence without sorrow and fear.Therefore, don't think about the spilled milk yesterday, and don't think about whether there will be a traffic jam tomorrow, and cherish the present is the most important thing.

There is energy in the moment. If a person knows how to seize the moment and make full use of it, he will be brought into a vortex of positive energy, and he will choose a free, fulfilling and real life. And this is a choice each of us can make.

The contented are always happy

Lao Tzu said: "There is no calamity greater than not being content, and there is no fault greater than wanting to gain. Therefore, contentment is always enough." What he is talking about is the principle of contentment and happiness.Although the troubled times in which Lao Tzu lived are far away from us, "contentment and happiness" is still a wise way of life today.

It can be said that everyone is familiar with contentment and happiness, but how many people can do it in reality?Many people can be said to be unintelligent, but because they are not satisfied, they are too greedy, they are enslaved by foreign things, they run around in vanity fairs all day long, they are depressed and depressed all day long, and they don't know the joy of life.

Under the bodhi tree, a man said to the Buddha: "I am very unhappy. How can I be rich, powerful, and have a wife who loves me?"

The Buddha smiled and said: "Let me tell you a story. One day, a tourist was about to die of thirst. The Buddha took pity on him and placed a lake in front of the person, but the person didn't get a drop of water. The Buddha was so strange, so I asked him The reason. The answer is: there is a lot of water in the lake, and my stomach is so small, since I can’t drink it all in one breath, it’s better not to drink it at all.”

Speaking of this, the Buddha showed a bright smile, and said to the unhappy person: "Remember, you may encounter many beautiful things in your life, but it is enough to hold one of them well with your heart. Weak water is three thousand, just take a scoop to drink."

"The human heart is not enough to swallow the elephant", if a person has greed, he will never be satisfied; if he is not satisfied, he will feel lacking and not happy.And human desires can never be satisfied.

There was a man who accidentally picked up a hundred-yuan bill on the ground. After getting this windfall, he always walked with his head down, hoping to have such luck again.

Over time, walking with his head down became a habit of his life.A few years later, according to his own statistics, he found a total of nearly 4 buttons, more than [-] needles, and only a few dozen dollars in money. However, he became a severely hunchbacked person, and in the past few years However, he did not appreciate the beauty of the setting sun, the joyful faces of young children, and the fragrance of birds and flowers on the earth.

The terrible thing about dissatisfaction is that it not only destroys physical things, but also messes up your inner world.Your self-esteem, your principles, can all collapse in the face of greed.Desire is endless, if it is allowed to expand, there will be endless troubles.

It is perfectly normal for a person to feel dissatisfied all the time, because dissatisfaction is one of the characteristics of human desires.Therefore, dissatisfaction is natural and excusable.When you see beautiful cars passing by on the street, when you live in a small room and look at the shining lights of skyscrapers outside the window, you don’t need to do anything to feel dissatisfied due to envy and jealousy So I didn't recruit myself.But to get rid of these emotional entanglements, it is not easy to sleep in bed contentedly tonight, and squeeze the car to work contentedly tomorrow morning.

People's dissatisfaction often comes from comparison.Similarly, contentment can also be obtained by comparison.If you can take a closer look at people who are inferior to you and compare yourself with them instead of blindly comparing yourself with people who are better than you, then all injustices may be at peace.Therefore, we might as well live with a life attitude of "more than the next", so that we will definitely live a happier life.

In addition, dissatisfaction may also stem from your stubbornness.The beach is strewn with colorful shells.A little boy searched for the most beautiful and rare shell all day. When his friends came home with full bamboo baskets, only his basket was still empty.Maybe you will say that this boy is very persistent, he is pursuing the most perfect thing in his heart.But what his "persistence" got in exchange was an empty basket and a tired body. This is not attachment, but stubbornness, even stupidity.We do not deny the value of persistence, but contentment is also reasonable when your hopes cannot be realized.Wasn't there a beautiful shell among the shells the boy discarded?He only thought about the most perfect shells, but he didn't know that thousands of beautiful shells had slipped away from his eyes when he was persistently looking for them.

If a person is obsessed with how to realize his unrealistic wishes all day long, obsessed with possessing more and better things that are not part of him, the result will always be counterproductive, and he will be depressed and never happy.Just like the old woman in the fairy tale "The Story of the Fisherman and the Goldfish". The young man in the world has obtained gold, but he still wants the magic power to turn stone into gold.In the end, they can only have nothing.Desires are endless. If you are blindly stuck in them, you will live too tired and haggard, and you will miss a lot of fun in life.Therefore, life should not have too much dynamism in ideals, and being a contented person can lead a happy life.

Henry David Thoreau described sitting in his hut by the lake listening to the rain: "Today's light rain has watered the beans for me and kept me in the house. It doesn't bother me. It is good for me to feel dreary and gloomy. I have had some pleasant hours in the house when the spring or autumn rains lasted; The night is getting longer, and many thoughts are being pondered and pondered at this time."

"The wind is howling, the rain is pouring down, and the patter is not stopping." If a person who is not satisfied describes it, he will definitely not be able to feel the beauty of it and the beauty of life.But the reason why Thoreau is so peaceful and comfortable is that he has few desires and few demands on life.That is to say, contented people are far better at discovering the beauty of life than those who are not contented, and can enjoy more joys of life, which is why "contented people are always happy".Of course, we are not advocating Taoism's asceticism, but we just hope that we will not have too many desires, let alone extravagantly ask for things that should not belong to us.

After writing this, some people will say, aren't you advocating that we "be content with the status quo and not make progress?" The "satisfaction" we are talking about here is not what some people think is not pursuing life without pursuit, it is not a kind of Negative attitude towards life.What we want to say is that contentment does not mean that we do not want to make progress and stagnate.Contentment and happiness mean that we should treat favors and disgraces with a correct and peaceful attitude, and it emphasizes a state of mind.On the road of life, what defeats you is often not the external harsh conditions, but your inner fear and anxiety.Contentment and happiness are undoubtedly a good medicine for the soul, which can help us form a good psychological state in the complicated life, and calmly deal with the changes in the external situation.Treat the current situation with a normal heart, and create the future with an enterprising heart, and you will still be happy.Because of contentment, there is no need to worry about gains and losses, no burdens, and it is natural to go into battle lightly.Therefore, knowing what you have today is not giving up the pursuit, on the contrary, it is an affirmation of one's past efforts and provides a good mental state for the next effort.

sharing can double the happiness

What is sharing?To share is to give what you have to others.Food can be shared, books can be shared, money can be shared... If you eat oranges alone, only you will find them sweet. If you divide the oranges into petals and give them to everyone to taste, then everyone can taste the oranges. sweet.You see the smiles on everyone's faces when they eat oranges, aren't you happy?So we say that sharing can produce happiness.Because when you share your things with others, your mind is no longer tense, but relaxed, your mood is also happy, and the mental state of the whole person will be much better.At this time, all kinds of positive energy in the body come from all directions, happy, happy, relaxed, confident... People who don't know how to share can't experience this kind of happiness. Weeds grow in the heart.

Mrs. Bell was a rich woman who had a garden outside Atlanta.The garden is so big and beautiful that it attracts many tourists, who have no scruples to come and play in Mrs. Bell's garden.Young people dance on the grassy lawn, children plunge into the flowers to catch butterflies, old people squat by the pond to fish, and some even set up tents in the garden, planning to spend their summer nights there.

Mrs. Bell stood at the window, looking at the merry ecstasy.Seeing them singing, dancing and laughing heartily in the garden that belonged to her, she became more and more angry, so she asked the servant to hang a sign outside the garden gate, which read: private garden, please do not enter without permission.But it didn't work, those people still walked into the garden in groups to play.Mrs. Bell had to send the servants to stop it, and there was a dispute, and someone knocked down the garden fence.

Later, Mrs. Bell came up with a wonderful idea. She asked the servant to take down the sign outside the garden gate and replace it with a new one, which said: Welcome to come here to play. For safety reasons, the owner of this garden In particular, remind everyone that there is a poisonous snake in the grass in the garden.If anyone is accidentally bitten by a snake, please take emergency treatment measures within half an hour, otherwise life will be lost.Finally, let me tell you that the nearest hospital is in Weir Town, about 50 minutes' drive away.

What a brilliant idea.After seeing that sign, those playful tourists were discouraged from this beautiful garden.But a few years later, Mrs. Bell's garden was really overgrown with weeds and poisonous snakes because it was too wide and few people walked around.She guards the empty and deserted garden alone, lonely and lonely, and begins to miss the tourists who used to come to her yard to have fun.

The heart of each of us is such a beautiful big garden, but if there is no one to share it with us, everything will be dull.We long for love and friendship, but if a person curls up in his own small world, refuses to let people enter, does not know how to share with others, it will only make his heart more closed, and love and friendship will never patronize you .Even if you get good things, you may not be in a good mood.Of course, happiness can also be shared.Sharing happiness can double happiness.When you find happiness, be sure to share it with others, because happiness can be passed on, just like farming, the more seeds you sow, the more you will reap.Every day, we find happiness from every corner.A good book, a humorous sentence, and some interesting TV programs will often make you have a good mood for the day. Share these happiness with everyone, and you will be happier.

In the process of sharing happiness, we will find that many people around us have a unique field of discovering happiness by themselves, which is often lacking in others.Some people like to share the joy of success with others, and some people like to share with others the spirit of not admitting defeat and working hard towards the goal. No matter what you share, as long as people communicate with each other, you will find Happiness can also collide with brilliant sparks, and friendship, knowledge, and happiness can be harvested in every exchange.

Sharing is a kind of beautiful emotion that we quietly convey and resonate in the vast world.It is as big as sharing the civilization, harmony and progress of the country, sharing the inspiration of the Olympic spirit to mankind, and sharing the sweat and tears behind the heroic appearance of Olympic athletes; as small as sharing the warmth and sweetness of your own small family, sharing the growth process of your children, and sharing a A mother's journey of looking forward to her children growing up.Anything, we can share with others and enjoy the happiness it brings us.Know how to share, double happiness, double energy.

In life, a person who knows how to share is a caring and responsible person, a person with a broad mind, a solid person, and a person full of positive energy.

Help others, gain happiness

Once upon a time there was a king who loved his son very much.The young prince could have everything he wanted, but he still often frowns and is sullen.

One day, a priest walked into the palace and told the king that he had a way to make the prince happy.The pastor took the prince into a secret room, wrote a sentence on a piece of paper, and handed it to the prince.The prince looked at it and saw that it said: "Do a good deed for others every day."

The prince obeyed.Soon, he really turned into a happy boy.

It can be seen that helping others can make us happy.Because caring for others and helping others first realizes a sense of self-enrichment, and then when I hear that the person being helped is out of trouble, I feel happier than anything else and share the happiness of the other person.

As the saying goes: "One fence has three stakes, and one hero has three gangs." If we can all take helping others as the happiest thing, then our world can be called a beautiful paradise.

One is talking to God about heaven and hell.God said to the man, "Come on, I'll show you what hell is." They entered a room where a group of people were gathered around a large pot of broth.Everyone looked malnourished, hopeless and hungry.Each of them had a spoon that could reach the pot, but the handles of the spoons were longer than their arms, and they could not get the soup into their mouths by themselves.They looked so miserable.

"Come on, let me show you what heaven is." God led the man into another room.Everything here is no different from the previous room.A pot of soup, a group of people, the same ladle, but all singing happily.

"I don't understand," the man said, "Why are they happy with the same treatment and conditions, but the people in the other room are miserable?" God smiled and said, "It's very simple, because here is a group of people who can help each other." people, who use their own spoons to feed soup into other people's mouths, and they also feel happy because they help others."

A psychological journal in the United States published the findings of a large-scale psychological questionnaire: People who often help others are significantly happier than those who are not willing to help others.From this, the researchers concluded that developing the habit of helping others is a good way to prevent and treat depression.The result of helping others is often a win-win situation. It not only helps others, but also leaves a piece of happiness that money cannot buy.

Park Li, who lives in the Midwest of the United States, suffered from depression a few years ago due to a broken relationship, so she moved from the Northeast where she originally lived to live in the Midwest.

After living for a period of time, Pu Li found that the living habits of people in the Midwest are very different from those in the Northeast.The pace of life in the Midwest is slow, people are more enthusiastic, and the relationship between people is very harmonious.There were many times when she came out of the parking lot and onto the driveway, and despite the long queues on the driveway, someone always made way for her.She was deeply moved by this kind of polite and respectful behavior.

One morning, a big truck came towards her, and she let the big truck go first. The driver of the big truck was deeply moved.On the road, the driver of the large truck found that Pu Li's car had stopped due to lack of gas in the rearview mirror, so he stopped the car and took out his spare gasoline and put it in Pu Li's car, and sent Pu Li to a nearby The gas station is full of gas.Later, the two young people got married, and Park Li's depression was cured after that.

Helping others can bring you happiness, and happiness is a state of mind, which can bring relaxation and joy to people. A good mood can always bring good results, even surprises.

In life, each of us will encounter difficulties of one kind or another.As long as we sincerely stretch out a pair of enthusiastic and warm hands and try our best to help everyone around us, we will feel happy.And the help we give to others is like a baton, you pass it on to others, and others pass it on to another person, so that happiness will be passed on to more people, and the world will be full of happiness and positive energy.If we are indifferent and indifferent to the people around us, not only will others alienate us over time, but what is even more frightening is that this will make our character cold, withdrawn, out of tune with the environment, and all kinds of negative energy will follow. Come. "Giving roses to others will leave a lingering fragrance in your hands", we must believe that no one will reject this unique "fragrance".

Throw away the baggage and move forward lightly

I once saw such a passage: "A high-end mobile phone, 70% of the functions are useless; a high-end car, 70% of the speed is redundant; a luxury villa, 70% of the rooms are free ..." Thinking about it carefully, it really is.

However, in life, we are all exhausted for the useless 70%.If others have high-end mobile phones, high-end cars, and luxury villas, if you don’t have them, you will feel resentful.In order to be able to get those so-called "high-end", you desperately strive for it.You work all night long, work painstakingly, even fight by all means and intrigues... Your life has become an exhausting race, exhausted your physical strength, lost your health, squeezed out many joys in life, and forgot The meaning of life is entangled in the endless pursuit and acquisition.In the end, you find that what you are fighting for is only 70% useless.

We think that only work is useful, so we ignore our relatives and friends around us.Bai Yansong said that more "useless" things should be done. "Useless" things are actually the most useful.It seems useless to bask in the sun with our parents, chat with our lover, and play cards with our friends, but it makes our life full of poetry and happiness.If you have been running all your life, when you get old, you may be full of exhaustion and disease.

The useless 70% is a heavy backpack in the journey of life, throwing it away, life will be a relaxing and pleasant journey.As the saying goes: "There are tens of millions of houses in a family, and the sleeping space only needs to be three feet wide." We really don't need many.30% of what you have is enough.

As for "success" and "happiness", here is a brief definition, and many people will agree: having what you want is success; being satisfied with what you have is happiness.If you have it, you will want to have it again, and if you don’t have it, you will not be happy; but cherish and like what you have, even if it is small and short-lived, and it is insignificant in the eyes of others, but as long as you feel "this is exactly what I want", this is happiness. up.

To lose the burden, we need to know how to let go.Let go of the pain and tears of the past, walk out of loneliness and loneliness, look at the beauty of the world, and walk towards the bright and broad avenue with light steps.

One day, a young man walked up the mountain with a big burden on his back, sweating and out of breath. When he entered the temple, he saw Master Wuji and said depressedly: "Master, I am very lonely, very lonely. I feel that life is special. Heaviness, no ease, no joy, master please enlighten me."

Master Wuji understood the man's luggage as soon as he looked at it, and asked him with a smile: "Benefactor, what is in your luggage?"

"Alas!" said the young man with a sigh, "the baggage contains my troubles when I am alone, the pain when I fail, and the tears when I am hurt every time, all of which make me feel disappointed and discouraged in life!"

Master Wuji didn't say anything, just stood up, pointed out the way ahead, and beckoned him—follow me.The two came to the lake silently, and took a boat to the other side of the lake. After landing, the master said to the young man seriously: "Please benefactor, please carry the boat on the road." The young man was confused, and he asked: "Master Are you kidding, how can I carry such a heavy boat?"

"Yes, you must not be able to carry it, everyone knows that." Master Wuji said solemnly: "When we cross the river, this boat is extremely important to us, but after crossing the river, we have to abandon the boat and land , will not carry the boat as a burden on the body. In the same way, loneliness, loneliness, pain and tears are all experiences in life, which are inevitable, and sometimes it will make life more colorful. However, if always If you sink into the unpleasant memories of the past, it will become an unbearable burden of life."

The young man fell silent.Master Wuji continued: "Young people, it is difficult to carry a heavy burden in a fragile life, and only by letting go of the burden can we move forward lightly!" After listening to this, the young man smiled with relief.

The most fundamental reason for our unhappiness is that we can afford it but cannot let it go.Among those things that cannot be let go, there are too many worthless things, and carrying them becomes our burden, and eventually we will be overwhelmed by the burden, such as unhappiness, unsatisfactory, unsatisfactory, etc. .Therefore, the real happiness in life often does not lie in how much you have, but in how much you let go.When we really let go of those unnecessary mental baggage, we will naturally feel at ease.Because you have discarded the bad emotions and negative energy that have always followed you, the positive energy in your body is surging and converging at this time, and they will bring you joy and happiness.

【Stimulate Positive Energy】Create happiness and enhance positive energy

For anything, the important thing is not "whether you have it" but "whether you want it or not". "Whether there is" is often difficult to control, but "whether or not" can be done according to one's own wishes.Whether you want to be happy or not is in your control.And what can determine whether you are happy is your own mentality. Adjust your mentality and create happiness, and you will naturally have happiness.Here I will tell you how to create happiness, try it, there is always something suitable for you.

—Speak loudly.The repressed person speaks in a noticeably lower voice, shows low self-confidence, and is not at all happy.So try to raise your volume, but instead of shouting at someone, just consciously make it slightly louder than usual.

--shout loudly.When you are depressed, you can find a secluded place, shout out your troubles and depression, or cry aloud, so that you can vent your unpleasant emotions.

--laugh happily.Healthy laughter is the best way to relieve stress, because all organs of the body are in a relaxed state and energy is activated when laughing.Smile and smile and you will be really happy.

— Say “thank you” often, and say it from the bottom of your heart.For the help of others, whether it is a kind reminder or a big favor for you, you should remember the benefits of others, be grateful, and say "thank you", so that you will really be happy.

——Appreciate the fun of children.Play more with your child, laugh heartily with him, and experience the kind of carefree childhood.

——Helping people do things.If you have been worrying about your own affairs, you might as well stop what you are doing and do something for others, and you can get the pleasure of helping others.

— Slow down.When you feel that the tense string is about to snap, then slow down your pace, delete those unimportant things from the schedule, and refuse some entertainment.

——It's quick to spit out.If you are bothered by one thing, don't be bored in your heart, tell your confidant and good friend about your distress, and seek their enlightenment and support.

- Don't be picky.Not critical of yourself, nor critical of others.There is no perfect thing in the world, don't expect too much from others, and don't ask yourself to be perfect.If you are not demanding, your heart will be relaxed and happy.

- Exercise more.Exercise releases pleasurable endorphins, which can be as effective as medication for depression, without the side effects.

— Less comparisons. "Comparing people to others makes people mad." There will always be endless comparisons in the world. Treating everyone as a competitor is an embarrassment to yourself. Just focus on your own progress.

— Take advantage of the advantages.The source of happiness is discovering and using your true strengths, the better your sense of self becomes, the happier you will be.If someone tells you, "You're great on the phone," you may not think that's a big deal, but what you don't know is that many people find it difficult to do so, so it's something you can be proud of.

—Be bearish on money.The more people put money in a higher position, the harder it is to be happy. This is almost an unchanging law from ancient to modern times.The Buddhist "hungry ghost way" is a good proof: people who already have a stable income and sufficient savings, but still rack their brains to search for ill-gotten gains, are poor people who are deeply trapped in the never-satisfied hungry ghost way. soul.Zhuangzi's "Xiaoyaoyou" said it well: "Wrens nest in the deep forest, but only a branch; moles drink rivers, but their stomachs are full." Material desires can be unlimited, but the material that a person can really enjoy is just "one drink and one peck." ""A little bit of a branch".

These small changes above will definitely improve your mood.As one writer said: Please laugh as if you have never been hurt.As long as the corners of the mouth are raised slightly, the body will be filled with positive energy instantly.If you don't believe me, act now.

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