Stimulate positive energy
Chapter 2 Positive Energy: The Messenger of Happiness and Light
Chapter 2 Positive Energy: The Messenger of Happiness and Light
Positive energy is all the motivation and emotion that give people upward and hope, urge people to keep moving forward, and make life complete and happy.Everyone has huge positive energy hidden in them. If you dig out these positive energies and use them correctly, you will live a brand new self.
a positive energy, a negative energy
There was once a popular game called "playing dead" on the Internet.The rules of the game are very simple, just find a public place, lie flat on the ground or get down in other ways, take photos and upload them.The game claims that the weirder the occasion and the more people involved, the more fun it is.For a time, this quirky and uniquely creative game attracted a large number of people who love to play it, setting off a wave of "playing dead" craze after wave - some people pretended to be dead on the road, some people played dead on the chair , some people pretended to be dead in a supermarket, some played dead on a moving elevator, and some played dead on an airplane engine... In order to highlight creativity, this kind of "playing dead" often chooses some dangerous places, accidentally "playing dead" ” would become “True Death.”We know that no one would play with their own life.But why do so many people try it?Some netizens gave their own answers: what they pretended was not death, but loneliness.In fact, such an answer is not beyond our expectations, because living in today's highly competitive society, many people are burdened with huge expenses for mortgages, car loans, and children's schooling.When they opened their eyes in the morning, what they saw was not the dawn waving to them, but the heavy debt in their hearts, so they trapped themselves on an isolated island, silent, thinking hard, and finally became disliked to communicate with others, and gradually became lonely .At this time, the game of "playing dead" caught their attention and became a way for them to relieve their inner pressure.
The game designer may have already realized the mental stress and spiritual emptiness that people face in today's society, and hoped to awaken the dwindling passion in people's hearts through fresh sensory stimulation, so they designed this game.From this point, we can say that people have been surrounded by invisible pressure that cannot be released, and this pressure is a kind of negative energy.
For those who participate in the game, in the process of competing to imitate play, they can show their strong willpower and creativity.For example, if a person pretends to be dead on the street, if he wants to save his life, he must fight to the death with the speeding cars. If he defeats the speeding cars, we can imagine his desire to survive at that time How strong it is, how tenacious his willpower was at that time, and the tenacious willpower he displayed at this time is a kind of positive energy.
From the above examples, we can easily see that positive energy is a force that can bring us hope, confidence and courage.This power is a motivation and emotion that encourages people to be healthy, optimistic and positive.It can inspire people to have a positive attitude and get a good mood in daily study, work and life, so as to be more confident and energetic.Positive energy is a kind of positive energy or positive energy, such as strong self-confidence, daring to fight hard, tenacious will, courage to innovate, and sunny attitude.On the contrary, negative energy is a force that makes people feel that the world is bleak, depressed and lonely.This kind of power is like a group of little demons on the dark planet, which will drag the unsteady people into a bottomless black hole, making them miserable and unable to extricate themselves.Negative energy is a kind of negative energy or negative energy, such as depression, laziness, vulnerability, irritability, anxiety, and conformity.
In fact, energy is originally a quantity in physics that measures the movement of matter, and was later extended to be used as a metaphor for human activity.The law of conservation of energy tells us that energy does not disappear, it can only be transformed from one form to another, or passed from one object to another.In the above example, stress is transformed into strong willpower by participating in the game, that is, negative energy is transformed into positive energy.
Positive energy - a great force
There are infinite positive energies in everyone's body. These positive energies have magical powers. They can urge people up, warm people, and make flowers bloom everywhere in the world.Let us feel the magic and greatness of positive energy from the following stories!
A single mother works as a maid in a rich man's house during the day, and returns home at night to live with her four-year-old son.After the master found out about the situation of the maid, he made a room for her and the child, and asked her to take the child over. He said that in the future, all the food and lodging would be at his house, and everything would be free of charge, and she would not deduct a penny from her salary.The maid thanked the master and said forget it, don't bother them.The master didn't insist anymore, and the matter passed.In fact, the maid has her own worries. In her opinion, in the big house of the master’s house, there are only a few bathrooms, and the smallest bathroom is bigger than her house. She doesn’t know the huge gap between poverty and wealth. What impact will it have on the children of the age.
One day, the host wanted to treat guests at home. He had invited many people, but there were not enough people to greet the guests.So the master discussed with the maid: "Can you come home later today, because the house is really short of manpower, which will cause you trouble."
The maid said: "Okay, no problem, I'm just a little worried about my son, he will be scared if he doesn't see me at night."
The host said: "It's easy to handle. You can go and pick him up now. I'll have dinner with the guests."
When the maid picked up her son, the guests were arriving one after another, so she didn't lead her son in through the main entrance, but went through the side door, and then hid him in a bathroom that the owner rarely visited.She took out of her pocket the sausage and bread which she had bought especially for her son on the way home, and put them on a plate which she had brought from the master's kitchen, and served him.
The child has never seen such a magnificent and gorgeous room. He doesn't know the flush toilet, and the colorful bottles and jars on the marble sink. The good smell in the room makes him almost faint with happiness. up.The maid told her son, "Mom brought you to the banquet. You are a child and cannot eat with adults. This is a private room specially prepared for you by the host of the banquet."
The child tried to put the dinner plate on the sink, but he was too short to reach it, so he had to put it on the toilet seat.He sat on the beautifully tiled floor, singing and eating these rare delicacies.
Soon, in the magnificent banquet hall, the master didn't find the maid's child, so he went to ask the maid.The maid faltered and said: "I've been busy all the time, so I don't have time to look after him. Maybe, maybe, maybe, he's playing on the lawn outside." The master seemed to understand something, and he left the banquet hall. Every room in the house was searched and the child was found in a corner bathroom.The host asked: "How can you eat here? Do you know what this place is?" The child replied: "My mother said that this is a private room specially prepared for me by the host of the banquet. Today's sausage is so delicious, I haven't eaten it for a long time. By the way, who are you, I can't eat such a delicious sausage alone, would you like to accompany me to eat these delicious sausages here?"
The master suppressed the tears and nodded, facing the child with the brightest smile, he didn't need to ask any more questions.At this moment, he thought of the situation when he came to New York with his parents. At that time, they were also very poor and experienced very hard times.
Back in the banquet hall, the host said to the guests: "I'm sorry, friends, I have to accompany a special guest now, and I can't have dinner with you, please enjoy it slowly." After finishing speaking, he Filled two big plates with the children's favorite food, and brought them to the bathroom.He imitated the child's appearance, put the dinner plate on the toilet seat, sat on the ground, and said to the child: "It's a pity that you have such a good private room and so many delicacies all by yourself. Come on." Come, let's have dinner together."
While eating, the master and the child sang songs and talked about many topics.He convinced the four-year-old child that his mother is the most hardworking and greatest mother in the world, and he should not only be proud of her, but also do something for her when he grows up.And so far, the child doesn't know that his mother is just a servant of the master's family.
The guests found that after the host took away two large plates of food and never came back, they felt strange and went to look for it.They were deeply shocked when they saw the scene of two people who were like father and son sitting on the ground and eating around the toilet lid.These so-called upper-class people or social elites rushed over with wine glasses and delicious food, and soon filled the bathroom. Everyone sang many beautiful songs to the children and expressed too many good wishes.All this convinced the child that his mother was the most respectable mother, and he was the happiest person in the world.Many years later, when the child grew up, he not only had his own business, but also bought a big house with several bathrooms, and joined the upper class.Every year, he donates a lot of money to the poor anonymously, but never holds a donation ceremony or gives an interview.Many friends still didn't understand his move, and he didn't explain anything. He just said to his friends: "I will never forget that day many years ago, there was a rich man and too many rich people who used their Sincerity and kindness maintained the dignity of a four-year-old child."
Let's imagine, if those rich people brought ridicule and ridicule to their children many years ago, we don't know what this child will do when he grows up. Maybe he will be as successful as he is now, maybe he will be nothing, maybe He will be unkind for the rich, and maybe he will do anything to retaliate against the society.But one thing we can be sure of is that the rich people used their love and kindness to maintain the children's self-esteem, and what was passed on to the children was a kind of positive energy woven with love and kindness.From what he said to his friends, it is not difficult to understand that the most important reason why he will repay the society with great love after he grows up is that deep in his heart he will never forget the love passed on to him by the rich when he was a child and kindness.
In today's era full of temptation and scrambling for fame and fortune, some people hope to gain fame and fortune through media reports if they do a little good deed, and they are unwilling to be unsung heroes.Therefore, it is particularly commendable that the boy in the story has been helping the poor when he grows up and is unwilling to disclose his true identity.If there were more people like this in our world, the world would be a fairyland full of flowers.It's a pity that there are too few such people, and we still need to continue to practice and gradually reach that state.It can be seen that positive energy can create people who are needed by society but are not easy to create.Because of this, we say that the power of positive energy is a great power.
Positive energy makes the world full of vitality
"A person with good thoughts, good intentions, and a happy mood is a kind of positive energy. Our thoughts and emotions are a kind of energy. Positive thinking and positive emotions are all positive energy." China National Psychological Counselor, Zhang Defen, a writer of body and mind, believes that gratitude, trust, open-mindedness, and forge ahead are all positive energy. As long as you maintain a good attitude in life and learn to understand, tolerate, be grateful, and bless, you are passing positive energy to others.If individuals can do this, then there will always be positive energy lingering in the group.Every group is full of positive energy, and the world will be full of positive energy, vigor and vitality everywhere.
On a snowy night in Texas, a young man named Kress was trapped in the suburbs because his car "broke down".Just when he was very anxious, a man on horseback happened to pass by here.Seeing this, the man used his horse to help Kress pull the car to the town without saying a word.Afterwards, when Kress took out a lot of US dollar bills to thank him, the man said: "I don't need to pay back, but I want you to make a promise, that is, when others are in trouble, you will try your best." Go help him."
In the days that followed, Kress never forgot his promise, took the initiative to help many people, and every time he would say that sentence to the people he helped - "This does not require repayment, but I I want you to promise that when others are in trouble, you should try your best to help them.”
One day many years later, Kress was trapped on an isolated island by a sudden flood, and a brave teenager rescued him at the risk of being swallowed by the flood.When he thanked the young man, the young man actually said the words that Kress had said countless times: "I don't need anything in return, but I want you to make a promise..." Kress suddenly felt a surge of pain. A warm current: "It turns out that the chain about love I wore has turned around countless people, and finally returned it to me after a teenager. All the good things I have done in my life are all done for myself!"
Kress' experience tells us that accepting the positive energy passed on to you by others, then using it to infect others, and passing it on, the positive energy will not disappear with the end of a living body.Because this living body has passed its own positive energy to another living body during the continuation of its life, and the other living body will also pass it on to the next living body... In this way, the positive energy will be passed on continuously. Forever.We can imagine how beautiful, how harmonious, and how fascinating a world full of positive energy will be... So, in our daily life, when someone asks us for help, we must not refuse indifferently.Because, to help others is to pass on warmth.We can start from the little things in life:
——A classmate encounters difficulties in study, don’t laugh at him, help him, he will feel that he has not been abandoned by the world; —— On the bus, the old man is standing next to you, then think of your grandparents, Give him a seat; ——In the winter when the north wind is blowing, if you meet someone who refuses to close the stall at night, buy some if you can, because whoever has a better family background will not set up a night stall in cold weather;— ——When you meet students who work and study, especially middle school students and little girls, buy some of the things she sells, because anyway, it takes courage to come out to make money at a young age, so encourage her; ——When you meet people who ask for directions, but He didn’t ask you, but you happen to know the place, so tell him, no one will laugh at you because of your enthusiasm; ——If you find someone’s lost things, such as wallets and documents, return them to the owner as soon as possible , because these things are very important to the owner, and the owner is very anxious; ——With extra money, we can help a few students in impoverished mountainous areas;... Actually, there are many things we can do, as long as we are less prejudiced, less indifferent, With more sincerity and more patience, the world will become warm and harmonious because of your effort.
The real "source" of positive energy
In fact, the body of each of us is a "source" of positive energy, but we have not identified it with our eyes, we have not worked hard to dig it out with our hearts, and we have not transformed negative energy into positive energy in time, so we have not achieved our own breakthrough.If we want to cultivate ourselves into a real "source" of positive energy, we must work hard in at least three aspects: one is to be able to receive positive energy, the other is to be able to create positive energy, and the third is to be able to spread positive energy.With these three points, you are an explosive, inexhaustible and inexhaustible "source" of positive energy.
Open your mind and accept positive energy
Positive energy is sought after because negative energy plagues our lives.So, if someone walks towards you with a smile, grab the positive energy that the smile conveys to you.You will feel that your day is spent with a smile.
In the same way, we insist on reading more and studying more, learning modern knowledge and advanced ideas, and learning good experiences and practices to enrich our lives, arm our minds, and improve our abilities; The place deals with healthy, optimistic and positive people, listens to their teachings, and obtains useful information. The brain and body and mind can be recharged or refueled. A kind of internal motivation will naturally be generated in the heart, so as to read the books recommended by them and learn to speak What they said, followed by what they did.This is the positive energy we pass on from books and others when we accept and absorb it.
If the people and friends around you are full of positive energy, chat with them often, ask them for advice on things you don’t understand, consciously or unconsciously, they will bring you a positive force.Open your mind, bid farewell to indifference, accept positive energy, and cultivate yourself into a recipient of positive energy.
Broaden your mind and create positive energy
We are exposed to various negative energies every day, and when disturbed by them, we will have some corresponding symptoms.Psychologists have found that if you listen to more complaints, your brain will be damaged.The brain works like a muscle. If it hears too much negative information, it is likely to cause the person involved to behave in a negative way.What's worse, people will become dull and numb after being in a complaining environment for a long time.Therefore, when encountering various negative energies such as complaints and complaints, we have to change our thinking and not listen to them.Find internal causes when things happen, don't blame others, learn to give and give, and integrate these methods into study, life, and workplace to create "positive learning energy", "positive energy in life" and "positive energy in the workplace" , so that you can gain positive energy such as trust, open-mindedness, joy, and enterprising, and become a creator of positive energy.
Do your best to spread positive energy
Once you have positive energy, you need to guide the positive energy to positively radiate to benefit more people, so that the maximum effectiveness of positive energy can be brought into full play.The best way to spread positive energy is to share your happiness with others and take the lead in doing good deeds.If you share happiness a hundred times, you can enjoy it a hundred times and make more people feel happy; if you tell the pain a hundred times, you will suffer a hundred times and make more people feel annoyed.Do more good deeds, and others will feel sincerity, kindness and warmth in your words and deeds, and will remember your actions in their hearts, and do things in your way in the future.Doing good deeds does not depend on how big the deed is, nor does it depend on how much or how little is done. As long as the motivation and purpose are good, we will definitely have positive meaning when we do it; Even if it is just an effortless thing, as long as it can influence and drive the people around us to be good and push the good to a long time, then it must be worthwhile for us to do it; good deeds, good deeds, no matter what we pay is material What is still spiritual, as long as it is beneficial to others, we should not refuse, there is a reason to do it.If you do this, you are a disseminator of positive energy.
Positive people vs negative people
In life, when dealing with some people, you will feel comfortable, safe, relaxed and happy, feel that the sky is blue, and have a feeling of "it's good to be alive"; you will often think of them, want to work with them, Chatting, this is because they are full of positive energy, which can bring a relaxed, optimistic and positive feeling.Associating with them and being infected by them, you will also become full of positive energy.On the contrary, when you are with some people, you feel that you are always being ridiculed, picked on and attacked. They make you feel bored, tense, pessimistic, and hopeless. At this time, don’t hesitate to leave them, because they have negative energy , is likely to drag you into the quagmire.
People full of positive energy have firm beliefs in life, have clear goals in life, know what they want and will continue to work hard for it.When difficulties come, they are not afraid of hardships and do not shrink back. They know that the rainbow after the storm is extremely beautiful.When the mind is tired, they know how to adjust their mood, let the mind relax, and let the mind regain energy.
A person full of positive energy has a sunny mentality.They don't take pleasure in things, don't take sorrow in themselves, they are indifferent to fame and fortune, they are not surprised by favors or humiliations, they can afford it and let it go, they don't complain, and they don't drag others into trouble.
People full of positive energy have great wisdom.They can distinguish the black and white of the world, they will not deviate from the road of life, and they will not follow the trend.They do not distort the nature of things, nor exaggerate their adverse effects.They understand that everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and they know how to overcome human weaknesses and develop human strengths.
People full of positive energy are always welcome in the workplace because they have comfortable communication methods, skilled professional skills, open minds, sincerity to people and seriousness to things.Therefore, it is very important to be a person full of positive energy, which has a huge positive impact on your work and relationships, and can help you succeed in your career.
A woman moved to a new home, and a widow and child lived next door.One night, there was a sudden power outage, the woman lit a candle, and suddenly heard the child next door knocking on the door, and asked nervously: "Auntie, do you have any candles at home?" I lent it to him so as not to be relied on, so I said no.When she was about to close the door, the child smiled and said, "I knew you must have none! Mom was afraid that you lived alone and had no candles, so she asked me to bring you two for you." After hearing this, the woman felt extremely ashamed.
In the story, mother and child know how to pretend to be neighbors in their hearts, know how to care for others, and convey a spirit of helping others.The woman's behavior is full of selfishness and indifference, and what she conveys is a kind of negative energy.
People with negative energy, the weaknesses of human nature are more deeply reflected in them, such as selfishness, greed, vanity, snobbery, jealousy, complaining, haggling, etc.The first thing they think of is their own gains and losses when they encounter troubles, they will sacrifice the interests of others to protect their own interests, and they will also do things that harm others to benefit themselves.When they meet people who are better than themselves, they will be jealous, and they will try their best to frame others, instead of choosing to work hard and catch up.Seeing others in trouble is not to extend a helping hand, but to add insult to injury and gloat.
People with negative energy cannot control their emotions.They are often angry, anxious, nervous, kicking chairs and swearing when angry.They feel inferior, cringe, pessimistic, dejected, and feel that life is tasteless.They are often carried away and panicked.
People with negative energy are not firm-willed and easily influenced by the attitudes of others.They care too much about what others think of them, they cannot face rumors and criticism correctly, and they cannot think calmly when they are attacked.When they encounter problems, they always blame others, give up on themselves, and will not take the initiative to find solutions to problems.
For a person with negative energy, all the beautiful things in the world will not belong to him, so it is necessary and extremely important to recognize one's own negative energy and try to transform them into positive energy.
People full of positive energy will bring happiness and positive attitude to those around them. They are like a positive energy magnetic field, attracting friends, joy and success.People with negative energy will bring unpositive and unhealthy energy to those around them. They reject all positive energy, so love, friendship, and success will go away from them.This is the biggest difference between them.
Positive energy is in a relay
In 2012, the so-called "end of the world" year, the word "positive energy" became popular on the Internet, frequently appeared in our QQ and MSN signature files, and became a hot topic on Weibo.At present, we label all positive, healthy, inspiring, empowering, and hopeful people and things with "positive energy", making "positive energy" a symbolic symbol. The inspirational symbols are deeply connected with our emotions, closely connected with our happiness, happiness and success, and express our pursuit and yearning for a better life.Thus, a positive energy relay kicked off...July 2012, 7, an ordinary and extraordinary day.It is ordinary because it is a weekend, just like the usual weekends; it is extraordinary because on that day, a heavy rainstorm made people see the power of positive energy.What that kind of power brings to people is the warmth between people, and the touch that can never be forgotten in a lifetime.
That day, Weibo was full of news about the torrential rain. "Spinach X6" posted a Weibo: "Nearly 8 people are stranded at the airport. We don't care how many cars we go to. We want to pass on positive energy. We gather in front of the Mercedes-Benz Building at 12:35. The unified sign is double flashing, and the recipients are unified. Send it to Sanyuan Bridge..."
According to statistics, 200 private cars participated in the rescue operation that night, and the "double flashing convoy" was "excited" at the airport, picking up and dropping off 500 passengers.
"I didn't think too much. My home is very close to the Mercedes-Benz Building, so I directly asked the organizer to participate. At that time, the first batch had already set off, and the organizer said that it is not recommended to go alone. They will explore the way first, and will organize if necessary. The second call. Later, I received feedback that the rain had subsided, the road conditions were okay, and there were still a lot of people stranded at the airport, so I ran to the airport.” Xiao Dan said that his actions that day were both understatement and natural.
It was not only the convoy that was "excited", the emotion was still flowing afterwards, "I feel like crying", "If people can be like this, can this society be bad", "I can't feel calm for a long time", "And I'm starting to believe in this world", such messages abound on the Internet.
Peter Buffett, the author of "Be Yourself", also pays special attention to the heavy rain in Beijing.He said: "I think those sanitation workers who braved the knee-high rain to wait by the manhole cover, the restaurants and hotels that provided free board and lodging, and the enthusiastic people who used private cars to pick up and drop off the stranded people, they are all positive role models. Knowing that China has a "carry one more kilogram" public welfare tourism project, and the people have built many shelters for stray animals, they spontaneously pass on positive energy with meager efforts. I am touched by the good deeds on this side of the earth. This kind of help It's great, because in the toughest of times, someone walks with you through the dark."
What is even more touching is that this kind of help not only appears in the most difficult moments, but will continue to appear more frequently.Xiao Dan told the reporter: "'Double Flash Team' has its own official Weibo, and in the future, it will continue to carry out public welfare love to the end, organize activities from time to time, and use the power of the group to help all those in need."
There are many other moving things like this, and they seem to become commonplace in people's minds, and those who do them don't feel how great or great they are, but think that they should be done, and it is a matter of effort.
On March 2013, 3, "Kunming Weiba" posted a request for help on Weibo, saying that Xiaobo, a 21-year-old boy in Yunnan, was suffering from advanced cancer and was being treated in the Second Affiliated Hospital of Kunming Medical University. Xiaobo's biggest wish was to eat a pomegranate , My parents ran around the hospital several times, but they couldn't buy it. I hope that kind people can help fulfill Xiaobo's wish.In order to satisfy Xiaobo's wish, netizens in Xi'an launched a pomegranate relay activity for thousands of miles.I will handle this matter—please help find pomegranates—rush to Lintong Pomegranate King’s home—pick out 4 largest and freshest pomegranates from the cold storage—carry pomegranates to Xi’an Xianyang International Airport—Northwest Branch of China Eastern Airlines opens a "love channel" "—After the security check, the pomegranate was handed over to the purser of flight MU12—the plane left Xi’an Xianyang International Airport for Kunming—the plane landed at Kunming Changshui International Airport—caring people drove the pomegranate to Xiaobo’s pillow.It took only 5278 hours to start looking for pomegranates at 22:8 on the 5nd, and to deliver the pomegranates to Xiaobo at 15:7.This is a relay that carries the love and blessings of netizens in Xi'an. We are moved and proud!
At around 2013:3 pm on March 18, 7, an 81-year-old man, alone, fell at the gate of the International Building on Wusi Road, Fuzhou, and his head was covered with blood.At a critical moment, a young man passing by saw it, and hurried forward, took off his clothes to help the old man stop the bleeding, and dialed 120, and sent the old man to the hospital... A warm rescue by strangers is being staged.The old man's family was extremely moved, and they worked hard to find a rescuer, Ji Mingyang.When the reporter asked him if he had considered that his actions would be misunderstood or mistaken as the perpetrator, Ji Mingyang said frankly that when he covered the wound on the old man's head with his hand, this thought flashed through his mind, but when he saw the old man's death After so much blood, he couldn't care less.Such a stranger's rescue ignited a fire in people's indifferent hearts, added a weight of trust to a society facing a crisis of integrity, and brought warmth and touch to people.
Stimulating the positive energy in our hearts can help us establish an upward outlook on life, live confidently, happily, and full of vigor; passing on our own positive energy can help more people gain positive energy.If everyone can be a transmitter of positive energy and let the positive energy pass on uninterruptedly, then the transmission of positive energy will be a never-ending relay, and the world will become warmer and more harmonious.
【Stimulate Positive Energy】Spread positive energy, starting from children
Many children have bad behaviors such as withdrawn personality, weariness of learning, addiction to online games, excessive reliance on mobile phones, puppy love, rebellion, running away from home, fighting, and violent tendencies.If things go on like this, it will cause serious harm to the physical and mental health of young people.Statistics show that the proportion of adolescents with cervical spondylosis has increased from 1996% in 8.7 to more than 2009% in 12, and 87% of them are accompanied by cerebral vasospasm, which is directly related to unhealthy lifestyles such as surfing the Internet for a long time.These bad behaviors and habits will also make young people have blurred outlook on life, lack of moral values, and finally lead to crime.
Parents often feel helpless in the face of their children's bad behavior habits.To this end, Deng Damin, vice principal of Zhengzhou Aizhiyuan Chinese Studies School, gave the following advice:
(20) Parents should review their own behavior Teacher Deng has been engaged in elementary and senior middle school education for [-] years, and has worked in youth mental health schools for five or six years. He told us: "Actually, I object to calling this type of children 'problem teenagers'. .Because there is nothing wrong with the children themselves, and some of them are particularly good. The real problem is the unharmonious family environment and educational environment, which lead to bad behaviors in the children."
When children have problems, parents should first review their own behavior.Jia Jia (pseudonym), a little girl from Sanmenxia, has strong rebellious emotions towards her mother. She describes her mother as "crooked mouth, slanted eyes, ferocious face, and duplicity".Jiajia's mother works in the insurance industry, and when she goes shopping with her daughter, she is always busy answering calls from clients, spending half a day chatting with clients. "I think it's not my mother who accompanies me to go shopping, but I am the one who accompanies her on the phone. In my mother's heart, customers are more important than me," Jiajia said.
A new study from the University of Cambridge in the United Kingdom shows that parents who often quarrel will increase the risk of depression in their children.An unharmonious family environment such as parental quarrels, divorce, and busy work will bring great psychological harm to children.However, parents seldom consider their children's feelings. They often play the roles of "leader", "cadre" and "employee" to the fullest in front of their children, but they do not play the role of parents well to care for and love their children.As time goes by, the child's resentment and disgust are also increasing day by day.Under the long-term influence of such emotions, children's academic performance will decline, and various bad behaviors and habits will gradually form.
Teacher Deng said: In real life, some parents and teachers often bring negative emotions from work and life into the home and into the classroom. This negative emotion is easy to spread and intensify among parents, children and teachers, causing children to have problems.Sometimes children have problems because they do not adapt to the educational environment of the school.For example, some parents report that their children are partial to subjects. In fact, to some extent, behind the phenomenon of partial subjects is the "professional teacher", and whichever teacher they prefer, they like to learn which subject.
Parents who are eager to see their children become successful, are they ignoring the necessary ideological and psychological education for their children when they are blindly pursuing scores as the core?Parents who are busy earning money all day and want to let their children eat the best, use the best, and go to the best schools, have you ever thought that their children actually need a warm hug more?Those parents who like to push their children's problems to teachers, do they realize that they should take on the responsibility of family education?
(2012) Intervene in time when problems are discovered. Guide Northeast News Network to report that in [-], the Huanggu District Court of Liaoning City tried nearly [-] female juvenile crime cases.Some of these children were abandoned by their parents and raised by relatives, and some of their parents were divorced and neglected, lacking a positive outlook on life.Children with poor self-control ability, strong curiosity, psychological sensitivity, vulnerability, lack of home warmth, or being tempted by all kinds of bad information in society and on the Internet are prone to bad behaviors such as playing truant and fighting.This example shows that if parents do not pay attention to guidance and education, children can easily turn from bad teenagers into problematic teenagers.
On the contrary, timely guidance can save children from the brink of danger.Mengmeng (pseudonym), a girl from the Northeast, is very obsessed with Chinese studies and Buddhism. Later, she was bewitched and instigated by some organizations in the society who used Buddhism in the name of "Buddhist masters" to swindle and swindle, and wanted to run away from home. , traveled all over the world to study Buddhism.Parents tried hard to persuade but to no avail.When extremely anxious, Mengmeng's parents had no choice but to seek help from experts from Aizhiyuan Chinese Studies Specialized Education School.With the enlightenment, help and persuasion education of professional mental health teachers, Mengmeng found the right direction at the fork in the road of life.
Correcting children's bad behavior habits, forcibly stopping, and endless preaching methods are often counterproductive.Parents should actively communicate, listen to the opinions of experts and teachers, find out the reasons, and prescribe the right medicine.Teacher Deng suggested that guidance education should be targeted, patient, and pay attention to methods and methods. Find an elder or teacher that the child likes, talk to the child, and find reasons from the aspects of family relationship, parent-child relationship, teacher-student relationship, and classmate relationship.Purposefully take children to experience life, such as participating in job fairs, selling newspapers, visiting exhibitions, etc. Compared with general reasoning, it will have a substantive and substantive effect.
(8) Solve problems and focus on transmitting positive energy. When encountering problems that cannot be solved by themselves, parents can seek help from professional institutions that provide family education support.A reporter learned from the private school inquiry system of the Zhengzhou Municipal Education Bureau that there are already several private schools in Zhengzhou that specialize in psychological quality training, mental health education, psychological correction, and Internet addiction treatment.This type of institution mainly accepts minors aged 17 to 50. Through militarized closed management, or door-to-door counseling by psychological counselors, they help children form good behavior habits.There are more than [-] students in a school in Guancheng District, and the Aizhiyuan Guoxue Specialized School where Mr. Deng is located has more than a dozen students. In addition, some students are followed up and educated by teachers.
However, specialized schools are not a panacea.Teacher Feng, who once worked in a specialized mental health education school, told the reporter that many children left the school after a period of strict discipline and restraint, but were sent back not long after.On the one hand, after militarized management, the child got rid of bad behavior habits, but did not really change his understanding psychologically.On the other hand, the family environment and educational environment that originally caused the child's problems have not improved significantly, and the symptoms are not cured.
Therefore, parents need to change and grow up with their children. "What qualifications do you have to be my father (mother)?" This is a question that many children have asked.In many cases, parents do not keep up with the pace of children's growth, and children do not get the understanding and love they deserve.Teacher Deng said that she once met a parent who complained that the two-year-old child had no thoughts at all, and also met a parent who suspected that the six-year-old child was in love with the same table.Such parents either lack basic mental health knowledge, or are a little too sensitive.It can be said that in China, family education has not received due and sufficient attention. Many parents do not know how to pass on positive energy to their children and help them build self-esteem, self-improvement and self-confidence.Some netizens said on Weibo: In China, no matter which industry you enter, you need to obtain an entry qualification certificate. Only parents do not need to pass the qualification certificate.No one is born to be a parent, but all parents should grow up with their children, read books, travel together, and accomplish one thing together. In the process, learn to respect, encourage, affirm, and appreciate children , Let the children have enough love and self-confidence to make themselves a qualified father or mother.It is understood that the current puppy love, tired of studying, obsessed with the Internet are the most common bad behavior habits.The reasons for adolescents' puppy love include many aspects such as physiology, psychology, family, school, society, etc. Many children with puppy love phenomenon come from families with lack of structure or improper education.Children who are tired of learning or are tired of learning are mostly caused by a backlog of frustration in their studies or life.Once a child becomes tired of learning, no matter how good the teacher is or the high-quality training institutions, they cannot guarantee that the child will enter a good learning state.Only by timely intervening and dealing with children's negative learning emotions through psychological means can children enter a good learning state.
They are obsessed with the Internet because they have encountered too many difficulties and problems in reality, and they lack the ability to solve these "difficulties". Therefore, they have to indulge in the Internet to escape reality and find a sense of accomplishment in the Internet.It is the responsibility of every parent and society as a whole to create a good environment for the healthy growth of young people and pass on positive energy.
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Positive energy is all the motivation and emotion that give people upward and hope, urge people to keep moving forward, and make life complete and happy.Everyone has huge positive energy hidden in them. If you dig out these positive energies and use them correctly, you will live a brand new self.
a positive energy, a negative energy
There was once a popular game called "playing dead" on the Internet.The rules of the game are very simple, just find a public place, lie flat on the ground or get down in other ways, take photos and upload them.The game claims that the weirder the occasion and the more people involved, the more fun it is.For a time, this quirky and uniquely creative game attracted a large number of people who love to play it, setting off a wave of "playing dead" craze after wave - some people pretended to be dead on the road, some people played dead on the chair , some people pretended to be dead in a supermarket, some played dead on a moving elevator, and some played dead on an airplane engine... In order to highlight creativity, this kind of "playing dead" often chooses some dangerous places, accidentally "playing dead" ” would become “True Death.”We know that no one would play with their own life.But why do so many people try it?Some netizens gave their own answers: what they pretended was not death, but loneliness.In fact, such an answer is not beyond our expectations, because living in today's highly competitive society, many people are burdened with huge expenses for mortgages, car loans, and children's schooling.When they opened their eyes in the morning, what they saw was not the dawn waving to them, but the heavy debt in their hearts, so they trapped themselves on an isolated island, silent, thinking hard, and finally became disliked to communicate with others, and gradually became lonely .At this time, the game of "playing dead" caught their attention and became a way for them to relieve their inner pressure.
The game designer may have already realized the mental stress and spiritual emptiness that people face in today's society, and hoped to awaken the dwindling passion in people's hearts through fresh sensory stimulation, so they designed this game.From this point, we can say that people have been surrounded by invisible pressure that cannot be released, and this pressure is a kind of negative energy.
For those who participate in the game, in the process of competing to imitate play, they can show their strong willpower and creativity.For example, if a person pretends to be dead on the street, if he wants to save his life, he must fight to the death with the speeding cars. If he defeats the speeding cars, we can imagine his desire to survive at that time How strong it is, how tenacious his willpower was at that time, and the tenacious willpower he displayed at this time is a kind of positive energy.
From the above examples, we can easily see that positive energy is a force that can bring us hope, confidence and courage.This power is a motivation and emotion that encourages people to be healthy, optimistic and positive.It can inspire people to have a positive attitude and get a good mood in daily study, work and life, so as to be more confident and energetic.Positive energy is a kind of positive energy or positive energy, such as strong self-confidence, daring to fight hard, tenacious will, courage to innovate, and sunny attitude.On the contrary, negative energy is a force that makes people feel that the world is bleak, depressed and lonely.This kind of power is like a group of little demons on the dark planet, which will drag the unsteady people into a bottomless black hole, making them miserable and unable to extricate themselves.Negative energy is a kind of negative energy or negative energy, such as depression, laziness, vulnerability, irritability, anxiety, and conformity.
In fact, energy is originally a quantity in physics that measures the movement of matter, and was later extended to be used as a metaphor for human activity.The law of conservation of energy tells us that energy does not disappear, it can only be transformed from one form to another, or passed from one object to another.In the above example, stress is transformed into strong willpower by participating in the game, that is, negative energy is transformed into positive energy.
Positive energy - a great force
There are infinite positive energies in everyone's body. These positive energies have magical powers. They can urge people up, warm people, and make flowers bloom everywhere in the world.Let us feel the magic and greatness of positive energy from the following stories!
A single mother works as a maid in a rich man's house during the day, and returns home at night to live with her four-year-old son.After the master found out about the situation of the maid, he made a room for her and the child, and asked her to take the child over. He said that in the future, all the food and lodging would be at his house, and everything would be free of charge, and she would not deduct a penny from her salary.The maid thanked the master and said forget it, don't bother them.The master didn't insist anymore, and the matter passed.In fact, the maid has her own worries. In her opinion, in the big house of the master’s house, there are only a few bathrooms, and the smallest bathroom is bigger than her house. She doesn’t know the huge gap between poverty and wealth. What impact will it have on the children of the age.
One day, the host wanted to treat guests at home. He had invited many people, but there were not enough people to greet the guests.So the master discussed with the maid: "Can you come home later today, because the house is really short of manpower, which will cause you trouble."
The maid said: "Okay, no problem, I'm just a little worried about my son, he will be scared if he doesn't see me at night."
The host said: "It's easy to handle. You can go and pick him up now. I'll have dinner with the guests."
When the maid picked up her son, the guests were arriving one after another, so she didn't lead her son in through the main entrance, but went through the side door, and then hid him in a bathroom that the owner rarely visited.She took out of her pocket the sausage and bread which she had bought especially for her son on the way home, and put them on a plate which she had brought from the master's kitchen, and served him.
The child has never seen such a magnificent and gorgeous room. He doesn't know the flush toilet, and the colorful bottles and jars on the marble sink. The good smell in the room makes him almost faint with happiness. up.The maid told her son, "Mom brought you to the banquet. You are a child and cannot eat with adults. This is a private room specially prepared for you by the host of the banquet."
The child tried to put the dinner plate on the sink, but he was too short to reach it, so he had to put it on the toilet seat.He sat on the beautifully tiled floor, singing and eating these rare delicacies.
Soon, in the magnificent banquet hall, the master didn't find the maid's child, so he went to ask the maid.The maid faltered and said: "I've been busy all the time, so I don't have time to look after him. Maybe, maybe, maybe, he's playing on the lawn outside." The master seemed to understand something, and he left the banquet hall. Every room in the house was searched and the child was found in a corner bathroom.The host asked: "How can you eat here? Do you know what this place is?" The child replied: "My mother said that this is a private room specially prepared for me by the host of the banquet. Today's sausage is so delicious, I haven't eaten it for a long time. By the way, who are you, I can't eat such a delicious sausage alone, would you like to accompany me to eat these delicious sausages here?"
The master suppressed the tears and nodded, facing the child with the brightest smile, he didn't need to ask any more questions.At this moment, he thought of the situation when he came to New York with his parents. At that time, they were also very poor and experienced very hard times.
Back in the banquet hall, the host said to the guests: "I'm sorry, friends, I have to accompany a special guest now, and I can't have dinner with you, please enjoy it slowly." After finishing speaking, he Filled two big plates with the children's favorite food, and brought them to the bathroom.He imitated the child's appearance, put the dinner plate on the toilet seat, sat on the ground, and said to the child: "It's a pity that you have such a good private room and so many delicacies all by yourself. Come on." Come, let's have dinner together."
While eating, the master and the child sang songs and talked about many topics.He convinced the four-year-old child that his mother is the most hardworking and greatest mother in the world, and he should not only be proud of her, but also do something for her when he grows up.And so far, the child doesn't know that his mother is just a servant of the master's family.
The guests found that after the host took away two large plates of food and never came back, they felt strange and went to look for it.They were deeply shocked when they saw the scene of two people who were like father and son sitting on the ground and eating around the toilet lid.These so-called upper-class people or social elites rushed over with wine glasses and delicious food, and soon filled the bathroom. Everyone sang many beautiful songs to the children and expressed too many good wishes.All this convinced the child that his mother was the most respectable mother, and he was the happiest person in the world.Many years later, when the child grew up, he not only had his own business, but also bought a big house with several bathrooms, and joined the upper class.Every year, he donates a lot of money to the poor anonymously, but never holds a donation ceremony or gives an interview.Many friends still didn't understand his move, and he didn't explain anything. He just said to his friends: "I will never forget that day many years ago, there was a rich man and too many rich people who used their Sincerity and kindness maintained the dignity of a four-year-old child."
Let's imagine, if those rich people brought ridicule and ridicule to their children many years ago, we don't know what this child will do when he grows up. Maybe he will be as successful as he is now, maybe he will be nothing, maybe He will be unkind for the rich, and maybe he will do anything to retaliate against the society.But one thing we can be sure of is that the rich people used their love and kindness to maintain the children's self-esteem, and what was passed on to the children was a kind of positive energy woven with love and kindness.From what he said to his friends, it is not difficult to understand that the most important reason why he will repay the society with great love after he grows up is that deep in his heart he will never forget the love passed on to him by the rich when he was a child and kindness.
In today's era full of temptation and scrambling for fame and fortune, some people hope to gain fame and fortune through media reports if they do a little good deed, and they are unwilling to be unsung heroes.Therefore, it is particularly commendable that the boy in the story has been helping the poor when he grows up and is unwilling to disclose his true identity.If there were more people like this in our world, the world would be a fairyland full of flowers.It's a pity that there are too few such people, and we still need to continue to practice and gradually reach that state.It can be seen that positive energy can create people who are needed by society but are not easy to create.Because of this, we say that the power of positive energy is a great power.
Positive energy makes the world full of vitality
"A person with good thoughts, good intentions, and a happy mood is a kind of positive energy. Our thoughts and emotions are a kind of energy. Positive thinking and positive emotions are all positive energy." China National Psychological Counselor, Zhang Defen, a writer of body and mind, believes that gratitude, trust, open-mindedness, and forge ahead are all positive energy. As long as you maintain a good attitude in life and learn to understand, tolerate, be grateful, and bless, you are passing positive energy to others.If individuals can do this, then there will always be positive energy lingering in the group.Every group is full of positive energy, and the world will be full of positive energy, vigor and vitality everywhere.
On a snowy night in Texas, a young man named Kress was trapped in the suburbs because his car "broke down".Just when he was very anxious, a man on horseback happened to pass by here.Seeing this, the man used his horse to help Kress pull the car to the town without saying a word.Afterwards, when Kress took out a lot of US dollar bills to thank him, the man said: "I don't need to pay back, but I want you to make a promise, that is, when others are in trouble, you will try your best." Go help him."
In the days that followed, Kress never forgot his promise, took the initiative to help many people, and every time he would say that sentence to the people he helped - "This does not require repayment, but I I want you to promise that when others are in trouble, you should try your best to help them.”
One day many years later, Kress was trapped on an isolated island by a sudden flood, and a brave teenager rescued him at the risk of being swallowed by the flood.When he thanked the young man, the young man actually said the words that Kress had said countless times: "I don't need anything in return, but I want you to make a promise..." Kress suddenly felt a surge of pain. A warm current: "It turns out that the chain about love I wore has turned around countless people, and finally returned it to me after a teenager. All the good things I have done in my life are all done for myself!"
Kress' experience tells us that accepting the positive energy passed on to you by others, then using it to infect others, and passing it on, the positive energy will not disappear with the end of a living body.Because this living body has passed its own positive energy to another living body during the continuation of its life, and the other living body will also pass it on to the next living body... In this way, the positive energy will be passed on continuously. Forever.We can imagine how beautiful, how harmonious, and how fascinating a world full of positive energy will be... So, in our daily life, when someone asks us for help, we must not refuse indifferently.Because, to help others is to pass on warmth.We can start from the little things in life:
——A classmate encounters difficulties in study, don’t laugh at him, help him, he will feel that he has not been abandoned by the world; —— On the bus, the old man is standing next to you, then think of your grandparents, Give him a seat; ——In the winter when the north wind is blowing, if you meet someone who refuses to close the stall at night, buy some if you can, because whoever has a better family background will not set up a night stall in cold weather;— ——When you meet students who work and study, especially middle school students and little girls, buy some of the things she sells, because anyway, it takes courage to come out to make money at a young age, so encourage her; ——When you meet people who ask for directions, but He didn’t ask you, but you happen to know the place, so tell him, no one will laugh at you because of your enthusiasm; ——If you find someone’s lost things, such as wallets and documents, return them to the owner as soon as possible , because these things are very important to the owner, and the owner is very anxious; ——With extra money, we can help a few students in impoverished mountainous areas;... Actually, there are many things we can do, as long as we are less prejudiced, less indifferent, With more sincerity and more patience, the world will become warm and harmonious because of your effort.
The real "source" of positive energy
In fact, the body of each of us is a "source" of positive energy, but we have not identified it with our eyes, we have not worked hard to dig it out with our hearts, and we have not transformed negative energy into positive energy in time, so we have not achieved our own breakthrough.If we want to cultivate ourselves into a real "source" of positive energy, we must work hard in at least three aspects: one is to be able to receive positive energy, the other is to be able to create positive energy, and the third is to be able to spread positive energy.With these three points, you are an explosive, inexhaustible and inexhaustible "source" of positive energy.
Open your mind and accept positive energy
Positive energy is sought after because negative energy plagues our lives.So, if someone walks towards you with a smile, grab the positive energy that the smile conveys to you.You will feel that your day is spent with a smile.
In the same way, we insist on reading more and studying more, learning modern knowledge and advanced ideas, and learning good experiences and practices to enrich our lives, arm our minds, and improve our abilities; The place deals with healthy, optimistic and positive people, listens to their teachings, and obtains useful information. The brain and body and mind can be recharged or refueled. A kind of internal motivation will naturally be generated in the heart, so as to read the books recommended by them and learn to speak What they said, followed by what they did.This is the positive energy we pass on from books and others when we accept and absorb it.
If the people and friends around you are full of positive energy, chat with them often, ask them for advice on things you don’t understand, consciously or unconsciously, they will bring you a positive force.Open your mind, bid farewell to indifference, accept positive energy, and cultivate yourself into a recipient of positive energy.
Broaden your mind and create positive energy
We are exposed to various negative energies every day, and when disturbed by them, we will have some corresponding symptoms.Psychologists have found that if you listen to more complaints, your brain will be damaged.The brain works like a muscle. If it hears too much negative information, it is likely to cause the person involved to behave in a negative way.What's worse, people will become dull and numb after being in a complaining environment for a long time.Therefore, when encountering various negative energies such as complaints and complaints, we have to change our thinking and not listen to them.Find internal causes when things happen, don't blame others, learn to give and give, and integrate these methods into study, life, and workplace to create "positive learning energy", "positive energy in life" and "positive energy in the workplace" , so that you can gain positive energy such as trust, open-mindedness, joy, and enterprising, and become a creator of positive energy.
Do your best to spread positive energy
Once you have positive energy, you need to guide the positive energy to positively radiate to benefit more people, so that the maximum effectiveness of positive energy can be brought into full play.The best way to spread positive energy is to share your happiness with others and take the lead in doing good deeds.If you share happiness a hundred times, you can enjoy it a hundred times and make more people feel happy; if you tell the pain a hundred times, you will suffer a hundred times and make more people feel annoyed.Do more good deeds, and others will feel sincerity, kindness and warmth in your words and deeds, and will remember your actions in their hearts, and do things in your way in the future.Doing good deeds does not depend on how big the deed is, nor does it depend on how much or how little is done. As long as the motivation and purpose are good, we will definitely have positive meaning when we do it; Even if it is just an effortless thing, as long as it can influence and drive the people around us to be good and push the good to a long time, then it must be worthwhile for us to do it; good deeds, good deeds, no matter what we pay is material What is still spiritual, as long as it is beneficial to others, we should not refuse, there is a reason to do it.If you do this, you are a disseminator of positive energy.
Positive people vs negative people
In life, when dealing with some people, you will feel comfortable, safe, relaxed and happy, feel that the sky is blue, and have a feeling of "it's good to be alive"; you will often think of them, want to work with them, Chatting, this is because they are full of positive energy, which can bring a relaxed, optimistic and positive feeling.Associating with them and being infected by them, you will also become full of positive energy.On the contrary, when you are with some people, you feel that you are always being ridiculed, picked on and attacked. They make you feel bored, tense, pessimistic, and hopeless. At this time, don’t hesitate to leave them, because they have negative energy , is likely to drag you into the quagmire.
People full of positive energy have firm beliefs in life, have clear goals in life, know what they want and will continue to work hard for it.When difficulties come, they are not afraid of hardships and do not shrink back. They know that the rainbow after the storm is extremely beautiful.When the mind is tired, they know how to adjust their mood, let the mind relax, and let the mind regain energy.
A person full of positive energy has a sunny mentality.They don't take pleasure in things, don't take sorrow in themselves, they are indifferent to fame and fortune, they are not surprised by favors or humiliations, they can afford it and let it go, they don't complain, and they don't drag others into trouble.
People full of positive energy have great wisdom.They can distinguish the black and white of the world, they will not deviate from the road of life, and they will not follow the trend.They do not distort the nature of things, nor exaggerate their adverse effects.They understand that everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and they know how to overcome human weaknesses and develop human strengths.
People full of positive energy are always welcome in the workplace because they have comfortable communication methods, skilled professional skills, open minds, sincerity to people and seriousness to things.Therefore, it is very important to be a person full of positive energy, which has a huge positive impact on your work and relationships, and can help you succeed in your career.
A woman moved to a new home, and a widow and child lived next door.One night, there was a sudden power outage, the woman lit a candle, and suddenly heard the child next door knocking on the door, and asked nervously: "Auntie, do you have any candles at home?" I lent it to him so as not to be relied on, so I said no.When she was about to close the door, the child smiled and said, "I knew you must have none! Mom was afraid that you lived alone and had no candles, so she asked me to bring you two for you." After hearing this, the woman felt extremely ashamed.
In the story, mother and child know how to pretend to be neighbors in their hearts, know how to care for others, and convey a spirit of helping others.The woman's behavior is full of selfishness and indifference, and what she conveys is a kind of negative energy.
People with negative energy, the weaknesses of human nature are more deeply reflected in them, such as selfishness, greed, vanity, snobbery, jealousy, complaining, haggling, etc.The first thing they think of is their own gains and losses when they encounter troubles, they will sacrifice the interests of others to protect their own interests, and they will also do things that harm others to benefit themselves.When they meet people who are better than themselves, they will be jealous, and they will try their best to frame others, instead of choosing to work hard and catch up.Seeing others in trouble is not to extend a helping hand, but to add insult to injury and gloat.
People with negative energy cannot control their emotions.They are often angry, anxious, nervous, kicking chairs and swearing when angry.They feel inferior, cringe, pessimistic, dejected, and feel that life is tasteless.They are often carried away and panicked.
People with negative energy are not firm-willed and easily influenced by the attitudes of others.They care too much about what others think of them, they cannot face rumors and criticism correctly, and they cannot think calmly when they are attacked.When they encounter problems, they always blame others, give up on themselves, and will not take the initiative to find solutions to problems.
For a person with negative energy, all the beautiful things in the world will not belong to him, so it is necessary and extremely important to recognize one's own negative energy and try to transform them into positive energy.
People full of positive energy will bring happiness and positive attitude to those around them. They are like a positive energy magnetic field, attracting friends, joy and success.People with negative energy will bring unpositive and unhealthy energy to those around them. They reject all positive energy, so love, friendship, and success will go away from them.This is the biggest difference between them.
Positive energy is in a relay
In 2012, the so-called "end of the world" year, the word "positive energy" became popular on the Internet, frequently appeared in our QQ and MSN signature files, and became a hot topic on Weibo.At present, we label all positive, healthy, inspiring, empowering, and hopeful people and things with "positive energy", making "positive energy" a symbolic symbol. The inspirational symbols are deeply connected with our emotions, closely connected with our happiness, happiness and success, and express our pursuit and yearning for a better life.Thus, a positive energy relay kicked off...July 2012, 7, an ordinary and extraordinary day.It is ordinary because it is a weekend, just like the usual weekends; it is extraordinary because on that day, a heavy rainstorm made people see the power of positive energy.What that kind of power brings to people is the warmth between people, and the touch that can never be forgotten in a lifetime.
That day, Weibo was full of news about the torrential rain. "Spinach X6" posted a Weibo: "Nearly 8 people are stranded at the airport. We don't care how many cars we go to. We want to pass on positive energy. We gather in front of the Mercedes-Benz Building at 12:35. The unified sign is double flashing, and the recipients are unified. Send it to Sanyuan Bridge..."
According to statistics, 200 private cars participated in the rescue operation that night, and the "double flashing convoy" was "excited" at the airport, picking up and dropping off 500 passengers.
"I didn't think too much. My home is very close to the Mercedes-Benz Building, so I directly asked the organizer to participate. At that time, the first batch had already set off, and the organizer said that it is not recommended to go alone. They will explore the way first, and will organize if necessary. The second call. Later, I received feedback that the rain had subsided, the road conditions were okay, and there were still a lot of people stranded at the airport, so I ran to the airport.” Xiao Dan said that his actions that day were both understatement and natural.
It was not only the convoy that was "excited", the emotion was still flowing afterwards, "I feel like crying", "If people can be like this, can this society be bad", "I can't feel calm for a long time", "And I'm starting to believe in this world", such messages abound on the Internet.
Peter Buffett, the author of "Be Yourself", also pays special attention to the heavy rain in Beijing.He said: "I think those sanitation workers who braved the knee-high rain to wait by the manhole cover, the restaurants and hotels that provided free board and lodging, and the enthusiastic people who used private cars to pick up and drop off the stranded people, they are all positive role models. Knowing that China has a "carry one more kilogram" public welfare tourism project, and the people have built many shelters for stray animals, they spontaneously pass on positive energy with meager efforts. I am touched by the good deeds on this side of the earth. This kind of help It's great, because in the toughest of times, someone walks with you through the dark."
What is even more touching is that this kind of help not only appears in the most difficult moments, but will continue to appear more frequently.Xiao Dan told the reporter: "'Double Flash Team' has its own official Weibo, and in the future, it will continue to carry out public welfare love to the end, organize activities from time to time, and use the power of the group to help all those in need."
There are many other moving things like this, and they seem to become commonplace in people's minds, and those who do them don't feel how great or great they are, but think that they should be done, and it is a matter of effort.
On March 2013, 3, "Kunming Weiba" posted a request for help on Weibo, saying that Xiaobo, a 21-year-old boy in Yunnan, was suffering from advanced cancer and was being treated in the Second Affiliated Hospital of Kunming Medical University. Xiaobo's biggest wish was to eat a pomegranate , My parents ran around the hospital several times, but they couldn't buy it. I hope that kind people can help fulfill Xiaobo's wish.In order to satisfy Xiaobo's wish, netizens in Xi'an launched a pomegranate relay activity for thousands of miles.I will handle this matter—please help find pomegranates—rush to Lintong Pomegranate King’s home—pick out 4 largest and freshest pomegranates from the cold storage—carry pomegranates to Xi’an Xianyang International Airport—Northwest Branch of China Eastern Airlines opens a "love channel" "—After the security check, the pomegranate was handed over to the purser of flight MU12—the plane left Xi’an Xianyang International Airport for Kunming—the plane landed at Kunming Changshui International Airport—caring people drove the pomegranate to Xiaobo’s pillow.It took only 5278 hours to start looking for pomegranates at 22:8 on the 5nd, and to deliver the pomegranates to Xiaobo at 15:7.This is a relay that carries the love and blessings of netizens in Xi'an. We are moved and proud!
At around 2013:3 pm on March 18, 7, an 81-year-old man, alone, fell at the gate of the International Building on Wusi Road, Fuzhou, and his head was covered with blood.At a critical moment, a young man passing by saw it, and hurried forward, took off his clothes to help the old man stop the bleeding, and dialed 120, and sent the old man to the hospital... A warm rescue by strangers is being staged.The old man's family was extremely moved, and they worked hard to find a rescuer, Ji Mingyang.When the reporter asked him if he had considered that his actions would be misunderstood or mistaken as the perpetrator, Ji Mingyang said frankly that when he covered the wound on the old man's head with his hand, this thought flashed through his mind, but when he saw the old man's death After so much blood, he couldn't care less.Such a stranger's rescue ignited a fire in people's indifferent hearts, added a weight of trust to a society facing a crisis of integrity, and brought warmth and touch to people.
Stimulating the positive energy in our hearts can help us establish an upward outlook on life, live confidently, happily, and full of vigor; passing on our own positive energy can help more people gain positive energy.If everyone can be a transmitter of positive energy and let the positive energy pass on uninterruptedly, then the transmission of positive energy will be a never-ending relay, and the world will become warmer and more harmonious.
【Stimulate Positive Energy】Spread positive energy, starting from children
Many children have bad behaviors such as withdrawn personality, weariness of learning, addiction to online games, excessive reliance on mobile phones, puppy love, rebellion, running away from home, fighting, and violent tendencies.If things go on like this, it will cause serious harm to the physical and mental health of young people.Statistics show that the proportion of adolescents with cervical spondylosis has increased from 1996% in 8.7 to more than 2009% in 12, and 87% of them are accompanied by cerebral vasospasm, which is directly related to unhealthy lifestyles such as surfing the Internet for a long time.These bad behaviors and habits will also make young people have blurred outlook on life, lack of moral values, and finally lead to crime.
Parents often feel helpless in the face of their children's bad behavior habits.To this end, Deng Damin, vice principal of Zhengzhou Aizhiyuan Chinese Studies School, gave the following advice:
(20) Parents should review their own behavior Teacher Deng has been engaged in elementary and senior middle school education for [-] years, and has worked in youth mental health schools for five or six years. He told us: "Actually, I object to calling this type of children 'problem teenagers'. .Because there is nothing wrong with the children themselves, and some of them are particularly good. The real problem is the unharmonious family environment and educational environment, which lead to bad behaviors in the children."
When children have problems, parents should first review their own behavior.Jia Jia (pseudonym), a little girl from Sanmenxia, has strong rebellious emotions towards her mother. She describes her mother as "crooked mouth, slanted eyes, ferocious face, and duplicity".Jiajia's mother works in the insurance industry, and when she goes shopping with her daughter, she is always busy answering calls from clients, spending half a day chatting with clients. "I think it's not my mother who accompanies me to go shopping, but I am the one who accompanies her on the phone. In my mother's heart, customers are more important than me," Jiajia said.
A new study from the University of Cambridge in the United Kingdom shows that parents who often quarrel will increase the risk of depression in their children.An unharmonious family environment such as parental quarrels, divorce, and busy work will bring great psychological harm to children.However, parents seldom consider their children's feelings. They often play the roles of "leader", "cadre" and "employee" to the fullest in front of their children, but they do not play the role of parents well to care for and love their children.As time goes by, the child's resentment and disgust are also increasing day by day.Under the long-term influence of such emotions, children's academic performance will decline, and various bad behaviors and habits will gradually form.
Teacher Deng said: In real life, some parents and teachers often bring negative emotions from work and life into the home and into the classroom. This negative emotion is easy to spread and intensify among parents, children and teachers, causing children to have problems.Sometimes children have problems because they do not adapt to the educational environment of the school.For example, some parents report that their children are partial to subjects. In fact, to some extent, behind the phenomenon of partial subjects is the "professional teacher", and whichever teacher they prefer, they like to learn which subject.
Parents who are eager to see their children become successful, are they ignoring the necessary ideological and psychological education for their children when they are blindly pursuing scores as the core?Parents who are busy earning money all day and want to let their children eat the best, use the best, and go to the best schools, have you ever thought that their children actually need a warm hug more?Those parents who like to push their children's problems to teachers, do they realize that they should take on the responsibility of family education?
(2012) Intervene in time when problems are discovered. Guide Northeast News Network to report that in [-], the Huanggu District Court of Liaoning City tried nearly [-] female juvenile crime cases.Some of these children were abandoned by their parents and raised by relatives, and some of their parents were divorced and neglected, lacking a positive outlook on life.Children with poor self-control ability, strong curiosity, psychological sensitivity, vulnerability, lack of home warmth, or being tempted by all kinds of bad information in society and on the Internet are prone to bad behaviors such as playing truant and fighting.This example shows that if parents do not pay attention to guidance and education, children can easily turn from bad teenagers into problematic teenagers.
On the contrary, timely guidance can save children from the brink of danger.Mengmeng (pseudonym), a girl from the Northeast, is very obsessed with Chinese studies and Buddhism. Later, she was bewitched and instigated by some organizations in the society who used Buddhism in the name of "Buddhist masters" to swindle and swindle, and wanted to run away from home. , traveled all over the world to study Buddhism.Parents tried hard to persuade but to no avail.When extremely anxious, Mengmeng's parents had no choice but to seek help from experts from Aizhiyuan Chinese Studies Specialized Education School.With the enlightenment, help and persuasion education of professional mental health teachers, Mengmeng found the right direction at the fork in the road of life.
Correcting children's bad behavior habits, forcibly stopping, and endless preaching methods are often counterproductive.Parents should actively communicate, listen to the opinions of experts and teachers, find out the reasons, and prescribe the right medicine.Teacher Deng suggested that guidance education should be targeted, patient, and pay attention to methods and methods. Find an elder or teacher that the child likes, talk to the child, and find reasons from the aspects of family relationship, parent-child relationship, teacher-student relationship, and classmate relationship.Purposefully take children to experience life, such as participating in job fairs, selling newspapers, visiting exhibitions, etc. Compared with general reasoning, it will have a substantive and substantive effect.
(8) Solve problems and focus on transmitting positive energy. When encountering problems that cannot be solved by themselves, parents can seek help from professional institutions that provide family education support.A reporter learned from the private school inquiry system of the Zhengzhou Municipal Education Bureau that there are already several private schools in Zhengzhou that specialize in psychological quality training, mental health education, psychological correction, and Internet addiction treatment.This type of institution mainly accepts minors aged 17 to 50. Through militarized closed management, or door-to-door counseling by psychological counselors, they help children form good behavior habits.There are more than [-] students in a school in Guancheng District, and the Aizhiyuan Guoxue Specialized School where Mr. Deng is located has more than a dozen students. In addition, some students are followed up and educated by teachers.
However, specialized schools are not a panacea.Teacher Feng, who once worked in a specialized mental health education school, told the reporter that many children left the school after a period of strict discipline and restraint, but were sent back not long after.On the one hand, after militarized management, the child got rid of bad behavior habits, but did not really change his understanding psychologically.On the other hand, the family environment and educational environment that originally caused the child's problems have not improved significantly, and the symptoms are not cured.
Therefore, parents need to change and grow up with their children. "What qualifications do you have to be my father (mother)?" This is a question that many children have asked.In many cases, parents do not keep up with the pace of children's growth, and children do not get the understanding and love they deserve.Teacher Deng said that she once met a parent who complained that the two-year-old child had no thoughts at all, and also met a parent who suspected that the six-year-old child was in love with the same table.Such parents either lack basic mental health knowledge, or are a little too sensitive.It can be said that in China, family education has not received due and sufficient attention. Many parents do not know how to pass on positive energy to their children and help them build self-esteem, self-improvement and self-confidence.Some netizens said on Weibo: In China, no matter which industry you enter, you need to obtain an entry qualification certificate. Only parents do not need to pass the qualification certificate.No one is born to be a parent, but all parents should grow up with their children, read books, travel together, and accomplish one thing together. In the process, learn to respect, encourage, affirm, and appreciate children , Let the children have enough love and self-confidence to make themselves a qualified father or mother.It is understood that the current puppy love, tired of studying, obsessed with the Internet are the most common bad behavior habits.The reasons for adolescents' puppy love include many aspects such as physiology, psychology, family, school, society, etc. Many children with puppy love phenomenon come from families with lack of structure or improper education.Children who are tired of learning or are tired of learning are mostly caused by a backlog of frustration in their studies or life.Once a child becomes tired of learning, no matter how good the teacher is or the high-quality training institutions, they cannot guarantee that the child will enter a good learning state.Only by timely intervening and dealing with children's negative learning emotions through psychological means can children enter a good learning state.
They are obsessed with the Internet because they have encountered too many difficulties and problems in reality, and they lack the ability to solve these "difficulties". Therefore, they have to indulge in the Internet to escape reality and find a sense of accomplishment in the Internet.It is the responsibility of every parent and society as a whole to create a good environment for the healthy growth of young people and pass on positive energy.
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