Heart like dust, smile peacefully

Chapter 5 Accept yourself and show off your vivid beauty (1)
years,

Only wrinkled skin is brought to the mediocre,

But to the wise,
There is also an added charm of accumulation.

——Su Cen

1. Women who love to laugh will not be too lucky

Be a warm woman, be a woman who loves to laugh.be happy and know how to be happy.Be happy and infect the people around you.If you are happy, just laugh and let everyone know.To be sad, to cry, and act like nothing happened.

Da Vinci's immortal masterpiece "Mona Lisa's Smile" has captured the hearts of many people for hundreds of years, making them willing to indulge in it and unable to extricate themselves. Taiwanese writer San Mao is one of these thousands of addicts one of the.In "The Rainy Season Doesn't Come Again", Sanmao once described her state of mind when she first saw the Mona Lisa:
"That woman, that mysterious woman, was placed behind a piece of glass. There was a distance of red rope in front - no one could walk through that boundary. She was protected as if facing a big enemy. And she, ignoring the Pairs of eyes that go back and forth, just smile eternally with an inner secret."

The first time she met the Mona Lisa, Sanmao was deeply attracted by it, so she queued up again and again, just to spend as much time with her as possible.If Da Vinci is immortal because of Mona Lisa, then Mona Lisa is immortal because of her serene and mysterious smile.

What kind of magic power does a woman's smile have?Bai Juyi once described the beauty of Yang Yuhuan in "The Song of Everlasting Regret": "Smile back and smile, and the beauty of Liugong is colorless." Yang Yuhuan's "smile back" is definitely a smile, because a smile is the most beautiful and charming of a woman The smile also made Tang Minghuang "the hibiscus tent warms up the spring night, and the king never goes to court early."Of course, being conquered by a woman's smile is not exclusive to Tang Minghuang. As early as 1000 years before he was born, King Zhou You had already given the most wonderful example of this: In order to win the beauty Baosi's smile, King Zhou You did not hesitate to bury the country. For the price, a historical farce of "Princes of Fenghuo Opera" was staged, and the allusion of "a smile that pours the country" has been passed down to this day.Of course, what we want to talk about here is not the absurdity of the subjugated emperor, but rather, no matter ancient or modern, Chinese or foreign, no matter whether it is a dignitary or a common man, no matter a man or a woman, almost everyone is immune to a woman's smile, will be addicted to it.

The world's supermodel Cindy Crawford once said: "If a woman forgets to make up when she goes out, the best remedy is to show your smile." Because women can also radiate warmth when they smile , self-confidence, happiness, tolerance, generosity, auspiciousness, etc., so a smile is the best makeup for a woman. If you "smear" it on your face, you will remain young and beautiful forever, and you will be welcomed wherever you go. welcome.Some women, however, don't seem to realize this, keep their smiles so deep that they almost never show them, and inevitably end up being persona non grata.

In 2002, at the opening ceremony of the Commonwealth Games in Manchester City, England, the Games torch was handed over to David Beckham after it had been passed through all the Commonwealth countries, but he was not the last of the torch relay Great, the last one belongs to a terminally ill 5-year-old girl.Beckham ran up to her, handed her the torch, kissed her face with a smile, then took her hand and walked in front of Queen Elizabeth.Finally, the little girl handed over the torch to the queen whom she had admired for a long time.

However, the queen at this time still maintained her usual seriousness, without a trace of joy on her face, and she did not kiss the little girl who was looking at her longingly, but went directly to the ignition platform to light the torch for the opening ceremony .This should have been an exciting moment, but people in front of the TV began to express their dissatisfaction: "It's unbelievable that she didn't smile or kiss that cute little girl at this moment." The next day, newspapers and television accused the Queen of "not smiling" and "not kissing the sick child..." in full view of the public. "The Queen is so disappointing"... A philosopher once said that smiling The most beautiful look of a person, no matter how ugly a person is, as long as he shows a sincere smile, he will suddenly become beautiful.If you don't know how to dress yourself up with a smile, even if you are beautiful, even if you are extremely noble, it will be difficult to be welcomed by people, just like the serious Queen of England is criticized by her subjects.

Smile, an extremely simple movement and an extremely ordinary expression, is the most beautiful language of women. It is friendly, caring, warm, tolerant and trusting, and blooming. Bright sun on woman's face.The writer You Jin once wrote: "Smile! Let the sun break through the haze, and let the warmth replace the severe cold. Smile is a wordless politeness. A smile can win you the whole world." A smile is the most direct expression of happiness, and a A happy woman is undoubtedly more likely to succeed in life or career.

Once you learn to smile and make it a habit, you will be more charming no matter what time of day you are.When you are in a good mood, you can smile generously and naturally; when you are in a bad mood, you should keep smiling, because smiling can win you more attention and applause.

Smile is the right given to every woman by God. A smile is a body language with profound meaning, and a smile is the most perfect "letter of introduction".Otherwise, how could Mona Lisa's smile become synonymous with femininity.Therefore, women, you must remember that if you learn to smile to yourself, you will learn to love life; if you learn to smile to others, you will learn to cherish beauty; if you learn to smile to all life, your life will be full Sunlight!Learn to smile, and you will be the Mona Lisa forever.

Someone once said: The world is like a mirror. When you smile at it, it will return it with a smile. You must believe that a woman's smile not only has the charm of "looking back and smiling, but also has a huge hidden meaning" This kind of power can not only help women remove all kinds of obstacles on the road of life in a gentle way, but also adorn the beauty of women and lead them to the holy place of light.

2. Go your own way, see your own scenery

Even if fate washes away the wind and sand and humbles you into the dust, you must be graceful and calm, and bloom the most brilliant flowers calmly in the most unobtrusive places.

The flowers in the garden are in various poses and with different expressions, the peonies are graceful and luxurious, the peonies are enthusiastic and unrestrained, the orchids are fresh and refined, and the chrysanthemums are elegant and fragrant... Each kind of flower is displayed in front of the world with its own different attitude, and each kind of flower is proudly proud of its unique personality. Blooming.People always compare women to flowers, not only because of the beauty and sweetness of flowers, but also because different flowers have these different personalities, that is to say, women should also live out their own posture and personality like flowers , so that it will become the most attractive female flower.

So, for women, what kind of posture is the best posture, in order to feel life and enjoy life more deeply?There is only one answer, and that is the posture that suits you best.For example, a woman who is as gentle as jade is full of tenderness in her bones, but if she deliberately pretends to be unrestrained and unrestrained in order to cater to others, she may become embarrassed and lose her original cute appearance because she is not used to it; A wine-like woman is full of publicity and enthusiasm that cannot be concealed in her bones. If she deliberately suppresses her personality, no matter how beautiful her posture is, she will inevitably have a defect. Sometimes, it will even make her lose herself and lose herself. direction of life.

She is a warm and cheerful girl who naturally likes to deal with people. Her ideal is to be a diplomat, so she originally planned to apply for the School of International Public Relations when she was admitted to university.However, her parents hope that she can apply for medical university, because they are all doctors, and she is the only child, hoping that she can inherit their career.She is a filial child who cannot bear to let her parents down, so she obeys them.

During her four years in college, she dealt with physiology, pathology, and anatomy that she didn't like every day, and she gradually became introverted.After graduation, under the arrangement of her parents, she entered the hospital where they worked as an intern and became a surgical intern.A few years later, she became an excellent surgeon in the hospital and became the pride of her parents.However, this success in her career did not bring her happiness or a sense of accomplishment. On the contrary, it sometimes made her feel very tired and even painful, because she knew clearly in her heart that this was not her want life.In her ideal, she should have become an excellent international public relations expert at this time, dealing with different people every day and solving various problems encountered in her work.But the monotonous and boring life in the hospital made her feel very depressed, coupled with the hard work of the surgery, she finally fell ill.The physical pain was cured quickly, but the psychological pain went deep into the bone marrow, and she suffered from depression.She has become more introverted, rarely communicates with her parents, and seems to have completely lost confidence in life. Of course, she can no longer continue her work, so she can only rest at home.

Seeing her haggard day by day, the parents felt regretful.In order to arouse their daughter's courage to live again, they decided to support her original dream.They handled the procedures for her to retire from illness, and then enrolled her in an adult college, the major of which was international public relations.But at this time, she seemed to have lost interest in everything. Facing the arrangement of her parents, she did not show any joy, but only indifference and numbness.Her parents didn't want to give up hope, but they didn't know when the lively and cheerful daughter would return to them.

In real life, there are many women like her who deliberately change themselves in order to cater to others, and most of them live unsatisfactory lives.Because they always demand themselves according to the evaluation of others, although they can get the affirmation of others, they cannot get their own inner approval.How can a woman who cannot identify with herself be happy and happy?Therefore, if you want to obtain true happiness and happiness, you must live according to your own personality, without caring about other people's visions and requirements, then you will be able to live a true, willful, and happy self.

Many years ago, she was the school belle on the university campus. She was not only beautiful, but also talented.However, in the face of many suitors, she dismissed them and fell in love with a married woman who had a high social status and was a well-known talent in the music industry, who was respected and loved by people.For this reason, she was criticized by thousands of people, and the pain in her heart can be imagined.However, even though that person got divorced in the end, they failed to reach a positive result due to various reasons.Later, she never married, but he married someone else, and the relationship between them for more than ten years was wiped out like this.However, although he failed to marry her, he said that she was the woman he loved most in his life, and she did not respond to this.

Many years later, he passed away due to illness, and the public's eyes once again focused on her because of the phrase "she is the woman I love most in my life" he once said.However, to everyone's surprise, she did not show the appearance of being in pain and regretting too late as the person he once loved the most, as the public imagined, but she just said lightly that she had loved him so much. Without feeling, his life and death are no longer related to him.As a result, those who originally held the idea of ​​"love the house and the crow" and pity her because they liked him began to accuse her of being a "thin girl".She was still unmoved by this, and just said lightly: "I don't expect outsiders to understand the things between me and him."

In his poem to his deceased lover, Byron said infinitely sadly: "If we meet again someday, how will I face you? With silence, with tears." Indeed, how can we be free and easy when facing an old love?Why force yourself to be free and easy?Free and easy is not for others to see, only when you really let go of your heart can you be free and easy.Therefore, her seemingly inhuman attitude in the story is just the most human.If she really made a certain gesture as some people hoped, she might be able to get the understanding and sympathy of the public, but is she still herself?Will she be able to find peace of mind?
Love is a kind of true feeling, not a performance, and you don't need to show it to others.Life is not a play, and it doesn't need other people's eyes and evaluations. Being yourself and obeying your own feelings is the most beautiful posture.

Someone once published such a post on the Internet - "Coffee is still delicious, life is still beautiful, no matter how big the castle is given to me, I will not be a slave to love. Even without a prince, I am still a proud My princess, continue my fairy tale alone." These words can be said to have written the voices of many women who really dote on themselves, but it is not easy for women to achieve this in real life.The girl who wrote these words should still be very young, and perhaps she has not experienced the troubles of the world.You must know that with the increase of age, many women's posture will inevitably become more and more difficult to have their own, because they always take other people's eyes into consideration when they speak and do things.

And this is why many women lose their childlike innocence when they grow up, because they have lost the power of "children's words", so they live very tired.In fact, as a woman, you don’t have to dress yourself up as a lady, princess or angel just to cater to other people’s eyes. Doing so may allow you to be affirmed by others, but it may not necessarily bring you joy and happiness.

A woman who really loves herself knows that her most beautiful posture is that everything is unaffected and everything is natural.Furthermore, they know that it doesn't matter what kind of person they are, what matters is that they feel good about themselves; and no matter what they do, what they want is peace of mind and calmness and nature.Let go of unnecessary restraints, and take freedom and leisure as one of your postures, then you will be able to understand the connotation of happiness.

3. No matter how humble a life is, there is great power

If you indulge yourself to live a life of resentment and resentment, life will only be boring and depressing.Instead of torturing yourself endlessly, take courage.Confidence is the most beautiful look on your face.

Among the many literary masterpieces with women as the protagonists, I believe that "Jane Eyre" should be the most loved and extolled one.

The protagonist in the novel, Jane, is an unfortunate girl. Her parents died of typhoid fever one after another when she was young, so she had to be fostered at her uncle's house.Soon, her uncle died, and Jane suffered all kinds of abuse from her aunt and cousin.Later, her cruel aunt sent her to an orphanage.During the years of living in the orphanage, Jane suffered more cruel physical and mental torture.Later, she came to Thornfield Manor and became the tutor of a 10-year-old girl.

Jane is short in stature, ordinary in appearance, and comes from a humble and poor background, but she never feels inferior. Instead, she has a strong, independent character, and is full of self-confidence, never bowing to fate.Therefore, in front of her employer, Rochester, the host of Thornfield Manor, she never felt a little bit of fear and humility, even though Rochester was a melancholy and moody weirdo.

(End of this chapter)