Heart like dust, smile peacefully

Chapter 6 Accept yourself and show off your vivid beauty (2)
Rochester was a famous swinger when he was young. After encountering an accident in his life, he decided to live a serious life, but it was also because of that accident that he became sensitive, suspicious and eccentric.He doesn't take anyone seriously, and feels that everyone is the object of his ridicule.But when Jane, an extremely ordinary tutor, appeared in front of him, he was shocked again and again by her.This ordinary little woman has a huge magical power, which attracts him all the time and makes him unable to escape. In the end, he fell in love with her.However, he couldn't let go of his identity to woo Jane, so he began to use various methods to mock Jane so that she could voluntarily surrender to him, but what he got in return was Jane's answer: "You think, because I Poor, mean, unbeautiful, little, am I soulless, heartless?—You are wrong, I have a soul like yours, a heart like yours! If God gave me beauty and riches, I will also make it as hard for you to leave me as it is now for me to leave you. I am not speaking to you now through custom, routine, nor even of mortal flesh - but with my heart It is as if we have left the world, passed through the grave, and stood before God as equals, and we are equal to each other—just like our essence.” Jane completely conquered Rochester with such words, neither humble nor humble, And finally won his love.

What kind of woman is the most lost?Faced with this question, I believe that different people will give different answers.Some people will say that a woman in love is the most attractive, because love can make a woman radiant, so even an ordinary woman will become bright and moving because of love; some people will say that a woman in a wedding dress is the most attractive , wedding dress dragging the floor, laughter, facing flowers and blessings, accompanied by a loved one, in this situation, which woman will not become radiant?Some people say that pregnant women are the most attractive. Although their bodies are gradually bloated and their faces are covered with freckles, happiness is always with them. Is there anything more attractive than happiness?It is also said that women with successful careers are the most charming. The workplace and shopping malls are no longer dominated by men. Many women have found their own world in it. When they show their skills in the workplace and respond to everyone in the shopping mall , and who can say that their poses are not charming enough, not enough to fascinate people?
Indeed, every woman has her own unique beauty, and at different moments in life, they will show their most charming side.However, if we observe carefully, we will find a phenomenon, that is, in the most beautiful and charming moments of women, self-confidence is inseparable from them.If they lack self-confidence, their beauty will be greatly reduced, or even disappear.Just imagine, if a woman in love has no self-confidence, she will inevitably become anxious and preoccupied, because she will always worry that the person she loves will change her mind, so the joy that love brings to her will also disappear. Without a happy decoration, how could she have a charming smile on her face?If women who are about to enter the marriage hall lack self-confidence, they will inevitably have some fears about their future married life, because they don't know whether they can build a warm and romantic family with their loved ones, and then depression will appear on their faces. The original kind of moving will disappear.If a pregnant woman lacks self-confidence, she is likely to develop anxiety, worrying all day long that she is not competent for the role of mother.These anxieties will not only make them lose their happiness as mothers-to-be, but more seriously, they will also affect the health of their babies. Just imagine, at this time, can their faces still emit a charming brilliance?If women lack self-confidence at work, they may not be able to show their abilities and get the recognition they deserve in the face of fierce competition and complex and changeable workplaces and shopping malls. Success will naturally become farther and farther away from them. How can they become charming women?

It can be seen that no matter when and where women are, no matter what role women are playing, if they do not have self-confidence as a strong background, then they cannot show their charming side.Although self-confidence cannot make a woman have the most beautiful face, it can allow a woman to experience the most unique temperament and the most convincing connotation. This kind of charm exuded from the inside out is more lethal than the beauty of appearance force.

Therefore, self-confidence is a very important quality for women, and a very important source of positive energy in the heart.If you want to be the most charming woman, then from now on, let a confident smile always hang on the corner of your mouth, and let a confident attitude accompany you all the time, so that no matter when and where, you will be the most charming in the crowd woman.So specifically, what aspects of a woman's self-confidence are manifested, or in other words, what state is a woman most confident in?

First of all, confident women are not necessarily naturally beautiful, more often they are plain-looking.Although they may not necessarily have beautiful faces, they definitely have noble temperament, elegant posture and charming smile, so they will become the dazzling focus wherever they go.Secondly, confident women may not always have smooth sailing when facing family, career, and communication. They will also encounter various difficulties and setbacks, but they will never be discouraged by this, but will use their wisdom and persistence to overcome These difficulties are finally won; at the same time, confident women always know how to manage their love and family. Sometimes, they will inevitably encounter some crises in love and family, but they will use understanding and tolerance, and use Trust and pay to protect their love and family, and finally achieve happiness.In addition, confident women also know how to manage their friendship. Although they will not be with their friends all the time, they will be the best friends when their friends encounter life troughs or setbacks. They will comfort and encourage friends and help them. Friends resolve the depression in their hearts and walk out of the haze.A confident woman knows how to run her own business better.At work, they may be subordinates, superiors, or bosses, but no matter what position they are in, they can satisfy their superiors, convince their subordinates, and respect their employees.

Some people may say that women's self-confidence is often accompanied by conceit, because sometimes they not only have beauty, but also wisdom and ability, as well as success in life and career.It's true that it's hard not to be conceited when a woman has it all.But for women who are truly confident, they never let their egos get to them.Because they know that conceit will make them arrogant, conceited and domineering. Such a woman, even if she is beautiful and successful in her career, will not be respected and loved by others, but will attract criticism and white eyes.Therefore, confident women will never allow themselves to become conceited women. No matter how much they have, most of them are peaceful, tolerant, polite, and pleasant. Therefore, in the eyes of others, they will always be beautiful and moving. .

Every woman has her own unique beauty, so as a woman, you should be good at discovering and digging your own beauty, learn to understand yourself, appreciate yourself, and love yourself.In this way, you will become a beautiful woman.Therefore, self-confidence is the most beautiful coat of a woman, and it is also the most charming background of a woman.

4. Your elegance has nothing to do with youth

An elegant woman who never fades, is the charm accumulated by the years. After a long period of honing, she firmly proves herself by actions rather than words.She is calm and energetic at all times, and her composure is the driving force to realize her dreams.

Voltaire once said: "Beauty only pleases the eyes, but the elegance of temperament fascinates the soul." In one sentence, the beauty of a woman is portrayed, the beauty lies in the soul, the beauty of the soul, and the beauty lies in the temperament.The body, hair and skin are influenced by our parents. Parents gave us life, but not necessarily a beautiful face. Most of the women in our lives are mediocre.However, not having a beautiful face does not mean that they do not have the right to be beautiful, because they can use their own temperament to make up for the ordinary face, and this kind of beauty is exuded from the inside out, and it will not be like a beautiful face The same will become the past with the passage of time, this kind of beauty will last forever, deeply rooted in a woman, and become one with her soul, containing eternal beauty, and becoming more and more mellow.

Temperament is the essence of a woman's spirit, it is a potential good quality, and it is the cultivation and taste that a woman inadvertently reveals in every gesture.Self-cultivation is a potential quality of a woman. In many cases, it will not directly attract the attention of others, but as a kind of moral beauty, it will increasingly show powerful energy with the precipitation of the years and the purification of the soul, allowing women to Inadvertently exudes dazzling brilliance, which is overwhelming.

At a World Literature Forum, an ordinary-looking woman sat in a corner.Her eyes were calm, and she didn't seem to show too much excitement because of participating in such a world-class event, and only occasionally had a few soft conversations with the people around her.Most of the time, she just quietly observes the people and things around her.

At this time, a well-known writer walked up to her and asked, "Excuse me, are you a writer too? How many novels have you written?"

She nodded with a smile, and replied kindly and easy-goingly: "It should be considered, I have just started writing, and there is only one work."

After hearing her words, the writer immediately showed a proud look on his face, and his words began to reveal a sense of superiority that could not be concealed: "Really, I also write novels. I have written more than 30 novels so far. Another book has just been published in a few days, and the response from readers is very enthusiastic, and I can give you a copy of my autographed work."

"Thank you, I'm very honored." She still said unhurriedly.The writer seemed to see her calmness, and felt a little dissatisfied: "You have just written a novel, why can't you see the admiration for me as a 'senior'?" He continued to ask, "You wrote a novel. What is the name of your novel, let’s talk about it, and I can give you some guidance on writing experience.”

"The novel I wrote is called Gone with the Wind, have you heard of it?" she said modestly.

Hearing this sentence, the writer was ashamed. It turned out that the seemingly ordinary woman sitting in front of him was the famous Margaret Mitchell.

Although this is the only surviving work of Margaret, it is enough to establish her unshakable position in the history of world literature.In a sense, it is Margaret Mitchell's humble, sincere, calm and introverted cultivation and demeanor that makes "Gone with the Wind" a classic. If her personality is like Like that arrogant and flamboyant writer, it will be difficult to write such a profound and moving work.

Of course, in addition to having a certain impact on women's careers, temperament is more closely related to women's happiness in life.A woman's true temperament comes from a heart that loves herself and others.If a woman is considerate of others in dealing with others, and has a heart of tolerance, tolerance, and understanding, then her speech and behavior will all give people a sense of beauty and enjoyment. Then, even if she does not have a beautiful face, she can still attract everyone's attention. look.Conversely, if a woman is always self-centered, never considers other people's standpoints when speaking or doing things, or even ignores other people's existence at all, then even if she is as beautiful as a fairy, it will be difficult to win the favor of others.

She is a beautiful girl who works as a secretary in a private company. Her greatest dream is to be able to catch a "money husband".Two months ago, she met Afeng through a blind date. The tall and handsome Afeng fully met her criteria for choosing a spouse, and his status as a director of a foreign company made her even more satisfied.And Ah Feng seems to have a good impression of the young and beautiful her, and the two began their initial relationship in this way.

But just when she thought their relationship could go further, Ah Feng broke up with her.She was puzzled and asked the reason. Ah Feng didn't give any further explanations, but said that the two people's personalities were not suitable.She tried to persuade her to stay again and again, but Ah Feng had no intention of turning back.She was still not reconciled, so she found their introducer—Mei Zi, and sure enough, she learned the reason why A Feng proposed to break up from her.

It turned out that at the beginning, Ah Feng had a good impression of the young and beautiful her.But with further communication, I discovered some of her problems: for example, when watching a movie, she can answer the phone as if no one else is there, completely ignoring other people's feelings; for example, when eating western food, she will be loudly scolded for trivial things The waiter even brought the manager to argue... Ah Feng couldn't accept these things. He said that he would not like a girl who lacks self-cultivation, and his family would not accept such a daughter-in-law.After hearing Meizi's words, she felt a little wronged, and she didn't take it seriously. She thought it was too much to think that she was uncultivated because of these trivial things.She felt that there was nothing wrong with her, but that Ah Feng was too picky. With her beauty, she would definitely find a man with more taste and ideal than Ah Feng.

Indeed, what she did was not a big mistake in principle, but it affected her feminine beauty to a great extent, greatly reduced her temperament, and as a result she received a cold reception in the relationship.If she continues like this and doesn't pay attention to the cultivation and improvement of her temperament, then no matter how beautiful she is, it will be difficult to find a truly tasteful husband.Because beauty is only a kind of external scenery, but elegant temperament is infected from the inside out by an invisible spirit, which includes not only good self-cultivation, but also polite and decent behavior, and it needs years of hard work. Cultivation and precipitation.As the saying goes, looks come from the heart, so, as a woman, don't just work hard on your appearance, but your inner temperament needs you to constantly enrich and hone.

When you are young, you can exchange your youth and beauty for a sincere love, but as time goes by, when youth and beauty gradually disappear, only the temperament endowed by rich cultural connotation and life experience is your infinite love. Unparalleled wealth can make you exude charming charm, so as to gain the favor of others and achieve success in life and career.

5. Women tolerate themselves to please themselves
Some people like your hair tied up, some people like your hair down.So you hesitate whether to tie it up or wear it, but you ignore that the person who really likes you likes all of your looks.

In "A Chinese Journey to the West", Zixia Fairy also has a very classic line: "My ideal person is a world-class hero. One day he will wear a golden armor and a holy garment, and step on seven-color clouds to marry me. I guessed the beginning, but guessed There is no such ending." From the moment Supreme Treasure pulled out the Ziqing sword, Fairy Zixia already knew that he was the person she had been waiting for, even though he was just a lowly little bandit at that time.Therefore, when the Bull Demon King tortured her and forced her into marriage, she did not despair because she knew that he would come to rescue her.Facts have proved that she was right about the man. After being enlightened, he really turned into a superhero, wearing golden armor and holy clothes, and stepping on seven-colored clouds.However, he, the superhero, didn't come for her, because giving up his children's love is a necessary hurdle for him to become a superhero.In the end, he saves the world, but not their love.

(End of this chapter)