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Chapter 22 Never give up on your dreams (2)
I replied to her: Thank you for being with me all the way.The circle of media people did change a lot back then.Only a handful are still holding on.Writing is a job that does not earn money, and I can only live by my dreams.People must have to deal with people in life, humility is still much better than arrogance.I hope we can all go further on the road we have chosen.

Sometimes you treat others with kindness towards life, others or life will see it, and can inadvertently give you the same return.Even if it is a simple compliment from others, "You are the editor I felt was rare at the time who was not arrogant", you will feel that it is a kind of warmth.This is a kind return.

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Media work requires not only dealing with the media people around you, but also dealing with many colleagues in other parts of the country.I do my best to make it easier for others.Sometimes it becomes a norm and a habit to treat others with kindness and humility. Your investment is no longer a business-like intention, but a heartfelt emotional exchange. What you get is not real benefits, but the joy of making friends .Of course you can also make friends at work.

I remember a time when I was very short of money.A colleague referred someone else's work to me and helped sort out the manuscript.It was sorted out very carefully.Only after handing in the manuscript did I realize that the friend introduced by a friend is still a middleman, and the publishing company is above him.Downstream workers who have done a few businessmen, naturally, there is no way to guarantee their income.

Because the person who introduced me to the job was very kind, I didn’t get paid for revising the manuscript in the end, and I didn’t want to embarrass this friend at all.If you think it's less than a thousand yuan, it's fine.Although he is not a rich person, it is not worth losing a good friend because of this hard work.

People and people, people and the world around them are always in a state of ebb and flow.If you use too much force, you will naturally benefit for a while, but in the long run, it may not be the correct way of life and work.When we always ask for and always regard others as our own life resources, we forget to give, and we forget where we are in other people's interpersonal network.

Giving and receiving are equal, treat the people around you with kindness, the world is looking at you with wide eyes, and your kindness will eventually bring you a road full of kindness.

Don't let your time be wasted by laziness

If you want to get yourself out of lazy self-blame, after you have firmly established your ideals and prepared to suffer, all you have to do is to move.

A student asked me that he always felt anxious.Everyone is busy living, and they seem to be abandoned by time.Obviously knowing that I have a lot of things to do, but I still can't start, I don't know what to do.So I was in anxiety, swiping Weibo, playing games, time passed like this.Go to sleep and wake up with the same problem.

I don't want to do homework every day, and I don't want to do anything.Unlike other students, some of them work part-time, some join clubs, but they themselves are busy, and even have a deformed mentality. They play games when they are at a loss, and even drag others to play games with them.It seems that I am not just wasting my time alone, and my heart will be much more at ease.

When I'm alone, I play the game for too long, and the feeling of boredom gets worse.That's when it's the scariest.I would envy those who are positive and have goals in life, and looking back at myself is always full of helplessness... I want to say that this is almost a common problem for everyone.The Internet age makes us anxious and more and more enjoy indulging in direct, intense, sensory stimulation.I said, don't watch unhealthy little movies in the dormitory to vent your inner depression.Go out and walk more, it will be much better.

Sometimes we say, you see how wonderful others are living every day, but someone in the system seems to repeat the day ten thousand times.In fact, the situation encountered by this junior is somewhat similar to the life of [-] times a day.Impatience is nothing but the consequence of infirmity.We know what we want, but we are not determined and unwilling to go after what we want.

Always thinking, wait, do it later, or do it tomorrow.

My girlfriend is a little childish, and has been talking about fitness for a long time.Every time spring comes, they say that in summer they will become thin like a lightning bolt, and in the end they will be so thin that I don't know her, and then they say they will abandon me to find a handsome guy.But every time I didn't exercise for a few days, I started to watch running man or play the game "Clash of Clans" again.For this reason, when I talk about her, she always finds reasons to make excuses.

Some bitterness, we face it now, so that we will not face it in the future.Some lives are lived now, but to live a better life in the future.Even if you look down on your depraved self, there is only one way, go out and take action.

I remember a book that was published before.That period of time happened to be after the Chinese New Year, and holiday illness enveloped me like bad luck.The Chinese New Year has delayed time, and there is a backlog of things at work.At this time, my dear publishing editor girl suddenly knocked me on QQ, and then threw a file for me to read.

When I saw it was my manuscript, she changed many places.Let me check it out to see if she has corrected her mistakes.I'll re-read it myself to see if there's anything else I want to fix.

At that time, my situation was very bad and chaotic. I couldn't deal with the chores at work, and how to complete the redemption work of the manuscript.I thought for a while and said, set a time for me.When do you think I can give it to you, you give me a deadline, and I will definitely hand it over to you before then.

Nuclear red is fast, she said.Writing manuscripts is tiring, but reading manuscripts is not so tiring.Just next Monday.

It was Friday when she said this to me.That means, on this weekend when I happen to be moving, I still have to read the manuscript.Although it was hard work, I still agreed without saying a word.As a result, the manuscript was sent to the editor early on Tuesday morning.

Sometimes it's not that you can't do it, but that you think your bottom line is too low, even if you lie on the ground, you still haven't touched the bottom line.Living without a bottom line and without heart and lungs is of course terrible.Fortunately, I still know that it is terrible, I know that I am lazy, and I know that if I continue like this, I will become a useless person sooner or later.

Each of us has ideals, and the process of realizing them must be full of difficulties.It is not difficult now, what may be waiting is a lifetime of difficulty.This is true of many things. If you work hard now, you can really avoid doing these things in the future.

Breaking the shell of an ideal life is always difficult.When you've identified your ideal life, get ready to give yourself a long, painful time.When you want to be comfortable, such as browsing Weibo or playing games, you should warn yourself that it is just a sugar-coated shell given to you by laziness.

This grueling process is the same as running.When you first start running, you will feel difficult and feel pain all over your body, but when you start running, you will find that the sweat from the exercise will give you a sense of accomplishment and the motivation to keep moving forward.When pursuing an ideal life, it will be very difficult at first, but you will find pleasure after a long time.For example, if you are a student and you want to be a media person, every time you publish an article, you will get closer to this dream. Every time you publish more experiences, you will be happier and closer to your dream life.

If you want to get yourself out of lazy self-blame, make firm ideals, and prepare to suffer, all you have to do is to move.There are too many principles, but they are actually three words: move.Take action, everything becomes simple, everything becomes easy.

Knocking out negativity, even a little bit, is a big step in the right direction.

Some things don't have to be known to everyone
Whether a single spark is a prairie fire or a faltering fire often depends on how we view our past and future.

For a while, the book "Duansheli" by the Japanese sundries manager Eiko Yamashita was especially popular.Many writers and big Vs don’t hesitate to recommend it, and this concept can be seen spreading everywhere.

I remember that when the subtitle website Shooter.com was shut down, the announcement on the homepage was "Duansheli".Now the concept of "breaking away" has been extended by the author, and many books have been published, such as "Spirit", "Work", "Age" and so on.This concept has such a strong vitality that it naturally has its reasons.Eiko Yamashita really wants to let us sort out our lives through certain ideas.

Break: Do not buy, do not collect unnecessary things.

Shelter: Get rid of the useless things piled up at home.

Leaving: Abandon the obsession with material things, let yourself be in a spacious, comfortable and free space.

Starting with sorting out the clutter, sometimes we also need to sort out our emotions.

When chatting with friends, you will gradually discover a problem.After graduating, we spent less time together, either becoming less talkative or expressive, or eager to be understood by others, and eager to find someone to talk to.

There is a friend whom I haven't seen for a long time, and when we chat by chance, she is always talking about her work.Complaining that I often stay up late and work overtime, and spend a lot of time on a plan, just because the boss said, "We need to discuss it at the meeting tomorrow."She spends alone in the company, sorting out various materials and considering all aspects of the plan.After finishing it, it was already past 10 o'clock at night, and I hadn't eaten dinner yet. I bought oden from Lawson's I don't know when it was, and the part soaked in the soup was whitish, and the meatballs were exposed. The parts on the outside are dark and hard.

There was another time when she went out for an outing, wearing a close-fitting skirt, and it was not convenient for her to walk, so she had to take very ladylike steps.But she also had to carry a lot of props dropped by the leader, and the sweat flowed down her cheeks.In the huge convention and exhibition center, it was difficult for her to take a taxi, and she felt helpless beyond words.

She said that her leaders seemed to be blind, and no one saw her efforts and dedication.

When she said this, I felt that the eyes in her eyes were not entirely hatred or complaints, but also some other unclear things.Maybe she just wanted to talk.I asked her, since it was so hard, did she ever think about leaving?She sighed and said, if it wasn't for the good treatment, she might have left long ago.

At that moment, I knew she never wanted to leave.

I think that in her company, there must be one or two good colleagues, and she often complains to them, always feeling as if she has endured a lot of pain.It seems that I have suffered more than everyone else.

This kind of grievance, narcissism, and seeking attention should not be rare now.Because I used to be like that.I have put in so much effort, why the boss can't see it.This situation is not only at work, but I think it is the same in relationships, especially in the face of problems.

It seems that our hard work, our efforts, only get the response from others, can we have the motivation to move on.We are too happy to share the pain and hardship we have experienced with others.We really want others to know how hard we work and how difficult it is.When others know it, um, it seems that the value of what I make is really reflected.

Similar to this friend, or quite the opposite, there is another friend.

This friend has been an idol-level figure since his school days.When I was in school, I was already very good, won various excellent awards, and was always able to win various school-level and national-level scholarships.The certificates are soft, and the bonuses are soft.

No matter what he did, he felt as if he had been injected with chicken blood.

But after working, he seemed to be a completely different person.

After graduation, all of us were thrown into the smoke of job hunting.

Many of my friends have found jobs, but I am a late-knowing person who found a job on a website very late.At that time, that friend hadn't found a job yet.I think it should be because he is too good, and he should have higher requirements for his future and life.

Later I heard that he went to a trading company and became an ordinary employee.

There, he didn't have a very happy life, and felt that he was overqualified.

When chatting, he would always talk about when he was in school, he won a large sponsorship and held such a grand party in school.I still remember that evening, the hip-hop show was the most exciting in my opinion.That sponsor was also present at the gala.

Often when we gather together, we will hear him reminiscing about the past.

I can also hear his occasional complaints, feeling that the outside society is very helpless, which is very different from the campus days.Words are full of helpless emotions.I think not only me, but also he himself thinks that he should perform at a better level, have a better job, and make more achievements.But things always backfire, and talents are underappreciated.

Later, this friend seemed to have gone to another place.In the end, what work he was doing, I don't know.After a long period of inactivity, we lost contact.

The friend who worked hard, complained for a long time but was unwilling to really leave that company, was very similar to this friend who had been brilliant in the school days, but lost contact after all in the depression.They are the epitome of both of us.

Some people are ordinary, hard-working, and hard-working, but they always need to talk about their hardships in order to find a sense of existence. Others put too much thought in the past, thinking that they should be used in On the edge of the knife, I gradually lost myself.

Sometimes we put our minds too much on the sufferings that need to be noticed by others, or on the past achievements, and we gradually lose the goal that can control the depths of our hearts.Without a destination, we lose the motivation to move forward. All our thoughts are focused on how to let others see our hardships or brilliant achievements, and the road has gone astray.

From this point of view, Eiko Yamashita's "breaking away" is particularly necessary today.

Get rid of the complicated, get rid of the unnecessary, and leave those things that should be discarded.

Some things, whether it is suffering or achievement, the past is the past after all. We should use the past as fertilizer or stepping stones to pave the way for every step in the future, instead of constantly looking back and looking at our own experience. hardships and achievements.

Nietzsche said: "You have suffered pain, don't tell others to seek sympathy, because a unique person, even his pain is unique and profound, and it is not easy for others to understand. The sympathy of others will only relieve The personal nature of your pain reduces it to a banal annoyance, and at the same time devalues ​​your personality.” I think the same goes for our achievements.In the constant retelling, it gradually lost its due pride.Whether it is suffering or achievement, it should silently become the driving force of the heart, not the curse that hinders us.

Give up those thoughts that long for attention, return to the ordinary, and calm down to find the starting point and the ending point. I think maybe our efforts, our difficulties, and our achievements will naturally emerge and be easier to be seen by others.Because those who work hard will always shine.

Whether a single spark is a prairie fire or whether it is crumbling in the precarious environment often depends on how we view our past and future.

Your life should not be dictated by others

First of all, you have to be clear about your own life path, because there are many people who point fingers in this world.Whether you want to be an Ultraman who saves the world, or a little monster who is beaten silently, you have to be ready to meet other people's tongues.

I suddenly fell in love with Dong Qiao's article.

Simple, without repeating, saying one is one, but it can remind you of two, three, four, and more.

That day I bought a set of Dong Qiao's books.When you first fall in love with an author, you will wish to read his book every day and learn about his life and past.

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