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Chapter 21 Never give up on your dreams (1)
When you are young, you can afford to lose, and you are not afraid of falling. The important thing is that you don't give up on yourself, make changes in a down-to-earth manner, and work hard.People without dreams are poor, so don't give up your dreams at any time.

No matter how far away the dream is, it can't resist foolish persistence
In front of dreams, no one is tall or humble, and the dream itself is neither great nor small. Only when you persist foolishly, you will find that what you insist on becomes your belief.And success is the best reward for persistence.

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There is a fairy tale:

Once upon a time, there lived a nomadic tribe on the grassland.They are going to migrate to new grasslands.Prepare to set up camp when passing through the Gobi.Suddenly they were enveloped by a dazzling light.

The old man told everyone that this is the appearance of God.So everyone took care of their appearance and waited with great anticipation for the important decree issued by the gods.

God said: The journey is long, so you should pick up more pebbles and put them in the saddlebags along the way.After a week, you will be very happy, but most of you will also be very regretful.

After speaking, the god disappeared.

The herdsmen looked at each other, feeling very disappointed.What kind of decree is this.What they expect, at least, is to be fertile and strong, endless wealth and health and longevity.Unexpectedly, God asked them to pick up stones.The Gobi Desert lacks everything except stones, and there are too many stones to pick up. The horses are full of stones, and they must be exhausted in the Gobi Desert.This is a completely meaningless thing.

After complaining for a long time, everyone likes to pick up and put a few stones in the bag.After all, it is God's will.

There was only one silly boy who kept picking up all the way.Everyone laughed at him: It's really stupid to do such a stupid thing with so much effort.

A week later, the herdsmen walked out of the Gobi, and when they set up camp outside the Gobi, they suddenly discovered that all the pebbles in the saddle had turned into diamonds.They couldn't be happier.But after a while I regretted it again.I regret why I didn't pick up a few more stones along the way like that silly boy.Silly insistence, in exchange for him a bag full of diamonds.

two

I'm not a funny person, and I can't understand the cold humor of "The Big Bang Theory".But it is undeniable that this episode is very hot.Girlfriend is the kind of person who insists on you listening to her.Every time she tells me how funny "The Big Bang Theory" is, and pulls me over to watch it from time to time, I really want to "hehe" her, it's terrible to be beaten.After a long time, she also noticed that I didn't like it, so she gradually became colder.

Then she knew I was writing about growing up.She said to me, do you know Sheldon? The actor in "The Big Bang Theory"-Jim Parsons.In fact, he was not the leading actor, the leading role should be Leonard.

Then she babbled about the story of the change of protagonist.

Jim Parsons was not a professional performing arts major, and he acted in some dramas in college.That's how I fell in love with acting.After graduating, I occasionally received a few scripts, all of them played soy sauce passers-by. I have partnered with many big-name stars, such as Natalie Portman, Audrey Tautou, etc. In the end, his name could not be entered at all. list of actors.No one can remember him.

Because he likes acting, he has been auditioning in various studios.The first time, the second time, the third time... No. 15 times, he was ruthlessly brushed off again and again.He didn't get a role. At the age of 34, he met "The Big Bang Theory" and interviewed for the role of Sheldon.This role is a supporting role, and the image of the person in the play is very different from the real self.He tried it anyway.

He landed the supporting role, as the eccentric roommate outside of Leonard and Penny's emotional line.At the beginning, he recited Sheldon's lines so much that he wanted to kill himself, but slowly he got better and better, and finally he even brought this character to life, surpassing the light of the protagonist.

His journey to stardom has finally come.

No matter how great or humble your dreams are, no matter how superior or how low you are in the dust, some things persist for a long time, and something we call fate will naturally hit your waist around the corner.Jim Parsons foolishly persisted, so what if he was denied more than a dozen times, he finally became popular in his 30s, and the series has been updated until now, he is already an uncle in his forties.He has also risen from an unknown actor to the king of comedy earning $100 million per episode.

In front of a dream, no one is tall or humble, and the dream itself is neither great nor small. Only when you persist stupidly, do it ten times or twenty times, persist for three to five years, or even try more times, you will find out. What you insist on has become your own belief.And success is the best reward for persistence.

three

When I was 26 and seven, there was a time when I panicked.

His mother passed away, his father was weak, and his sister and brother-in-law shouldered the heavy responsibility of taking care of him.Give me enough time and space to develop my life.Although they didn't make me bear too much, the self-pressure in my heart was so great that I lost my hair, suffered from insomnia, and struggled with work.Always want to see the door to success.Especially in this big environment, everyone is preaching success, praising the rich, handsome, white, rich and beautiful, showing off their wealth, and trading money and various things, and people gradually become impetuous.

When people are impetuous, it is easy to lose themselves.

Stand at thirty.This word has appeared in my mind many times.I always feel that in a few years, I must make some achievements.But as for what to achieve, I'm not particularly clear.Is it work, from a small editor to an editor-in-chief?Sometimes I am afraid that when the family pressure is high, I will not be able to bear the pressure at all.Is it to become a writer?But my low self-esteem and glassy heart made me write a lot, but I never really confronted the market. I just found self-comfort in words for my own entertainment, and felt that I could still become a writer in my fantasy , it was a dream like soap bubbles.

After worrying for a long time, I met friends and noble people in the publishing circle and said, my writing is actually very good, since I want to, why not do it.

And then finally trying to do it, to write something the way someone else might want it.

One or two years have passed since I wrote it.Looking back at the past, I feel that I have written hundreds of thousands of words for self-entertainment in the past so many years. In contrast, I who insist on writing have written hundreds of thousands of words in just the past two years.They may not all be good works, but they slowly let me settle down.Let me stop self-doubt, no longer be urged to live by the nonsense like "[-] years old".

Once people calm down, they can see the future clearly.

After receiving the contract from the publishing company, I calmed down to write.On my birthday that day, I met an old friend who joked with me on QQ, and mentioned back then that if she hadn’t married and I hadn’t, let’s make do with it for the rest of our lives.She smiled and said, let me hurry to get married.I laughed and said, yes, they are all uncles, but I still insist on the ideal of being a teenager.I'm still thinking, if I could, I'd like to be a writer.

She said, I admire people like you who still have dreams and persist.

Sometimes I feel that I write so many things stupidly, just to wait for this day.

four

Once when I was gathering with friends, I suddenly talked about life and ideals.

I have a friend who looks much fatter than he did many years ago.A middle-aged appearance.He said, alas, thinking back then, he still wanted to study journalism and become a reporter.After leaving the campus, I feel that everything has changed.There is no ideal, but for money, for life.

Everyone laughed at him, saying it's no wonder he eats so fat, it seems that he is living a good life.

During the period, there were not a few people who complained, and everyone was complaining about their dissatisfaction.He complained about how hard he had tried, but he was finally dragged down by reality.They feel that others are more qualified and related than themselves, and they are the ones who finally realize their ideals.

Thinking about it, such an idea is really speechless, and it seems to be all right.

In the end, even if others have the resources, your fate is in your own hands.Persevere, persist for a while, sometimes be a little silly, and persist for a little longer in the words on campus that are indifferent to the world, indifferent to fame and wealth, and pointing out the world.You will find that a happy life and an ideal look are not so difficult.You don't need to be in the state of youth, you have already lived in your later years and regretted your original life.

I watched the movie "When Happiness Comes Knocking" before.

When Chris Gardner was experiencing a trough in his life, his wife ran away, and he and his son depended on each other for life.There is only pitiful money, unpaid work, relying on aid stations and even selling blood to survive.But he still faces all difficulties so cheerfully, chooses to be a little more stupid, a little more stupid, a little harder, a little harder, in the end he survived and waited for happiness to knock on the door.

In fact, when realizing your life pursuits, facing your childhood dreams, whether you want to be a scientist, writer, actor, or a rich man, just like Chris Gardner, be silly and embrace those hardships, You will eventually embrace your own happiness.

Be kind to the world, and the world will be kind to you

Giving and receiving are equal, treat people around you kindly, the world is looking at you with wide eyes, and your kindness will eventually bring you a road full of kindness.

一
Many people think that the student era is an era of freedom, and after work, they have to behave with their tails between their legs.Whether it is in front of work or in front of our own life goals, pretending to be a grandson has become the norm in our lives.

In fact, sometimes pretending to be a grandson is also a kind of wisdom.

It sounds a bit advanced, but in fact it is not advanced at all.The grandson must pretend, but he must also have his own principles.Whether it is dealing with people or getting along with your own heart, kindness is always the normal state of stability in the world.

A few years ago, when I was just entering college, I happened to take a senior's car back to my hometown.The senior is in the second-hand car business, and has had a lot of contact with people from the upper and lower classes in society.It can be regarded as a typical example of struggling in society, having his own career and a successful life.

I remember that time in his car, and his daughter who was in primary school.He said that now it seems that studying is becoming less and less worth pursuing, and it is getting more and more difficult to find a job.

At that time, I said it with some kind of pride.Even so, there are still many benefits to reading.For example, you can see different thinking, expand your horizons in life, and meet many people. These people may be a kind of "connection resources" and even help you in your future life.

When I said the word network, he laughed.I didn't understand the meaning of that smile at the time.It took a long time and experienced a lot of people and things before I realized how naive and funny it is for a young boy to talk about his connections and relationships in front of a person who is out of society and struggling in life.Look at the world with a utilitarian mentality. If you treat the people around you as resources or steps, and then try to climb up, one day you will be demolished by those people.

Kindness and humility are the foundation of your maintenance of resources.I'm not an extrovert, and I'm always intimidated when dealing with people.But this society is not like before, pride should be used to show off, it should be talked about, what is needed now is to do things with a humble attitude and live with a high-profile attitude.Hold it everywhere, or feel that you are superior to others, or feel that you need to make good use of your friends and so-called relationship network. After a long time, you will naturally be dragged down by that superiority.

two

You should let people around you, your leaders, and friends see your excellence, but you should be able to turn that "seeing" into an invisible self-cognition, not just showing off.

What people prefer is a humble, well-intentioned self-determination.When I deal with many people, I am always willing to show them a better side, to be good to others and to be good to myself.The way this world looks at people is too rough and simple, you have to show your sincerity.Everyone has seen your face, so why do you let people see your heart?Therefore, the thing in the heart should be a way of life and state of life from the heart.

It's an aura, something that flows through you anytime, anywhere.

I remember that in the second semester of my junior year, those who took the postgraduate entrance examination and those who wanted to work began to plan to find a job.At that time, almost no one was willing to take the class seriously.Those who sat in the classroom simply did not want to be named and failed in the exam.Many people are sitting in the classroom, looking at mobile phones, extracurricular books, or professional books for postgraduate entrance examinations.The teachers also turned a blind eye.

At that time, I studied modern poetry.Perhaps it is due to my love of poetry.

I am a person who rarely listens carefully in class.Whether you attend the class or not, the teacher knows.Every time the usual homework is to write poetry, I take every homework seriously, hoping to impress the teacher with my poetry.Sure enough, the teacher was also touched by me. He read my poems in class and gave me full marks in the final grade, which was the highest grade in four years of university.

Later, I learned that the teacher still had a part-time job as the editor-in-chief of a magazine.So I used the summer vacation to go to practice.

Internships are the preparatory stage for entering the workplace.The newcomers are all kinds of apprehensions. They are always afraid of causing trouble to the teacher and the editor-in-chief. They are always cautious and would rather wrong themselves than trouble others.

Probably because of this kind of humility, the teacher finally saw my kindness.

Later, after I started working, I also met this teacher and joined the magazine.It is said that now is an era when people are simple and rude. If you rely on a little relationship to get in, there will always be people who will chew your tongue and think that you are incompetent and you are a connection.In order to get rid of such an image and not to put pressure on the teacher, I worked hard and made great achievements. Deep down, I just wanted to let people see a hard-working self, a self who is not incapable, and a humble and unmatched self. People embarrass themselves.The humility in the classroom, since you have given yourself this job, why not go further and create a better working environment for yourself, maybe you will stay in this company in the future, maybe not.But a humble and hard-working attitude will probably open another door in my life.

three

Working in a magazine, as a media person, I often need to go out for interviews and deal with many interviewees and media colleagues.

The circle is that big, if you run around a few times, you will always see familiar faces.Some people are the rebellious type, and some are the taciturn type. I think I am willing to be the middleman, and I will do my best to help my peers, because I often need their help.

But I did meet a very proud colleague who was a Chongqing-based reporter of a certain central media, and he had an unconcealable aura of arrogance.I really want to ask, if you live your life with your head up like this, aren't you afraid that it will rain and your nose will be flooded?Sometimes when I greet her, she glances past her and pretends not to know her.Sometimes I think about it, why do I have a hot face and a cold butt?After saying hello a few times, I didn't want to say hello again.But when I met other colleagues who came late and arrived late, what information was missing, I was willing to help him solve it if asked.

Of course, I don't have the kind of unconsciousness I had when I was in college, and I didn't say that I have to manage all these network resources well.The growth of life, work and life are the same. You can't ask everyone to be your friend. It's not easy to be on the same road.

At the end of 2014, I wrote a long Weibo, which is a year-end summary.Summarize your current situation, what you have done in the past year, what books you have read, and what movies you have watched.It was a very common self-confession, but I didn’t expect someone to leave a message below: I am a former magazine editor, and I greeted you when the media interviewed me.You often wear a special top hat, and you are one of the few editors who is not arrogant.A year ago, because of my doubts about my writing, I moved to the real estate industry.I accidentally saw your Weibo and found that you are gradually realizing your dreams.Come on!

(End of this chapter)