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Chapter 6 About dreams, it's never too late to start (3)
He has a dream, and never complained that his parents did not want him to study pilots in college, but continued his education until he graduated from college. He treated his choices and aspirations as an adult, and his parents did not subsidize his tuition fees. You can also find ways to use your own abilities to pay for your dreams.

If F's parents support him to study fashion design, but the family conditions are poor, and his parents can't give him money to continue his studies.He will fall into a new resentment.

Regardless of whether you can finish the book well, whether your parents or the society can really understand you, your plan for life is in your own heart.Complaining and stagnation are a pair of little friends, let us always stay where we are, and then cast resentful eyes and as many murderous words as possible on the world.After cursing, we may not be really happy. In the end, we may just continue a habit of cursing this "damn society" or "damn family".

A Douban friend posted a status, which I find very interesting:
"Many people feel that they can't be themselves, mostly because they are in the external evaluation system. When I was in school, I was good, and my academic performance was good. My parents, teachers, and classmates thought I was good. At work, I was busy with work, listened to the leaders, and earned more. Money, leaders, and lovers think I am good...Under such external evaluation, personal wishes, dreams and potentials are ignored. Only when a person is in the internal evaluation, that is, self-evaluation, can he live according to his true heart. "

We are addicted to that kind of external evaluation system, and we are always eager to find approval from the outside world, but no one in this world must be obliged to praise your desire.Also, it's not just you and I who are suffering, it's not just you and me who are worried that our dreams won't come true, feel that this problem is difficult to solve, we are so lonely that we need the support of our parents and friends... All ideas are our own, and those ideas can be realized The biggest condition for him is also himself. He has hands, feet and dreams. Who can really blame him if he doesn't fight?Even if you fail in the end, can't you say that you have a dream and worked hard for it when you brag to others?

Even if there is a strong wind, life will never give up

If you have no expectations for the future, it is easy to repeat your life thousands of times, living the same life without waves every day.In this way, what is the taste of life?

一
Watching "Life Is So Beautiful" late at night, I wanted to cry several times, but I finally held back my tears.I think it's because of the stubbornness of the boy in the film.

The boy was born with a disability, and people thought he was mentally retarded.But his parents still take good care of him, especially his father.

The boy has always understood in his heart, and has always been eager to communicate with the world, but he has never found the right way.He loves watching TV and observing everything around him.He fell in love with the girl in the opposite building, and the feeling of love made him start to think that maybe life wasn't so bad.He even imagined that he was the girl's boyfriend, that he would have a child in the future, and crawl around the house like himself.

After my father died, my mother grew older.Later, the mother fell and the boy was sent to a nursing home for the mentally handicapped.But he is not mentally retarded, just incapable of expressing it.

Later, a volunteer girl came to work as a nurse. Her appearance was like a dose of freshness. She thought she could give him love, and she even let him touch her body.After all, she was just a rebellious girl, in order to bring him back to anger the family whose mother died and father reunited.

the boy cried.The girl is gone.Life is still in despair.Later, he met a teacher in a nursing home for the mentally handicapped. With the help of the teacher, he learned to communicate, and finally he said a word to his mother: "I am not a vegetable." I am not a plant, I have my thoughts.I am eager to be noticed by this world, and also eager to communicate with this world.

He spent more than 20 years, but he just wanted to prove to the world that he is a man with a mind.Deep down, he is no different from everyone else in this world.

The story of "Life is So Beautiful" can easily lead us to a perspective of caring for the disabled.After all, his disabled status is so conspicuous.But the boy's experience is more like the life of each of us:

Deep down in your heart you yearn for a better world, but you don't know how to express your heart, maybe even if you say it, no one may understand you.The goal you are pursuing is like the boy in the movie who spent nearly 30 years trying to prove his mind. In this process, perhaps only the parents can give us the greatest help and love, but they will eventually leave like the boy’s father We, too, will grow old like his mother, and will also encounter various obstacles and injuries, just like the boy's emotional fantasy and sad ending, and how long can we fight for that life goal?

Maybe in our life we ​​will meet noble people like the boy's teacher in the mentally handicapped nursing home, but in the end we can only face everything alone.But can we prove our own life as powerfully as the sentence "I am not a vegetable" that the boy spent nearly 30 years saying?

The boy's father told him: Never give up, no matter how hard it is, everything will be fine.In this regard, he is convinced.

two

L is a school girl who is one level lower than me.She also has a younger sister.

When she was very young, her father and mother passed away one after another, and she and her younger sister lived with their grandmother.Although the family is poor, it is still passable, and grandma is very close to the two sisters.

At the age of 11, my grandma was suddenly diagnosed with cancer.Before grandma left, with her last strength, she pickled 5 jars of pickles for the little sisters, leaving nothing but two earthen houses.

The five altars of pickles are the last and most important legacy left by grandma to them.

The departure of relatives one after another is tantamount to the difficulty of the sky falling for the girl who is only 11 years old and has a little sister.

What to do next? What can an 11-year-old girl come up with?
When grandma left in such a hurry, the thousands of catties of rice left in the field have not yet been harvested.It was later recovered with the help of neighbors in the village, which became the source of livelihood for the two sisters.

There is no money for studying, there is no adult to take care of me at home, and I have just entered junior high school, so life has to go on.They were still too young, and apart from occasional help from neighbors, the two sisters hugged and cried at home every time they had to pay tuition fees.At that time, they didn't know that they could seek help from people in society or the government, and they endured too much alone.

L wanted to go out to work many times by herself to support her younger sister's studies, but she was also afraid that the money she had earned desperately would be used for her younger sister's education, and her younger sister would not be able to study hard if no one was taking care of her at home. For herself, giving up studying was also extremely difficult.But she had no choice.At this time, her class teacher talked to her many times, and finally she was determined not only to continue studying by herself, but also to take her younger sister to study together.

In the three years of junior high school, L is both a girl in her teens and the "parent" of her younger sister. The burden of taking care of the whole family falls on her shoulders. For her, the hope of studying to change her destiny is so strong.In those three years, they spent their youngest time relying on the five jars of pickles left by their grandma when they left. They lived on pickles and white rice every day.

She lives in junior high school, and every week she has to arrange a week's life for her younger sister, cut pickles for a week, prepare rice for a week, and help her sister wash clothes for a week... The two sisters lived with each other, and they had collapsed several times , but never really threw in the towel.Once, my younger sister took away her only 5 yuan deposit while her older sister was not at home, and went to participate in school activities. L thought she was spending it indiscriminately, so he beat her. Later, he regretted it when he learned the truth, so the two sisters hugged each other and cried bitterly.

From high school to university, L gradually rose up step by step.When you have nothing to lose, you can only move forward to get out of a better life.Oftentimes, we are living a better life, afraid of all kinds of possible losses and holding back, and when we lose passively, we always don’t know how to deal with the ups and downs of life. L received a work-study scholarship to support his younger sister while studying.The university teachers encouraged her to continue her major in chemical engineering. Going out to work with only a bachelor’s degree would only ruin her future. Finally, she was admitted to a better school.

On the university campus, L has always given the impression of being positive and optimistic. She has never complained to anyone. Life is already hard enough. She just lives life like tea, and there is always happiness after suffering.After more than ten years, relying on the pickles left by grandma, the help of teachers and others, and my desire for the future, I have led my sister out of their difficult but hopeful life step by step.

The pursuit of a better life is the dream they have to pursue first. L has been able to go on for more than ten years without going astray or giving up.Even she herself sometimes sighs that her life is like a movie, but she still plays the leading role once.

three

There is a junior who is not a few years younger than me.He studied very seriously since he was a child, and he was very diligent when he was born in the countryside.Reluctantly, he did not do well in the college entrance examination and went to a university that was not ideal, but he still pursued his life in a better way.In a school where the learning atmosphere is not so strong, he passed the eighth grade of English major, and has always dreamed of going abroad one day to see a bigger world.

After graduating, he entered a foreign trade company, working as a basic employee, helping the leader translate, and doing market development.Once he took the product to visit some customers. In order to complete the task assigned by the leader, he walked all over the area. His feet were so tired that the capillaries burst, and his whole calf was purple.It looks very scary.

Seeing him like this, his parents were very heartbroken, and scolded him not to do that ghost job, and not to think about going abroad.

After all, parents in the countryside have never seen the bloody work in the city. They have never seen countless young people hitting the south wall with their dreams in their hearts. Compromise with life.Some people left from Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, and eventually returned to their hometowns, and this happened repeatedly.What is tossing is another imagination of life in the bottom of my heart.

Parents hope that he will not be too far away from them after graduation. Probably, they still have the idea of ​​raising a child to look after the old and not traveling far. .In addition, I also worry about how the children will take care of themselves in a place where they have no relatives.It was so much looking forward and backward that made the junior change his life direction.

I don't appreciate the kind of work that walks all day until the capillaries in the calf burst, but I passed the eighth grade of English major in such a bad school, in order to be able to go abroad and meet people outside In the world, the final goal has become to open a small shop and start a small business. How can this turning point in life be reconciled.

I don't know if he will resent him for not being able to persevere in the future, and I don't know if he will get better or worse after middle age. Will these resentments become a relationship between him and his parents? Bad luck.But I think, if I have a dream and I can't continue trying, I will be unwilling.But whether I can persist in chasing my goals for ten or twenty years like the boy in "Life Is So Beautiful" and the school girl L, is unknown.But the road ahead is worth a try after all.

It has been more than ten years since the dream sprouted to today.Writing articles is not considered a success today. I have always dreamed that the words I write can speak for themselves. In the future, I may not be able to write good stories like the writers I envy, but I think today, I have not given up chasing.

I remember that the magazine once had a meeting, and the leader asked us, I know that many of you entered the magazine with dreams, and some of you worked very hard in the first year and did everything well, in the second year, and in the third year Woolen cloth?Do it all at once, second time tired, third time exhausted.How long can you hold on to your passion?Three to five years later, if I turn this job into a pension job and lose the enthusiasm I had when I first started, how can I do a good job in the magazine, and how can I adapt to today's ever-changing life?
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