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Chapter 5 About dreams, it's never too late to start (2)
She knew that it was not a sudden passion, not a random talk, but a dream that had been brewing since she was a girl. She liked writing since she was a child, and she always felt that if she gave up her desire for life and the things that supported her spirit, If she gave up the direction that led her forward, she would regret it to death.

After resigning and returning home, she wrote in boredom for two full years.Finally published his first book.

The moment she got the sample booklet, like all unconvinced teenagers, she thought about using her success to slap the leader of a foreign company at the time, just like many puppy love teenagers under the pressure of the teacher, wishing to hold hands with the teacher after the college entrance examination. The impulsiveness dangling in front of him.Later, she held back.

The dream is my own. I have spent two years and worked hard to persevere. Everything is my own.She treated herself to a good meal and thanked herself for not giving up.

Pursuing her dream put her under a lot of pressure and spent a lot of her youth, but she finally felt the happiness that the dream brought her.The process of chasing made her full of passion.The further you go, the more difficult it is, but the more stable you are in your heart. After passing through, what you see is infinite light.

three

I don’t know if every girl has a dream of opening a shop. This shop may be a coffee shop or a dessert shop.

Xiaocheng had the idea of ​​opening a store, and she gave up her stable job without a financial basis.

On the first day of resignation, she finally got her wish and slept until she woke up naturally.But after waking up, she was panicked and anxious, eager to talk to her colleagues, and was dragged into a meeting to discuss the progress, even though she had only resigned for one day.

Later, after all kinds of tossing, the small shop of my dream finally opened.The problem is not that she opened a small shop, but that she has gone through too many difficulties in order to maintain the small shop.

At the beginning, there were only her and the hired master in the shop.Everything inside and out has to be done by herself.Every morning, before dawn, she has to go to the vegetable market to buy the materials she needs. After closing the store at night, she has to wash a lot of tableware in the store by herself, and then put the clean tableware neatly in the disinfection cabinet , and then clean up until around 12 o'clock at night.Sometimes the chef feels distressed when the girl is so tired by herself, and will help with some work.But no one can help her bear the pressure to support a store.

Often, she soaked instant noodles late at night and ate Guiling jelly from her shop alone, staring in a daze of happiness and pain.

Gradually, the media paid attention to her small shop and released news, and more people came one after another.Seeing so many people coming, Xiaocheng was happy. She ran up and down by herself, working as a boss and a shop assistant, and also took care of serving as a waiter and a cashier.She was so busy that she often fell asleep just sitting down.Later, she finally had the money to hire a clerk, but it still didn't make her much easier.

Opening a store has overdrawn her too much energy and energy, and she began to feel a little powerless.She knew that the small shop was beginning to stabilize day by day, and no matter how hard she worked, it was worth it.Sometimes she looks at herself in the mirror and feels like she doesn't know herself.Overwork made her dark skin, like those women in their 40s and [-]s on the street, she is no longer an OL who goes in and out of office buildings, and no matter how much whitening cream is applied, it doesn't seem to turn white.

But opening a shop also made her more confident.When all the difficulties came, she felt that every time she experienced more, her fears became less, and every minute and every second became extremely real.Even though the countless sewer blockages and cockroaches in the back kitchen made her cry many times, she still persisted.She also thought about it, just give up and go back to the office building to live.But after thinking about it, he still insisted on his original choice.

Sometimes life is not so inspirational. Perseverance does not necessarily mean victory. In the face of difficulties, being able to hold on is everything.All the difficulties and hardships have to be borne by myself, because of my own thoughts and impulses at the beginning.There is a gap between the imagined ideal and the reality, but after making it through, the store itself means a lot to Xiaocheng.

four

Whether it is girl Y who has a dream and wants to buy a house in Beijing, or a best-selling author who wants to return to her dream direction after being ridiculed, or Xiaocheng, a girl who resolutely resigned naked and went through untold hardships to open a store, they are all happy. dreamer.Dreams are responsible for bringing us forward, but it is not responsible for whether there are stones on the ground blocking the way... But sometimes if you are willing to think and do it, many things will become less difficult.

Y is my editor and also my friend.When she was dreaming, I had absolutely no reason to wake her up.Perhaps what awaits her is not the short-term persistence and victory of a best-selling author, but the hardships of Xiaocheng's opening a store, but the right to dream is unquestionable.

Some time ago, "I Am a Singer" (Season [-]) ended.The ending was a bit unexpected, but expected.Han Hong won the championship unsurprisingly, even though Li Jian's voice was quite loud.

After the show ended, an online marketing account posted a joke:
Isn't Han Hong winning the championship the ending we expected at the beginning of the show?So why do we keep watching all the way and expecting at the moment when the truth is revealed at the end?In fact, life is like this. We know the ending of many things from the very beginning, but we are still not reconciled to tradition, authority, secular rules and ethics, scripts and control of fate. I hope that the barren life can turn a little new at the last moment. what.

I especially appreciate this passage, its power to sublimate the meaning of a raucous variety show.

Sometimes, we may already know what the possible direction of our destiny is, and we still choose to persevere, and we are still not reconciled to the secular evaluation and the fate we think is arranged in our hearts.Even with a ten thousandth hope, we hope that at the juncture of fate, there will be a reversal ending.

In this way, looking at the choice of the best-selling author, the choice of Xiaocheng, the shopkeeper, and the choice of Y, the editor, everything becomes so natural.First of all, if you dare to embrace and dare to imagine, you are worthy of having that unknown result that may be good or not so good.

I have worked hard for my dream
All ideas are my own, and the biggest condition for realizing those ideas is myself. I have hands, feet and dreams. Who can blame me if I don’t fight?
一
When F told me about his experience, I was always distracted. Sometimes when I was distracted, it was easy to miss what he said, but I pretended to be "hmm" while listening, and then kept nodding.

There are two reasons for distraction. One is that even if you skip some links in what he said, you will not feel that you missed any information. The second is that what he said reminded me of my cousin whom I hadn’t seen for many years.

My cousin's parents got divorced and I haven't seen him since.It has been several years.

Occasionally, he suddenly found me on QQ.

Saying that he wants to do something, it always feels like everyone doesn't support him.

I asked him, what do you want to do?
He didn't seem to see my question, so he skipped it and asked, third brother, do you support me?

I keep asking, what exactly do you want to do?Do you want to start a business, or go to work, or want to continue to study and study?
He seemed a little anxious for no reason, which could be seen from his QQ text.

He said, hey, sure enough you don't support me!
Then fell into a long silence.I thought to myself, if you don't tell me what you are going to do, how can I support you?Don't say you want to do illegal and criminal things, come to seek my support too.It seems to be a bit far-fetched, F's state may be much more paranoid than my cousin.

two

I have already forgotten how I met F.

He is many years younger than me.Now 19 years old, almost 20, an adult.

He has always loved Korean stars and Japanese anime since he was a child.I don’t know if the Two-dimensional fans born in the 90s are all like this: confine themselves in the room, hold a computer and imagine a more illusory world.I also know some colleagues in cosplay magazines, and I feel that those cosplayers are also quite extroverted, and they can find a connection with the world in such a unique way.

F has always liked animation, but his parents have always felt that his hobby is not doing business properly.One weekend, he was watching "Naruto" at home. When he was excited, his mother suddenly pushed the door open and saw that he had not done his homework on the table, and he was watching the computer with a silly smile on his face. Mom was so angry that she yelled loudly. F feels baffled, isn't it just watching a cartoon, is it worth it?
His parents' attitude towards him made him very annoyed, just like many parents would say in front of their children, look at you, and then look at the son of the old Wang's next door, as if the son of the old Wang's next door is his real son. F felt that his parents almost completely denied his hobbies and ideals.

Speaking of ideals, he has always wanted to study fashion design in college and be able to make his own favorite clothes. Every time he sees other people cosplaying their own DIY clothes, he has an inexplicable pleasure, but his parents think that the dream of fashion design is whimsical , An idiotic dream.

Regarding his dream, he quarreled with his parents more than once, endlessly. In the end, he felt that since he couldn't study his favorite major, what else would he take the exam for?Simply disappeared for many days during the college entrance examination.All the classmates went to take the college entrance examination, but he was missing, and his parents were looking for him everywhere.

After the college entrance examination, he showed up and was scolded and severely beaten by his parents.He locked himself at home and didn't dare to meet anyone, including friends and classmates.He likes the feeling of being alone in the bedroom and closing the door, as if shutting out his parents and all troubles. He feels that he is truly free only when he is in his own world.

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F's feelings for his parents have gone beyond complaints, but with hatred.

He hated that his parents did not support his dreams, they denied all his thoughts, and hit his best impulses and desires in his youth.The censure of his parents made him autistic and inferior, full of confusion about the future.He felt that his life had fallen into a dead end, and all this was driven by his parents. He felt that his parents didn't understand anything, but they seemed to pretend to understand everything, and they never supported his desire.

He loves two-dimensional, and I think of a concept in the two-dimensional field: the second disease.I have a lot of thoughts about this world and my own future. It seems that I have already put on my underwear and is ready to save the world and save mankind, but this world easily says no.

I asked him that there is a difference in age between our parents and our education and way of thinking. Have you ever thought about getting rid of your parents' evaluation and your so-called expectation that they will give you support and understanding, and do what you like by yourself? things, follow your dreams.We are all adults, and our lives are in our own hands!Have you ever thought about making some achievements to show them!Prove that they misjudged your life, that you, too, have dreams and can make them come true.

He was silent for a moment, then sighed.Oh, you don't understand, it's easier said than done!I'm all useless now.Then he pointed the finger of the topic at his parents and began to complain endlessly.I want to tell him, whose dream is easy to realize?This is tough for everyone.

I wrote down a passage of what he said, which probably goes something like this:
"What hurts me is that they messed up my life. The way that originally belonged to me, my dreams were not respected, and my character is all thanks to them! But they will never know their fault. Originally I’m just a person with fantastic ideas. Because I didn’t study well, all the decisions were treated like an idiot, and I really became an idiot in the end.”

He felt that all the faults were with his parents, who owed him infinitely.

He didn't go to college, and quickly went to work.He said that he remembered telling his parents that he was going to go out to work that night, and what he saw on the faces of his parents were disappointment and ridicule, as if he was saying, you are still looking for a job!
Soon he found a job as an office clerk, and the salary was so low that he could only accept it without a degree.I want to find a job earlier, be able to support myself, and get out of that family as soon as possible.

Once, the boss asked him to make a form and record some data.The boss gave him several sheets of paper, all of which were handwritten data in a mess.He worked for a long time, and in the end there were still several errors in the data.He felt that the data sheets given to him by the boss were too messy and the amount of information was too large, so how could it be possible not to make mistakes, and he couldn't blame himself for this at all.

He tried to tell the leader in a way he thought was tactful, because the information was too messy, but in the end he was scolded by the leader.He felt very depressed, but when he got home, he saw his parents with stinky faces. They didn't understand him at all, and he didn't want to tell them about these things.But I don't know who to tell my emotions.I don't even have any friends around me who understand me.

I asked him if he thought about making friends, dating, or going out more.Don't lock yourself at home, just watch anime, watch idol stars.

He fell silent, then continued to sigh.

Later, the topic inexplicably ended here.I can guess that if the topic continues, what he can answer me is probably: it's all because my parents beat me all day, making me very introverted and inferior, and then I don't have the opportunity to go out and meet friends.

four

Suddenly, I feel that the lyrics of the episode of "Journey to the West" are particularly inspirational: spring, autumn, winter and summer, ups and downs, dare to ask where the road is, the road is under your feet, dare to ask where the road is, the road is under your feet.

If you love mountaineering, you don't have to regard climbing Mount Everest as a dream.Only by slowly climbing up the small mountain can you see the road ahead. Before you realize the goal of climbing Mount Everest, what you see will always be a mountain blocking the way.This mountain may be your own emotions, your attitude in the face of difficulties, your parents' understanding, the evaluation of people around you, or the difficulty of achieving your goal... But in the end, you have your feet on yourself, and the road is on your feet below.Complaining, can't give you the best answer.

I remember seeing an article by Cai Kangyong, writing that before he went to university, his parents hoped that he could go abroad to study as a graduate student.He agreed, but the condition is that he must study his favorite major.The parents also agreed, but the condition is that they must go to a prestigious school.In the end, an "agreement" was reached in this way.His parents supported his choice, and he also pursued his love to the greatest extent within the scope of his parents' requirements.

This is a very smooth communication, but we will make a lot of choices and face many problems. We have never encountered such smooth communication and communication every time. If you are unlucky, you may never encounter such a situation in your life. If there is smooth communication, wouldn’t that be a no-brainer?

Later, at the invitation of the publishing company, I wrote a book review for Teacher Yang Hengjun.

Teacher Yang Hengjun told a story in the book.Like most Chinese parents, he hopes that his children can study hard, become elites in society, and become outstanding people.

Teacher Yang Hengjun's son is indeed very capable. He was admitted to the University of Sydney in Australia with excellent grades and studied a very good major.After graduating from university, my son suddenly told him, since I was a child, you always hoped that I could study hard and study hard. I went to a very good school and a very good major, and fulfilled your requirements for me.Now, I want to do what I love.

My son wants to be a pilot.Teacher Yang Hengjun is of course reluctant, because the job risk of a pilot is too great.So he didn't plan to fund his son's dream of learning to be a pilot.But his son won a scholarship of 50 RMB, while the pilot's tuition fee is only 40 RMB.He has abundant capital to pursue his dream, relying entirely on his own ability.Teacher Yang wrote at the end of the book: The son's dream was not shattered because of his father's unwillingness.

This example is presumably the opposite of F experiencing the exact opposite.

(End of this chapter)