psychochemist

Chapter 272

Although I cannot help everyone, I will do my best to sow the seeds of great love and let history record everyone who participated in promoting mindfulness.

After Yu Fan sent the email, he closed the computer and went to sleep.

Early the next morning, Yu Fan was woken up by the vibrating sound of his mobile phone. Yu Fan picked up his mobile phone and looked at it. It was only six o'clock. Who was it?

Yu Fan's mobile phone received six email push messages in succession, Ding Dong, the seventh.Who is swiping the screen here?Yu Fan took out his glasses and saw that it was Li Arfei!It seems that she received the mail and looked very excited!

"Grandma Zhang, you are finally back!", "Grandma Zhang, where have you been? You have been away for a long time.", "Grandma Zhang, I thought you weren't coming back."...

Yu Fan sat on the bed, turned on the laptop, and replied: "Grandma went abroad, and then forgot the account password, and only remembered it after she came back. Grandma has seen all your emails. Grandma sees that you are developing so well now. I am so sorry. You are happy." Yu Fan began to play the role of grandma.

Li Arfei: "Whoa, I thought something bad happened to Grandma Zhang, and it scared me to death."

Yu Fan: "Grandma Zhang has firmly memorized the account password, and she will never forget it in the future. You can rest assured that you will do well in your studies and live happily."

Li Arfei: "Actually, Grandma Zhang, I've been a little unhappy recently. Can you help me?"

Hey? !This question comes as soon as it is said, and it is too fast.

Yu Fan: "Okay, girl, let's talk about it." Yu Fan is about to play the role of grandma to help Li Arfei solve the first problem.Not to mention, Yu Fan is still a little nervous, what if he doesn't perform well and gets overwhelmed?
Li Yanfei: "I just want to ask Grandma Zhang, now that I am in college, there are many things I want to do, how to do them well day after day, many things always feel like they don't last long."

Yu Fan: "What do you think is the reason for giving up every time? Is it too tired? Or something else?" Yu Fan started the psychological counseling.

Li Arfei: "That's right, I didn't analyze the specific reasons. I just gave up out of nowhere, and I didn't feel tired. Instead, I felt quite fulfilled. Maybe it's because I haven't formed a habit yet."

Yu Fan: "Generally, how long do you hold on to something before you give up? Can you give me a specific example?"

Li Yanfei: "Well, for example, I learned a language last time. After a few days of learning, I felt that I needed a certain foundation in English and a certain foundation in mathematics. I thought about adding English and mathematics, and then I gave up naturally. (laughing and crying emoji), but learning photography, you will keep practicing and will continue. Is it a matter of interest?"

Yu Fan: "Why did you learn that language in the first place?"

Li Yanfei: "I just thought that it might be used in the future. That computer language is for computer science."

Yu Fan: "Is it C language? (C language is a process-oriented, abstract general-purpose programming language, widely used in low-level development)"

Li Arfei: "(Surprised expression) Grandma Zhang, you actually know this?"

Yu Fan panicked a lot. How could people in grandma's age understand this, and he is not a major in this field. Yu Fan said perfunctorily: "We use this when we make drawings, so I have heard of it. By the way, what is the purpose of your learning photography?" what is it then?"

Li Arfei: "Grandma Zhang is really involved in a wide range of subjects (bixin expression). Since junior high school, there was a person who loved photography near our house. I called him Brother Hai. At that time, I just got my prosthetic limbs, and I was downstairs. I ran into him every time I practiced walking. At that time, he taught me some basic photography techniques every day. Later, when I lived in high school, I stopped learning. After I went to college, I found this interest again. The purpose is to make photography If you learn better, you like it yourself, and you can communicate with them when you come back after learning well.”

Yu Fan: "Are there many like-minded photographers in the university?"

Li Arfei: "Yes, I also served as the president of our school's photography association for a period of time this semester. I have many like-minded playmates. Later, I thought about concentrating on the postgraduate entrance examination next semester, so I resigned."

Yu Fan: "When you learned C language, did you teach yourself? Or did you have a lot of companions together? Enroll in a class or something?"

Li Arfei: "I was self-taught, and I didn't sign up for classes. I didn't have any companions either. Grandma Zhang, do you want to say that it was caused by environmental factors?"

Yu Fan: "Then if you sum up these two cases yourself, what do you think are the differences?"

Li Yanfei: "The first is the group nature. When I play photography, I am with them, but I am learning this C language alone; the second is that there is a feeling of sharing when taking pictures, and everyone will share with each other. Excellent work; the third is that photography can move, but learning C language can only sit. Hehe."

Yu Fan: "You summed it up very well~~~ You see, I didn't say anything, you have already figured it out yourself."

In fact, Yu Fan used a little trick of a psychological counselor here. Psychological counselors never make decisions for visitors. decision making.In this way, firstly, the visitor can make a relatively rational judgment, and secondly, he can enhance his confidence in himself in the process.In fact, every visitor who comes to a psychological counselor does not have any major problems. They are more like a group of anxious lambs. The psychological counselor cannot tell them which way to go home. Their job is to use scientific methods. It calmed the emotions of the lambs and reminded them of their way home.

Li Arfei: "That's right, why don't I usually think about comparison, I didn't expect it (laughing and crying emoji)."

Yu Fan: "Let me also talk about my views. I have given up on many things, and I have persisted in many things. At the beginning, I thought it was because of interest, but later I found out that it is not in essence. Interest What is the source of it? I read a book that said a sentence that I was particularly touched by: If you want a drop of water not to dry up, then you have to throw it into the sea."

Li Argon: "Does it mean to find the group that interests me?"

Yu Fan: "Not only that. People must not be superstitious about willpower. Willpower is actually a precious consumable, not unlimited, just like glycogen in running. Don't overestimate your willpower. If you want to Do one thing for a long time. There must be a closed system.”

Li Arfei: "A closed system? Is it a reasonable arrangement, a combination of work and rest?"

Yu Fan typed succinctly: "No, it's an ecological cycle."

　Getting tired is not because of the process of implementation, but because of not sticking to it. —— Guo Chao

　　
　
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