Pillow Book of Talmud Wisdom

Chapter 10 Suffering is the way of life—Jews on self-reliance (2)
People often forget that we live in a highly specialized society.In this society, we often don't need to do everything well.We just need to focus on what we do best and let others do the rest.

Remember, our goal is to achieve a successful life of autonomy and self-reliance. Our goal is not to be a generalist. Our goal is not to show off to others how talented we are.If you want to show your talents to people everywhere, then you will definitely feel powerless.

Many things do not require us to spend time and energy to do, and even when using certain things, we do not need to understand their principles at all.For example, if your goal is not to become a computer expert, you don't need to figure out the programming principles of some software at all.Another example is that you don't need to go to several stores to buy daily necessities for a few dollars cheaper.If you waste your energy on these trivial chores, you will never achieve great things.

When you feel powerless, the best way is to entrust others to do things that are irrelevant to your goals, and only do the most important things yourself.Delegating to someone else, whether they are your staff or someone you paid for, will take some of the unnecessary burden off your shoulders and allow you to focus on what you really want to do.There is nothing worse than stubbornly insisting on doing everything yourself.This is a common problem of most people, they always want to improve their abilities in all aspects.

Obstacle Seven: Simple Problems Complicated

Some people say that the difference between ordinary people and experts is that ordinary people simplify complex problems, while experts complicate simple problems.In fact, this is just the opposite. Ordinary people complicate simple problems.In an interesting experiment, a psychologist asked students to choose a method between a simple method and a complex method. As a result, most of the students chose the complex method.This shows a mindset where people are more interested in showing off their abilities to others.

We must remember that no matter what we do, we must choose the easiest way to do it.This can save you a lot of time, and time is the most precious thing, only time is something that never comes back.

Obstacle No. [-]: Unable to recognize the situation
In today's rapid explosion of information and knowledge, the prediction of the future and the estimation of the situation are often crucial.It is normal to not be able to recognize the situation clearly. How can we overcome this hurdle?This is a question that no one who desires to succeed can avoid.

In fact, after the information and knowledge economy replaced the traditional industrial economy and entered the era of knowledge economy, the society puts forward higher requirements for individuals, requiring individuals to constantly learn new knowledge to enhance their abilities and keep up with the changes in the situation.Avoiding new knowledge can only let opportunities slip away in vain, and ineffective information can only be passive.Of course, we are not asking everyone to put everything at hand to learn new knowledge and collect information, but to strengthen the cultivation of this ability in addition to doing things, as the saying goes: live, learn, and use.

People who can successfully bypass these eight obstacles have basically reached the standard of action for a successful life, but this does not mean that we can act without scruples. There are still many factors restricting our progress, and we must coordinate Otherwise, the embarrassing situation of "those who travel a hundred miles and half ninety" may appear.

Self-reliance is the source of strength that opens the door to success
Walking on crutches, especially on other people's canes, is a kind of lazy heart for many people.For those who can fight and win, their habitual choice is to throw away other people's crutches and move their own feet!Doing so will of course be very tiring, and of course it will be much harder than relying on others.However, instead of enjoying it now because of dependence, it is better to suffer a little bit for the greater enjoyment you will get in the future by relying on your own independent struggle.When you think like this, you can do it.Therefore, the progress of thinking is very important.Thought is the harbinger of action, and only by improving the understanding of dependence psychology can we treat it correctly.In fact, it is not very difficult to break away from dependence on others, develop and exercise yourself independently, throw away the crutches, and get out of the misunderstanding of growth.Because what others can do, you can do yourself too.Establishing sufficient self-confidence is the spiritual pillar to overcome this weakness and get out of the defeat in life.Don't wait for others to make up your mind when you encounter problems, design and decide by yourself.Don't go along with other people's opinions when you make a speech, but express your own unique discoveries.Don't chase the tide, but have the courage to lead the trend.Don't always look at how others dress or walk, but have your own way of dressing, your own posture and feeling.In the face of difficulties, don't wait for other people's assistance, but find ways to overcome them yourself and survive.

Deliberately put yourself in a desperate situation of isolation and help, and exercise your ability to manipulate fate.When you give up the idea of ​​relying on others and decide to be self-reliant, from then on, you will be on the road to success.Just go forward tenaciously without turning back, and you will be surprised to find that you are not inferior to the idols you admired in many ways.You will achieve miracles that you never dreamed of.At that time, there will be a surprise that you have never felt in your heart: I have finally found my confident self.Get rid of a dependence, you will have more autonomy, and you will move forward to a free life and a step towards the goal of success.Here's Bill Gates' advice to teens on how to break free.

(1) Rely on yourself, not on others, on organizations, or on relatives.Everything depends on oneself to struggle and strive for.Only by relying on yourself can you achieve real success. (2) Eliminate the inertia of the body.The source of relying on psychology lies in human inertia.To eliminate dependence, you must first eliminate the inertia in your body.To eliminate inertia, you have to exercise your will.When dealing with things, you must step forward boldly and do what you say; in addition, you must have a flexible mind, be good at thinking, and be diligent in thinking. (3) Be independent and make decisions for yourself.To be the master for yourself is to always think that only the fruits of your own labor are truly your own; only when you enjoy your own fruits can you have real happiness.

(4) Start with small things, seriously reflect on your own thoughts every day, and do it step by step.Everything is like this, it cannot be done all at once, it needs to start slowly, accumulate step by step, and finally make it.It's like a high jump, you always need to run slowly for a few steps, then run fast, and finally take off.After controlling the psychology of dependence, a person will find his own life goal, find the direction of life, and achieve career success on his own.

And only by relying on their own success, is the real success.

Man must live by himself, and must live by himself
People have to live on their own, and they must live on their own. At different stages of life, they should try their best to achieve the level of self-reliance that should be achieved, and have a corresponding spirit of self-reliance.This is the fundamental basis for contemporary people to gain a foothold in society, and it is also the cornerstone of their own "survival support system". Because people who lack independent personality and self-reliance can't even control themselves, can they talk about development success?Even if the "innate status" provided by your family environment is higher than that of ordinary people, you must first descend to the mortal world, climb up from the ground up, and develop the ability to be self-reliant with your whole life.Because no matter what, you will eventually enter the society alone and participate in the competition. You will encounter a living environment that is far more complicated than studying and living. Difficulties and situations that you cannot predict may appear or face you at any time.You can't use your "survival support system" at any time, but you must rely on your tenacious self-reliance to overcome difficulties and keep moving forward!

Therefore, we should be the protagonists of life, and don't regard ourselves as supporting roles in life.Be a choreographer of life, not a spectator of life.People who are good at controlling their own destiny are the happiest people.On the road of life, one must be good at making choices, don’t always let others push you, don’t always be at the mercy of others, but have the courage to control your own destiny, regulate your emotions, be the master of yourself and the master of your destiny.To control your destiny, speaking from a short distance, you must independently choose your school, choose your books, choose your friends, and choose your clothes.From a distance, you should choose your own career, love and noble spiritual pursuit independently without being restricted by various factors.All your successes, all your accomplishments, are entirely up to you.

You should grasp the direction of progress, grasp the goal, and let the goal shine like a lighthouse in the distance; you have to think independently and express your own opinions.You have to have your own opinion and know how to solve your own problems.You should not believe in any savior, you should not believe in any gods and emperors, your character and your actions are your own products.Indeed, if a person loses himself, it is the greatest misfortune in the world; and if he loses his autonomy, it is the greatest trap in life.Red orange yellow green blue blue purple, you should have your own world and unique colors.Believing in yourself and creating yourself is always more important than proving yourself.You will undoubtedly play your own cards and show yourself bravely in front of the turbulent and ever-changing world.You should decisively and unscrupulously declare and display your ability, your demeanor, your bearing, and your intelligence to the world.

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