Pillow Book of Talmud Wisdom

Chapter 34 Enjoy Moderately, Work Moderately—Jews on Enjoyment (4)
There is no normal person in the world who does not need to speak, communicate, and there is no job that does not require dealing with others.The most direct and convenient way to exchange ideas and feelings between people is language.Through excellent language expression, people who are acquainted with each other can be more affectionate and love each other deeper; strangers can have a good impression and form friendship; people who have differences can understand each other and resolve conflicts; people who hate each other can turn hostility into friendship ,Friendly.

In short, language ability is one of the essential qualities of a modern person. It is the main way for us to improve our skills and develop our potential. It is an invaluable treasure for us to control life, transform life, and pursue career success.Knowledge is wealth, eloquence is capital.Your talents can be shown through good eloquence, so that leaders, colleagues, and friends appreciate you more, and further trust you, so that you can develop in a higher direction, so that you can better display your talents and win greater honors.

people should be able to speak well
Language is produced with the emergence of human beings to meet the needs of expression and communication. It is social, instrumental and symbolic, and its initial formation is speaking.

For speaking, farsighted people from all over the world have always attached great importance to it. "One word can prosper a country, one word can ruin a country", "One word of debate is more important than nine tripod treasures; a three-inch tongue is better than a million teachers" and other old sayings, closely link the rise and fall of a country with the power of tongue debate Let's get up, use the "Treasure of Nine Tripods" and "Teacher of Millions" to emphasize the power of speech, which fully reveals the huge social role of speech.

During the Second World War, Americans regarded the "tongue", atomic bomb and money as the three strategic weapons for victory. In the [-]st century, Americans regarded the "tongue", money and computers as the three strategic weapons for economic development and social progress.Although this metaphor seems far-fetched, it is not unreasonable. At least it represents the main characteristics of the two eras. In these two metaphors, the "tongue" can be the first among the three strategic weapons, which shows the value of eloquence. No small matter.Therefore, each of us modern people should clearly realize the importance of eloquence, and then better grasp eloquence, a magical weapon that is portable, effective, invincible and invincible.

Eloquence, in short, is the ability to speak, it is a comprehensive and comprehensive reflection of a person's quality, ability and wisdom, and the reason why a person is called the spirit of all things is because there is one most special and obvious difference between a person and other animals, That is, people can speak and use language symbols as a tool to communicate thoughts and feelings.In the prose "Man", Gorky praised man as the spirit of all things, "the eyes shine with the brilliance of dauntless thought, the brilliance of majestic power, which can create gods when people are tired and decadent, and can be invigorated when people are uplifted." Time to overthrow the gods."Man "creates science based on his own experience, decorates his life more beautifully every step he takes, just like the sun generously uses its light to illuminate the earth - keep moving, keep going up, and step forward".The "person" praised here has a shocking personality power, is an abstract thoughtful and creative person, and is the embodiment of human intelligence and courage.And one of the factors that makes it incarnate and form real power is language.

"The Analects of Confucius Liren" says: A gentleman is "slow in speech but sensitive in action".Today, this old code of ethics cannot but be questioned and re-examined. Of course, there is nothing wrong with being "sensible in action", as long as this kind of action is beneficial to the country and the public, as well as to the progress of others and oneself, but "slow in speech" is obviously not suitable for the needs of interpersonal communication in modern society.Good eloquence is not only a need for propaganda and agitation, but also a need for imparting knowledge and enhancing interpersonal relationships.What's wrong with being able to speak well and let the world have more laughter and praise brought by excellent eloquence and witty words?Zheng Yefu, a famous sociologist who participated in the creation of CCTV's "Tell the Truth" program, said that it is really not easy to find a suitable "Kan Ye" for "Tell the Truth".Most people's speech is rigid, dry, stereotyped, lengthy, and uninteresting, and this phenomenon is even more prominent among highly educated people. "I can almost conclude that the lack of oral expression ability is a universal social problem. Our primary and secondary education focuses on the cultivation of written expression ability, and generally underestimates the exercise of oral expression ability. In real life, job hunting, cooperation, discussion , asking for instructions and reports, giving lectures, negotiating, arguing, quarreling, and even going to court, all rely on oral expression without exception.”

Carnegie, a well-known American education expert, emphasized the importance of eloquence. He said: "If your eloquence is good...you can make people like you, make good friends, open up your future and achieve satisfactory results. For example, if you are a Lawyer, your eloquence attracts all litigants; you are a shopkeeper, your eloquence helps you attract customers." "There are many people who have been promoted because of their eloquence . . . You have gained a lot of honor. Don’t think that this is a small thing. More than half of your life’s influence is due to the art of speaking.”

Therefore, people should not just be satisfied with speaking with their mouths, but should be good at speaking. If they are really good at speaking, life will become more colorful.

Good eloquence represents a kind of strength

Eloquence is the reflection of a person's wisdom, an important factor affecting a person's career success, interpersonal harmony, and happiness in life, and it is a basic ability that can be carried around and will never go out of date.Eloquence is inseparable from the basic forms of mental activities such as perception, observation, memory, thinking, and imagination.A person's temperament, personality, ability and other individual psychological characteristics directly determine the level of eloquence, style, and even social value.

The term "eloquence" has been seen in the Zhou Dynasty more than 2000 years ago.According to the "Confucius Family Yu 72 Disciples Explained" written by Confucius' disciples, "Zaiyu, whose name is Ziwo, from Lu, is famous for his eloquence." "Or written as "talent".For example, it is recorded in Song Wang Mingqing's "Wait Chen Hou Lu <[-]": "Zhou Wang, courtesy name Zhongbi, from Caizhou, has eloquence and is good at talking about military affairs." Since ancient times, our country has a tradition of emphasizing language expression ability. And has fully realized the role of oral expression in the stability of the country and social communication.

Ye Xie, a famous literary critic in the Qing Dynasty, once pointed out that "talent, courage, knowledge, and strength" are important factors for the growth of talents.One of the "talents" here is "eloquence"; the "courage" here is to emphasize the "courage" of people who dare to speak in social interactions and dare to speak in front of a large audience.

As the era enters the [-]st century, people's emphasis on eloquence has reached an unprecedented height.Good eloquence has been used as one of the basic standards to measure a person's quality.A person's comprehensive strength can often be seen from a person's eloquence, and eloquence plays a very important role in almost everyone's destiny.Good eloquence may change your destiny.Let's take the interview as an example. Now large and small companies at home and abroad have taken the interview as a necessary way for talent recruitment, and most industries especially value the interview.Under such circumstances, the course "Eloquence" is already a compulsory course in many colleges and universities. Even if it is set as an elective course, there are still many people who choose it.Because, now colleges and universities generally do not include graduation assignments, and the vast majority of students look for jobs according to the needs of the talent market. Knocking on the door of job hunting, students feel more and more the importance of eloquence.

As people become more and more aware of and keen on the cultivation and cultivation of eloquence, eloquence, as a new subject, has become a very popular knowledge in the world today, and its predecessor, or another form or branch - oratory , is an even older science.In pre-medieval China, ancient Egypt, ancient Greece, ancient Rome, ancient Babylon, India and other ancient countries with a long history and civilization, speeches have become a common social phenomenon.In China, the form of speech was widely prevalent in the pre-Qin ancient society.The earliest collection of political documents handed down in China, "Shangshu", recorded Pan Geng's speech "mobilizing the people to move the capital".This is the earliest documented speech found in China so far, and it is also the earliest text-recorded speech in the history of speeches in the world.This speech is divided into three parts: first, middle and second.The middle part is a speech before moving the capital, and the first and second parts are speeches after moving the capital.Among them, the novella is the most exciting. It is quite mature and touching in terms of conception, word choice and sentence construction, as well as logical thinking deduction, induction and emotional expression. There are also several speeches in "Shangshu", such as "Gan Oath", "Tang Oath", and "Mu Oath".Among them, "Gan Oath" is the mobilization before the war between Xia Qi and the Youhu family in the "Gan" in the [-]st century BC. Although the text is short, it is righteous and magnificent.

The Spring and Autumn and Warring States period was a period of great changes in the economic and political systems in the history of our country. Class struggles and political struggles among and within the vassal states were intricate, coupled with the development of productive forces and economic prosperity, which promoted the development of the "scholar" class. the emergence of.In addition, the royal power was shaken, people had doubts about "heaven", and private schools quietly emerged, which promoted the development of various academic thoughts.And the main ways of its dissemination are all through debates by scholars and dictation to students.Confucius, Mencius, and Xunzi of Confucianism, Mozi of Mohism, Zhuangzi of Taoism, Han Feizi of Legalism, Hui Shi and Gongsun Long of famous scholars, all expressed their political views and thoughts on governing the world and lobbied the public. An era of "contending among a hundred schools of thought" and the heyday of lobbying was formed.This is also the first heyday of oratory and eloquence in ancient my country.

The world's most difficult to speak

Speaking is an art. If you don't master the skills and have no sense of proportion, you will cause unnecessary troubles, not only hurt yourself, but also trouble the people around you.On the contrary, if you master certain principles, you will be blessed by your mouth.A western philosopher once said: "There is one achievement in the world that can make people accomplish great things quickly and be recognized by the world, and that is the ability to speak pleasingly." It can be seen how important it is to master language skills.Looking at ancient and modern China and foreign countries, all those who have made achievements regard language expression as one of the necessary accomplishments. For example, Cicero, a statesman at the end of the ancient Roman Republic, was an orator, and our beloved Premier Zhou Enlai and President Lincoln of the United States, etc.It is no exaggeration to say that only when a person masters language skills can he take the lead in dealing with people and achieve his goals.

There is a very good food salesman, he is a very good talker.The average salesman starts his sales conversation with "We have some new products," but he realizes that this is not very effective.So, he said to the customer: "If there is a business that can bring you 1200 yuan, are you interested?" "Of course I am interested, you can tell me!" At least 20% increase. I have calculated how many spices and food cans you can sell this year, let me tell you..." Then he wrote down some data.We can see that this food salesman has mastered some skills of talking with people, and starts the conversation from the perspective of the other party's interest.From this little story, we can see how important language skills are. If we take "we have produced some new products" as the foothold, we may not be able to do this business.

There is such a story.After drinking and eating, the king asked the minister: "What do you say is the most difficult in the world?" The minister replied: "Speaking is the most difficult in the world." The king is the hardest to speak.Now let's do an experiment and ask the people around you: "Do you think you are very good at talking, please raise your hand." Certainly few people can confidently say that they can speak.Yes, anyone who has a certain amount of social experience knows that it is easy to speak, but it is very difficult to put the words in place.Some managers said: When I recruit people, I look at his ability and his speaking level.

It is difficult to speak well, but the difficulty lies in the fact that it is too easy to speak.This is not a contradiction.You can open your mouth for compliments, you can blurt out curse words, you don’t need to pay taxes for bragging, and you can talk to yourself when you are lonely.But in a world full of people, it's hard to get people to listen to you, and it's even harder to get people to applaud your words.Sometimes shouting with all your strength may not be shocking, but a sigh can make people's hearts surge; eloquent and eloquent speeches are often accompanied by snoring, but a few plain words may be exchanged for thunderous applause.Speaking is indeed a science.

And we can’t live without this mouth every day. We have to talk to our family members and neighbors at home, talk to colleagues at work, report to the boss, and socialize with clients. Any careless word may cause a lot of trouble.

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