Be a Strong Woman: Carnegie's Book of Spiritual Growth for Women

Chapter 23 A woman can only live freely if she has a career (1)
Work should be important in itself, an enjoyment in itself.

Women's happiness depends on career to ensure
A woman must have her own career, even if she doesn't have a career, she must find a legitimate job to do.We all have the experience that when we have nothing to do, we tend to get into trouble.If a woman has nothing to do all day long, she will easily treat men as her own business, and then there is something real.

Women try not to depend on others for their life's financial needs.There are many women who put their life's hopes on their husbands and children. When they leave the workplace, they are very young, some even under 30 years old.This meal ticket is not safe from the perspective of a long and volatile life, and people worry that it will expire or become invalid.

A woman with a good job is financially independent and more confident in front of family and friends.Because of sufficient economic capacity, life can be vigorous, and it is easier to realize one's dreams.The purpose of women's striving for financial independence is not only to gain the initiative, but also not to be a drag on their families.

Today's marriage is becoming more and more difficult to be a woman's lifelong guarantee.If we rely on our husbands to live, when the meal ticket of marriage becomes invalid, women who do not have the ability to be financially independent will mean starting all over again.But at that time, can you still be as competitive in the workplace as you were when you were young?
If an accident happens one day, will we be able to be self-sufficient, and will we be able to afford the future of our children alone?If one day you had to live by your own abilities, would you be able to live well?Women want to have their own careers, not to become strong women, but to live with dignity every day.

A woman with a career can constantly enrich herself at work.Love is not the whole of a woman's life, and she and her husband who are also in the workplace tend to have a common language.

An Jieni is the deputy general manager of a decoration company.She seemed weak, she did not forget to work even when she was pregnant, and even before she gave birth, her boss drove her to the hospital to give birth.As soon as the child was one month old, she was already on a business trip.The child is healthy and the family arrangements are very good.Such an example may be extreme, but it also illustrates the charm of career.

A woman who pursues her career has a charm that never fades.This kind of charm is thick, and her hard-working figure and talent overflowing at any time can stand the cruelest scrutiny of the years.How can such a woman not let her family and friends love and respect them?
Income gives women a more dignified life

Money is not everything, but nothing is impossible without money.Especially for women, they need money to make their lives more fulfilling.Women don't need too much money, but women can't live without money.Women can rely on their own abilities to become rich, and women who become rich will feel the charm of dignity more.And women who gradually become rich through their own labor will not easily become gold diggers.What we want is to create money for ourselves based on our own strength and work, let money bring us the happiness we want, and let money change our destiny.

"I have been rich and I have been poor, so I know that it is better to be rich!"

Judy Resnick, chairman of a securities management firm and investment bank, has her own life to prove that statement.The fate of this female entrepreneur has ups and downs that we can't imagine: from the daughter of a rich family to a down-and-out divorced woman; from a sunny life to alcohol and drug abuse; Cancer twice.The joys and sorrows, the ups and downs of life, happened cruelly to this mother with two daughters.When she was 40 years old, fate made her lose her husband, family supporter, and no way out.Is it "find another long-term meal ticket" or "stand up by yourself"?After several struggles, she chose the latter.She started her new life as a temporary salesman in a securities company.In the securities industry where all male salesmen used to be, she created a new path for herself with her unique female vision and enthusiasm for valuing small clients.Since then, her career has grown bigger and bigger. In just ten years, she became the chairman of a famous investment bank.When recalling her past experience, she sighed more than once: Although money cannot buy everything, it can buy most of dignity and freedom.

We can't define Judy Resnick's life by income alone, but from her experience, we can see the meaning of career.Her career has given her the motivation to continue living when encountering difficulties, brought her life to a new height, and allowed her to regain everything after losing everything.She is a woman who has identified the meaning of work with her own experience, and is also a brave, strong and responsible mother.When she used her income to win her dignity and freedom, how can we be willing to be despised because of no income, and have unspeakable scars in our hearts?

Be a full-time wife?women please think twice

Women's independence is first reflected in the economy.Just imagine, a woman with a voluptuous figure is wearing a gorgeous and noble evening dress, and she can speak freely and behave elegantly at a banquet, but when she turns around, she asks a man for living expenses with a low eyebrow. At that moment, she will still have charm the brilliance?

A woman who is good at using knowledge, giving full play to her own strengths, and working tirelessly to realize her dreams and careers is more attractive to men than those women who depend on their husbands for life.Because a woman should not only belong to the family, she must first belong to herself, and then the family, such a woman is truly wise.

Only women who are economically independent are modern women in the true sense, and can be truly respected by men.Otherwise, after a man pays the bill, he will naturally develop a desire to dominate.You are no longer an independent individual, but a slave girl who is at his disposal and orders.

Suzanne had a son a year after marriage, but her mother-in-law and mother were in poor health and could not help her take care of the child, so she had to give up her job and become a full-time wife at home.The work of raising children is not easy at all. The worst thing is that my husband’s attitude has changed a lot. When he saw that something was not done well at home, he said, “I really don’t know what you do at home every day. I don’t know if the floor is so dirty. Procrastinate." He didn't know how tiring it was to take care of the child, and he had to get up several times at night.If Suzanne said that raising a child is hard, he would say: "Then you don't wait until the child is asleep during the day before you go to bed? Besides, whose child is not brought up like this, you think it is hard?"

Finally, the child went to kindergarten at the age of 4. Suzanne wanted to return to work, but she gave up because her son was always sick.Once my son was ill and rested at home for a few days, and he just got better. Suzanne didn’t have a good rest for several days, so she slept a little longer in the morning. Her husband pulled a long face and said, “What time is it? Do you still have to let me make you breakfast before going to work?"

Although we cannot say that all women without income have no status at home, we can be sure that many women without income do have no status at home.

Independence is a very high state, which requires a high-quality mentality and brand-new values.The reason why many women are elegant from the inside to the outside is because they have a sense of financial independence, which can give them a relatively solid foundation for spiritual independence.through economic independence.Only they can enjoy the satisfaction of success, which can make them elegant, confident and radiant.

But unfortunately, many good women give up their careers for the sake of their husbands and families after they get married, which is unwise.Love is not everything to a woman. Women should not rely on men for everything. Modern women should also have their own career and life goals.If you are centered on a man, then you will put all your thoughts on him, become a housewife without ego, and lose the self-confidence and charm of the past.

Hide behind your husband and complain, it's better to get rich yourself
Brooke, 28, has been married for just two years.She originally thought that if she found a good family and married herself, her future life would revolve around her husband and children, and that would be the end of her life.However, when she really got married, she often felt very confused and felt uncomfortable.

What makes her feel bad is that her husband is not enterprising, and every day after returning home from get off work, he plays cards and goes to bars. This makes her feel disgusted with his incompetence and uselessness. In addition, the financial conditions of the family are not very good. So she was very unhappy, often moaning.

Once, she went to a friend's house as a guest, telling her troubles and complaining that she married the wrong person.A good friend reminded her kindly: "If you always think about making your husband earn extra money and increase income, then it may be difficult for you to be happy. Since you have ideals and abilities, why don't you just start your own business or work hard?"

After thinking about it carefully, Brook felt that what her friend said was very reasonable, so she began to pay attention to various opportunities around her.Half a month later, when the neighbor was about to transfer a restaurant, she decided to take over the restaurant.At that time, both the husband and mother-in-law disagreed, thinking that she could do nothing as a woman.Besides, she also lacks business experience, and things are too complicated.But Brooke persisted.

In order to make the restaurant open smoothly, and also to win a sigh of relief, she first hired a master chef with superb craftsmanship, and she studied hard and figured it out carefully beside her.A year later, she will be able to handle the spoon herself.Because she is serious and responsible, and the flavor of the restaurant is very authentic, it immediately attracts a large number of customers, and her business is booming.

What makes her especially happy is that because she has opened up a new situation in her life, her husband is no longer idle, and often comes to help her entertain guests and manage the restaurant's affairs.My husband also started to work hard at work.My husband is often grateful to her, saying that she helped him find the right direction in life.

Today, they can exchange their thoughts and opinions with each other in their lives, and their relationship is more harmonious than before.

Many women, especially married women around the age of 30, have entered a bottleneck stage in their work, and their lives have lost the passion they used to have when they were in love with their husbands, so they easily feel confused.They may think of themselves as belonging to the family, think of nothing else, and have no idea what else they want.

Just like Brooke, she originally planned to be a little woman who hid behind her husband and let him shelter her from the wind and rain, but the husband couldn't solve all the problems for her.When her husband cannot be relied on, she has to rely on herself.Starting a business, running a business, and expanding the scale, she managed her business well. Not only did she succeed, but she also changed some of her husband's bad habits and made him positive.

This is a model of a smart woman who is unwilling to be content with the status quo and uses her own ability to change the status quo.Relying on her own hard work and hard work, Brooke has improved her family's financial situation, and her mood is more comfortable than before. She feels that she has gained real happiness.

Women need intelligence as well as discover and find themselves in work and career.Giving full play to one's unique talents and abilities can bring women extraordinary and wonderful experiences, and also allow women to realize and understand their own value and potential.Compared with men, women can also rely on their own wisdom and means to enable themselves and their families to live a happy life.

Career planning is more important than hard work
To seek development in your career, you must have a plan.Any blind effort will not achieve the best results.It is like a ship without a target on the sea, no matter how long it takes, it will never reach its destination.Look at those women who are doing nothing in the workplace, they hold the idea of ​​"taking one step at a time, one day at a time", and usually have no plan.

So, how to make a scientific career plan for yourself?
First, give yourself a clear position.Ask yourself: What are my core competencies?How much are you worth?These can be evaluated based on their own professional environment, and they can measure and determine their salary value in the industry.Generally speaking, the measurement of personal value is based on one's own market competitiveness on the one hand, and market demand on the other.The basic elements that constitute competitiveness are personal qualities, including knowledge, experience, skills, experience, ability to solve problems, ability to deal with interpersonal relationships, work performance, position level, popularity, etc.

Second, write down your goals.In the workplace, you must have a clear goal, for example, you hope to be promoted to the position of company manager in three years, or you hope to own your own company in five years.Don't think about whether you can do it, first dare to write down your wish and keep it in your heart.

Third, break down the goals.Women should understand that the possibility of becoming a boss from a young employee is very small, so it is the most critical to formulate a step-by-step operational goal that can be gradually realized.At the same time, it should be noted that it is wise to formulate detailed goals, but if the goals are too detailed, it is not conducive to the smooth operation of career development, because unpredictable factors will disrupt one's own development plan.

Fourth, estimate the obstacles you will encounter.Specifically, write down the weaknesses in yourself, the weaknesses in your environment that prevent you from reaching your goals.These shortcomings must be related to your goals, rather than analyzing all your shortcomings.

Fifth, constantly adjust the plan.Planning always fails to keep up with changes, not to mention that the industry we are in will undergo unpredictable changes, even we ourselves are likely to change our plans in advance as our experience deepens and interests shift.Steady development plans are sometimes useless, so women should constantly adjust their career development goals and plans according to personal needs and changes in reality.

Sixth, formulate action plans and measures.With career planning, action becomes the key link.Without action to achieve the goal, the goal will be difficult to achieve, and there will be no success in business.The actions referred to here refer to specific measures to implement the goals, mainly including work, training, education, job rotation and other measures.

Seven Career Advice Women Must Remember

Modern society has higher and higher requirements for women. On women's weak shoulders, there are family burdens and work pressure.Women who want to make a difference in their careers often have to pay a higher price than men.

Here are a few things you must keep in mind:
[-]. Learn business knowledge as soon as possible

You must have a wealth of knowledge in order to complete the work assigned by your boss.This knowledge is different from what is learned in school. What is learned in school is the theoretical knowledge in books, but what is needed for work is practical experience.When your boss assigns you a job, you must first draw up a work plan—you need to arrange the schedule and progress of the entire job, and draw up implementation methods, etc. Only in this way can you improve work efficiency and become an excellent female employee in the eyes of your boss.

[-]. Complete the work within the scheduled time
A woman with a sense of time is welcome.There must be a predetermined time for a job from start to finish, and you must finish it within this time, and there must be no excuses for delay. If you can finish it ahead of time, that would be great.

[-]. Immediate use of wisdom

Difficulties and setbacks are inevitable at work.At this time, if you give up halfway or ignore it, your boss will greatly reduce your opinion and will no longer appreciate and promote you.In this way, the good performance of the past is not in vain.Therefore, use your wisdom at any time, maybe just a little idea or inspiration can solve the difficulty and make the work complete smoothly.

[-]. Never gossiping during work hours
Chatting is indeed a great enjoyment in life, especially when three or five friends get together.However, not every occasion and any time are suitable for chatting, especially during working hours, which should be absolutely avoided.Chatting at work will not only affect your personal work progress, but also affect the work emotions of other colleagues, and even hinder the tranquility of the workplace and invite reprimands from your superiors.So absolutely no small talk during working hours.

[-]. A tidy desk attracts women
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