Be a Strong Woman: Carnegie's Book of Spiritual Growth for Women

Chapter 24 A woman can only live freely if she has a career (2)
The desk is neatly tidied up, showing a clean and refreshing appearance, he must be a cautious and efficient person.A clean and tidy desk can not only increase work efficiency, but also make people have a good impression of you as an organized woman.

[-]. Be vigilant when going out for business
As a company employee, it is inevitable to go out for business.When taking public transport or stopping at certain places, you should be vigilant and pay attention to your behavior.Even if you meet with friends outside of working hours, you should avoid talking about the company; don't forget the company-related information at the place where you go out; Do not enter and leave entertainment venues at will to kill extra time.

[-]. Be patient when doing chores
A new employee who lacks experience naturally cannot expect the company to entrust her with important responsibilities.In other words, the work that has just been taken over is often mostly chores.This situation is certainly unfair to women who have just stepped into society and are ambitiously preparing to show their talents.But no matter how unhappy you are in your heart, don't let these thoughts come out.

A woman's promotion begins with appreciation

Everyone is eager to succeed and expect to be continuously promoted in the workplace.Many women have this kind of mentality: "The boss doesn't value me, and my ability has no room to develop." In fact, it's not that the boss doesn't value you, but that your ability and experience have not been raised to the corresponding level.Opportunities for promotion will not fall from the sky. Only through continuous hard work and learning to improve one's ability can you get the opportunity for promotion.In other words, promotion starts with your appreciation.Only by improving your own ability can you have the capital for promotion and become a strong person in the workplace.

As the saying goes: "You get what you pay for." It is value, not price, that really affects people's buying mentality.The intrinsic value must be high enough to be able to sell at a good price.Women should work hard to improve their abilities, be willing to endure hardships, have one specialty and many skills, and have multiple skills in hand, which will greatly enhance their own value.Let the boss feel that it is worth the money and worth the money.

A survey in the United States shows that more than half of labor skills will become useless in just three to five years because they cannot keep up with the development of the times. In the past, the depreciation period of such skills was as long as seven to 14 years.Therefore, if a high-paying person does not study, it will not take five years to become a low-paying person again.

When many women are 20 years old, people keep telling them that "there is no flower without a hundred-day red", the beauty of a woman is short-lived, and you must find a good man to marry yourself at the most beautiful moment.In fact, they don't understand that for a woman, the most important wealth is not her beauty, but her ability.As long as her ability grows with her age, her charm will not only not depreciate, but will continue to increase in value.

To be a happy and successful woman, you must know how to make yourself a sustainable woman, a woman with high ability.Women are beautiful because of their abilities, and they are happy because of their abilities.We can live very old and still be attractive; we can accept wrinkles, but every wrinkle must be related to ability.

Five elements of rapid promotion
To be promoted in the workplace, women must have the following five elements.

[-]. Have outstanding features

As an employee, you must be valuable.The HR department chooses you because of your value and expertise.They will place you in a suitable position according to your strengths, and in this position, you should be fully qualified for the job.If someone is not even competent for her own job, then she definitely has no future, and the only thing waiting for her is to be eliminated by the company.

[-]. Strong adaptability

Excellent employees are usually not satisfied with existing achievements and existing working methods, but are willing to try new methods.Only by taking precautions and turning passivity into initiative can we be able to meet new challenges.The adjustment and change of the company's management and personnel changes are all normal, and they are the company's needs to adapt to market competition.These changes will more or less affect your work and your position. How to maintain a normal attitude to meet and adapt to changes is the minimum preparation that employees must have.As your work responsibilities increase, it becomes more important to adapt to change.

[-]. Have a strong sense of responsibility
Work means responsibility.The work tasks stipulated by each position are a responsibility.As long as you are in this job, you should take this responsibility.It is the employee's responsibility to complete their own work, and working overtime is also their duty.You have to love your job and your profession. Only in this way will the company reward you accordingly.

[-]. Ability to learn
An excellent employee will take every opportunity to learn and absorb new ideas and methods, be good at learning from mistakes, learn from mistakes, and never make the same mistakes again.A person who does not love learning has no future in today's society.The knowledge learned in school can only account for 20% at work, and more than 80% of the knowledge needs to be learned at work.If a person is not good at learning and cannot accept new knowledge and new skills, he will have little potential to tap, let alone development.

[-]. Teamwork spirit
Individual strength is limited, and only by exerting the role of the whole team can we overcome greater difficulties and achieve greater success.The essence of management lies in communication. If there is a problem in management, it is usually a communication failure.The superior should communicate with the subordinate, the subordinate should also take the initiative to communicate with the superior, and the departments should also communicate. If there is no communication, there will be estrangement, and it is not a good way to go away.Employees who are good at communication are easy to be understood and accepted by everyone, and will also be recognized by the company.

do what you do best

I'd rather be Alexander of the cleaner than a mediocre lawyer who doesn't know the law at all.

Half the world's people are engaged in occupations that are out of tune with their nature.It was as if all the people had been thrown together completely out of order, exchanging their proper places with each other.Gifted teachers run shops, fit farmers abuse and profane the laws... and everyone suffers from a strong sense of depression.

Women are often considered to have no independent opinions, so it is more important to choose a job that "conforms to their nature".

Interest is the best motivation for work, so you have to do the work you want.

You know, interest is the catalyst for work, it can make your talents burst out with unimaginable vitality.And a job you don't like may kill your interest in life.

In addition to interest, you have to consider another factor: do what you are good at.

Martha first majored in finance and accounting. At the age of 26, she was admitted as a certified public accountant and became the youngest accountant in the firm at that time.The days after work went well, and Martha enjoyed her job very much.Later, a friend of hers recommended her to work as a human resources manager in a trading company. Unable to resist the temptation of high salary, Martha also wanted to change herself to a new environment, so she went there.

During the days when she was a manager, Martha felt very depressed.The reason does not lie in the heavy workload, but in housekeeping.For Martha, she was never able to put herself in the position of manager with her colleagues.

Perhaps, this is Martha's weakness, she is not good at managing and dominating people, especially those she is familiar with.

Don't rush to do work that you are not good at. The result of reluctance can only be your own pain.

Why do some people lament the misfortune of work and the boredom of life?Mainly because they are engaged in occupations that conflict with their own interests and personalities.Miracles cannot happen if the career you choose is not for you.Not only will there be no success, but it will even deprive you of interest in life.

Character is more important than ability.The reason is that a person's ability is insufficient, which can be improved through training.Not in one year, in two years, not in two years, it can always be developed in three years.But if a person's personality does not match his career, it is much more difficult to change.Therefore, when recruiting new employees, the company usually puts the personality test first, and only when the personality matches the occupation, the ability is tested.

Therefore, when you are not satisfied with your job, you may wish to see whether your personality is suitable for this job, and then choose a suitable job for your personality.

Good at self-packaging and self-presentation

The results of a social survey show that personal career success, family happiness, and happiness in life are all closely related to one's sales ability.If a woman does not know how to package and present herself, no matter how good she is, she may be ignored by others.

Ada, Mary Kay, and Beverly applied for the job at the same time, and were recruited successively by the same large company.When they were in school, they were all good students with quick thinking and excellent grades.However, after only two or three years after joining the work, their salaries and job levels are quite different.

Ada, who majored in accounting, became an accountant.Her personality is reserved and quiet, and she is used to working hard in a down-to-earth manner. She gives people the impression that she is not very gregarious, quiet, and rarely participates in various activities organized by the unit.

She always feels that her professional ability and level have already surpassed other colleagues, but she has not been affirmed and appreciated by her leaders.When she is free, she often thinks: "If one day the boss asks me to talk alone, I can show off my talents by taking the opportunity to report to him on the work situation!"

Mary Kay in the design department had the same idea.However, her personality is a little more outgoing than Ada's. Not only does she often wonder when the boss can "receive" herself, but whenever the boss comes to inspect, she is always the first to stand up from her seat and run over Say hello, serve tea and water, and take the opportunity to say a few words.

Of the three girls, Beverly was the most intelligent and intellectual.Not long after she joined the company, she learned about the boss's work experience and life ups and downs in detail from all aspects and channels, as well as her school background, speech style, habits and hobbies.She carefully designed several topics to communicate with the boss, and also thought of some solutions to common problems.

She knew that the boss sometimes went to the staff restaurant for dinner, so she began to pay close attention to the boss's movements.When she saw the boss sitting alone in a corner of the restaurant, she immediately sat over and chatted casually.Gradually, the boss felt that the two had a lot in common, and he admired her more and more.

One day, the boss had a long talk with her and learned about her work and her talents.Soon, Beverly got her wish and won a better position and development space in the company.

In the workplace, many reserved and shy women think that as long as they are gold, they are not afraid of being buried. Even if they are temporarily left somewhere, they will always be discovered and they can still stand out, but this is not the case in reality.Just like a product must be advertised, talents must be good at expressing themselves if they want to stand out and be favored by fate.Only when others know your abilities, will they provide you with more opportunities.When your performance is recognized, your opportunity will fall from the sky.

Become the "Queen of Confidence" in the workplace

To be successful at work, women often have to put in a lot more effort than men.

To achieve better results, you must first have confidence in yourself.Self-confidence is the first element of success in any business. Without self-confidence, even simple things cannot be done perfectly.With self-confidence, you can see many difficulties as normal, and you can do your own work exceptionally well.

It can be said that Blaise has a deep understanding of the strictness of his boss.

When she first joined the company, she was very afraid of facing the boss.But male colleagues are different. No matter how fierce the boss is, they are respectful on the surface, but in essence they are quickly looking for a solution to the problem in their minds.Their facial expressions were not as fearful as their female colleagues, but calm and thoughtful, and they found a solution that satisfied the boss in a short while.

"Male colleagues don't have to be afraid of the boss, why should I be afraid? The big deal is two-way choice, why should you be submissive?" Soon, Blaise trained himself to be like a male colleague, mentally not afraid of the boss' anger, and his mind was running rapidly , no longer being scared into a wooden man by the boss like before.

The boss has almost strict requirements on the appearance of employees.Neat and decent clothing is only the most basic requirement. The most difficult thing to achieve is that he requires employees to have a mental state that matches their appearance, with their heads held high and their eyes sharp.

Although Blaise believes that appearance is the most direct expression of self-confidence, she was once very distressed because she didn't think there was any good in women who were so "meng-eyed".However, when she practiced in front of the mirror, she found that when she looked directly at herself in the mirror, her whole temperament changed.She suddenly realized that women often do not need a pair of tender eyes at work, but clear and sharp eyes.Later, every time she talked to her boss, she looked directly at him. Her tone was humble and peaceful, but her eyes told the boss: I have enough strength to do everything you entrust me with.

What will be the result?The boss, who has always been stern, actually praised Blaize as the "Queen of Confidence" at the company's annual meeting.Enough to feel elated!
There is no such thing as bad things, only bad confidence.Women can do as well as men, or even better, as long as you face everything bravely and dare to challenge yourself.

In fact, in life, if you look for it deliberately, anyone will find something they complain about.But as a woman, you must always be alert to yourself. You have advantages that men do not have, and you also have shortcomings that men do not have. All these require you to strive for self-improvement.

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