12 Mindfulness Lessons Listened to at Tsinghua University

Chapter 10 Keep and follow (1)
1.You are bright, the world is not dark

There will always be a dark side in this world. When a ray of sunshine shines down from the sky, there is always a place that cannot be illuminated.If your eyes are only on the dark and you complain about the darkness of the world, that is your choice.Only when your heart is a fire can you release light and heat; if your heart is a piece of ice, even if it melts, it will still be at zero temperature.

——Wu Weiku (Professor of Tsinghua University)
Shao Kangjie of the Northern Song Dynasty is a famous Yi scholar in the history of our country. His "Plum Blossom Yishu" is still selling well in major bookstores and small book stalls today.Shao Kangjie himself didn't like being an official, but he took in a large number of disciples who were officials in the court, and many officials and nobles were proud to associate with him.During Song Shenzong's reign, he appointed Wang Anshi as prime minister and implemented new laws, which caused riots in some counties.Several disciples and old friends of Shao Kangjie wrote to Shao Kangjie, saying that we are going to impeach Wang Anshi, then resign and go home, out of sight, out of mind.Shao Kangjie replied: "As the saying goes, a poor family shows a filial son, and a country is broken to see a loyal minister. Now is the time when people with lofty ideals are needed to serve the country. The new law is strict, but if you can relax a bit in the implementation, the common people will get more. A point of benefit. And you impeaching Wang Anshi, apart from venting your personal anger, what good will it do to protect the interests of the common people?"

There are many similar people today.From them, you can't hear a trace of China's goodness, it's all about corruption, darkness, backwardness, etc. On the other hand, when they open their mouths, they say that American democracy, British fraternity, and France have humanistic feelings, and when they shut up, they say "lost confidence in China" ", "China is over", "Immigrate", and so on.Objectively speaking, Western countries, as developed countries, must be superior to our developing countries in some respects, but no matter how superior the life there is, the culture, spirit and land do not belong to you.You are a passer-by after all, and there will be a day when you regret not being able to return to your roots.

The first condition for immigration is that you must have sufficient wealth or have the corresponding ability.For example, if you want to immigrate to Germany, you need to invest at least hundreds of thousands of euros in Germany to solve the employment problem of several local people.Otherwise, the German people will not welcome you.In fact, it is precisely because of such a large number of people that the developed countries in the West can become stronger, and cultivate your motherland and people, but in the end it is making wedding clothes for others.

For this reason, Mr. Li Ao, who always laughed and scolded at Tsinghua University, said to Tsinghua students almost in a warning tone: "Today, when you enter Tsinghua University, you will grow up in the future, and problems will arise after you grow up: Do you want to be a self-made man? Others don’t care, just me? What is the standard of a self-made man? Some money, a Ph.D., living in a foreign country, taking care of my own life, this is called a self-made man. Let me tell you, This concept is wrong. Your roots are here, you can complain about China, you can be dissatisfied, you can curse, but let me tell you, your roots are here.”

In fact, with the same wealth or corresponding ability, at least you will live more comfortably in China.At least, your blood is in China, your roots are Chinese, you don’t have to compete with your own tongue when you speak, and your hands mixed with chopsticks can’t adapt to Western knives, forks, swords and halberds for a while.China has not met your satisfaction now, but this does not mean that China has no hope.I remember Mr. Sun Liping, a professor of sociology at Tsinghua University, said: "If you have a conscience, China will not sink; if you have dignity, China will not be without a backbone; if you find the right direction, China will not retreat. You and I The choice of China determines the future of China; the future of you and me is the hope of China. No matter what China is, please remember: where you stand is your China; how you are, China will be what you are; what you are, China What is it; you are bright, and China will not be dark."

This is not just a Chinese problem.This is a human problem.I'm not a "Gothic", but I know that there is still corruption in Britain, there are still slums in France, and Americans who talk about democracy from the womb will still be kicked out of Wall Street by the federal police.I am not much of a prophet, but I can assert that such things will never disappear from the face of the earth.It's just that with the different times and environments, the degree and method are different.

But please don't be pessimistic, the world has always been like this.Half of life is night, why do you want the world to be completely bright?The sun is the source of light, but there are places where the sun does not shine.If you are cold, do not stand in the shade.Please save the shade for those sweaty and in need of a cool down.

If you are bright, the world will not be dark.Every day, when you open web pages and newspapers, you will find that negative information is overwhelming.Either a coal mine accident, or the fall of a corrupt official, or a war in a certain place, all kinds of negative news, sometimes people feel overwhelmed, and they don’t even know how to live, or what is going on in this world .

Like an ostrich, stick your head in the sand and ignore it?In this era of information explosion, you simply can't do it.Therefore, it is better to face it squarely and use it to exercise our ability to accept, discern, and process.As long as you are not overwhelmed by darkness, you are sunshine and candlelight, which can not only illuminate yourself, but also light up the world.Otherwise, you would have immigrated to the sun, or at best a sunspot.

I once saw such a scene on a TV show: the host asked a seven or eight-year-old girl: "If the plane you are driving runs out of fuel, there are still many passengers on the plane, including your relatives, but only A parachute, who would you use it for?"

"I'll arrange the passengers, calm them down, and then I'll jump off with a parachute." The little girl tilted her head and thought about it.

Some of the audience shook their heads, some laughed, laughing at the childish and ignorant little girl - she didn't even understand basic politeness.The little girl was in a hurry: "I... I will come back, I... I just went to get some oil!"

In today's society, there are feasting, turmoil, too much intrigue, intrigue, too much short-sightedness, money worship, narrow-mindedness and betrayal, which are full of newspapers, TV, and the Internet. It is necessary to maintain the necessary vigilance against this, but many people are cautious. Excessive, inadvertently "training" one's innocent heart into a villain's heart.There are too few who can think like the little girl in the story.

The world has never lacked falsehood, evil and ugliness, but the reason why the Creator gave us two eyes is to allow us to view life dialectically.Don't look at people with colored glasses at every turn.Why not see more of those beautiful things?Why not look at people and things from a higher level?
Is the world too cruel, or our psychology is too dark?

Su Dongpo of the Northern Song Dynasty once said to his younger brother Su Zhe: "I can accompany the Jade Emperor, and I can accompany the beggars of Beitian Courtyard. There is no bad person in the world." In fact, he really reached this state.As we all know, he and Wang Anshi, who presided over the reform, were political enemies, but after Wang Anshi stepped down, when he passed by Jinling, he went to visit the down-and-out former prime minister, and talked with Wang Anshi about poetry and Buddhism for several days.Although Wang Anshi was extremely disgusted with Su Dongpo's madness, he also pleaded for Su Dongpo at a critical moment to save him from dying in the "Wutai Poetry Case".The "resentment" between the two literati has been passed down as a historical story.

The ancient textbook "San Zi Jing" said at the beginning: Human nature is inherently good.The world is nothing more than you, me, and him. To protect your own nature is to protect the light of the whole world.We must protect our goodness, true beauty, which is far more urgent than protecting the environment.

2.Let the wind and waves rise, hold on to yourself
What you need is not to be popular, not to be superior, not to care whether you are faster than others on the ordinary road, but to have the courage to walk on the wilderness where no one walks, so that you can see what others cannot see situation.

——Chen Jining (famous scholar, since February 2012, 2, he has been the president of Tsinghua University)

In the early Yuan Dynasty, there were frequent wars and man-made disasters.One summer, Xu Heng, an outstanding thinker, fled south with many refugees.When passing through Heyang (now Mengzhou City, Henan Province), everyone felt hungry and thirsty due to the long journey and hot weather.At this time, someone suddenly found a big pear tree beside the road, and the tree was full of sweet pears. Everyone rushed up the tree to pick the pears and drink it, but Xu Heng sat under the tree and didn't care about it. Moved.

People thought Xu Heng was very strange, so they gnawed on a pear and asked him, "Why don't you pick a pear to quench your thirst?" Xu Heng said, "It's not your own pear, so how can you pick it randomly!" In such a mess, people fled on their own, and this tree has long since lost its owner. Since the pear tree has no owner, what’s the point of eating a pear?” Xu Heng said: “The pear tree has no owner, so don’t our hearts also have an owner? ?” No matter what others say, he still refuses to pick pears.

A fleeing person ate an unowned pear because of thirst. In the eyes of most people, this is normal and not worthy of criticism.But this is actually a manifestation of lack of legal awareness.We can prove it with a very simple question: if the owner of the pear tree did not escape, would he stay under the pear tree day and night?Certainly not.Which thief in the world would blatantly steal while the owner is around?To paraphrase a classic poem: whether you touch it or not, the moral bottom line lies there.

Mr. Ji Xianlin, who was trapped in Germany during World War II, once recorded in an article: In the winter of 1944, the Allied forces completed the encirclement of the German army. The defeat of fascist Germany was imminent. A large number of German people were short of food and fuel. Many people died of cold and hunger. As a last resort, the German government had to allow citizens to go up the mountain to cut firewood.However, the government stipulates that only those old, weak and low-quality trees that have been marked can be cut down, and those that are not marked are strictly prohibited.As a result, several Germans ran to the Black Forest in the Munich area to avoid the war. It had just snowed and the weather was very cold. They wanted to cut some branches to keep warm.Who would have thought that they saw a sign saying "If you want to cut down a tree, you must get the permission of the state government". How could there be any state government at that time?As a result, these Germans guarded the big forest in a daze and froze to death alive!In China, not to mention wars, as long as there are rumors and turmoil in the society, compatriots who are ready to take the opportunity to make "national wealth" are everywhere.

The Chinese are probably also the nation that is most adept at self-deception.Leaving aside the distant ones, let’s talk about the closer ones: Professor Tong Xiaojun, deputy dean of the School of Social Work at the China Youth University for Political Science, led a few students to conduct a survey on "compensated dating students" over several months.In the video produced by the team, there are several audio interview clips of interviews with students who have experienced compensated dating. One of them is named Weiwei. She confessed that she is 19 years old and met a very chatty person in an online game. Girls, the two gradually became close sisters who talked about everything.After learning that Weiwei was short of money, Weiwei's so-called bosom sisters introduced Weiwei to do compensated dating, and soon arranged the first time for Weiwei.And that time was also Weiwei's first night.Facing Professor Tong, Weiwei said: I feel very reluctant to dedicate my chastity to a man I have never met before. It is a pity, and I feel very sad. I don’t know how to face my boyfriend in the future.In contrast, Nana, another compensated dating girl, seemed much calmer when she talked about her first time: being with a strange man always felt a little bad—just bad—no one told them Regret, some are just sad to oneself.Although they all said that they had been sad for a long time, in their eyes, they were definitely not prostitution, but "part-time jobs"!
What a big joke!If prostitution is also a part-time job, can stealing be a part-time job?Is it okay to kill someone?
In fact, a friend of mine and I talked about this topic a long time ago.The friend had also thought about doing a special investigation earlier, but he couldn't get in.Once having a meal, my friend said: In fact, many of them are helpless, just a bowl of rice!As a result, his goodwill was immediately under siege: A bowl of rice?What meal?I'm afraid it's abalone rice!Will I starve to death if I don't eat this bowl of rice?Over the years, we only heard that an old lady with four sons died of starvation at home in Beijing, but nothing else...

This is not meanness, but necessary vigilance.

Not having money is painful, especially for a young heart.Some happiness must be bought with money, but if you sell something that cannot be bought with all the money in the world for a little happiness, this is obviously a loss-making business.

This world is too expensive to make people feel inferior, and in this era, there are red lights everywhere.Behind the singing and dancing, there is the rising of dross. If you can't hold on to yourself and take the pursuit of those confused and crazy people as your own pursuit, then sooner or later you will hear the weeping of your soul.

Lincoln said that you can fool some people all the time and all the people some of the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time.Not quite, but even if you can fool everyone all the time, you can't fool yourself all the time!Your own wounds are deeply seared in the depths of your soul, so why do you need others to stimulate them?

Many people have heard the allusion of "Yang Zhu weeping for a disagreement": One day, someone found that the philosopher Yang Zhu was sitting at a crossroads crying. He was very surprised and asked him why he was sad.Yang Zhu explained: "This is not a simple crossroads. It is clearly a fork in life. It is a place where even if you take half a step wrong now, you will regret it when you realize it in the future!" A fork in the road may be a dead end.

Cultivating the body is cultivating morality, and cultivating the mind is centering the mind.The strength of the mind is the real strength, and the fulfillment of the heart can make people truly satisfied. All profit-seeking people will be expelled from life, and all materialistic people will be tortured by their own hearts.

"When the wind moves, the flag moves, and the heart of the benevolent moves." Don't expect the material desires to stop for a moment. The impetuousness of people's hearts is inevitable in the commodity society.Misfortune is their own fault.Keeping yourself to yourself is the basic premise of attaining the happiness you want completely.

3.He is strong and he is strong, build your firewall
In Buddhism, we practice patience, endure all sufferings, and endure all disasters.For other people's jealousy, slander, insult and frame, we must be able to bear it. The so-called "small intolerance leads to chaos and big schemes", we must bear it, we must bear it, we must bear it, we must bear it, we must bear it, we must bear it, and we must bear it. Achievement.

——Master Jingkong (contemporary eminent monk, once gave a speech at Tsinghua University)
Among the famous scholars in Wei and Jin Dynasties, Wang Shu was one of them.Most celebrities have some eccentricities, and Wang Shu is no exception.Another time, when Wang Shu was eating boiled eggs, he had a whim and tried to stab the eggs with chopsticks, but the eggs were so smooth that he couldn't hit them no matter what.Wang Shu was furious because of this, he grabbed the egg and threw it on the ground, but the egg was not smashed by coincidence, but continued to roll around on the ground.Now Wang Shu was even more annoyed, so he stretched out his foot to step on the egg, but he couldn't hit it.Wang Shu was so furious that he bent down to pick up the egg, put it directly into his mouth, chewed it hard, and then spit it out on the ground with a "pooh", which was considered to relieve his anger.

Such a mild-mannered person, no matter how you look at him, he can't get hooked on the word "forbearance".But in fact, Wang Shu's patience is actually very good.According to "Shi Shuo Xin Yu", once, Wang Shu offended Xie An's elder brother Xie Yi because of a trivial incident. Xie Yi was also a master with a rough personality. To relieve his anger, he simply cursed.Wang Shu, however, kept facing the wall without saying a word, until Xie Yi scolded enough and left for a long time, then he asked the junior officials on the left and right, "Has General Anxi (Xie Yi's official position) left?" He replied: " I’ve been walking for quite a while.” Wang Shu sat back on his seat.

The ancients said that the reason why a gentleman is a gentleman is that he tolerates what others cannot bear, tolerates what others cannot tolerate, and treats what others cannot treat.Whether Wang Shu is a standard gentleman is still open to debate, but he is undoubtedly a wise person.First of all, the Wang family is not as powerful as the Xie family, and it is even more powerful when a high-ranking official crushes people to death; secondly, the Wang family and the Xie family are related by marriage, and Xie Wan, Xie An's younger brother, is Wang Shu's son-in-law; thirdly, the Wang family and the Xie family are political allies , Wang Shu helped Xie An a lot in the process of fighting against the Huanwen Group.So from any aspect, he shouldn't fall out with Xie Yi.

Most disasters are caused by the intensification of contradictions. "Can't afford to offend, can't I still hide?" This is really a wise saying.If you are strong enough, who would dare to act wild in front of you?Of course, if you are strong enough, what can some little hooligans do to you?Why not laugh it off!
Some people and some things may not be able to avoid, some people and some things will come to the door and block the door to insult like Xie Yi scolded Wang Shu. At this time, we must learn to tolerate.

As the saying goes, the word "forbearance" has a knife in its heart.This is worldly tolerance.

The Buddha said: "If a person who cultivates the Tao cannot endure slander, abuse, and ridicule like a person who drinks nectar, he cannot be regarded as a person who cultivates the Tao." This is a great state.

Confucius said: "Small intolerance can lead to great chaos." Because of intolerance, people who should not be offended were offended; because of intolerance, many hopeful people ruined their future and regretted it.Also because of being able to endure, how many useful bodies have been preserved, and how many role models have been achieved.

Han Xin, the founding hero of the Western Han Dynasty, was impoverished when he was young. One day, a gangster deliberately stopped him on the road in order to show off, and said, "Aren't you powerful, Han Xin? If you have the guts, use your sword to kill me. If you don't have the guts, then Climb under my crotch immediately." Han Xin didn't bother with him, and immediately crawled under the man's crotch.Later, Han Xin met Liu Bang, became a general, and was named king and lieutenant.If he had killed that little bastard in a fit of rage, it would have been worthless!
Some people don't understand: With Han Xin's ability, why must he be humiliated by others?Is it okay not to drill?The answer is no.Chinese people care about saving face in everything, and that bastard is just trying to save face. If Han Xin doesn't take advantage of it, won't it make him unable to step down?Naturally, he will not let it go.

(End of this chapter)