12 Mindfulness Lessons Listened to at Tsinghua University

Chapter 4 Pain and Pleasure (3)
I have never seen policemen and judges who say they are vulnerable groups, but I have heard similar complaints from an unknown woman.Once in a taxi, a heart-to-heart show was playing on the radio in the car. The lady was telling the host that she had too many troubles, and she was troubled by it every day, and she was overwhelmed.The host listened patiently, and asked her what was bothering her, and she might as well give an example.So the lady opened up the chatter box: "My husband and I can only afford one house with our current salary, but many of my colleagues have more than two houses. The houses of our children, including grandchildren, are all ready. I It’s very convenient to go to work, and I can get there in 10 minutes by bicycle, but my colleagues have bought cars, and I can’t make people laugh at me, so I bought a car with a loan, but the gas price is getting more expensive every day, parking charges, parking Wrong post... Many children in our community have gone to study abroad, and I have to save some money to send the children to study abroad... My classmate's husband will give my classmate gemstone necklaces and other birthday gifts every year , I just went to a restaurant for a meal on my birthday, and I can’t choose too high-end ones, and I have to take care of my husband and children’s tastes when ordering..."

Before the lady finished speaking, I got off the bus, not because I couldn't listen anymore, but because I had arrived at the stop.But we can imagine that if this noble lady lived in a remote mountainous area since she was a child, she sang folk songs every day to herd sheep, collect firewood, and dig sweet potatoes. She didn't even know what the car looked like, and she was allowed to carry a snake on her back The leather bag goes to the city to wash the dishes, the husband can only move bricks on the construction site or pass a sewer or something, and the children can only go to the primary school for migrant children or be left-behind children, living in a shed in the suburbs or a basement in the city every day Here, what will his mood be like?

It is estimated that it will collapse if it does not collapse.

Life is so unfair. Those who have the most reason to complain in our consciousness are often silent and live tenaciously like cockroaches, while people like "radio ladies" who have already lived in heaven are still strongly complaining. Dissatisfied, wishing to swallow Wall Street into their small and exquisite stomachs, some indigestion, dull belching, presumably it is normal.

Don't stand in the ocean and cry thirsty.Professor Sun Liping said: "Happiness is relative and comes from comparison. What matters is not what we have, but what we have and our neighbors don't."

If you can't compare, don't compare.If you're really bored, keep an eye on the trash can outside your window.As far as I know, in addition to the sanitation workers who collect garbage, there are at least a few groups of people who will patronize them every time-these are all people who rely on picking up waste to make a living!

If you feel that the heating is not hot enough, just look at the migrant masters working on the unfinished upstairs building outside the window.They are also cold, but they don't need heating, because their hearts are warm.

You may be unlucky.But there will always be people more unfortunate than you in this world.At least, there are a lot of people who can't see the book, and you do.Pay more attention to those who are less fortunate than us, and you will understand what true happiness is.

Happiness has no dimension and no thickness. If you can perceive it, you are surrounded by it all the time.Even if you have a little bit of dissatisfaction, if you want to go further into the depths of happiness, you will pierce your happiness and scare it away.

If you feel unhappy, find some old people and talk to them about difficult times such as the "three-year natural disaster". It is said that even the most difficult to swallow leaves of the Ailanthus tree were eaten by people.

People must learn to be content, contented people are always happy, and contented people are the happiest.To be dissatisfied is to be greedy, and the bottomless pit of greed will swallow up all the happiness of a person, making the happy people feel unhappiness in the blessings, and making the unfortunate people even more unhappy.

China is getting rich too fast.We are so used to living poorly that we haven't learned how to live well.Perhaps our pockets have not yet bulged, but what needs to be filled as soon as possible is our empty soul.

The famous writer Chi Li once wrote in the article: "It is said that poor life is sad. I don't doubt this statement. I lived a poor life. When I was an educated youth, I often ate salt water with rice. Those nights were very, very long, Hunger bites young stomachs, fierce as wolves. The bad children among the educated youths say, who will steal the chickens from the fellows with me? The good children can't help but stand up one after another. The best model educated youths don't stand up, whispering: "I won't go ...I'll boil the water at home.' Bad boys are real villains, good boys are hypocrites. I'm ashamed, I boiled the water at home. But I didn't ask for the water to be boiled. Everyone thinks I'm stealing chicken skills Not good enough... A good life is hard to live. This is something I never thought of before. Because it is difficult to define what a good life is. Food and clothing are not worrying, and there are delicacies from mountains and seas? Others can eat it, but I can’t eat it, so I don’t feel it Your own life is good. You have a house, but there are villas erected over there; the bus is not crowded, but there are private luxury cars running on the road; you have started to eat meat, but the fashion advertises it Wild vegetables, you are dressed neatly, but what is popular is naked clothes; your wages have increased, but some people make millions of dollars... It turns out that a good life is not only material, but also spiritual .”

Indeed, life is a skin, and whether it is good or bad, happy or sad, elegant or vulgar, it all depends on us.So, why not fill it with more goodness, happiness, contentment and gratitude?
6.smile no matter how hard it is

Create as much happiness as possible to fill the time, how can you tie up time to accompany happiness?

——Wen Yiduo (modern famous poet, scholar, democracy fighter, former professor of Tsinghua University)

How bitter life is, because behind life is cruelty.

Albert Schweizer, a French humanitarian and Nobel Peace Prize winner, once wrote in the article "Awe of Life": "You step on the path in the forest, the sun shines on the road through the treetops, the birds are singing, and many Insects buzz with joy. But there is nothing you can do about it: your path means death. There the ants you step on struggle, the beetles scramble, and the worms curl up. Because of your unintentional sins , the melody of pain and death also appears in the beautiful song of life."

Although human beings are the spirits of all things, they are also powerless in front of the universe and nature.The great French philosopher Blaise Pascal said: "Man is just a reed, the most fragile thing in nature. It doesn't take the whole universe to take up arms to destroy it. One breath and one drop of water are enough to kill him." mortal." However, Blaise also said: "Man is a thinking reed. Even if the universe destroys him, man is still far more noble than that which mortalises him—because he knows that he To die, and the advantage the universe has over him, of which the universe knows nothing."

Human beings are the greatest creation of the universe.Therefore, we must praise life.We cannot dominate the universe, but we can live out our own small universe; we cannot live forever, but we can make our souls live forever; we cannot avoid suffering in life, but we can choose to live happily.

No matter how hard it is, you have to smile, there is no other way.

There is such a fable: a philosopher leads a group of students to roam the world.They traveled to many countries and visited many scholars, and all the students learned a lot.After returning to his hometown, the philosopher took the students to a meadow in the outskirts and said: "After years of traveling, you have all become well-educated people. Now your studies are coming to an end. Today is the last lesson!"

After speaking, the philosopher sat on the grass, and the students sat around the teacher.The philosopher asks: "Where do we sit now?"

The students replied, "We sit on the field."

The philosopher asked again: "What grows in the wilderness?"

The students replied: "The field is full of weeds."

The philosopher said: "Yes, the wilderness is full of weeds. My question is, 'How to get rid of these grasses'?"

The students were very surprised. They thought that the philosopher who spent his whole life exploring the mysteries of life actually asked a very simple question in the last lesson.

A student said, "Teacher, all you need is a shovel."

The philosopher looked at him, noncommittal.

Another student went on to say, "It's okay to use fire."

The philosopher smiled and motioned for the next student to answer.

A third student said: "To cut the weeds, you need to get rid of the roots. You just need to dig out the roots."

After the students finished speaking, the philosopher stood up and said, "This is the end of the class. After you go back, you can try your own methods. If you can't get rid of it, we will meet again in a year."

A year later, all the students came, but the place where they used to meet has turned into a rice field with a good harvest.

A few years later, when the philosopher passed away, when the students were sorting out his remarks, they privately added the following content at the end of the work: There is only one way to get rid of weeds in the wilderness, and that is to plant weeds on it. crops.The only way to free the mind from pain is to occupy it with pleasure.

Smile no matter how hard it is, this is also the most effective way to face pain.

Some time ago, when CCTV's "Are you happy" column group interviewed a Tsinghua doctoral student named Wang Lei, Dr. Wang said frankly: "I am not happy today, my girlfriend just broke up." But Dr. Wang said: "If you are not happy, you have to Smile." The reporter of the column group immediately captured Dr. Wang's smile on camera, and Dr. Wang was dubbed "Tsinghua Unhappy Smiling Brother" by netizens because of this.However, for this nickname, he prefers to remove the word "unhappiness" because "unhappiness is always temporary, so I said 'today' is unhappy.".

It’s true that unhappiness is always temporary, and it’s impossible for a person to lose love forever, unless he loses love once and never dares to fall in love again.However, misfortune may not be temporary sometimes, just like the rainy days in June, sometimes the unlucky rain will continue.At this time, we should learn to have fun while suffering.How much suffering life gives you, you will pay it back as much happiness.As long as you can keep a smiling face until the end, there will always be a sunny day after the rain.

During the "Cultural Revolution", cross talk master Hou Baolin was dragged by the rebels to criticize and forced to "confess the problem".

As soon as the master came to power, the rebels put on a fierce look and said, "What historical issues are you hiding from the people?"

The master immediately pretended to be frank and lenient, and said tremblingly: "I, I said, I have concealed a major personal problem from the people. I, I also have a name called Hou Taibao."

"Confess the big problem!"

"I, I said, I said, I am heinous, I have committed a heinous crime, and I have committed a crime that people all over the world cannot forgive...Hitler is my brother-in-law, and we started the Second World War together."

The crowd roared with laughter, and the leader of the rebel faction quickly waved his hands to stop: "Silence, silence, don't listen to his nonsense!" Hou Baolin immediately followed his example and waved his hands: "Silence, silence, don't listen to my nonsense!" , even the rebels couldn't help laughing out loud.The master straightened his back amidst laughter, straightened his hair, and went home.

This is the difference between a master and an ordinary person.Pushkin said: "If life deceives you, don't be sad, don't be impatient! Calmness is needed in sad days. Believe it, happy days will come..." Today, it has long been outdated.The fashionable way to deal with it is to be like Master Hou Baolin - if life deceives you, you don't have to take life seriously.If life is joking with you, you can have a comic dialogue with life.Never passively wait for happiness, as Pushkin said.People must learn to find fun by themselves.

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